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The Mental Healness Podcast
Hosted by Lee Hammock · EN
Welcome to the Mental Healness Podcast, hosted by yours truly, Lee Hammock. If you're new here I have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I've been in therapy for the last 8 years learning how to deal with it and live a better life. From the start I've offered you the rare POV of a diagnosed narcissist but NOW I'm switching it up a little bit. I'm interviewing others that are dealing with their own mental health journeys and those that have dealt with toxic relationship dynamics as well. I'm still sharing my POV just sharing others as well. Collabs ✉ partnerships@mentalhealness.net
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Stop Ignoring Your Gut: How Narcissists Override Your Intuition
3w ago00:14:20Tap to summarizeIn this video, I break down why ignoring your intuition around narcissistic and toxic people almost always ends in regret. As a clinically diagnosed, self‑aware narcissist, I share real coaching stories of hidden families, “just best friends” who were more than friends, and the way manipulators override your gut feeling with charm, lies and love‑bombing. You’ll learn why no one is ever “thrilled” they ignored red flags, how lust and physical attraction can fry your brain, and why bedroom discipline and boundaries are crucial in today’s dating world. If you keep telling yourself “something feels off, but they’re so attractive,” this video will give you language, validation and practical insight to finally trust your intuition. The price you pay for ignoring your gut is almost always higher than the price you pay for following it.Contact me here - https://link.me/mentalhealness
Transcribe →Did They EVER Care About You? A Diagnosed Narcissist Explains
3w ago00:12:37Tap to summarizeIn this video, I tackle one of the most painful questions survivors ask: “Did they ever really care about me, or was it all fake?” As a clinically diagnosed, self‑aware narcissist, I explain how narcissistic people can have a limited emotional capacity, why some can only give you all the 'love they have' and why that still doesn’t excuse abuse. We’ll talk about why you stayed, why they put in such low effort, and how self‑love and boundaries matter more than trying to squeeze real love out of someone who can’t give it. If you’ve built a whole life with a toxic person and now feel like it was all a lie, this video will give you language, perspective, and validation for your healing. Stay to the end for a reminder that you DID matter and why their limitations don’t define your worth.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →Why Narcissists Hate It When You Block Them Everywhere!
3w ago00:21:09Tap to summarizeIn this video, I break down why narcissists hate it when you block them everywhere—phone, text, social media and email and why their reaction is NOT your fault. As a clinically diagnosed, self‑aware narcissist, I explain how blocking cuts off their narcissistic supply, triggers a massive ego injury, and exposes their need for control. You’ll learn what to expect when you go no contact, how they might rage, hoover, or smear you, and why those behaviors are actually proof that your boundaries are working. If you’re scared to block a toxic ex, parent or friend, this video will give you clarity, language and validation to protect your mental health. Watch to the end for practical tips on staying firm when they try to break through your boundaries.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →Why You Should Stop Giving Toxic People Second Chances!
3w ago00:12:03Tap to summarizeIn this video, I explain why you should leave the very first time someone lies to you in dating or relationships, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who knows how “little lies” grow into entire fake lives. We’ll talk about why a relationship built on even one dishonest foundation stone will eventually crumble, how age lies on dating apps turn into lies about education, job, and marital status, and why love‑bombers cry and promise “I’ll never lie again” right when you catch them. I’ll walk through the age‑gap story, the way physical attraction and money make people overlook red flags, and how forgiving the first lie almost always leads to discovering a whole pattern of deception later. If you’ve ever found yourself trying to get a liar to change instead of protecting your own reality, this video will give you the clarity and permission to treat that first lie as your exit signal, not a test of how much you can tolerate.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →Why We Get Too Attached to the Wrong People (with Dr. Shara Ally)
3w ago00:59:45Tap to summarizeIn this episode of the Mental Healness Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Shara Ally; psychiatric nurse practitioner, professor, TEDx Top‑50 Charter Speaker, and creator of the viral #TooAttached Movement to talk about why we get too attached to the wrong people and how to rebuild self‑trust after narcissistic and toxic relationships. We dive into her journey from being the “uncool” hyper‑observant kid to leading global work in mental health, human behavior, and emotional resilience, and we unpack the patterns that keep smart, capable people stuck in cycles of shame, over‑functioning, and chasing validation. Dr. Ally shares insights from her upcoming book You Should Have Known Better, her work with NEUROorganics Inc. and Velora S. Press, and her own experiences of being devalued, name‑called, and undermined by partners who weaponized her success. You’ll hear practical tools for breaking old attachment patterns, rising higher in your career and relationships, and rewriting your story with clarity, courage, and compassion—for yourself and others. Connect with Dr. Ally at sharaally.com or by email at hello@sharaally.com, and follow her work as she continues redefining emotional resilience and human transformation.
Transcribe →Why Being a “Ride or Die” for a Narcissist Will Emotionally Kill You
4w ago00:12:54Tap to summarizeWhy is being a “ride or die” for a narcissistic or toxic partner is one of the worst decisions you can make, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who’s watched survivors emotionally die in these relationships. We’ll talk about how narcissists play the victim to hook your empathy, convince you that everyone has abandoned them, and turn your loyalty into a one‑way street where you sacrifice friends, family, and boundaries while they give you nothing back. I’ll explain the difference between a real ride‑or‑die bond (symbiotic, both people benefit) and the parasitic version with a narcissist, where your emotional “gold mine” gets pillaged until you barely recognize yourself. If you’ve ever felt like you were riding till you die for someone who wouldn’t cross the street for you, this video will help you name what’s happening, stop confusing exploitation for loyalty, and start choosing your own life over their chaosBook a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →Why Are Narcissists So Cruel When They Are Finished With You?
4w ago00:11:59Tap to summarizeIn this video, I break down why narcissists and abusive people are so cruel when they’re discarding you, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who has been on the other side of that breakup. We’ll talk about how ego injury and loss of control drive their rage, why they need to see you as “broken” or pathetic to justify leaving, and how smear campaigns, threats, and comparison to “new supply” become tools to repair their own shattered self‑image. I’ll show you the hidden logic behind their cruelty, why they twist the story so you look like the abuser and how that keeps you stuck searching for closure in a situation that was never going to make sense. If you’ve ever wondered why the person who claimed to love you suddenly seemed to enjoy hurting you at the end, this breakdown will give you the clarity you need to stop blaming yourself, recognize the discard for what it is, and start focusing on your own healing.Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →Why the Narcissist Will Never Truly Pick You
4w ago00:21:48Tap to summarizeIn this video, I explain why a narcissist will never truly “pick” you in the way you’re hoping for, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who’s been on the other side of those choices. We’ll talk about how narcissists see partners as temporary “supply,” why they chase newness and fantasy instead of commitment, and what’s really going on when they discard you for someone else and still keep you on the hook. I’ll break down why it was never about you not being enough, how trauma bonds make you fight to be chosen, and why you can’t win a game that’s rigged to keep you doubting your worth. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to stop auditioning for their approval, see their “rejection” for what it really is, and choose yourself instead of waiting to be picked by someone who only values what you do for themBook a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →10 Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship with a Narcissist
4w ago00:11:45Tap to summarizeIn this video, I break down 10 signs you’re in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic or emotionally abusive partner, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who’s been on both sides of the dynamic. We’ll talk about what it really means to ignore your intuition, why conflicts escalate so fast when you challenge them, how isolation from friends and family makes you easier to control, and why their apologies never lead to actual change. I’ll show you how gaslighting, manipulation, and “I’m sorry for everything” keep you doubting yourself instead of their behavior, and why cutting people off for the chance at one toxic love leaves you more vulnerable than ever. If these signs sound familiar, this video will help you recognize the red flags, validate what you’re feeling, and start planning how to protect your peace and break the cycle. Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →Do Narcissists Regret What They Did to You?
Jul 1100:26:10Tap to summarizeIn this video, we dig into one of the hardest questions survivors ask after narcissistic or abusive relationships: do they actually regret what they did, or do they just regret losing you and their supply. As a clinically diagnosed narcissist, I’ll break down how narcissists and other abusive people experience regret, why their “sorry” is usually about consequences and image, not your pain and how their defenses let them see everything as your fault so there’s nothing to feel guilty about. Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
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