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The Mental Healness Podcast
Hosted by Lee Hammock · EN
Welcome to the Mental Healness Podcast, hosted by yours truly, Lee Hammock. If you're new here I have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I've been in therapy for the last 8 years learning how to deal with it and live a better life. From the start I've offered you the rare POV of a diagnosed narcissist but NOW I'm switching it up a little bit. I'm interviewing others that are dealing with their own mental health journeys and those that have dealt with toxic relationship dynamics as well. I'm still sharing my POV just sharing others as well. Collabs ✉ partnerships@mentalhealness.net
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Why the Narcissist Will Never Truly Pick You
2d ago00:21:48Tap to summarizeIn this video, I explain why a narcissist will never truly “pick” you in the way you’re hoping for, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who’s been on the other side of those choices. We’ll talk about how narcissists see partners as temporary “supply,” why they chase newness and fantasy instead of commitment, and what’s really going on when they discard you for someone else and still keep you on the hook. I’ll break down why it was never about you not being enough, how trauma bonds make you fight to be chosen, and why you can’t win a game that’s rigged to keep you doubting your worth. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to stop auditioning for their approval, see their “rejection” for what it really is, and choose yourself instead of waiting to be picked by someone who only values what you do for themBook a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →10 Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship with a Narcissist
3d ago00:11:45Tap to summarizeIn this video, I break down 10 signs you’re in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic or emotionally abusive partner, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who’s been on both sides of the dynamic. We’ll talk about what it really means to ignore your intuition, why conflicts escalate so fast when you challenge them, how isolation from friends and family makes you easier to control, and why their apologies never lead to actual change. I’ll show you how gaslighting, manipulation, and “I’m sorry for everything” keep you doubting yourself instead of their behavior, and why cutting people off for the chance at one toxic love leaves you more vulnerable than ever. If these signs sound familiar, this video will help you recognize the red flags, validate what you’re feeling, and start planning how to protect your peace and break the cycle. Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →Do Narcissists Regret What They Did to You?
4d ago00:26:10Tap to summarizeIn this video, we dig into one of the hardest questions survivors ask after narcissistic or abusive relationships: do they actually regret what they did, or do they just regret losing you and their supply. As a clinically diagnosed narcissist, I’ll break down how narcissists and other abusive people experience regret, why their “sorry” is usually about consequences and image, not your pain and how their defenses let them see everything as your fault so there’s nothing to feel guilty about. Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →How Narcissistic People Show You They "Love" You?
5d ago00:13:47Tap to summarizeWhy does it feel like a controlling person's version of love leaves you more confused, isolated, and exhausted than before? In this video, Lee Hammock breaks down the profound disconnect between what a toxic individual claims to feel and how they actually treat you. We pull back the curtain on why their words never match their actions, exposing the difference between genuine emotional connection and transactional control.If you have ever felt like something was fundamentally "off" even when they were showering you with affection, this breakdown will give you the psychological clarity you need to make sense of the confusion and protect your sanity.What We Cover In This Video:The Illusion of Love Bombing: How the early stages of overwhelming intensity, future faking, and the artificial "soulmate" narrative are designed to secure your compliance.When the Mask Drops: The predictable shift into devaluation, conditional affection, and extreme emotional coldness once they feel they fully possess you.Possession vs. Connection: Why a highly manipulative partner experiences "love" purely as ownership, emotional supply, and a reflection of their own ego rather than a mutual bond.Chasing the Ghost: Why survivors become deeply attached to the idealized, early version of the relationship and spend years trying to earn that phantom version back.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Don't Realize They Need This!
1w ago00:13:14Tap to summarizeSurvivors of narcissistic abuse need CLARITY. They need the truth! They need to be pulled out of the world of delusions that the narcissist has them stuck in, in order to move on. This is probably one of, if not the most critical things that is holding so many people back from healing and moving on. Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →Why They Gaslight You (From a Diagnosed Narcissist)
1w ago00:19:06Tap to summarizeIn this video, I break down why narcissists and toxic people gaslight you, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who has used gaslighting in relationships. We’ll talk about how gaslighting lets them control the narrative, avoid accountability, protect their ego, and slowly erode your trust in your own memory, emotions, and reality so you become easier to manipulate. I’ll walk you through common gaslighting phrases, the cycle that keeps you trauma‑bonded and self‑doubting, and the subtle ways they blame‑shift and project their behavior onto you. Most importantly, you’ll learn practical steps to name gaslighting when it’s happening, protect your sense of reality, and start breaking free from their control.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →Why Walking Away Feels Like You're the One Who Did Wrong!
1w ago00:13:38Tap to summarizeHave you ever walked away from a toxic relationship only to feel an overwhelming sense of guilt, or like leaving a narcissist was a literal crime? In this video, Lee Hammock exposes the deep psychological conditioning and trauma bond that tricks your brain into treating emotional withdrawal exactly like drug withdrawal, making your own self-preservation feel like a malicious betrayal. Unlike healthy attachments where breakups are simply sad, a controlling person grooms you to feel entirely responsible for their emotional state, triggering intense survivor guilt the moment you choose to save yourself. This crushing guilt is not your moral compass telling you that you did wrong—it is simply your brain going through withdrawal, and you do not owe stability to someone who chose to make you unstable.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →From Love-Bombing to Resentment: How Narcissists Bait-and-Switch You
2w ago00:14:46Tap to summarizeWhy do abusers and controlling people suddenly start to despise the exact same things they claimed to love about you at the beginning of the relationship? In this video, Lee Hammock exposes the psychological bait-and-switch behind why a toxic individual turns your greatest strengths into your biggest sins. You’ll learn how traits like your independence, financial success, vibrant social life, or deep empathy are initially treated as a prize to be won during the love-bombing phase, only to be treated as a direct threat during devaluation. We break down the fragile ego structures that cause an abusive person to resent your light, why they try to extinguish the qualities that made you special, and how to spot this systematic erosion before it destroys your self-esteem and mental health.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →1. Surviving July 4th With a Narcissist: Don’t Let Them Ruin Your Day
2w ago00:11:55Tap to summarizeJuly 4th is supposed to be about freedom, but if you’re stuck with a toxic or narcissistic partner, you probably feel more trapped than ever—and that’s exactly what we’re talking about in this video. As a clinically diagnosed narcissist, I break down why narcissistic people ruin holidays like Independence Day, how their mood and energy when they wake up sets the tone, and why you keep getting the silent treatment, bad juju, and “attitude” every time you try to celebrate with family or friends. We’ll talk about why you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t, how they use control and attention‑seeking to strip you of your power, and why you don’t have to bring them along just so they can make everyone miserable. I’ll show you how to choose the “damned” you can live with, protect your peace, enjoy your plans and your kids, and stop giving them the narcissistic supply they’re craving. If this video empowers you to make a different choice today, share it with someone else stuck in a holiday with a narcissist so they don’t have to spend Independence Day feeling controlled and alone.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →How Violating Your Boundaries Secretly Manifests As Physical Illness
2w ago01:11:04Tap to summarizeCan suppressing your emotions and constantly pleasing others actually cause your physical body to break down? In this powerful and eye-opening episode, host Lee Hammock sits down with nervous system and trauma specialist Dr. Nima Rahmany to uncover the deep somatic connection between emotional boundary violations and chronic illness. Dr. Nima breaks down the reality of somatic healing, explaining why traditional talk therapies often fail to reach the deep-seated emotional charges trapped inside the physical body. Together, they explore the hidden paradox of self-improvement, revealing how mainstream personal development can frequently stem from a place of self-hate rather than authentic self-acceptance. Dr. Nima maps out how a childhood history of not feeling seen forces individuals into protective habits like extreme codependency or defensive grandiosity. You will learn how swallowing your truth to maintain relationships creates internal inflammation, directly triggering autoimmune issues and physical exhaustion. Dr. Nima shares actionable insights from his Trigger Proof methodology, demonstrating how to transition your relationship with core shame from a state of constant warfare into an elegant dance of self-compassion. Whether you are looking to break free from chronic physical tension, heal attachment wounds, or master the art of relationship repair, this conversation provides a necessary guide to becoming your own medicine. Connect With Dr. Nima https://www.facebook.com/drnimarahmany/https://www.instagram.com/drnima/?hl=enhttps://www.youtube.com/c/drnimarahmany
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