Friendship heartbreak hits differently when it’s your child. In this episode, I sit down with child development specialist Dr. Robyn Silverman to talk about bullying, boundaries, rejection, and what to say when your child feels left out. We dive into the moments that trigger us as parents, especially when their pain mirrors our own childhood wounds, and how to respond with steadiness instead of panic.

If you’ve ever felt your chest tighten when your child says, “They don’t want to play with me,” this conversation is for you. We talk about helping kids define what a good friend actually is, building identity from the inside out, and supporting them through social struggles without bulldozing the situation or blaming them. This episode is about raising confident kids who know they are enough, even when friendships shift.

What we discuss:

• Why fifth grade and early adolescence can feel like a social turning point

• How to help kids define what a true friend looks like

• Why proximity friendships don’t always work long term

• The power of identity and “I am” statements

• How negative self talk creates a confidence feedback loop

• What to say when your child says they’re being bullied

• What not to do in the heat of the moment

• How to respond without escalating the situation

• Supporting social skill growth without labeling your child as the problem

• The importance of repair when we as parents don’t handle it perfectly

• Why parenting always offers a do over

To connect with Dr. Robyn Silverman follow her on Instagram @drrobynsilverman, check out all her resources at https://drrobynsilverman.com/ and buy her book “How to Talk To Kids About Anything”: https://parenting.drrobynsilverman.com/book#heading-t_xdY060m2H

00:00 – When Friendship Hurts: The Question Every Parent Faces

01:10 – Meet Dr. Robyn Silverman: Helping Parents Navigate Hard Conversations

02:22 – Why Talking About Friendship and Bullying Matters

03:06 – The Childhood Experience That Inspired Dr. Silverman’s Work

07:08 – Teaching Kids What a Good Friend Actually Is

10:52 – Why Kids Stay in Friendships That Don’t Treat Them Well

12:28 – Helping Kids Find Friendships That Fit Who They Are

15:02 – How Self-Identity Shapes Social Confidence

19:47 – What To Do When Your Child Says They’re Being Bullied

21:13 – The First Words to Say When Your Child Opens Up

25:34 – Rebuilding Self-Worth After Friendship Rejection

27:11 – When Your Child Feels Like No One Wants to Be Their Friend

31:13 – Avoiding the Blame Trap When Kids Struggle Socially

33:37 – Parenting Is the Ultimate Do-Over

36:12 – A Simple Exercise to Help Kids Choose Better Friends

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