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EP578. This morning I saw a post by @alessandro_frosali about the mental load in the 80s and 90s vs. today, and it sent me spiralling (in the best way).

Were moms back then more resilient? Or were they just carrying it all without language, support, or permission to talk about it?

In this solo episode, I unpack how the mental load has evolved, from managing a household without Google or group chats… to today’s invisible expectations of being the default parent, the memory keeper, the scheduler, the emotional regulator, the career woman, the present mom, the healthy meal planner, the screen-time police, and somehow also hot and well-rested.

This isn’t about glorifying burnout or minimizing what women carried before us. It’s about understanding how the mental load has shifted, and how we can build something better.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re just “not as strong” as the women who came before you… this conversation is for you.

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