We weren’t born with devices — and yet, they now shape every part of our day.

Research shows that kids as young as 11 own smartphones, and two-year-olds make up a significant YouTube viewing audience. But the real problem isn’t the screen — it’s the system behind it.

This week on Parenting Reboot, I sat down with Riz Vazir, founder of Scroll By Choice, a Seattle-based initiative helping families and workplaces build digital resilience. Riz calls himself a techno-optimist — someone who doesn’t fear technology but insists that we must learn to live with it consciously.

“We were all focused on the features our devices came with,” he says.“But no one taught us how to orient our lives, thinking, and behaviors around something so powerful that fits in our pockets.”

We spoke about the illusion of control, the algorithms shaping our values, and why digital wellness is a life skill—not a luxury.

Takeaways from this episode:

* Technology is a relationship, not a tool. You have to nurture it.

* Algorithms aren’t neutral. They serve their masters — always.

* Parents model tech behavior. Kids watch not what we say, but what we do when stressed, bored, or lonely.

* Going “screen-free” isn’t realistic. We need to teach techno-resilience, not nostalgia for a world that doesn’t exist anymore.

* Our attention is currency. Kids are ready for this conversation — ask them: “Who makes money off this app you love?”

Riz believes the future of healthy tech lies in education, self-awareness, and values — not fear or restriction.

“The algorithm isn’t a tech problem,” he says. “It’s a values problem.”

And that, perhaps, is the most powerful insight of all. Learn more about the work Scroll By Choice does here.

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