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The Mental Healness Podcast
Hosted by Lee Hammock · EN
Welcome to the Mental Healness Podcast, hosted by yours truly, Lee Hammock. If you're new here I have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I've been in therapy for the last 8 years learning how to deal with it and live a better life. From the start I've offered you the rare POV of a diagnosed narcissist but NOW I'm switching it up a little bit. I'm interviewing others that are dealing with their own mental health journeys and those that have dealt with toxic relationship dynamics as well. I'm still sharing my POV just sharing others as well. Collabs ✉ partnerships@mentalhealness.net
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I Was Tired of Being Pissed Off So I Did THIS
Jun 1900:44:04Tap to summarizeYour anger after a toxic relationship, narcissistic abuse, or a devastating divorce isn't a weakness — it can be your biggest catalyst for change.In this full podcast episode, I sit down with Stacie Shifflett — a 68-year-old author, entrepreneur, and founder of Modern Consciousness. After her 28-year marriage imploded, Stacie did everything "right" — new home, new routines, new social life. But inside, nothing felt like her. That's when she walked into a coach's office and said three words that changed everything: "I'm tired of being angry."What followed was one of the most powerful reinvention stories I've ever heard — from working with Les Brown and Tony Robbins, to acquiring a $50M software company with zero upfront capital, to becoming a bestselling author. Her story proves it's never too late to rebuild your life.📖 Get Stacie's book "Treasure Map to Joy" on Amazon: [insert Amazon link]🌐 Visit Stacie's site: https://modernconsciousness.com/📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ModernConsciousness📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/modernconsciousness/💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stacie-shifflett-7b5a8922/🆓 Free Emotional Triggers Workbook: https://modernconsciousness.com/In this episode, we cover:→ How Stacie used her anger as a catalyst instead of letting it destroy her→ Why doing all the "right things" after divorce still left her feeling empty→ The turning point: walking into a stranger's office and admitting she was tired of being pissed off→ Her journey from rock bottom to working with Les Brown & Tony Robbins→ How she acquired a $50M company with $0 and no experience→ Why emotional triggers give your power away — and how to take it back→ Breaking the patterns that keep you stuck in the same reactions for decades→ Fear vs. fearlessness — and why walking away is sometimes the most powerful move→ Finding joy that's unique to YOU, not what society says it should be→ Gratitude through hurricanes, floods, and the loss of her first child→ The #1 thing that keeps people from taking their first step forwardWhether you're healing from a narcissistic relationship, navigating divorce, or feeling stuck in anger and resentment, Stacie's story will remind you that clarity is the start of everything.
Transcribe →You DON'T Love Your Abusive Ex! Here's Why
Jun 1800:25:51Tap to summarizeWatch This Video When You Miss Your Abusive, narcissistic ex and before you reach out to them. I'm a diagnosed narcissist and I go into detail about why you don't really miss the narcissist, you're trauma bonded to them and coming off of that addiction is tough. You don't love them!Your brain is lying to you about love. What you're feeling isn't love — it's a trauma bond. And until you understand the difference, you'll keep going back to the same people who destroy you.In this video, I break down the psychology behind why you can't seem to move on from a narcissist or abusive ex, and the neurological reality that explains everything.💬 Book a Coaching Session: [https://link.me/mentalhealness]🔥 My Books: [https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ]🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL]
Transcribe →She Finally Escaped Her Abusive Relationship!
Jun 1700:09:34Tap to summarize"Leaving my child's father was the hardest decision I have ever made. Today marks day one of starting over as a single mom."This video documents the raw reality of leaving her baby daddy for good. After multiple failed attempts at separation, She finally taking the necessary steps toward independence and a healthier future for both herself and her child. This footage captures the emotional weight of her decision and the quiet moments of clarity that come with choosing to walk away from a relationship that no longer works.
Transcribe →Why Peace Feels Boring After a Toxic Relationship
Jun 1500:18:09Tap to summarizeWhy does life feel boring after you leave a toxic or narcissistic relationship? In this video, I break down why peace can feel unsettling, empty, or even wrong after years of living in chaos. If you've escaped a narcissist but find yourself craving drama, missing the highs and lows, or feeling like something is missing, this is for you.I explain the psychology behind why your nervous system got wired for chaos, how trauma bonding rewires what feels "normal," and why quiet moments can feel uncomfortable instead of peaceful. More importantly, I share practical steps to rewire your brain so silence starts to feel like freedom, not emptiness.This is part of the healing journey that nobody talks about, the stage where you're out, but you don't feel all the way free yet. Let's change that.All my links - https://link.me/mentalhealness
Transcribe →Why Toxic Exes Pop Back Up When You Finally Heal
Jun 1400:15:06Tap to summarizeWhy do toxic exes, narcissists, and high-conflict people always come back right when you're finally healing? In this video, I break down the psychology behind the "hoover" — the manipulation tactic narcissists use to pull you back into the abuse cycle — and explain exactly why your healing process is what triggers them the most.When you start to heal, your energy shifts. You stop reacting the way they expect. You stop feeding them the emotional supply they rely on. You start building boundaries. And that terrifies them. So they come back — not because they love you, but because they've lost control.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Transcribe →Narcissists Don't Just Leave, They Rewrite the Whole Story
Jun 1300:25:34Tap to summarizeWhy do high-conflict people completely rewrite the story after you leave the relationship? In this video, I break down exactly what happens when you walk away from someone with narcissistic or high-conflict traits — and why they feel the need to distort the truth, launch smear campaigns, and turn everyone against you.After you leave, they don't just miss you — they panic. Without you to blame, they have to create a whole new version of reality where they're the hero and you're the villain. This isn't about truth. It's about control, ego, and avoiding accountability at all costs.In this video, you'll learn:→ Why high-conflict people rewrite history after you leave→ The psychology behind smear campaigns and "flying monkeys"→ How narcissists use gaslighting to make you question your own reality→ What happens when they lose control of the narrative→ How to protect yourself while they spread lies about you→ Why staying silent and documenting everything is your best defense→ When and how to walk away for good — without looking backWhether you're dealing with a narcissistic ex, a high-conflict co-parent, or someone with borderline or antisocial traits, this video will give you the clarity you need to understand what's really happening — and how to stay strong through it.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Transcribe →Can Narcissists Really Change? A Clinical Psychologist Explains w/ Dr. David Hawkins
Jun 1201:14:50Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, we tackle one of the most controversial questions online: Can narcissists actually change, or should you always run?I’m joined by Dr. David Hawkins, Founder and Director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, a clinical psychologist with over 40 years of experience working with high‑conflict couples, narcissism, and emotional abuse. He’s authored more than 30 books on marriage and relationships and created The Comprehensive Core, a year‑long program for men on the narcissistic spectrum who want to do the workDr. Hawkins Information - www.facebook.com/marriagerecoverycenter instagram.com/marriagerecoverycenterwww.youtube.com/@drdavidbhawkins
Transcribe →I'm a Narcissist, Here's the Truth About Whether I Love My Kids
Jun 1100:23:06Tap to summarizeAs a diagnosed narcissist, I'm going live to answer the question adult children of narcissistic parents are afraid to ask did your narcissist parent ever truly love you? In this live stream, we'll break down narcissistic abuse in childhood, trauma bonding, covert narcissism, and why narcissistic parents use their children as pawns instead of loving them unconditionally. If you're healing from a toxic parent, struggling with narcissistic family dynamics, or trying to understand why you were the scapegoat or golden child, this conversation is for you. Drop your questions in the chat, this is a safe space to get real answers about narcissistic parent abuse, emotional neglect, and recovery.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Transcribe →When Your Abusive Partner Realizes They’ve Lost Control
Jun 900:29:56Tap to summarizeWhen a toxic, control-obsessed person realizes they no longer have power over you, everything changes. In this video, we break down exactly how they react when they sense you're walking away — from sudden rage and smear campaigns to desperate hoovering attempts and playing the victim. If you've been in a relationship where you felt confused, manipulated, or emotionally drained, this video will help you understand what's really happening behind the scenes and why their behavior escalates right before they lose their grip for good.You'll learn:The extinction burst: why chaos gets worse before it gets betterHow they shift from charm to coldness once they feel threatenedThe tactics they use to reestablish control (gaslighting, blame-shifting, baiting)Why hoovering and love-bombing resurface when they sense you're truly doneHow to protect yourself and stay grounded when their behavior goes into overdriveThis is a safe space for anyone healing from emotional abuse, trauma bonds, or relationships with controlling, emotionally immature, or high-conflict partners. If you're rebuilding yourself and setting boundaries for the first time, you're not alone.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Transcribe →How To Know If It's Really Over With a Narcissist
Jun 700:14:40Tap to summarizeWhat does it mean when an abuser or a controlling person completely cuts you out of their life for good? In this video, Lee Hammock breaks down the brutal psychological reality of the final discard. You’ll learn the exact mechanics of why a toxic individual goes completely cold, why they strip away your closure, and how they use a sudden, cruel exit as the ultimate punishment. We dive deep into why they discard you when you become too expensive to manipulate, how they instantly rewrite history to make you the villain, and why their total indifference is a calculated mind game. Most importantly, you'll learn how to flip the script on an abusive person’s final move, turning their rejection into your ultimate freedom, reclaiming your mental health, and closing the door forever.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
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