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The Mental Healness Podcast
Hosted by Lee Hammock · EN
Welcome to the Mental Healness Podcast, hosted by yours truly, Lee Hammock. If you're new here I have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I've been in therapy for the last 8 years learning how to deal with it and live a better life. From the start I've offered you the rare POV of a diagnosed narcissist but NOW I'm switching it up a little bit. I'm interviewing others that are dealing with their own mental health journeys and those that have dealt with toxic relationship dynamics as well. I'm still sharing my POV just sharing others as well. Collabs ✉ partnerships@mentalhealness.net
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Why Are There So Many Abusive People Today!?
Jun 600:11:11Tap to summarizeWhy does it feel like there is an absolute epidemic of abusers, controlling people, and narcissistic individuals in the world today? In this video, Lee Hammock tackles the heavy question of why so many people are displaying high-conflict, manipulative traits. We pull back the curtain on the modern reward systems that validate superficial charm, why a complete lack of personal accountability is turning regular people into toxic partners, and how unhealed trauma cycles multiply these behaviors across generations. Make sure you describe! Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Transcribe →How To Take An Abusive Person's Power!
Jun 500:27:37Tap to summarizeHow do you take the power away from an abuser, a narcissist or a controlling person who seems to dominate your entire life? In this video, I talk about the psychological shift required to make a toxic person completely powerless. You’ll learn why their authority over you is entirely dependent on your emotional reactions, and how practicing total indifference shuts down their manipulation engine. We break down the transition from constantly defending yourself to executing silent boundaries, why stopping the arguments panics a controlling person, and how to reclaim your reality from an abusive person who thrives on your exhaustion. Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss
Transcribe →Why Your Abusive Ex Keeps Your Stuff After You Breakup With Them!
Jun 400:14:00Tap to summarizeWhy do abusers and controlling people refuse to give your stuff back after a breakup? In this video, Lee Hammock exposes the sinister tactics behind why toxic people hold your personal belongings hostage. You’ll learn how an abusive person uses your clothes, electronics, or even important documents as an invisible tether to keep you locked into their lives and keep access to you. We dive deep into the power dynamics of why they thrive on making you beg for your things, how they use your possessions as an excuse to re-engage with you months down the line, and why they would rather destroy your items out of spite than give them back gracefully. Understanding this behavior is critical for your mental health and physical safety, helping you decide when to fight for your property and when to leave it behind to protect your peace.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
Transcribe →She survived 5 years with a narcissistic man
Jun 300:10:01Tap to summarizeFive years is a long time to live a lie. But it hurts even deeper when your own friend is the one defending the behavior.In this story time, we look at Rhonda’s experience dating her friend's brother. When the family prioritizes protecting a toxic pattern over protecting the target, the behavior never stops. You aren't just fighting one person; you are fighting an entire system of excuses.Have you ever had a friend take their family member's side when they knew the truth? Drop your thoughts below.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
Transcribe →Why they make it so hard to leave them!
Jun 200:13:33Tap to summarizeUnderstanding why you feel paralyzed and unable to leave an abusive person is the first step toward freedom. In this video, Lee Hammock explains the psychological "glue" that keeps people stuck in cycles with controlling people. We dive deep into trauma bonding, intermittent reinforcement, and the fear of the unknown that toxic people weaponize to keep you compliant. If you feel like you’re "waiting for the good version" of your partner to return, you are actually caught in a calculated trap designed by an abuser. Learn how to break the mental chains and realize that the fear you feel is a tool used by abusive people to maintain their power over your life.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
Transcribe →He met his first narcissist
Jun 200:06:22Tap to summarizeMy man finally understands what women mean when they talk about experiencing narcissism after dealing with his first narcissistic friend. This video dives into his experience, highlighting the signs of narcissism and the challenges of encountering toxic people. It's a raw reaction to how narcissistic abuse impacts friendships, giving my unfiltered perspective.Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
Transcribe →Why Abusive People Lash Out When You Get Too Close (Puffer-Fishing)
May 3100:21:00Tap to summarizeHave you ever head of PUFFER FISHING? In this video, Lee Hammock breaks down the exact mechanics of this toxic behavior and explains why abusers and controlling people suddenly turn freezing cold the exact moment a relationship becomes emotionally real. I take a deep dive into how toxic individuals act deeply affectionate and attentive at first, only to "puff up" their defenses, lash out, or pick fights over trivial matters when true intimacy is required. If you've ever felt completely stranded by a partner who clams up, runs away, or ghosted you just as you were getting close, you are likely dealing with the defensive mechanism of an abusive person trying to regain control. Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
Transcribe →Embarrassed To Leave, Embarrassed To Stay: The Truth About The Trauma Bond!
May 2901:18:32Tap to summarizeWhat happens when your childhood is marked by extreme survival, only for you to unconsciously recreate that exact nightmare in your adult marriage? In this profoundly raw and unfiltered episode, author, creator, and survivor Grace Sandra joins Lee Hammock to unpack the terrifying reality of severe trauma bonds, narcissistic abuse, and ultimate resilience.Grace bravely opens up about surviving a childhood Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) score of 10, her ex-husband's chilling "simulation theory" threats, and the bizarre moment he claimed he wasn't a narcissist, just "strictly evil." This conversation is a masterclass in cognitive dissonance, understanding why trauma bonds are physically addictive, and how to finally reclaim your identity on the other side of darkness.Connect with Grace Sandra:📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/outheretrynasurvive/🌐 Website & Resources: https://stan.store/GraceSandra📚 Check out her book on Amazon: Grace Actually: Memoirs and Musings on Faith, Love, Loss and Black Womanhood
Transcribe →The Real Mindset of an Abuser When They Start to Miss You
May 2700:29:20Tap to summarizeWhen a toxic, abusive, or controlling ex tells you that they "miss" you, it can completely destabilize your healing process. Your brain wants to believe that they have finally realized your worth, but the behavioral reality is much darker.In this video, I break down the exact psychology of what happens when an abuser starts to miss you. We discuss the concept of a validation deficit, why they selectively romanticize the past, and how their sudden urge to reconnect is driven by a desire to regain control rather than genuine love. Stop breaking your own peace for a temporary ego play.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events All my links - https://link.me/mentalhealness
Transcribe →Why A Controlling Person Fears You Talking to Their Ex
May 2600:12:30Tap to summarizeWhy does the person you are with desperately try to keep you from ever interacting with or meeting their ex? If they claim the ex is simply "crazy" but go to extreme lengths to make sure your worlds never collide, there is a dark strategic reason behind the secrecy.In this video, I break down the behavioral mechanics of why controlling and abusive people isolate you from their past relationships. We discuss narrative control, the fear of victims comparing notes, and how keeping you separate allows them to continue the cycle without being exposed. Stop letting them control the history books.NYC EVENT - www.mentalhealness.net/events Connect with Lee:My Courses: https://courses.mentalhealness.net 1-on-1 Coaching Calls: https://link.me/mentalhealnessAll My Link: https://beacons.page/mentalhealness Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesssIf this episode helped you gain clarity, please leave a 5-star review on Spotify! It helps others find the validation they need to heal. 🌟
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