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The Mental Healness Podcast
Hosted by Lee Hammock · EN
Welcome to the Mental Healness Podcast, hosted by yours truly, Lee Hammock. If you're new here I have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I've been in therapy for the last 8 years learning how to deal with it and live a better life. From the start I've offered you the rare POV of a diagnosed narcissist but NOW I'm switching it up a little bit. I'm interviewing others that are dealing with their own mental health journeys and those that have dealt with toxic relationship dynamics as well. I'm still sharing my POV just sharing others as well. Collabs ✉ partnerships@mentalhealness.net
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Why they make it so hard to leave them!
Today00:13:33Tap to summarizeUnderstanding why you feel paralyzed and unable to leave an abusive person is the first step toward freedom. In this video, Lee Hammock explains the psychological "glue" that keeps people stuck in cycles with controlling people. We dive deep into trauma bonding, intermittent reinforcement, and the fear of the unknown that toxic people weaponize to keep you compliant. If you feel like you’re "waiting for the good version" of your partner to return, you are actually caught in a calculated trap designed by an abuser. Learn how to break the mental chains and realize that the fear you feel is a tool used by abusive people to maintain their power over your life.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
Transcribe →He met his first narcissist
Yesterday00:06:22Tap to summarizeMy man finally understands what women mean when they talk about experiencing narcissism after dealing with his first narcissistic friend. This video dives into his experience, highlighting the signs of narcissism and the challenges of encountering toxic people. It's a raw reaction to how narcissistic abuse impacts friendships, giving my unfiltered perspective.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
Transcribe →Why Abusive People Lash Out When You Get Too Close (Puffer-Fishing)
2d ago00:21:00Tap to summarizeHave you ever head of PUFFER FISHING? In this video, Lee Hammock breaks down the exact mechanics of this toxic behavior and explains why abusers and controlling people suddenly turn freezing cold the exact moment a relationship becomes emotionally real. I take a deep dive into how toxic individuals act deeply affectionate and attentive at first, only to "puff up" their defenses, lash out, or pick fights over trivial matters when true intimacy is required. If you've ever felt completely stranded by a partner who clams up, runs away, or ghosted you just as you were getting close, you are likely dealing with the defensive mechanism of an abusive person trying to regain control. Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
Transcribe →Embarrassed To Leave, Embarrassed To Stay: The Truth About The Trauma Bond!
4d ago01:18:32Tap to summarizeWhat happens when your childhood is marked by extreme survival, only for you to unconsciously recreate that exact nightmare in your adult marriage? In this profoundly raw and unfiltered episode, author, creator, and survivor Grace Sandra joins Lee Hammock to unpack the terrifying reality of severe trauma bonds, narcissistic abuse, and ultimate resilience.Grace bravely opens up about surviving a childhood Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) score of 10, her ex-husband's chilling "simulation theory" threats, and the bizarre moment he claimed he wasn't a narcissist, just "strictly evil." This conversation is a masterclass in cognitive dissonance, understanding why trauma bonds are physically addictive, and how to finally reclaim your identity on the other side of darkness.Connect with Grace Sandra:📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/outheretrynasurvive/🌐 Website & Resources: https://stan.store/GraceSandra📚 Check out her book on Amazon: Grace Actually: Memoirs and Musings on Faith, Love, Loss and Black Womanhood
Transcribe →The Real Mindset of an Abuser When They Start to Miss You
6d ago00:29:20Tap to summarizeWhen a toxic, abusive, or controlling ex tells you that they "miss" you, it can completely destabilize your healing process. Your brain wants to believe that they have finally realized your worth, but the behavioral reality is much darker.In this video, I break down the exact psychology of what happens when an abuser starts to miss you. We discuss the concept of a validation deficit, why they selectively romanticize the past, and how their sudden urge to reconnect is driven by a desire to regain control rather than genuine love. Stop breaking your own peace for a temporary ego play.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events All my links - https://link.me/mentalhealness
Transcribe →Why A Controlling Person Fears You Talking to Their Ex
1w ago00:12:30Tap to summarizeWhy does the person you are with desperately try to keep you from ever interacting with or meeting their ex? If they claim the ex is simply "crazy" but go to extreme lengths to make sure your worlds never collide, there is a dark strategic reason behind the secrecy.In this video, I break down the behavioral mechanics of why controlling and abusive people isolate you from their past relationships. We discuss narrative control, the fear of victims comparing notes, and how keeping you separate allows them to continue the cycle without being exposed. Stop letting them control the history books.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
Transcribe →The Mindset of an Abuser When You Cut Them Off
1w ago00:14:39Tap to summarizeWhat actually happens inside the mind of an abusive or controlling individual when you implement permanent no contact? Many survivors wonder if their absence is felt, or if the toxic person simply moves on without a care.In this video, I break down the cold behavioral mechanics of how an abuser handles absolute silence. We discuss the initial phase of disbelief, the panic that sets in when they realize you aren't coming back, and why their desperate attempts to reach out are driven by a need for control rather than genuine love. Stop breaking your own peace to check on someone who only valued your compliance.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
Transcribe →Why You Should Stop Checking Your Abusive Ex's Social Media
1w ago00:13:26Tap to summarizeWhy do we intentionally look for things we know will hurt us? If you find yourself constantly typing your toxic ex's name into a search bar to check up on their new life, you are engaging in "pain shopping."In this video, I break down the behavioral psychology behind why survivors spy on their abusers online. We discuss the reality behind their curated posts, why your brain craves the negative emotional spike, and how checking their profiles completely stalls your healing journey. Stop letting their digital billboard control your peace of mind.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
Transcribe →Why Abusers Hide Your Things (And Help You Look For Them)
1w ago00:18:42Tap to summarizeHave you ever experienced a situation where your keys, phone, or wallet constantly vanish, only for your partner to magically find them minutes later? This is not accidental clumsiness—it is a calculated behavioral setup designed to make you question your own memory. In this video, we break down the psychology of the "savior setup," why abusive people manufacture chaos to play the hero, and how this subtle tactic is used to break down your confidence over time.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
Transcribe →I Was Seconds Away From Jumping. How I Saved My Own Life | Talmadge Spicer
2w ago01:09:12Tap to summarizeWhat happens when a toxic relationship and life's heaviest struggles push you to the literal edge? In this raw and unfiltered episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, life and business coach Talmadge Spicer joins Lee Hammock to share his powerful journey of survival.Talmadge opens up about the exact night he stood on a parking deck, ready to end it all, and the precise mindset shift that saved his life. Today, he has completely turned his life around—finding true love, raising a family, and dedicating his career to helping others defeat everyday depression. If you feel like you are at your breaking point, Talmadge’s story is a profound masterclass in resilience, healing, and redemption.Connect with Talmadge:📸 Instagram: @mycoachtspice🌐 Website/Quiz: talmadgespicer.comWelcome to the MENTAL HEALNESS PODCAST! Hosted by Lee Hammock, a self-aware, diagnosed narcissist who has been in psychotherapy for over 9 years! On this podcast, we cover all things MENTAL HEALTH RELATED, from your own personal struggles with mental health, to surviving the mental health issues that someone else has that you may have been a victim of. I absolutely love what I do and I love helping other people as well. Having Narcissistic personality disorder myself, I know how difficult navigating the world can be when you are having issues with your own mental health. Suffering in silence is what I did for so long but now I'm trying to help other people by giving them a platform to share their stories as well! If you are hear for my content about narcissistic abuse, you will still find that type of content here as well! I'm not going anywhere because using my platform I've been able to help thousands of people deal with narcissists and understand how the minds of narcissistic people can work. I still do my Zoom calls and I still have my courses and support groups available as well.Want to be on the podcast? https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-Form
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