Fireside Chats: In Survival Mode

Summary

Podcast Summary: The Southern Tea – “Fireside Chats: In Survival Mode”

Host: Lindsie Chrisley (with guests: Alessandra, Kayla, Hunter)
Date: May 13, 2026
Duration: ~70 min (Main content reviewed through 70:28)

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Episode Overview

This episode of The Southern Tea is a laid-back, candid roundtable (or "fireside chat") with Lindsie Chrisley and her friends Alessandra, Kayla, and Hunter. The group navigates everything from legal anxieties and Southern vs. Northern terminology to gut health, routines, resilience, and boundaries in relationships. Lindsie’s unfiltered honesty and humor shine as the friends swap stories about daily life, bodily functions, emotional growth, and the power of supportive friendships—especially while surviving life’s curveballs.

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Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Survival Mode: Legal Fears & Coping with Anxiety

• The group immediately dives into Lindsie’s anxiety over potentially having a warrant and upcoming court proceedings.
  • Lindsie’s anxiety: She was cold-called and told she might have a warrant but asserts she hasn’t done anything wrong.
  • Georgia law frustrations: You can’t simply call the sheriff to ask about warrants ([03:48]).
  • Humor as a coping mechanism: The group jokes about "mug shots," with Hunter even checking online to confirm Lindsie’s status.
  • Lindsie admits to feeling “completely dissociated” due to stress ([04:44]).

2. Southern Life vs. Northern Life: Terminology & Taxes

• Lighthearted confusion about “tags” vs. “license plates,” annual car taxes, and state rankings for education funding.
  • North Carolina is 50th in education funding, which shocks the Northern friends ([07:07]).
  • Quick lessons in Southern car registration vs. other states’ methods.

3. Unfiltered Daily Life: Candid Talk About Routines & Farts

• The group answers, “What does an unfiltered day in Lindsie’s life look like?”
  • Pilates obsession: Lindsie’s staple routine, even wanting to go during snowstorms ([08:40]).
  • Waffle House dreams: Reflection on the experience and what actually draws them there ([09:20]).
  • Extended and hilarious tangent about morning bowel movements and “fart routines” ([10:06–14:10]).
    • “The best part of the day is the first one, but it could also be the worst start of your day.” – Kayla ([10:12])
    • Lindsie’s epic story about having to “bail” and relieve herself roadside after ice cream—true Southern oversharing.

4. Friendship and Trauma: Laughing Through the Hard Times

• The group reflects on how constant laughter is often a coping mechanism for trauma.
  • “Cackling together is an absolute trauma response.” – Lindsie ([02:42])
  • Garage Games story: They recall a drama-laden but comedic Airbnb night in NYC as a classic “trauma response” moment. ([68:15])

5. Trust, Self-Respect, and Relationship Growth

• Honest talk about learning boundaries, trust issues, how trauma shapes relationships, and “fixer” mentalities.
  • Discernment and gut intuition:
    • Alessandra’s gut feelings are repeatedly celebrated for their accuracy ([32:07–33:06]).
    • “There’s something in my gut telling me we have to leave… cops go in right as we’re getting in the car.” – Alessandra ([32:42])
    • Trauma and neurodivergence often heighten intuition and pattern recognition.
  • Self-worth and boundaries ([39:04–40:46])
    • Lindsie: “If you value yourself… you’re better able to not allow those things to happen because you’re like I don’t deserve that.”
    • Alessandra: Learning in your 30s to require reciprocity and cut disrespectful people off quickly.

6. Coping and Control: Healthy and Not-So-Healthy Mechanisms

• Lindsie shares her fixation on routine as a means to control chaos in her life: Pilates, car washes, grocery runs ([50:55]).
• Discussing the value of healthy coping (e.g., exercise) versus destructive choices.

7. Public Perception: Who Is the Real Lindsie Chrisley?

• Misconceptions about Lindsie’s personality:
  • Friends insist she’s hilarious, unpretentious, and emotionally open—nothing like her “Chrisley Knows Best” TV persona.
  • “You are so funny and unhinged... you’re a good time.” – Kayla ([52:27–52:52])
  • Protective or rigid tendencies are reframed as necessary survival tactics during tough times.
  • “When you’re really going through something, you have a tendency to go into your shell, and so you can come off a bit robotic… but I also think sometimes that’s where people get the wrong idea of you.” – Lindsie ([53:35])

8. Resilience, Survival, and Humor: Lessons & Notable Stories

• Possum rescue (Possum Gate):
  • Lindsie and Kayla recount “rescuing” a baby possum and finding it a home—an experience that gave them hope and a sense of purpose during tough times. ([63:19–66:10])
  • “That baby possum needed you as much as you needed that baby.” – Lindsie ([64:09])
• Garage Games (NYC Airbnb Story):
  • The friends recount a “trauma bonding” moment during a dramatic evening, where a group argument led to Lindsie and Alessandra spiraling into laughter in their room ([67:15–70:00]).

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments (with Timestamps)

• On anxiety and trauma response:

  • “Cackling together is an absolute trauma response.” – Lindsie ([02:42])
  • “I am a functioning, non functioning human being right now.” – Lindsie ([01:43])

• On Southern routines:

  • “My first concern is gotta get the fart out.” – Lindsie ([10:28])
  • “Let’s revisit this conversation in 40 years and we’ll see who has polyps and who doesn’t.” – Lindsie ([18:49])

• On intuition and boundaries:

  • “Alessandra has the most insane gut instinct. She’s right every time, and I’m never right.” – Lindsie ([32:00])
  • “This year, I’m all about reciprocity… At 35 years old, I’m not budging on [my boundaries] anymore.” – Alessandra ([36:19])

• On public perception:

  • “People think you’re stuck up and all this stuff, and you’re really not.” – Kayla ([52:52])
  • “If you have not followed us on at the Southern Tea Podcast, you can follow us on Instagram and join our Facebook group to connect with us and our community… We hope that you guys have a great week and we’ll talk to you soon.” – Lindsie ([70:28], episode close)

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Timestamps: Major Segments

• 01:43–02:42: Introduction of guests, reacting to listener feedback, trauma response laughter.
• 03:05–07:36: Legal stress, license/tag confusion, annual tax frustrations.
• 08:38–14:10: Unfiltered daily routine, Pilates obsession, bodily function humor.
• 17:48–20:01: GLP-1 medications, gut health talk, boundaries around talking about bathroom stuff.
• 32:07–36:56: Recognizing intuition/gut feelings; trauma and neurodivergence.
• 39:04–41:05: Boundaries, growth in 30s, self-worth.
• 50:54–52:27: Routine as control, healthy coping mechanisms.
• 52:27–57:33: “Who is the real Lindsie Chrisley?” Friends debunk public misconceptions.
• 63:19–66:10: Possum rescue story.
• 67:15–70:00: “Garage Games” story; humor and trauma response.

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Episode Tone & Essence

• Language/Style: Unfiltered, sarcastic, and deeply Southern. The dialogue is fast, sometimes chaotic, and always honest.
• Tone: Supportive and irreverent, with enough introspection to provide real-life takeaways about self-worth, friendship, and surviving hard times.

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For Listeners Who Missed the Episode

Fireside Chats: In Survival Mode offers a slice of real-life Southern humor, revealing the importance of laughter and friendship through even the most anxiety-ridden days. If you need reassurance that not having it all together is normal—or just want to cackle about the indignities of life, like roadside emergencies and “morning farts”—Lindsie and friends deliver, while also sharing valuable insights about growth, intuition, and learning to protect your peace. The episode is packed with laughter, oversharing, and moments of genuine vulnerability.

Transcript

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Alessandra]

Wow.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

You need to relax.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Narrator/Ad Host]

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[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Alessandra]

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[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

true to her roots.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I am a functioning, non functioning human being right now. Join Lindsay each week as she swears to spill the tea, the whole tea and nothing but the tea. Tea that is the tea. Here's Lindsay. Good morning to y'.

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All.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Good evening to us. And welcome back to another episode of the Southern Tea. We are doing fireside chats. And I am with Hunter. I am with Alessandra. And I am with Kayla. How are y'?

[Alessandra]

All?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Good, you know, been better.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Can you speak up? Because you were not doing that voice prior to.

[Kayla]

There it is.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Don't talk about it. And then I'll be good.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Don't you have some Things to address with Southern tea podcast listeners.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Some things to address with the listeners. What gives? Why aren't we friends? What's your problem? God forbid.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

What were the comments? Right?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You know, I. The comments were that I wasn't funny. And you know what? I think everyone in this room disagrees.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I think we've all been cackling for however long, which we've been cackling, like it's a trauma response. Like all of us cackling together is an absolute trauma response. He'll just left. Ike just left. Was anybody else here? No, Alessandro's still here. Kayla just got here. Hunter just got here. And hunter just spent $8 to check and see if I have an active warrant, so.

[Kayla]

And she doesn't.

[Alessandra]

God bless us.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

She's warrant free.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Warrant free. It's just insane to me.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I think everyone needs a mug shot.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

No, see, that's just like not on my Rolodex of things that I'm trying to do. The fact that I. And I'm not going to disclose who called me, but someone cold called me and said, hey, do you have a warrant? And I said, I'm coming in, coming in. I have court tomorrow, but I don't have a warrant. And this person, I was about to say who it was, said, I think you have a warrant. And I said to Kayla and Alessandra, how do we find out if I have a warrant? So what did you do?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You know, I did what any normal person would do, and I called the sheriff's department. But, you know, Georgia does things differently here. And apparently in Georgia, you can't just call and ask if you have a warrant and they tell you. They said that they don't give that information over the phone. And then I asked, okay, so how does one find out that they have a warrant around here? And the last. The only thing they told me was, oh, just get pulled over. If you get pulled over, you'll know. So now I'm thinking me, you, Alessandra Hunter in the car, enjoying our evening. And it gets destroyed because you have a warrant, and we're out on the roads ripping and roaring.

[Alessandra]

If you have a warrant and we're out on the road this fucking wild.

[Kayla]

Respectfully, I'd have been in another car. I did not want a money.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Hunter's like, actually, no one's riding with Lindsay because if she has a warrant, she's doing that on her own.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

No. Alessandra was immediately like, we have to take someone else's car.

[Alessandra]

I said, we need to take someone else's car. Lindsey cannot drive.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

It is not. Not her tag. No. It's just, like, really insane. And I feel like I'm so stressed. Kayla was like, are you okay? No, actually, I'm not. I feel like I'm completely dissociate. How do you say that word?

[Alessandra]

Disassociated?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Disassociated. Completely dissociated. There are potential people that could potentially show up at court tomorrow. And I'm just like, if that ever transpired in my life, like, I'm just going to take the high road, right?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Like, yeah. I mean, I think that's one of the things that is hard about these particular circumstances. There's so many things that are out of your control and out of. There's so many unknowns, and you're like me. I don't do well with unknowns. No one does, I don't think. Unless you're a psychopath. So we're just trying to manage what we know.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

But also what bothers me is, like, why is someone calling me saying that I could potentially have a warrant? And I'm like, I didn't do anything wrong. Like, for what? For what would I have a warrant for? Yeah, Like, I mean, I need to re register my tag. Wait, is it May?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah, same. Mine's in June.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

What?

[Kayla]

You technically have until the end of the month.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah.

[Alessandra]

What's your tag?

[Kayla]

Oh, my God.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Your license plate.

[Kayla]

You're joking.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Your license plate on your tag, they

[Kayla]

have to have two.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

They have a sticker. So in I don't know where, I don't know where. How it is in New Jersey, but here and where I live in North Carolina, you have a sticker every year on your tack. And every year you have to renew.

[Alessandra]

Understanding that I don't know what the a tag is.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It's a license plate. Oh, okay.

[Kayla]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Oh, that's where the disconnect was. I was like, look, I know you drive a car.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

It's like three from the south, one from the north.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

And yeah.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

So yeah, we call it a tag.

[Alessandra]

But what do you have to. Why?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So every year you have to pay your taxes on your vehicle every year? Yeah. So it's a percentage of like. Mine was $176. Also. That's highway robbery. No, it is y.

[Alessandra]

But taxes for what?

[Kayla]

To drive.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

To drive like your car.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

For your registration.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You have to register your car.

[Alessandra]

We pay registration every year, so same.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It's very similar. Okay, well, we have a separate registration fee. Like, my registration fee was like 40 something dollars. And then I Have a separate tax for my vehicle, depending on the value of your car.

[Alessandra]

Do you not pay taxes when you buy your car?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

We do. You have to continue to pay taxes.

[Alessandra]

Oh, we don't do that.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah. So what's it called? Like, ad valorem.

[Kayla]

Ad valorem.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Avalorum tax. So when I bought both my vehicles. Well, actually at least one. And then bought one, the avalorum was, like, in the lease. It was, like, put into the lease payments. And then for my other car, I just paid it outright. So I think I only have, like, a $20 tag fee.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

That's nice. Yeah, it's 176.

[Kayla]

Your car is paid off.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Highway robbery.

[Kayla]

Really? No, because if. I think if you have car payment, I don't have to pay ad valorem, so I just had to pay 25 to get the actual tag.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Wow. You know, I also learned last week, I'm from North Carolina. Did you know that North Carolina is 50th in the state for education? Like, funding. For education funding.

[Kayla]

Wow.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

South Carolina, I think, is 51.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

There's only 50 states, babe.

[Alessandra]

Oh, sometimes they count Puerto Rico as one.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

That's fair. I'm sorry. No Puerto Rican friends right now. I'm sorry.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Right now there's 51 states. I wrong.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

No, please.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

She's like, no, you are politically correct. You are correct. Okay, so we have a bunch of questions, and I'm going to actually play host and let them answer these questions. So y' all are all going to play roulette and chime in. The first question is, what does real Unfilter Day in the life of Lindsay Chrisley?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

First stop?

[Alessandra]

Pilates.

[Kayla]

No, no. I usually get a phone call for Pilates.

[Alessandra]

Like, neurotis. I almost said she's neurotic about her Pilates. And I said neurotis. No, the neurosis with Pilates is actually really concerning. One time, Lindsay called me as a full on snowstorm. And for y', all, a snowstorm is

[Lindsay Chrisley]

like a few inches.

[Alessandra]

Yeah. Like, it's like a little dusting of snow. She was like. And I was gonna go to Pilates and the. Do you know that the studio is closed? I said, lindsay, the school closed? She said, yeah. I said, the grocery store is closed.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Alessandra]

What the would Pilates?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

She's probably like, the Waffle House is open.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Waffle House is always open.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Waffle House closes. It's a 91 1.

[Alessandra]

Yeah, we have Waffle House, but we only have it in Pennsylvania, so the closest one to me is like an hour away.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Lucky you.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Waffle House Y', all, I have been dreaming of Waffle House for literally, like, two weeks.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Let's go.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

But I am so disassociated that, like, I dream of it and I think of it multiple times throughout the day, but, like, I'm not going to it.

[Alessandra]

Waffles is an experience. It's not about the food.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Correct.

[Alessandra]

It's what you're gonna witness.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Truly could not agree more.

[Kayla]

But it's not worth the shits.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It's a theatric.

[Kayla]

What do you mean? After you eat all of that greasy ass food, it is coming out of you.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I agree.

[Kayla]

Like, lava.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

What do you get? What's the order from Waffle House?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Wait, I have to tell you guys a shit story. Not. Not to interrupt, but before we started

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

recording, why were you all talking about, like, rabid farts?

[Kayla]

Morning farts is what we were talking about.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah. Like, the best part of the day is the first one, but it could

[Kayla]

also be the worst start of your day.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

But, like, why, like, y' all wake up and do that as a part of your routine?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah, I look forward to it.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

So, like, the first thing you do, like, when I wake up and open my eyes, I look around to, like, make sure I'm where I'm supposed to be.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

No, my first concern is gotta get the fart out.

[Kayla]

Yeah. I pretty much run to the toilet.

[Alessandra]

The fart.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Wait, you.

[Kayla]

First thing. As soon as I wake up.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Wait, what's your first fart? Like, is.

[Kayla]

It depends on what I ate or if I had cocktails the night before.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Mine's like, cocktails make you fart?

[Kayla]

Yeah.

[Alessandra]

What the are they talking about?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I don't know. I've never heard of this in my entire life.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

If you get it, you get it. And be grateful that you don't.

[Kayla]

Correct.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Let me tell you this. I had ice cream for the first time in a long time a few weeks ago. Okay. We had just gone hiking all day. I decided I really want some ice cream. I ate that ice cream, and about an hour later, I made the one, like, 45 minute drive home. Okay. Ten minutes it all, son. I can't even get through. Sorry. She's dying laughing already. So about 10 minutes in, have the gurgles. And if you know, you know. I knew this was not gonna be good. This was bad. I was struggling. I actually felt like I was gonna give birth. It was so painful. So I'm like, I can still make it home. Like, Joel's in the car with me. He's, like, rubbing my back. Vinny's in the back.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

As if that's gonna help.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

He's like, it's. Are you okay? And I'm like, I'm not okay. But, like, it's pitch black, dark outside. Okay.

[Kayla]

Cold sweats.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

We get. Yep.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Y' all are insane.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Oh, it gets so much worse.

[Kayla]

Active bowels. What's wrong with that?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

God forbid.

[Kayla]

I know.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So we get. I get about half.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

And you can tell.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

And I just have to bail. And by bail, I mean I got out of the car. It's pitch black. A normal public road. I get out of the car, go. Go to the other side of my car, pull my pants down all over the side of the road. Like, literally.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Where was everybody else?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Joel was in the car fighting for his life. Because, like, he's just like, this is too much. I'm getting married to him in October. Can you imagine?

[Kayla]

Well, he didn't take the ring back, so that's good.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

No, he was just like, are you okay? Like, is this real? And then Vinny's like, oh, my God, we're gonna die. Someone's gonna see you. There's cars driving by. I can't help it. There is.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

You imagine, like, you literally get hit while you're taking a diarrhea on the side of road because you ate ice cream.

[Alessandra]

Lindsay.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Like, that's.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I had to.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Freaking insane.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I don't have toilet paper in the car. Who has toilet paper in their car? I do now.

[Kayla]

No one keep napkins in the car.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I. I have a 9 year old, so like, they kind of get used up pretty quick.

[Kayla]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

The only thing I had was a blanket, and I used the blanket and left it on the side of the road. And I feel very bad about that cuz I'm not a litterer by trade. But also, I'm not putting.

[Alessandra]

She said she felt bad about leaving the blanket, but not the biohazard on the side of her. Wait, also, she calls me.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Didn't even think about that.

[Alessandra]

She calls me and then I don't pick up. So then I call her back and she goes, I can't believe you didn't answer my phone. I needed you. And I said, you needed me?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

She said I was on the side of the road and I said the

[Alessandra]

first thought was to call me.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Are you joking? I'm bent over poop coming out. Okay.

[Kayla]

Oh, my God.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I'm calling all.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Sondra, are you lactose? That's what I said.

[Kayla]

I think everyone is.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

But my first thought was to call Alessandra because I needed help. And the only person who knows what to do is her.

[Kayla]

She's like I'm hopping a flight what

[Lindsay Chrisley]

to do and so I'm like was so upset she didn't call. So I did call you back. Yeah, by that time I was doing round three at home.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

You know you need some lactate girl, so. All right y'.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

All.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

from rebel.com I think what Hunter said is true. I think a lot of people have a cow protein allergy that they just don't, don't we? We eat too much of it to begin with. For me I can eat cheese and I'm perfectly fine. I can eat sour cream sometimes and I'm fine. It's ice cream for some reason makes me so violently ill. Ice cream is

[Kayla]

made with like whole milk. Yeah egg yolk cream and a ton of sugar. So it's very heavy.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

And before we've got to move on from the shits. But like before we do I just need to know at what point of yalls life you woke up and you were like ripping ass is the first part of my day. And what point of your life was I immediately have to wake up and take a morning because never have I ever.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Well be grateful because like it's. It's truly a curse a morning.

[Alessandra]

I've definitely Been there. I've definitely been there for a morning. But not a bark before you shed.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah. And I think, like, when you have

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

tummy issues, always far before you.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

When you have tummy issues, the only thing you want is to feel better and someone send us a doctor, please. Yeah.

[Kayla]

At this rate.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Please. This side of the couch gets it. That side of the couch. I'm not so sure.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

We get it, and we all don't get it.

[Kayla]

Well, at least I'm always.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Side of the couch. People are listening to that.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Get it. Let's revisit this conversation in 40 years and we'll see who has polyps and who doesn't.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Polyps isn't saying.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

No, we're not.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

She's like wishing colon cancer on us.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

First of all. First of all.

[Alessandra]

And second of all, I am a very regular bowel movement person. Second of all, talking about is the. My least favorite thing.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Why?

[Alessandra]

It's disgusting.

[Kayla]

No, it's necessary.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah, everybody shits.

[Alessandra]

I don't, like, regularly go around talking about my.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

This is like, the third time we've

[Alessandra]

talked about in the last 48 hours.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I used to be in a moment. Okay.

[Kayla]

I used to be in a group chat where people would send pictures of their turds.

[Alessandra]

Did I not say that?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yes. She literally told me earlier today. She was like, billy is. And for anybody who's listening to this that is not familiar with Alessandra, Billy is her fiance. And she said that he and his friends send their shits, like, photos of their shits back and forth in a group chat. And I'm like, that is abnormal.

[Alessandra]

At the point that Lindsey Chrisley ever sent me a picture of her shit, I would call Peachford immediately.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Like, a grippy sock vacation right now is on.

[Alessandra]

Is a need.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

No, I feel like if you guys had tummy issues, you would. I just feel like, you know, I

[Alessandra]

used to have tummy issues.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Well, what happened? How did you fix it? I would love to know.

[Alessandra]

I stopped being on GLP1.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

See, the only.

[Alessandra]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

The only time I've had regular or more regular tummy stuff is when I was on GLP ones.

[Alessandra]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Because it stops you up.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Let's move on.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

We're moving on.

[Kayla]

Okay, enough of the shits.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

From.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

From all perspectives. From your perspective, your perspective and your perspective. What is the daily life of Lindsay Chrisley like?

[Alessandra]

I can't believe we literally got off of 14 minute tangent about we're insane.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

We're literally insane. An unfiltered day in my life. All right, y' all can't copy each other.

[Alessandra]

You're waking up, you're calling somebody and, like, you're calling somebody from the shower, most likely because you do your best calling from the shower. And if you don't have Jackson, that's what you're doing. And you're going to Pilates and then you're going to come back and you're probably going to put like a load of laundry in the wash or something and maybe take another shower.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yep.

[Alessandra]

And run whatever errands you need to

[Lindsay Chrisley]

do and then potentially record break that pressure washer out.

[Kayla]

Correct.

[Alessandra]

Break the pressure washer out for real.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Pew pew.

[Alessandra]

And then you're gonna be out here fire time by like 6 o', clock, drinking it.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Truly, what's your perspective?

[Kayla]

Definitely Pilates.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Pretty spot on.

[Kayla]

Yeah, definitely Pilates. I don't get the shower calls.

[Alessandra]

You don't?

[Kayla]

I don't. Which I've got bathtub calls, but I'm

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

just like, I've got to call the girls from the shower, which is fine.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Like, that makes sense. Yeah.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

It's like one for the girls. And Hunter would hang up on me at the moment he heard the shower and possibly felt the steam coming from the iPhone.

[Kayla]

The shower.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

He would hang up on me.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

The thing about you, though, with the shower calls is it's. You don't tell me ahead of time.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

No, I tell somebody.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So I'm just like, talking to you on the phone. All of a sudden it's just like I can hear water in the background. And I'm just like, hey, so, like, are you in the shower? And you're like, oh, yeah, I've been in it for 10 minutes. And I'm like, oh, okay. Nice to know.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah, like washing. Washing my thing out. You don't want me because some people actually take a shower.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Why do I keep. Is this like an OCD tendency or an ADHD tendency that I keep checking my phone to see if I get a camera alert because the cops are coming.

[Alessandra]

No, that says somebody called you and told you you have a might have a warrant out for your arrest situation.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

But me sitting there so confused, I'm just like, why would I have a warrant?

[Alessandra]

And then I just want everybody to know that Lindsay said, well, at least I have my hair and makeup done.

[Kayla]

That's literally what I said. Well, at least glam is done.

[Alessandra]

Honestly, how many of the people at Girl Interrupted AKA right now have a mug shot?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Oh, me.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Do you have a mug shot?

[Kayla]

I do not. Nor do I plan on getting one.

[Alessandra]

No. At my big age, I don't want one.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

No, but I mean, I was just saying, like, I have to go to court tomorrow, so if I was like,

[Lindsay Chrisley]

we were gonna go ahead and get it done.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

How do I say this? Like, I was never. I never got any type of state charges, and there was a whole scene assessed. And so, like, what am I getting a warrant for? But, like, honestly, the sheriff can just text me, and I can just go turn myself in. Like, my hair makeup's done. Like, I don't need to do all this today.

[Alessandra]

Not the sheriff texting.

[Kayla]

I have a question. Are you gonna be the type who smiles in it or.

[Alessandra]

No? No, I smised.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I didn't smile.

[Alessandra]

I smised.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

What would your mug shot look like?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Mad. You want to see?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

We'll have to po.

[Alessandra]

She sent it.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

No, I know, but, like, I'm saying, can you do it right now so I can post all of our mug shots? Like, if we were getting one, what would it look like? Go first.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Pose for a mug shot.

[Alessandra]

Yeah, she said post.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Oh, it depends on what it's for, because I'm gonna tell you right now, if somebody, like, messes with my child. Smile all the way.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

You're smiling.

[Kayla]

If it's valid. If it's a valid.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

If.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I know what if somebody accused you of something?

[Alessandra]

I'm pissed.

[Kayla]

Anger.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

What's the mug shot gonna look like? I need a camera.

[Kayla]

I'm gonna look like a beat.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It would just be like a. Yeah,

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

that's exactly what I'm like.

[Alessandra]

That's exactly what her. Her mug shot did look like.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

What would your mug shot look like?

[Kayla]

I'd literally probably be red in the face.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

No, I need to see it.

[Kayla]

And I would just be like, you're in the headlights.

[Alessandra]

How am I gonna explain this?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Let me see yours.

[Kayla]

Oh, no, it's not Meemaw.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Let me see.

[Kayla]

It's not mammal. It's my mom.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Oh, for real? Would this be it?

[Alessandra]

I would smize.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Okay, again, I'd be like, give me a mug. Let's see Lindsay.

[Kayla]

Like, she was in the rebound. Shoot over. Over the.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Also, if you did that in, like, 2008, would have done numbers.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Numbers. I'm like, first of all, don't mess with my hair, makeup, and, like, also, don't come and get me when I don't have hair, makeup. Like, if you think you're waking me up in the night.

[Kayla]

Can we put this on the schedule, please?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I've already got it done. Like.

[Alessandra]

Well, yeah, we were gonna. I'm also not a cop. The sheriff's Office and then margaritas.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

The fact that Kayla's like, I'll just check you in.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

No, I literally said. I said, listen, let's just go now. I'll check in. I'll get you out, and we can go on our merry way.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Can you imagine me going to court my court creams and then just being like, you have an arrest of a false arrest warrant?

[Alessandra]

No.

[Kayla]

I want you all to know that I also did not find this out until I walked into the house and then immediately pulled out type of day. And then I get here, and she's, oh, I may be getting arrested tonight.

[Alessandra]

And Hunter's like, I thought we were literally.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I thought we were getting tacos tonight. And I'm like, no, please start calling

[Alessandra]

people, because we still would have gotten the tacos and margaritas just after we punted you.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It would have been fine. It would just been a little blip in the evening.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

You know, I'm just, like, sitting there. But, like, can you imagine, like, a moment where somebody, like, walks into court and they've done nothing wrong, and they're just wearing court creams, and they're like, you have a fake warrant.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Court creams are like, the dress. Like, you know, they put you in the khakis.

[Kayla]

No, that's already in prison.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I mean, if you get booked in. Yeah, it depends. If you're in, like, long term prison, I think you wear, like. Like, when I went to jail, I had to wear stripes, and I wish that was a joke.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Wait, white and black.

[Alessandra]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

And they also don't give you a bra in there. I just want to let all the ladies know in case you're considering any violence in the near future, you won't have a bra. And I literally. I have. For people who are not our visual audience, I have, like, on the cuff of, like, an f. Boob. Okay.

[Kayla]

The boobs are boobing.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah. And the first thing I did was ask for a bra, and they said, oh, you'll have to get those from commissary. I said, ma', am, first of all,

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I'm not going to be here long enough for commissary to kick in around here.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So I've. I had to appear in court with no Ron.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

That's insane.

[Kayla]

Of some big old knockers. Do you guys remember those videos back in the day where that lady was, like, crushing.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Why is the gay guy talking about

[Kayla]

knockers with her boobs?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Wait, I'd be doing that. I posted a video with a, like, things I could hold under my knocker crush watermelons.

[Alessandra]

With her boobs.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

First of all, no.

[Alessandra]

Oh. First of all, I literally said I'd be doing that.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Do you remember that video I posted with the shotgun under my boobs and, like, the pans and stuff? Like, see what I could hold.

[Kayla]

A shotgun is crazy.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

That's insane. Like, that's literally.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

This is why the Southern Tea audience finds me distasteful.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Okay, Kayla, we're moving on from this question, but you have to answer unfiltered life of Lindsay Chrisley. Your perspective. Go. Like, is she okay?

[Kayla]

Shotgun is wild.

[Alessandra]

This is. Oh, she said, oh. Actually, this is why they don't like me.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Okay.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Anyway. Okay. An unfiltered day in Lindsey Chrisley's life would be open her eyes. Open her eyes.

[Kayla]

Not taking a see.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

The wonderful words of the law. I might read my Bible. You never know. I might read my devotional.

[Alessandra]

Really?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

She opens her eyes, decides if it's going to be Pilates or pressure washing for the day. Once that decision is made, the rest of her day falls into place.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Y', all, I really am, like, struggling right now, truly, like, like, mental health is in the sh. Like, it's shambles. Okay. The idea of me having an entire week to just, like, pressure wash stuff has become the hyper fixation.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I'm not gonna lie to you. It does look good.

[Kayla]

It does look good.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Always, right?

[Kayla]

It always looks like this.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah, but, like, I feel like it's something that I feel like I'm controlling.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

100 makes sense.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah, but, like, I know I'm not. It's just, like, water and pressure.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

But I don't find it to be Pilates or that to be much of a problem, especially the pressure was. You're not harming anybody. You're not harming yourself.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Alessandra]

Dates.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Alessandra]

All.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I did see. Okay, so this is an unlocked part of my life. So Pilates is like the community that I will protect at all cost. Like, I love them so much. But I was sitting at the restaurant where I actually met Hunter because people wanted to know, like, where I met him. So he worked at one of my, actually my favorite local restaurants, the only place that I go. And I saw these two ladies there that looked so familiar. But have you ever seen somebody and you're like, I don't know where I know them from, but, like, I know them.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yes.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Okay. So I'm like, I feel like they either have, like, boys my son's age or. Or like I've ran across the path like somewhere and they're like, do you go to Pilates? Yes. Please tell me why. They're drinking espresso martinis and pull out a mug shot of a Pilates instructor. It just like, disappeared. Disappeared off face the earth.

[Kayla]

She's in Mexico.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

No, the. The mug shot was crazy. Like, it was like a good one

[Lindsay Chrisley]

or a bad one?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

No, it was like, it was bad. But like, I always thought that she was like, there was a couple of like, screws loose up there, you know?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Right.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Like, she was mean to some people, but, like, she was never mean to me.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Do you feel like you have a good sense of that? Like, what, do you get vibes from people?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Evidently not.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Alessandra. I'm tell you right now, I will tell this to anybody on. Anybody in the whole world has the best sense of. What would you call that?

[Alessandra]

Just a gut instinct?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

She has the most insane gut instinct. She's right every time, and I'm never right.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah, well, evidently, I haven't been right in years.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I don't know if it's intuition or what it is.

[Alessandra]

It's definitely intuition. And people are like, how do you know? And, like, have you ever seen that? Like, meme that it's like, how do I explain to people that, like, is how I know?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yes.

[Alessandra]

Like, I just know every single time. I'm like, this is what's happening. And Kayla's like, like, okay. And then it happens.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

On to a point now in our friendship where I'm like, okay, like, if you were to tell me that, like, hey, I don't feel good about you going to Target today or whatever, I'm not going. I will not leave my home.

[Kayla]

Oh, my God.

[Alessandra]

One time I was going to a party in high school, and we were walk. We all had gotten out of the car, and we were walking out, and I said, y', all, we have to go. I don't. Like, there's something in my gut telling me we have to leave. We all get in the car, cops go in, and. Right at the party, literally, as we're getting back in the car.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Alessandra]

I was like, we have to go.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I've never met anybody with that kind of. I think it's discernment. Yes.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

You know, but how do you get there?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Because you're born with that.

[Kayla]

I don't think you. It's not something that's learned. It's something that you.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I don't even get it from trauma.

[Alessandra]

Well, I was gonna say there's. There's different levels to it, because I would say that my mom is a pretty good. She has a really good intuition and a gut instinct as well. Like, she's always been right about the people that, like, I should not with or that we're bad friends. But it is definitely a part of trauma. There's several. Like, neurodivergent people have a very extreme sense of pattern recognition. It happens that I grew up in an abusive household, so you learn to, like, pattern recognize. You learn to, like, pick up on people's tones and, like, if someone steps on the. The floor wrong and, like, looks at me sideways, I'm like, oh, they're pissed. Like, I think it's just.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It's.

[Alessandra]

It's a combination of things.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I can also imagine, though, that's a heavy load.

[Alessandra]

Oh, yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

But we're all always. No.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Well, but, like, in our working relationships, I feel like that would be, like, so heavy to know a lot of people around you don't have that type of discernment, and to be the only one with the weight of all of that. Yeah, but we're all neurodivergent.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Sitting here, are you? Nerd.

[Alessandra]

Do you have ADD or anything?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah, yeah, we. We all have that. But I don't have. Evidently, I don't have that type of discernment.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I think I do to some degree. But, like, when I talk about Alessandra, I'm talking about. It's a deep level. Like, I think I have what people would consider good discernment, but hers is, like, otherworldly. And I don't. It's. I can't explain it any other way. I've never experienced something like that in my life. Life. But I think. I think. I think you do. I've seen you use discernment before.

[Kayla]

I definitely think you do.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I don't. In certain situations, I feel like I do. But in certain situations also, I know I'm getting myself into a bad situation, and I'm like, I can change that person. Like, regardless of what's going on in this moment, I can change them.

[Alessandra]

Oh, yeah.

[Kayla]

Fixer.

[Alessandra]

Yeah. I'm not saying that, like, I've always used my discernment well either. And for me, it's. I have really good discernment for other people's lives and things that are going on in their lives and for friendships. But when it does come to romantic relationships, that is one that's a little more difficult. And I do think that's from, like, past relationships, whatever.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

However, I also think, like, you can know that somebody may not be good for you, but it's also. It's a whole other thing to act on it.

[Kayla]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Because, like, you're losing. You know, there's fear of losing things like the person that you love or, like, who you thought they would be. So it's one thing to have, it's another thing to be able to act on it.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

And I can't do that in romantic relationship. In romantic relationships, you fantasize about what somebody's potential could be, not what they are.

[Alessandra]

Correct. When we had this conversation yesterday where it's like, I used to think that I romanticized people's potential And I would stay in that. And I like to call myself Captain Save a Ho. Like, I am a fixer. So time that. Tie that freaking cape on. I'm coming.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Alessandra]

But a lot of that, what ends up in hindsight now, I realize is that I was projecting myself onto other people. So, like, I was projecting what I would do in that situation and not necessarily what their potential was. And that that also takes, like, a level of discernment that you need to, like, come across, because it's, like, one of the hardest lessons I've learned in my life is that not everybody's gonna love the way that you do. And I have to be honest and say that it has been difficult in, like, not allowing myself to let that jade me and not give people love freely. Like. Like, I would say that Kayla is one of my newer friends. Right.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Alessandra]

And if I let recent experiences and just experiences in my life.

[Kayla]

Yeah.

[Alessandra]

Really get in my head, I wouldn't have allowed myself to get as close to Kayla or let myself love Kayla the same way or, like, take care of her and, like. Like, not take care of you. But do you know what I mean? Like, yeah. That I am very maternal because of things that have happened, and I have to, like, kind of not allow myself to do that, but use my discernment. And who deserves that kind of love and that, like, reciprocity. And that's where it is, you know? This year, I'm all about reciprocity. If you give to me, I'm gonna give to you. And if I give to you, I expect you giving it to me, or I'm done. Like, those are my firm boundaries. At 35 years old, I'm not budging on them anymore.

[Kayla]

I was gonna say. I feel like that's something that you really learn in your 30s, though. I think your 20s, it's all about, you know, just, like, the moment.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I just like to point out I'm the only one still in my 20s.

[Alessandra]

Well, I was gonna say I'm also, like, six years older than you.

[Kayla]

Sorry, babe.

[Alessandra]

So I have had more life experience, and that's just the fact that. Do you know what I mean?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah. But I think I could, like. I think that's how people get to that position, because I wouldn't have been able to grow this year as much as I have without having older people in my.

[Alessandra]

Oh, yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

In, like, my close circle, she just

[Kayla]

said older,

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

and it's, like, four years older than her, like, grow.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Listen, the difference between 29 and 35 is huge.

[Alessandra]

Emotionally, I'm six years older.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

That is. That actually is so true. I feel like I'm actually opposite than you. Like, you're taking the high road and you're like, I've learned all of these things in relationships, and I'm not going to project the things that, like, somebody else did to me onto a new relationship, because I'm going to give it a chance. I feel like I'm exactly opposite of that. Yeah.

[Alessandra]

Oh, but that's a friendship. Like, a romantic relationship would be completely a very different story.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah. But I'm not close to a lot of people. Me either.

[Kayla]

I will say that, like, coming from past relationships and into my new one. And he and I have been together for six years now. Now, but.

[Alessandra]

And he's lovely.

[Kayla]

He is lovely. I think that there's a. A lot of trauma that you do bring into the relationships. I think if you are willing to stick it out and, like, really be with that person long term, you work through that together because they've got it, too. So it's like, it just takes time and.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah, but I have no trust and at all.

[Alessandra]

Well, that's fair. You're gonna have. You'll have to.

[Kayla]

It's been broken a lot.

[Alessandra]

I also think, and I talked to Kale about this a lot, is that like. Like, in order to trust other people, you have to rebuild trust within yourself. Because there is a level, subconsciously or consciously, that when you are fucked over by somebody that you once trusted or loved or put in a position of, like, protection of you and they fail you in that way, you begin to question, am I somebody who can make this? Do I make the right decisions? Can I trust myself to protect my own self? And I think it does begin with building that trust within yourself. 100% want.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I don't trust myself because I. Not because I don't trust what I know is best for me. Like, I have the knowledge to know, like, X, Y, and Z is best for me. I let people walk all over me until it gets so, so bad. I've got to figure that part out.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I think some of that is managing how you see yourself, like, how you value yourself. You know, because if you value yourself, you value how you feel and how things make you feel, you're better able to. To not allow those things to happen because you're like, I don't deserve that. You know, I don't deserve to feel this X, Y, and Z. You know, And I have to. I've had to work on that a lot because, like, I think in a Lot of ways, my, like, self respect was lacking. And like, we say, like, have some self respect as a joke all the time, but it's true. I think a lot of us are walking around with, like, we view ourselves as, like, I used to say, like, oh, I. I do respect myself. Well, if you took apart my actions and, like, who I hung out with, it was really clear I did not, you know.

[Kayla]

Yeah. I think you also are a direct reflection of the people that you hang out with. And I find that things that you hate most than other people is really because it's in something and it's something that you hate about yourself, but you only notice it in other people.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yes.

[Alessandra]

A lot of times that is very true. I think, like, as you get older, though, you do develop a level of confidence that you wouldn't otherwise have in your 20s. And, like, I joke all the time, like, you. I would pay, like, so much money to go back for, like, a week in December 2016. But, like, truthfully, I love my 30s so much more than I love my 20s. I'm so sure of myself.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So good to hear.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

It's because you're like, I'm ready. I'm signed up for my 30s.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It really is.

[Alessandra]

My confidence is derived from so many other things that I didn't have that from before. Like, it has nothing to do with my looks. It has nothing to do with how much money is in my bank account. It has to do with, like, how I treat people who I'm around and, like, the knowledge that I've attained in my life and how I carry myself and how I treat people. So I also think that comes with growth and age.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I will say it kind of started with Alessandra and I developing a friendship, and then me developing a friendship with Kayla, and then, like, Hunter coming on, being in a personal capacity for me. I feel like I've learned a lot from you three just over maybe the last, like, eight months, because we've had the ability to be able to develop those friendships without any type of interference. And it's like, what was I doing? I think it is so true to say you are who you surround yourself with.

[Alessandra]

Absolutely. You're very influenced by it. And like, I. We had a conversation at the beginning of the year, Kayla and I, where I said, this year for me is the year of, like, cutting things off at the first sign of the disrespect, because I'm somebody who is like, I can. You could put a serial killer in front of me, and he would tell me a sob story. And I'd be like, oh, I understand why you did that. I'm a very like introspective, psychologically understanding person. The mind really fascinates me. So I can understand why people do things. And for me personally, that allowed me to make excuses for people a lot of time. And just because I can understand why somebody would do something doesn't mean I need to and accept it. Especially if it's a continuous thing and maybe it's a character trait. It's not. And at our big age, and I very much believe this, and I say it all of the time, I firmly believe that once you hit around like 35, it's incredibly hard to change who you are. It's in general, but change is scary for everybody. And it's hard and it's almost easier. By the time you get to 35, 40, you've already gotten to where you are. If you're happy, successful, or you live a semi content life life than what is the desire? And a lot of times to change, you have to face what you've done wrong, like taking accountability of like, how did I get myself in this situation? How did I allow myself to do it? Did I. What did I contribute to this situation that allowed it to occur in the first place? And that's hard, that's painful. And not everybody has the capability or quite frankly the desire.

[Kayla]

The amount of nights that I have stayed up late in that moment where it's like, what did I do? What was my part in this? Why did this happen to me? There's no way. It just came to me willy nilly, you know, that I had some part in this and not even knowing if the other person gives a. That's not on me. You know, what's on me is that I realize what I've done wrong and how do I change that and not do that again?

[Alessandra]

And I think it's removing the victim mentality. Correct. And I fear a lot of people struggle with the victim mentality. It's the, what was me? Why did this happen to me? I don't deserve this, I didn't do this, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And yes, a lot of times that is the case. But I do think we need to be a little more introspective and reflective of how did we get ourselves in the first place. Even if the situation we're in is not our fault, how did we allow somebody to treat us that way?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

told me we're hardly ever an organic victim. Meaning that most of the time that we find ourselves in a victim role. It's hardly ever just by having stance. And like for me, like that's one of the.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

No, it's because it's by choices you made, right?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

There's something that got you there. And if I look back at my life and what I would consider to be some of my biggest mistakes, I see a lot of small mistakes that I made that led up to that decision. Or like that incident or whatever.

[Alessandra]

100%.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I found myself so many times just being complacent in a situation of being like, not that I deserve this, but like, it's what I became to know change is hard.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So, like, even if we changing ourselves for the better, like, I don't know about you, but I feel this way, or I've struggled with this. Like, I know I want better for myself, I know I deserve better for myself, but I'm so comfortable in this sea of shit that I would rather just stay and then. So it takes a lot of courage.

[Alessandra]

The devil you know.

[Kayla]

And also comfortability is so dangerous. Complacency is so dangerous. When you get in that phase and you become complacent, you will never grow. You could stay stuck in that for the rest of your life and it would be the worst decision you've ever made.

[Alessandra]

I always can't change it. The best things that I have ever gotten in my life or the best things I've ever experienced, I've always come at the end of me being afraid and pushing past it anyway every single time. I'm afraid all of the time. And I know that I don't project that as a person. I'm afraid constantly. I'm afraid all of the time. You just have to do it. You just have to find a way to push back. And a lot of that confidence and a lot of my ability to do that is derived from the support system I have. Because if I'm going to fall, I have a software place to land. And that also makes a massive difference in order to be able to make mistakes and come to those realizations. Because if you're just lone wolfing it out here, it's really hard to do that and not have a soft place to land.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You know what I mean?

[Kayla]

I'm part of that mattress for you, girl, because I've. I've met you two days ago and I literally told my fiance. I was like, she is the greatest thing. You are so sweet. You're sweet.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

We have the best team, honestly, ever.

[Alessandra]

We're really lucky. And I actually think it's really crazy that this is the first time that Kayla and Lindsay are meeting in person.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Isn't that crazy? Kayla and I have shared, like, some of the deepest, darkest secrets ever, like, over the phone. And it's like, what could she have done with that? You know? Yeah, like. Or what could I. I mean, we

[Lindsay Chrisley]

almost immediately became more than just co workers or a boss employee situation. You knew things about me and I knew Things about you very quickly that we weren't sharing with other people, so.

[Kayla]

Which is why I do think that you're an empath. I think maybe you don't recognize it in yourself, But I do think that you really do feed into energies.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Oh, I for. I feel like I for sure feed in energies. I was gonna say I think that some people can be a victim of something but not have a victim mentality. And I think that's like, very true, too, because I don't think I walk around with a victim mentality.

[Alessandra]

No, no, you really don't at all.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I think if I met you outside of this realm and I didn't know you, I wouldn't know off the bat, you know, that you've been through a lot of really, really tough stuff.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Well, yeah, because it's so easy to, like, look from the outside in and be like, this is what she projects.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Or this is, like, how she shows up. But you don't know, like, any of the stuff.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

And it scares me for you sometimes because you do show up. So you are very. I can always get it. I always have a great idea of who's who, like, who you're gonna be when I walk through the door, when we talk on the phone or whatever. So. But, like, sometimes when you show up and I know you're going through a lot of stuff, and you're like, I'm going to Pilates, I'm like, okay, well, that is really. I'm a little worried.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Oh, yeah, it is a coping. It's something that. So I didn't start Pilates. I used to just go to the. Like, I had a gym membership, really didn't know what I was doing, but I would just, like, go on machines and stuff, and I would give myself an hour. Like, I would put a timer on it. It's like, okay. I went and did my hour, and it was almost like. Like a level of commitment to myself, and it felt like routine and like, something that I could control. But then when I filed for divorce and I moved out, I'm like, I need to have, like, a new routine that doesn't feel like what I was doing whenever I was married. So I signed up for Pilates, and I'm like, oh, I'm going to do the eight class membership a month. And then I realized, okay, no, I go way too much for the eight class membership. I need unlimited. So then my parents went through their indictment, went through their federal trial, multiple field relationships. And I feel like it's something that's helped Keep me sane. Well, and it's like a therapy.

[Alessandra]

It really resonates, too, that you said, like, it's something you can control. And I think that that's a healthy enough coping mechanism in order for you to control. Right. Like, sometimes it can go the opposite. Like, in college, I went through a traumatic experience, so then that translated into an eating disorder, because I could control my food, I could control what was intaking. All of these things. Things then that. That led me into drinking because I didn't want to control anymore, and I didn't want to think anymore. So, like, finding those healthy coping mechanic mechanisms and finding the things that just help you get through, honestly, I don't see anything wrong with it. If it's Pilates, so be it. You know what I mean?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Could be meth.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

You know, I would leave my house, and I'm. I am a liver by my Google calendar. Like, every single person sitting here knows that if it's not on my calendar, it's not happening. And also, don't ask. Ask me. I would leave and go to Pilates and immediately leave Pilates and go to the car wash. I don't care if my car got washed seven times it. Seven times a week. Like, that was part of my routine, because it was something I could control. Like, I can go to Pilates and I can work out, and I can go and get my car cleaned, and I know I did something productive, and I can come home and I can start laundry, and I can make sure I have groceries and I can pick my kid up from school. Yeah. It just felt like I. The things that I can control in my life, I wanted to have absolute control over those.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Those are constant distance.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yes.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You know, like, things that are not changing in your life. Everything else can change, but those are the things that you're gonna. That are gonna remain the same.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

And it literally keeps me out of a grippy sock vacation. Like I told Hunter the other day, I said, I. I literally feel like. And I don't feel like I was acting like it necessarily, but I said, I'm going, like, mentally and emotionally. Like, I feel like I'm going insane.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Right.

[Kayla]

Silent crash out until the silence. It gets too loud.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah.

[Kayla]

And then. Then it's no longer silent.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah. And he's like, you're not going on a groupie talk vacation, Lindsay. You don't need one. I'm gonna lock you in the basement.

[Kayla]

And Will, I don't need that publicity. Thank you.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

We. We don't need that. People asked, what is one thing that Y' all wished that people in the public knew about me that y' all know.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I wish people knew that. How funny you were, dude. You are so funny. And I feel like people think that you're so stiff and, like, you kind of have, like, a stick up your butt. I really feel like that's, like. A lot of people say that, and, like, you're so funny and unhinged.

[Alessandra]

Like, oh, yeah, yeah.

[Kayla]

Some of this that we talk about.

[Alessandra]

Good time.

[Kayla]

She also knows how to read a.

[Alessandra]

Lindsay is a good time.

[Kayla]

But I will also say you're very down to earth. I think people think you're stuck up and all this stuff, and you're really not.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I think it was the branding of Chris Lee Knows best, though.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yes.

[Alessandra]

Yes.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

100.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

And I think that it was, like, such a stigma, and I'm not, like, blaming my family about that at all, because we were all in it at the same time together, like, all started doing that together. So it's. It's not like pinpointing any particular person. But I feel like people really don't know, like, what it looks like behind the curtain because they have this predisposition that. That, oh, it's just these people that have money from somewhere and they drive nice cars and they have a nice house, and they're just. It's dehumanization.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah. I also think, like. Like, we were talking about before, when you are really going through something, you have a tendency to, like, you go into your shell, and so you can come off a bit robotic, like, when you're really stressed, and that's okay. You know, everybody does their own thing. But I also think that sometimes that's where people just get the wrong idea of you.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

But I think it's also a coping mechanism and a form of control for me, too, that I can control what I'm doing in that moment. So if I am not responding to text messages or I'm not answering a phone call, like, I've gone months without talking to people that have reached out multiple times. And it's like, it's not a situation to be rude. It's just I'm not there.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You pissed me off so bad. One time we were arguing, and you were like, I'm gonna respond to this when I've calmed down. And, like, again, in hindsight, so mature, but fight back. But for me, I was like, come on. Like, I'm angry now. Like, I want to talk about this now. And you were like, no. And we didn't. We didn't talk about it until the next week.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Let me know whenever there is time next week to have a conversation, because I am not. I don't have the mental capacity and I need to process before I continue having this conversation.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah. And I. To learn that for sure.

[Kayla]

I'll also say, going back to your point, I watched the show and even in that. But I've gone back and started rewatching it since I work with you now just to see the difference. Right. And even in the show then, you weren't stuck up. You didn't seem stuck up. You seemed quiet, if anything.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Kayla]

You know what I mean? So I don't think that you're. That the branding that was done during the show is not your brand. And people need to realize that there is separation.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

You've said that. You know, you said that.

[Alessandra]

Oh, yeah. And I've also, like, I think that what I would say about you is that you're way more emotional than people give off. And not emotional because, like, I hate the negative connotation that being emotional has because people say that about me all the time as if it's a negative thing, but it's really not. It's what makes me a really good friend. It's what makes me a passionate person and like, oh, good in a relationship. And that's fine. It's just a burden that I've had my whole life. And I think that people don't know that about you. And I would say that also is a defense mechanism in the sense that it's like, you. You can't know how I'm feeling. So then you won't be able to hurt me, and you won't be able to manipulate me or you won't be able to use that against me. You're gonna show up. Yeah, of course. And you're gonna show up disassociated. And for a long time, that was definitely my coping mechanism as well. Like, I'm really good if I want to. At making people believe that they know me and have absolutely no idea of me.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Really relatable for. Like, me and you come from wildly different tax brackets, but never have I ever felt that, you know, I have never felt. I've called you and I've talked to you about my. I'm looking at remodeling my house, and I have a wedding coming up. And never have you ever made me feel like you didn't understand. And I knew you understood, you know,

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

and that budgeting is budgeting for everybody, regardless of what tax bracket you're in. Right.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You don't carry an aura of you're better than anybody else based on your income or like our tax brackets, everyone sitting here, we're all in different tax brackets. And I find that it's refreshing that I've never. You've never made me feel less than or that I'm, you know, that you know, more than me or anything like that.

[Kayla]

That's real too, because a lot of people, if you come meet somebody in the world and you realize they're influential or are part of the 1% and sometimes even part of like, the What?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Like the 0.51%, 5 percenters. It's like, but I'm serious, we're all humans.

[Kayla]

Correct. But not everyone has that approach. Some people, you would be nervous to invite them into their home because you would subconsciously think they're judging you the whole time because you're renting a house and it's got two toned floors or whatever, you know, and you're not that human, are you?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Kayla]

Me, like, an expectation.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I think everybody would. I think everybody based off of, like, how guarded I am sometimes.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Me, like, asking if I can hit my babe in your house.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah. Or, like, can I be barefoot on your couch? Or, like, yeah.

[Alessandra]

Oh, I didn't feel that with you, but maybe it's it, like, because I've. I've spent more time with you, maybe, like, in person that I didn't feel that way. Maybe if we hadn't spent more time. I didn't feel that way. I came in here, I'm like, what's it?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

And Keel's like, Kale spills her ghost energy, and she's like, oh, my God, Grab paper towels right now. Like, I've got to clean it up. This house is so pristine. And it's like, accidents happen. Calm down. Like, it's not that big of a deal, but I feel like people would assume, based off of sometimes the way that I project, that I am so, like, rigid. And I am rigid in a lot of ways. But again, that is I can Coping mechanism.

[Kayla]

There's also a difference between rigid and protective.

[Alessandra]

Well, also, I think that, like, I don't necessarily. I. I wouldn't call you rigid. Like, I think, yes, you want your structure in terms of your schedule, but maybe it's a more recent thing and you've learned to be. But I feel like you've become really flexible in a lot of things. Like, more than you would have been. Like, there's a lot more. Like, okay, I'll travel here. I'll do that. Or, like, give and take. Or, like, I'll. I'll give to this more than another person would or whatever. I think there's been more flexibility. I just started with coffee condos, like, more consistently and intimately. So, like, that's been my experience with you overall. But from what I know of being around for the last five years, I do think it's something that you've been maybe not consciously working on, but I will say that you. I want to give you your props for that, that I've seen you become more flexible, try to be more flexible and get out of that.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

But do we think some of that, like. Like, can you create flexibility through trauma?

[Alessandra]

What do you mean?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I think that I've been through. And y' all know, I don't want to reference what it is, but, like, over the last two years, I feel like collectively as a team, we've been through a lot.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Oh, yeah.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Individually, I've been through a lot over the last, really, five years. But I'm referencing the last two years. I feel like some of my flexibility has come from me trying to survive.

[Kayla]

Survival mode.

[Alessandra]

Absolutely. I also think you just. There's just like, a little bit more give and take. You. You've also seen that too, where, like, I've just stopped giving a. A. And, like, it's not about flexibility. It's about, like, I just can't do this anymore. And so the rigid nature in which. That I would approach things or be a little less direct or, like, talk to you at nauseam about something over and over again, until I said it, I'm not doing it anymore. I just.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Just don't.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yes.

[Alessandra]

So I do think sometimes it can be born out of flexibility. I mean, trauma, because you just don't. You don't care anymore. Like, you don't have a choice.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

And it's not, you know, it's not necessarily that I don't care. It's like, I just need to survive. So whatever. It gets me from point A to

[Lindsay Chrisley]

point B. I think also sometimes when you've seen or you've hit a. A lower point, I'm not gonna say rock bottom, because I truly don't think that that's even close to what's happened,

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

but kind of feel like that when

[Lindsay Chrisley]

you struggle for a long time, some of the fear you have of failure or the feeler, like, your rigidity about things kind of starts to go away because you're like, oh, that was really bad. But it actually. I actually made it out of that, and it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

So I'm gonna start the comparison game. Right. Like, you're like, oh, that situation. I thought that was so bad in that moment when I was being so rigid. And I now look back on it, it's like, that was so stupid because I have all these bigger things that don't matter. Like, those small things don't matter. Right?

[Alessandra]

Yep. Yeah, I would agree.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Okay. Funniest moments that we have had together. Everybody's going to individually answer.

[Kayla]

I have a good one. Possum gate.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Possum gate. Have you ever. Have you ever rescued a baby possum?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I knew somebody who had one. Like, they found him on the side of the road and they raised him. He was. And it was like, a great thing. But I've. I'm not a possum thing.

[Alessandra]

It was a great thing.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Like, he used to hang off the guy's arm, even.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

He was so cute.

[Kayla]

Like, she is so cute. I just think the whole situation in general, getting that phone call, and I looked at her, and I was like,

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

there's no way this is real life.

[Kayla]

Like, is this part of. In the personal assistant job title? Like, I'm not sure that I need to go help. Help rescue this possum. I've already got enough responsibility as it is, you know? But it was wild. I wouldn't necessarily say funny, but I think looking back on it now, now knowing that she's okay for sure, it. It's just wild.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

That baby possum needed you as much as you needed that baby.

[Kayla]

I agree.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I agree.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Like, I think it.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Just knowing that she survived and knowing what I was going through in those days that we found her, I'm like, that was. God, it was gone. Because now I've not that, like, I don't feel like I need to live for my child. That's not what I'm saying.

[Alessandra]

Right.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

But it's like, it gave me something extra to live for.

[Kayla]

Like a rejuvenated hope.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It just.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It was a lesson in resilience. Yeah. For both you and the possum.

[Kayla]

And then the way that we found the rehabilitation situation, that was also. God.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Yeah. So actually, the people that we went to take it to another rehab place, to the restaurant where I met Hunter on the patio.

[Kayla]

Everyone.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

We were on the patio with opossum in a box. And he knew the people that came and they had rescued opossum or multiple.

[Kayla]

They went. So the. The mom went to high school with my mom, and she had, like, notoriously done this in the area. And when we. I walked in, they were sitting there, and I was like, oh, my God. And I walked out and told Lindsay, and Lindsay was like, hang on a second. Let me meet him. And then quickly after, like, go ahead and cancel on the other.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

It also felt like I was in an adoption situation. And, like, I'm, like, giving my baby up. That's like, not my baby. And not knowing where she's going.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So what is what's the status on Opie currently? Like, where is she at?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

We just saw her on Sunday. She's so we had a date.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Did someone adopt her? Is she with a rehab facility or how did that work?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

It's like at. He knows Hunter knows the people.

[Alessandra]

Okay.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

But she's just like a. At a home in the area and we get photo updates of her and we got to go and see her on Sunday and played with her and Jackson got to see her and it's just been like. I don't know, it's like we gave life to some. Like we didn't, but like we made sure she lived.

[Kayla]

Correct.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah. You know, and in turn, I think she got you through some. Some really tough moments for sure.

[Kayla]

So one thing that you don't all know, Lindsay was holding it and that. That if you think she's rigid and she's holding a possum, then you need to self reflect. Okay.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Because funniest moment. Alessandra and I feel like I know what it's probably gonna be two.

[Alessandra]

But I'll only do.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Do not tell me garage games.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I think I can't tell any of our funny stories because unfortunately this is supposed to be a family friendly place, so. It is. We're gonna keep moving. But one of my favorite moments was being able to be a part of you telling your story. I really felt so empowered and I'm. I'm so grateful that you trusted me with that story and I was really just proud of it. And I still am. And I'm glad that we did it and to see you in such a bigger, like an empowering moment in your life, well, I'll remember that for forever.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

We're gonna have another one. You just don't know it yet.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Please don't. Because that one was.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

You're like. It was my favorite moment, but it almost take me out.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Almost took me out.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Okay. And now Alessandra has decided she's gonna tell Garage Games.

[Alessandra]

So one time we were all together. And by all, I mean me, Lindsay, Kale, Voldemort, and somebody else.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Not Voldemort. Is that who I think I know, but not Voldemort.

[Alessandra]

And we were all in an Airbnb.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Becky was there too, for Garage Games.

[Alessandra]

She wasn't there for.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Oh, yeah, she wasn't there for the event.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So we're all in the house.

[Alessandra]

We were all having a good time and we were drinking and that doesn't. Well, that doesn't always happen. Like, that does not always happen.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

We were celebrating.

[Alessandra]

We were Celebrating. We were having a good time and somebody decided that they were going to be a big fat baby back and they wanted to make the evening about themselves.

[Kayla]

Themselves, Miss Baltimore.

[Alessandra]

What?

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

No.

[Alessandra]

And they decided to make a massive scene. Right. But, like, one thing about Lindsay Chrisley is, is that again, she's a good time, but also she don't give a. Like, this person wanted to make this time so bad for her. And she was like, okay, we don't have to talk about that right now. Like, she just wanted to continue playing games. So me and Lindsay walk ourselves into the room, into the bedroom, and we were just mimicking the. This person and just laughing.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Acting a fool.

[Alessandra]

Acting a fool during quite arguably a very traumatic moment. But we just kept it pushing.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

And that was a trauma response.

[Alessandra]

Really funny.

[Kayla]

Laugh through the tears.

[Alessandra]

Oh, but it was so.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

It was a trauma response. And like, the fact that garage games and we can tell more about garage games at, like, a later date when we get into a tell all. But I feel like Alessandra and I laughed so hard until we cried, but it wasn't funny.

[Alessandra]

No.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

And I was trying to be so calm, and I feel like it was so unproblematic. Like, I was trying to avoid trying to get away. And it just like, wasn't landing.

[Alessandra]

No. But it was so funny. That was so funny.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

I'm gonna post videos, actually, of me and Alessandra cackling in the bed. We thought we were having a sleepover, and we eventually did have like a sleepover, unbeknownst to us, but the other person ended up sleeping by themselves. And the craziest part of that entire story of garage games, we still can't figure out in New York City who left the Airbnb.

[Alessandra]

Oh, yeah, we're just cackling in bed and it's like 3:30 in the morning, mind you, and all of a sudden we just hear the door slam. And we're like, did someone just break in? Did somebody come inside? Did somebody. Something happen? And we're just cackling in the bed.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

They took their suitcase and left. And I woke up in the morning. I'm thinking, like, they were gone. And they were not gone.

[Alessandra]

Which is so funny because that's what I was mimicking because they were like, and you're never gonna see me again. And I'm like, shut the up. I'll see you at breakfast.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

She did say they were there at breakfast. She did say that they were there at breakfast.

[Alessandra]

They sure were.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Okay.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

And on that note, Kayla keeps saying, she keeps reminding us that she's got to go to Target for court clothes. Like, I don't really know what's going on.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Not trying to look busted up there.

[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

Like, you know, we don't know what's going on. But also, I don't think any of us have actually had a full meal all day. So if you guys would like more fireside chats, please let us know. If you have not followed us on at the Southern Tea Podcast, you can follow us on Instagram and join our Facebook group to connect with us and our community. We hope that you guys have a great week and we'll talk to you soon.

[Kayla]

Let's go eat, girls.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Alessandra]

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Host (Lindsey Chrisley)]

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