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Maybe I'm just like, weird. Maybe I'm crunchy. This is the Southern Tee with Lindsey Chrisley. I think it's so funny when you get Christmas cards and all of these people write their children's accomplishments on the back.
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C
Love them.
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A southern girl and a boy mom who's trying to navigate life while staying true to her roots. I am a functioning, non functioning human being right now. Join Lindsay each week as she swears to spill the tea, the whole tea, and nothing but the tea. That is the tea. Here's Lindsay. Good morning and welcome back to another episode of the Southern Tea. How are we doing?
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C
We are thriving on a Tuesday, my dear. How are you?
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B
I am doing okay. I am currently trying to rid my pores of whatever breakout that I've had going on for two weeks, which is why I'm not on camera. I'm on my second set of eye gels for the day.
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C
I love that.
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And I sent you a photo of what I've been doing because I've been MIA for the afternoon and it's a whole bed full of clothes. And I love this slander that you sent me in an audio message. Number one, it's kind of like, rude. But number two, I have a lot of questions for everyone. Okay, so would you like to describe the photo?
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C
Okay, so there's a photo of Lindsay's beautiful bed. Okay. It's a great bed. And she's got the clothing on one side of it. And I'm looking at the bed and it literally looks like the thinnest. Like, I can't even call that a comforter that I've ever seen in my life on the bed. And I'm thinking to myself, you literally just told me last night that you were fudgeing freezing. So now I understand why you were freezing because this is what you're sleeping with. Okay?
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So I feel like there are people in the world that are like me, truly, like, are you a quilt girly? Are you a comforter girly? Because those are not the same thing.
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C
They're not the same.
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Do I think that it's kind of getting time to get out the duvet? Yes. Do I wash my sheets every week? Yes. Is a duvet a pain in the butt? Yes.
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C
Agreed.
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Try to, like, steer clear of the duvet situation as much as possible. Although I do think that a bed made with a duvet looks the best.
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C
Oh, my gosh. Especially when you put two inserts into the duvet cover.
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B
That's a lot of work. That's a lot going on. That's very hot at night. I can't.
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C
Okay, so fun fact. I don't use, like, when I do make my bed up with, like, my bed set with the duvet, I don't actually use the duvet because I am a very hot sleeper. So we sleep with our individual blankets. We do not share from Target. I also added Lola blankets to my bed. So, like, Corey's with Target, I'm with Lola. He tries to steal Lola very, very often. I don't let it happen, but I just like it for the aesthetic purposes. And then I roll it down to, like, the. I fold it down to the bottom of the bed at nighttime.
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Okay, well, bedding is a trauma response for me because I grew up in a home where the beds were pristine. Like, you come into the house, and, yes, you are going to be very esthetically pleased with your eyes. Are you going to be traumatized by what you have to do in the mornings to get it all done? Yes. So I became a minimalist when I became an adult, and I'm like, I'm just going to go the quilt route, and I really don't give a shit what it looks like, as long as it looks clean. I am very much a realist when it comes to bedding, and that's just not happening.
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C
My mom is also a quilt girly. It's the texture for me. I can't. I just can't do it. I can't get behind it. Everything that I sleep with has to be soft.
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B
Okay. But I do a quilt, and then I do different kind of, like, blankets on the top and depending on how cold it is, will determine how many blankets are residing on my bed at one given time.
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C
Okay, so, like, for example, it was, like, snowing last night in Georgia. How many blankets did you sleep with on top of the quilt?
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B
Well, okay, this gets into a deeper conversation. So I went to Jackson's basketball practice. Number one, I have been eating dinner roughly around like 5, 5:30, which is now with like all the elderly locals. And it's like a really good time for me. I like to listen to their conversations and eavesdrop and sometimes participate. And then I went to Jackson's basketball practice at 6 o' clock last night. By the time I got home, I was absolutely freezing. So I was like, you know what? I'm gonna take a bath. Because I didn't take a bath for what felt like an entire year. And now I'm back, like in the bathroom. Girly need to go to bath and body works to get the bath milk, like all the things. Then I put on long sleeve pajamas, tops and bottoms. So because I naturally run hot at night, I only need the quilt and then one blanket. And I slept very peacefully. However, this morning when I woke up, I was frozen.
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C
Okay, okay, so more questions here. You just got done talking about how when you don't have Jackson, you sleep, as you say, naked. How does that, like, is that also in the winter time?
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You know, I kind of started that naked journey like last year. And so I haven't really experienced a winner. But I will tell you that I did not sleep naked last night.
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C
And you woke up frozen. So could you imagine if you were naked?
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B
Listen, nipples would have been cut in my sheets.
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C
Okay, I'm about to ask you a very personal question.
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B
Okay.
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C
When your nipples get to the certain point of hard from being cold, do they not hurt? Because mine hurt, like physically hurt, that they're so freaking hard that I literally, I myself either have to blow hot air on my nipples or I have Corey do it because it literally, it cuts off like the circulation or something. It's called like Raynaud's phenomenon or something like that. And like my nipple will literally turn like purple as if it's like, like, you know, some people get it in their fingers and stuff like that. Mine happens in my freaking nipples and it hurts so bad.
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B
You know what's so weird? Like nipple colors.
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C
Oh yeah. But it's your perfect lip shade.
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B
So. But like your nipples are way lighter than my nipples.
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C
You can't even like see my nipples. That's how light they are. It's, it's wild.
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But you would not. I don't even know why I'm sharing this information. Like, you would not think that my nipples were like, what they are. Like, I feel like I'm like a fair skin, blue eyed, blonde hair, girly no.
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C
So I would. Because of the way you tan.
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B
Oh, is that like.
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C
I would think that, like, the way that you tan makes me. But, like, that makes sense to me. If I had never seen you tan before, I would be like, oh, my God, like, no way. But seeing how dark you can get. Yeah, that makes sense to me.
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Yeah.
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C
For me, like, it red so makes sense.
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B
Yeah. But, like, how were nipple colors discovered? Like, how do you get that one? You know, that's a great question.
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C
Like, I'm about to look this up. Where do nipple colors come from?
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B
Because if you have a sibling, all your siblings might not have the same nipple color as you. And it's like, okay, that doesn't make sense.
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We literally don't. My brother and I do not. You can't see my nipples. My nipples are so light, you cannot even see them. Okay. Nipple color comes from the amount of melanin in the skin, which is determined by genetics and can change due to hormonal fluctuations such as puberty, pregnancy, or while on birth control. Other factors like age, friction, or certain medical conditions can also influence color.
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B
How interesting. But to answer your question, I might have whatever thing that you're talking about because my nipples do get so, like what you're talking about that they feel like they're going to just, like, fall off. It feels like it's so bad going through a process of rotting or something.
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C
It hurts so freaking bad. And I never knew, because it would happen to me in bathing suits. Like, if I would be swimming during the day and I would get out of the pool or something, and it's been going on for years, and I would get, like, a chill or cold. My freaking nipples would start hurting and feeling like somebody was, like, lighting them on fire. It was terrible.
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Does anyone else, like, experience what I like to call hns, Hard Nipple Syndrome? Because, yes, I feel like some people either have hard nips all the time or you. They're just like, the regular thing, like, in the natural state.
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C
I would say throughout the day, I'm nipping probably about 85 to 90%. Like, right now, I'm talking to you and I'm nipping.
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B
Yeah, I'm talking to you and I'm nipping. It's a 90% chance that I'm nipping.
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C
I wonder why. I don't know, because Corey will be like, why are your nipples hard? I'm like, I don't freaking know. I caught a chill.
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I don't know. Men think that. And. And I say this because I've had multiple people tell me this. And this is why men are stupid. They think that that means that you're aroused.
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Oh yeah, they do for sure. I'm like, no, I'm cold. I caught a chill.
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I'm like, it's not the same as what's going on in your pants. My guy, could you.
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Are they that dumb that that's what they think is going on?
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I'm pretty sure. Because I will say three out of four people that I've been with have said a similar statement to me and it gets to the point where you're like, just stop having a conversation, like internally talk to yourself. Because I don't want to explain this to another person.
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I just texted Corey, mind you, he's at work. And I said, when my nipples are hard, do you think I'm turned on? I can't like what you read it immediately.
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He's, he's typing like we're going to chat GPT.
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C
Yeah. And it's already been a week. It.
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It has already been a week. Number one, I am mentally about to check out. Like, okay, I start feeling this about this time every year where I'm like, December 17th, truly cannot come quick enough because I am done with recordings for the year. It's truly just like a checkout moment and I can't wait. Remember how Kayl got so upset with me because nobody heard from me from like December 16th or 17th last year until the new year?
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C
I'll never forget. Actually, yes, she was very upset. I did think that you might be dead. I did send you a couple texts to ask you if you were dead. You would, like, thumbs up them.
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You're like, it's actually somebody who's killed her that has her phone. It. It's a really nice time, but I've been trying to coordinate and those that are co parenting with someone that seemingly has their life together from the outside looking in, like, if you did not know this person, you would be like, okay, he's type A. He has everything on a calendar. He's walking around with an apple watch. He's mostly where he's supposed to be most of the time. No, this man doesn't know if he's coming or going. So I've asked him multiple times about Thanksgiving plans. And so with me not celebrating Thanksgiving or Christmas with family, I typically do those things with Jackson alone. He has family that he does stuff with. So I always offer because I feel like it's the healthiest thing for Jackson to be able to celebrate with family members that he has celebrated with since he was born. So Will gives me this long, drawn out answer and I'm like, okay, we've come to the realization that I'm going to have him. Just my typical days of the Thanksgiving week. Like, although the parenting plan says one thing, you're just making your own parenting plan, so. Got it. Like, whatever. So actually cooking Thanksgiving for Jackson and I for the first time since divorce, which is insane to even say that because I feel like it's been so many years. I did cook Thanksgiving one Thanksgiving, like two Thanksgivings ago, but that's when I was with Trent and we did a cabin and he had his kids And Will was with Jackson. So we're gonna do a whole Thanksgiving feast at my house, and I'm getting kind of excited about it. I've already started making my grocery list for anyone who lives in suburban areas. I have no idea. It may be, like, all around the world. I don't know. The grocery stores get sold out.
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Yes, they do.
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And it's like, why? Why is that happening? So I think I'm gonna start, like, next week going and grabbing, like, a couple things, because I also just get stressed out with the bill for groceries for putting a Thanksgiving feast together.
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C
It can definitely be so expensive, especially when you're hosting. Right? Like, even just for two, which, honestly, I think that would be so cool for you to capture, because I think that's probably more common than you'd think about. Like, how you do a Thanksgiving for two without, like, overdoing is much harder.
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And I've said this before, it is much harder to cook for less people than it is for more.
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C
Yes. 100. Because you don't want to end up with a ton of leftovers because it's still only the two of you.
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Specifically when we're talking about recipes that are made for, like, anywhere from four to six. So, like, when you're talking about, like, sweet potato souffles and, I don't know, like, macaroni and cheese and stuff like that, normally it's really hard to cut those recipes down to not have a ton of leftovers and get the ratio right.
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C
Exactly. And, like, you know, I unexpectedly am hosting, I think, like, 13 to 15 people here. So it's gonna be.
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I don't even talk to 13 or 15 people, let alone be hosting 13 or 15. So that's either that.
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That's why I said, like, sort of surprisingly unexpectedly, I will talk to 13 to 15 people, but I will be.
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We are doing Thanksgiving at my house, and I probably will invite Will because I think that they're celebrating actually the weekend, like, going in to the Thanksgiving week.
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C
Okay.
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B
So I'll probably invite him because I'm sure I'll have a ton of food and, like, why not? And then on Friday, which would be Black Friday, that's typically when I put up my Christmas tree, but last year, I was such a Grinch, I didn't even put up any Christmas decorations whatsoever. So I'm gonna put those up. And in the meantime of me planning this, I'm like, we definitely need to go to Disney World.
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C
Yes, of course. You just need to add some magic in there.
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So I stress Kristen out Probably when she goes into my email and sees that I'm getting quotes for Disney Resorts.
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C
I mean, I did have a little bit of a warning, so I wasn't super stressed. And I don't know, I feel like you're being really reasonable about it, so I'm not sure.
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So I decided that we were gonna stay at the Yacht Club. It is a resort at Disney that I've wanted to stay at for a while. The last time we went, we stayed at Animal Kingdom's resort, and I absolutely loved it. I just don't like doing the same stuff every single time. You know, like, we're going to the same place, but we're gonna have a little bit of a different experience. Gonna plant a couple of character.
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C
Breakfast.
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Asked Will if he wanted to go with us, and he kind of was, like, not giving me much of an answer, and he's like, no, I hate Disney World. And there are people that, like, really hate it or really love it, and Jackson and I are two people. Like, we're not the matching family shirts. Like, we might be in some type of coordinated something, but we're not, you know, like the vacation shirt. Like Family Vacation 2025.
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C
Yeah. You're not branded. Okay, got it.
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B
Will's just like, that's way too stressful. Like, you and him go and do that and. And have a great time. And then it brought me to the thoughts of Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick and them thinking that they were going to do, like, all of these family vacations to together, and I'm pretty sure that just didn't work out.
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You know, we've talked about that before, and I'm like, I think that it takes a really interesting dynamic to be able to get it done. Do I think there's people who can get it done? Yes, I do. I'm. I'm with Will. Like, okay, I'm going for the vibes. I'm not. I don't do rides. So Disney would be rough for me.
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B
So then, like, what are you doing if you're going to Disney and you're not doing rides? Because if you think that I'm choosing to walk around and navigate myself through that many people to not do rides, like, find me on every roller coaster.
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See, fun fact about me, I've only ever been on two roller coasters in my entire life. One would be the mouse trap that they put up at, like, the beach. The one that, like, is very unsteady, whips you around and all those things. And I love that one. Because there's no upside down. No, none of that. I used to love that one as an adult. Now wouldn't love it. I'd get whiplash. The other one I went on was in Hershey Park. It was like one of the oldest wooden roller coaster coasters in the world. Scared the hell out of me. And that was the end of roller coasters for me. I also get extremely motion sick and get vertigo. So, like, rides for me are a no go. But I do like going for the vibes. So I feel like I would go like, Corey wants to go to Disney so bad. And I'm like, okay, we could do that once we have kids. And they're like, of a certain age. And he's like, no, I want to go as adults. I'm like, okay, I would do, like, eat around the world. I would do Harry Potter.
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B
So we are going to do Epcot this time. And he has never done Epcot before because I felt like he needed to be a little bit older to appreciate, like, the eating around the world.
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C
Yeah.
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And we were having a three way conversation, Jackson, Will and I. And Will was like, how are you going to eat around the world when you only eat, like, three things in your life? Like, Epcot's a waste of time. And I'm like, no, we're gonna go and do the crepes and, like, we're gonna go to, like, the dessert places and, you know, he's gonna try macaroons and, like, all these things. He's like, y' all have a good time. I want it to be very clear when I am saying this. There is no reconciliation with Will and I. There is not a reconciliation brewing. I do think that there is a place that we can do some of these things together and have some experiences with Jackson together, with out being romantically involved with each other. And I'm single, he's single. Nothing's holding us back from having experiences with Jackson jointly. So that's just what it is.
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I think that makes sense. I just. I think that there's no reason why you guys can't. I think that Jackson will definitely appreciate being able to do things. And I think it was just really nice that you invited him.
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It's just like, if you want to see our child, be so excited, why would I rob you of that?
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C
Yeah.
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You know, and I like that.
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C
I think that that's a really good place for you to be in. I think a lot of people aspire.
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To be there outside of that. I have also decided I was influenced on TikTok to go to the Christmas Inn and Pigeon Forge.
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C
Oh my God, I'm so jealous. I've seen, oh, I've seen like not commercials but ads for it and it looks so fun.
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B
So I'm just, you know, out here doing the most with the least mental stability possible. So I'm going to try to do that. Sometime between today and before we go.
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C
To Disney World today is the fact that he's 17th today in Disney. So basically within like a month.
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B
Yeah, I feel like that's completely doable.
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C
I think so too. I think, you know, I. This is very common for you. So like you shut down your stuff December 16th, 17th and then you come back like I think it's like January 6th usually.
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B
Yeah, I feel like that's a break.
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C
It's. It's a really good break. It's a great way to go into the new year. It's really, really good and I, I love that and I think it's just like a good restorative period, you to get your goals and things in order for what you want to do in 2026 and like be able to execute when you come back, be fresh and all the things. Because I don't know about you, but these years be flying by.
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B
They're flying by, but they also feel like they're going very slow in some sense.
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C
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B
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C
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B
I also have never been to an NFL game, and so I was like, yeah, the Panthers are playing the Falcons in Atlanta this weekend, so, like, I should also do that. So I go from doing basically nothing.
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C
To doing it all to literally doing it all.
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B
That's a mental illness.
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C
You know what? You're gonna burn out badly. But it'll be just in time for you to be going to Disney, and I feel like you probably have to dissociate a little bit to get through Disney. Okay.
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B
I also need to know the people that take their kids to Disney World and require them to sleep in, because. Hi, it's me.
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C
Wait, what does that mean?
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B
Like, if we're gonna go and be. We only do one park a day. I do not do the park Hopper. Like, I respect the people who like to do it and are that ambitious to go from, like, one park to another park in the same day. It's a lot of, like, mental capacity for me, and I cannot plan like that. Like, I need to plan the things that we're gonna do one day at a time, and I need to plan, like, the meals in the park with the character stuff all on that day that, like, coincides with the park.
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C
But I think that makes sense because, like, I don't understand the park hopping. Like, the parks are massive. How are you doing multiple in one day?
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B
I don't know, but those are a special breed of folks, and I love it for them, but I hate it for me. So we're gonna do four parks. I'm trying to plan out the. The meals and stuff right now for the character experiences. So if you have any suggestions, then please send them to me. But we are are going to an NFL game this weekend. Can you believe that? My child's 12 years old and he's been to an NFL game, but I.
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C
Haven'T, honestly, for Jackson, that tracks. But I'm really excited for you because I'VE actually never been. I'm trying to think. Yeah, I've never been to a in season NFL game. I've gone to preseason, but not in season.
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B
So I'm pretty excited. I'm a Falcons fan. Jackson's a Panthers fan. We are going to be sitting on the visitor side because, like, why would we sit on the side that I want to sit on? So, you know.
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C
Does he know? Is he excited?
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B
He absolutely does not know. Surprise. I'm gonna surprise him. And now I'm like, okay, in order to make a one o' clock game, probably gonna have to go to a 9 o' clock church service instead of 11. But, like, is that still pushing it? I don't know. Like, I need to get my brain properly functioning before Saturday night.
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C
Okay. How long, typically, is a church service?
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B
One hour.
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C
Like, no longer?
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B
No, like, we'll be out of there. If Service starts at 9 o', clock, we'll be out of there no later than like, 10 o. 5, 10, 10.
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C
Okay. How far away is the game?
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B
Like an hour.
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C
And you have to go into Atlanta traffic.
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B
Yeah. But I really don't think it'll be that bad on a Sunday.
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C
I'm thinking that you'll be fine if you guys bring what you're going to wear in the car and don't go home.
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B
Well, you know, that's the thing that I love about my new church because Jackson can just wear what he's gonna wear to the game to church.
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C
Oh, amazing. Okay.
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B
You know, we're just gonna look like fanfare in the church, but it's fine.
- [30:43]
C
Because it's like, come as you are. Right?
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B
Correct. I am planning to return to socials in a fuller capacity next Wednesday. So just wanted to say that. And I know that we ran out of time last week, Kristen, and you had other questions for me, so I want to go ahead and take the time to be able to answer those.
- [31:04]
C
Yes, I did. I just wanted to find out from you, like, especially with your return to socials, you've been away for quite some time. I know you've talked about changing up the way that you look at socials, what you want to do on there, the community you're building. So really, like, what can we all expect from you moving forward?
- [31:24]
B
I just think that you get trapped in. And I think that, like, people who are not influencing or don't have, like, a large public presence probably get into this space too. You see, like, stuff that other people are doing and you're like, oh, that's really cool. And then you try it and it's like, okay, that's really not my thing. Mm. I'm not going to be posting anything on socials. That's just not my thing. Like, I'm not trying anything new. That might sound, like, really small of me, but I'm just gonna post, like, what I want to post. What happened to the times when we weren't fighting an algorithm? Or we, you know, we're looking at other people's stuff and playing a comparison game? Like, for what?
- [32:14]
C
Honestly, I love that. It's super refreshing. And I'm excited to see, like, what it is that you do decide to post, because I feel like I've seen you go through a variety of seasons. Right when you. When everybody was first starting social media, I would say, like, you and Kale, everything was supposed to be, like, so curated and perfect, and it has vastly changed. And trying to get out of that mindset and being in that mindset is not healthy either. Like, everything having to be perfect all the time, you of all people know that. So I'm excited to see, like, what you decide are the things that you like to share.
- [32:48]
B
I just think that if we are going to be posting on there with people with larger followings and you are posting for the masses to see, why are we posting things that feel very unattainable? And I can say that because it is.
- [33:09]
C
Well.
- [33:09]
B
And a lot of times we're posting to make something look a certain way. And I am a perfectionist at heart. I feel like I somewhat was raised that way to strive to be, like, the best that you can be in everything that you do. And I do think that there's something good about that, but to the point that it's detrimental to your mental health, it's not good.
- [33:36]
C
Yeah, I would agree. I think, you know, you know my feelings on social media. I stay as far away from it as I possibly can outside of what I have to do for work. It's not a great place when you're working on it.
- [33:49]
B
I would tend to agree. There is something that I've definitely been working on, like, kind of simultaneously of balancing my mental health and also being a mom and also sharing things with the world. Like, that's not the easiest thing to balance. And so I try to, or have been trying to be as normal as I possibly can in kind of an abnormal career, if that makes sense. And I feel like everything that I do, and I know it's so true for others that, you know, have followings, are connected to TV or podcast or, like, Whatever it may be that it's like there is a spotlight that people pick apart absolutely everything that you do. And if people are going to pick apart what I do, number one, somewhat I've signed up for it and have to take accountability for that. Like I cannot be up to upset because someone's picking apart something, but if they're going to pick it apart, I want them to pick it apart like in a completely authentic state. Because that's just who I am.
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C
I think too, like more I used to see it within the industry itself of people picking each other apart as far as like influencers and content creators went. And it wasn't so much the public and now it feels like it's both simultaneously and people are hate watching content instead of just watching content that they actually enjoy. I also think like doom scrolling is a big part of that. Like people are doom scrolling to escape their own lives and their own stresses and whatever. And like whatever feelings they're having, they're taking those, they're going online, they're doom scrolling. And sometimes people are just mean and want to leave nasty comments and somehow think it'll make them feel better and all those things. But I think that it has progressed into, honestly I would say that the public is actually worse now than like the infighting within the industry.
- [36:00]
B
And I mean, I understand, like I do truly believe that reality TV is like a very nasty place. And like I can say that because I see other people from other reality TV shows that I follow that some of the comments that I see, I'm like, wow, the public's just like really out here saying all of this stuff to some degree. With larger paychecks comes a sense of you opening your life up to scrutiny.
- [36:33]
C
Yeah.
- [36:34]
B
And so that is a negative part of it. We can't make everybody happy all the time. We can't determine how someone's going to receive whatever it is. Even if you had good intention of doing something, you don't know what someone else is going through that is consuming your content that it might be triggering to that person. So I'm just no longer looking at the comments. Like someone sent me a message the other day and they were like, why? Why are you not responding to anything like on TikTok or on Instagram in your comments? For what? Like, do you think that I'm going to argue with Susie Q. And Utah today?
- [37:21]
C
I mean, it's a good way to look at it. It's definitely a good way to look at it. I also understand though that like sometimes the comments get really loud. And, you know, there are times where people feel the need to respond, feel like they have to respond, feel like they need to defend themselves. And I'm not naive. It is for just the world that we live in. Like, people have opinions. They're like, everybody's got one. There's just some people who feel like they need to really put their opinions out there publicly, where there's other people who will just keep on scrolling. And to those who keep on scrolling, I appreciate it.
- [38:01]
B
I don't want to discourage people from saying how they feel because it's just, like, how you feel if you. If you don't like me. And, like, you want to tell me, like, okay, that I do think that there is so much power in separating yourself from some of that stuff and just letting your life speak for itself.
- [38:24]
C
But my whole thing is like. And I'm all for free speech. I don't understand what telling somebody. Like, we'll use your example. Telling somebody you don't like them that you literally don't know in real life, what does that do for you or the other person? Like, why is that something that you need to just comment?
- [38:44]
B
Well, I mean, it might be a single mom that's raising multiple kids that is going online and, like, scrolling and looking at stuff, and they're like, oh, well, that girl's life looks easy, and mine is like this. And so automatically I'm just going to hate her for no reason. Okay, I, like, understand now. I'm never gonna go on there and say that, but I'm like, okay, I understand, like, what emotional state that you might be in.
- [39:15]
C
Yeah, same in your head. Like, you know how we have inside thoughts.
- [39:19]
B
Yeah. I think a lot of people have a problem me being one of them. Like, I'm never gonna go on somebody's stuff and, like, hate them. Or if I see something that I don't like from someone, the best thing to do is just, like, mute that person so you're not seeing what they're doing so it doesn't trigger you in any way.
- [39:42]
C
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C
But. But you're not going to comment that.
- [41:40]
B
No, that's.
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C
That's what I'm saying. Like I can't. I'm trying to get behind the psychological reasoning of like people leaving comments about their opinions. I guess I just like don't like. And I'm not saying only post your positive things, but like the downright nastiness where it'll just like where you're coming at someone's appearance or their way or like you don't like something that they did. The way that they speak. I just don't understand that. Like, what is the purpose of putting that out there? Just don't listen, don't watch, keep it moving. And that's just coming from a person. Like I have never gone and commented on a video of someone that I don't like. If I'm commenting at all, it's in support because that's the only time I feel like I need to speak And I'm not perfect. Like, I'll send some shit to a group chat and be like, what the hell is this? But, like, I'm not going to go on the person's content and say that.
- [42:34]
B
Well, and I'm going to give you some perspective coming from someone who has been on TV, who has been in the podcast space since 2017. Like, I somewhat have to defend some of the people who have the level, level of investment that they have and they create all of these theories and whatever, because whether it be a character that was created within storyline, and it's not actually like, who you are, you have networks out here who are basically creating these characters for people to follow along with these people's lives. And so, so it's kind of like a natural thing to want to dissect all of the stuff. Like these people are invested in what they're seeing and the character that was created.
- [43:26]
C
Okay, so basically what you're talking about is maybe the. Maybe what's happening is the parasocial relationship. Yeah, okay. I under. I. I guess I can understand it more from that perspective with you saying that. But, like, it's hard for me as a person who just simply. I don't comment on many videos, like, I would just not do it, but I'm not everyone, not everybody thinks like me. So I guess that there are people who just feel so connected, feel like they actually have a relationship that feel like they're talking physically to you.
- [44:00]
B
Correct. I mean, I'm not trying to defend, like, negativity.
- [44:04]
C
I appreciate, like, a different train of thought. For me, it's, like, hard sometimes to see past, like, the way that I would act in a situation, for sure.
- [44:13]
B
And also, you know, last thing I'm going to say on this and we can move on to the next. I feel like when you're receiving these large paychecks, I don't think large paychecks should equate to abuse in any way, whether that be like people bullying you online or whatever. But you are making a choice. And I've said before, I didn't know what choice necessarily I was making when I signed up to do, do what I'm doing. But at the end of the day.
- [44:42]
C
It'S still a choice, which that is perspective, for sure.
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B
Next question.
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C
So as far as, like, specific things that you feel like you want to hone in on, as far as your content goes or the podcast or anything like that, like, do you have any ideas of, like, sort of topics that you feel like you're going to be Covering in, like, the sooner time frame.
- [45:09]
B
I don't think there's going to be a whole ton of change until the new year, which I get that reason for that is we are too late into the year to start making those shifts and for those shifts to truly stick. There are things that I am currently actively working on and I think working on within myself that naturally will just change that content, which.
- [45:37]
C
That makes sense to me, though. That feels very genuine because obviously you go through things in life just like everybody else and like that. That showing through your content, I feel like is important.
- [45:49]
B
And I think, you know, just the natural changes that I'm going through, like being single and investing in myself in that singleness, I think that that's a change and that's not going to change. I said before, and I will say again, I am in no way, shape or form prepared to be in any type of relationship with any man right now. I need to give myself time, I need to give myself space, truly the space that I should have taken post divorce. And I am fully investing all of my time on the time that I don't have Jackson on myself. And that might sound selfish and for people who are listening, who are parents that, you know, are living in the same household and raising children together, like, I understand that it's really hard for you to be able to find the time within a marriage to focus on yourself. Fortunately, but kind of unfortunately with going through divorce, I do have the time to invest in myself on the days that I don't have Jackson, and on the days that I do, I fully invest myself into him and my relationship with him. And I do think that that's where some of the ideas for these trips are coming up. Like, I want to be able to take him to do things, to create memories, to. To be able to have the individual memories with him that, like, I so long for, but somewhat rep oppressed being with someone else because I was having to consider the people that I. I was with. And like the time that, you know, I wanted to invest in that and I found myself a lot of times trying to coordinate with that person to make things work with either their custody schedule or their schedule. And I feel like it kind of set me back on the things that I wanted to do with Jackson solo. And so now I can do them.
- [47:57]
C
Which I think is important. And I'm excited for you to be able to kind of like get back to that space and be there for a little bit and just see what comes out of that. And, you know, I. Something that I'm hoping that you explore and talk more about is the actual co parenting with Will. I think, because I think that people get it twisted and they think that when you talk about him, you're, you're obsessed or you're still invested or you guys want to get back together and whatever. And I think that's because the current narrative in society is just like the negativity surrounding co parenting that a lot.
- [48:36]
B
Of people do very much deal with negative experiences and co parenting. And I think it's important for me to be able to share a positive side of co parenting. And I understand everybody's journey in co parenting is not the same and will not be the same. Mine and Will's situation is a very unique situation because Will is family to me. Regardless, we don't share the same last name anymore unless it's on like school papers. We still are family. Our address has changed our relationship and the things that we did. Like, we're not sexually involved with each other and we're not romantically involved with each other and we're not going on dates or to dinners or, you know, whatever. But yes, he is still my family and I want to be able to foster that relationship. And that relationship has changed so much over time. And I want Jackson to be able to see, you know, like, this was not an ideal situation for us to be divorced. We didn't go into that, you know, thinking, okay, yeah, we're going to be raising our kid in two different homes. But I do believe that we both are like minded in the sense that we want to be able to show him that this can still be healthy. Even though you have two different homes, your parents can still get along.
- [50:02]
C
And I think that's important. I think that it's like also a fresh perspective because, like, there is negativity. And I'm not saying your situation has been perfect because Lord knows it hasn't. You guys have your ups and downs, but I don't know, like, maybe it would give people some hope that it doesn't all have to be terrible.
- [50:19]
B
And I do think that where I, I went wrong a little bit was knowing that I desired to maintain this relationship with Will. But there have been partners that I've been with that are like, okay, well, that relationship is inappropriate. Okay, how is that relationship inappropriate? And it's not for another partner that's coming in to a family that was created and now split. It's not up to that other person who you're dating to determine what works for your family and a co parenting relationship with a child or children, that's not their place to determine what's going to happen.
- [51:02]
C
But now you've learned that that's something that you're like, that's a non negotiable, right? Yes. So I think that's really important.
- [51:09]
B
Yeah. So to, to answer the question, I do have plans for some change ups across the board on everything that I'm attached to moving into 2026 and plan to start implementing those changes at the beginning of 2026. But I do think it's fair to say as I grow and change and I'm leaning into the things that I'm leaning into naturally, the content and the things that people can expect will, will change because it will just reflect in me.
- [51:44]
C
I'm excited. I'm excited for you.
- [51:46]
B
Any other questions before we move on?
- [51:48]
C
No, that's it. My interrogation is over.
- [51:52]
B
I called so I have to tell you, I ran across this quote and it kind of goes along with what we were just talking about and I loved it so much. It says what you do in private always shows in public, reading shows and conversations. Your workouts show in your physique, your diet shows in your energy. Your discipline shows in your confidence and your focus shows in your results. You are what you cultivate when no one is watching.
- [52:24]
C
I like that.
- [52:26]
B
I understand some of those things are not easy for a lot of us. I feel like we're all works in progress. Like for example, you know, right before I got on this recording, I'm gonna be a sleepy girl in the morning because Kristen had me scheduled for a Pilates class earlier and I went and moved it to one o' clock in the afternoon because again I'm divorced and my kid doesn't get off the bus until almost 5 o' clock so I'm going to be sleeping.
- [52:58]
C
I love that for you, honestly.
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B
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- [55:35]
C
Okay, this is like tough because I've heard so many stories of people waiting around, but at the end of the day, the waiting around is a choice. You chose to wait around for whatever the situation was. So yes, while you feel like your time was wasted, you did participate in the wasting of the time. Like no, I understand why you would feel like they owe you that, but no.
- [56:03]
B
Well, I'm going to give you a little bit more details.
- [56:06]
C
Okay.
- [56:06]
B
She says the one it says the woman further explained that she had made some career sacrifices to accommodate her ex's ambitions and they had verbally agreed that he would be the primary earner should they have children. And a quote she says now I feel like These compromises have let me have left me vulnerable and I am seeking compensation. Surely he should have some responsibility for helping me mitigate the damage to our plans caused by his change of heart and broken promises. So I don't know. I feel like I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum with you. While I do understand that is a choice, I feel like when you are in a relationship and someone is making promises to you and leading you on, they're telling you all the things that you want to hear and then at the point that it doesn't come to fruition and you have wasted those childbearing years, I could see where that would be valid to, you know, file a lawsuit.
- [57:07]
C
I can understand the reasoning why, the emotional reasoning why behind it, right. That what you're explaining right there is called breadcrumbing. I've been there, it's happened to me. However, that is why they're like this. This is going to get real sticky real fast. You shouldn't really be believing promises. And I get that not everybody believes in marriage. And I, I understand this. Right? But marriage has some legal things around it, right? So like in theory, if you were married and you were waiting and you were sacrificing, that's when you go after like spousal support and like alimony. They might be the same thing. I'm not really sure things like that like that would make sense when you're doing this with like no com. Legal commitment between the two of you. I don't know, maybe. And I. Hindsight is 20 20, right? Like you don't know it in the moment that you're getting played. But I feel like, you know, when the promises are broken over and over and over again, and at least for me, in my experience, when that was happening in a previous relationship, I knew what was going on and like I chose at that point to get out of it.
- [58:28]
B
But I think sometimes people get into relationships where they are so gaslit and manipulated into not making a decision that they know is probably best for them. And while that is somewhat their responsibility, like the emotional toll that can come from being in a relationship and the thoughts of the time investment and it's like, okay, you're X amount of years in and I want these things and for me to start over, I'm probably going to have to spend that many more years to start over. So I'm sure that's probably where she's coming from. She said that they were in a relationship for 10 years and that's like such.
- [59:17]
C
It's Such a long time. And I get it. Like, I completely understand why the theory. But if I'm looking at, like, legally, he had no reason, he had no commitment to you, outside of the words coming out of his mouth, there was nothing legally binding. I would be curious, like, to know if she actually proceeded with the lawsuit, what would end up happening?
- [59:37]
B
I know. I mean, I do understand what you're saying, that as women, we are adults with agency. Like, I get that. But I do think it's very tricky when you're, like, in love with someone. The things that we are willing to somewhat forego with a verbal promise. And I think that that's definitely where it is so important to make the pros and cons list of whatever person that you're with and what are deal breakers and what are things that you can settle for.
- [60:11]
C
I would agree.
- [60:12]
B
And I.
- [60:12]
C
Like, I'm thinking about my own situation right now. So, like, Corey and I just celebrated our ninth wedding anniversary. Okay. So, like, if things switched up like that on either end, I feel like there would be grounds to go after some money there.
- [60:29]
B
Yeah. Because wouldn't that somewhat be fraud? I mean, we're talking about entered into.
- [60:35]
C
A marriage under, like, fraudulent conditions or something. Maybe. Yeah.
- [60:41]
B
Like, is it. I mean, I don't really know. It's not like I'm gonna go out here and just, like, be suing somebody. I'm not. This doesn't even apply to me because I'm not even gonna have a boyfriend.
- [60:51]
C
You might be. You might be freaking, right? Like, I don't know. Like, if you got. If you guys had a plan, but, like, then you have the choice of free will. So.
- [60:58]
B
I don't really know. I don't.
- [61:00]
C
I don't know. Unless it was, like, in a prenup or something. Prenup or postnup. I don't know.
- [61:05]
B
Like, I just feel like that is so hard for women who are out here dating. And they're. They know in their mind that they want to have children, and they get with this person and they've invested this amount of time, and then they're. What do they call it? Biological clock.
- [61:26]
C
Yeah.
- [61:28]
B
Feeling like it's ticking. And then you realize that, like, this relationship that you've invested all of this. This time in, and you've had these verbal promises, and they're not coming to fruition. Like, get your money, honey. Go do your ivf.
- [61:43]
C
Go.
- [61:44]
B
Go do your egg freezing.
- [61:46]
C
I mean, I. I'm all for that. That the situation sucks. I feel for her wholeheartedly. I would be really interested to see if she did, like, pursue it one. If anybody would even take it up and to, like, what the outcome would be, because that could set, like, a. Like, a legal precedent. I don't know.
- [62:02]
B
The next thing I wanted to ask you about. Do you and Corey take showers together?
- [62:06]
C
Yeah, we do.
- [62:07]
B
Okay. So again, currently does not apply to me. Also did not apply to me in my marriage because we didn't shower together either. But there was a video that I ran across, and it was talking about couples that shower together every week. It sounds so simple and even playful. But couples who make it a habit to shower together every week experience a level of connection that most people only dream of. Love. And then it went in to talk about. It's not just about romance. It's about vulnerability, comfort. Emotional intimacy in its purest form. And when you stand under warm water together, waterfalls. You talk, you laugh, you touch without distractions. There's no phones, there's no tv, there's no noise. So the physical closeness naturally builds emotional safety.
- [62:56]
C
I would agree with that. I would agree. Corey and I love showering together. And, like, not. Not sexually by any means. It's just like. I don't know, like, something about being in the shower and just, like, talking. It almost feels like you're kind of in your own world, like, while you're in the shower. I don't know if anybody else feels like that, but it's kind of like an escape from the world for a minute. And we, like, talk in the shower, whatever. Like, he'll wash my hair. Like, it's just, like, intimacy that has nothing to do with sexual.
- [63:27]
B
Mm.
- [63:28]
C
And I don't know. I. Like, he was the one who convinced me to start doing it because I was like, oh, my God, no. Like, I want to be, like, left alone in the shower. And then we would, like, shower together. And I was like, oh. Like, I actually feel closer. Like, I feel like this is, like, us time.
- [63:44]
B
But are you doing, like, the hot girl shower while you're showering with him, or is this, like, a rinse off?
- [63:50]
C
No, this is, like, a basic shower. Like, I'll shave, like, my armpits in the shower, but, like, that's, like. That's. That's the extent. Like, I'm doing every. Like, I want. Like, he'll wash my hair, condition it. I'll do my, like, face routine that gets done in the shower. And I'll, like, shave my armpits if I have to, but I'm not shaving my leg. Like, it's too cramped. I don't have a big shower. So, like, if I'm. If I gotta shave my legs or whatever, I'll be like, all right, like, you finish up and then he'll hop out and then I'll stay in and finish doing what I gotta do.
- [64:22]
B
So where I got lost in the sauce because I wasn't like a relationship showerer was where it said that showering together teaches teamwork, patience, and affection. And I'm like, I could understand where it would teach patience because, like, if we're sharing a shower head, like, what do I look like?
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C
Yeah, yeah, patience for sure. Teamwork. I don't.
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B
I mean, I could see that because, like, maybe somebody's like, putting body scrub on your back.
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C
Yeah. But like, is that a team? Like, I would say teamwork for me. And like, the most vulnerable I've ever felt was when I was like, having a really bad Ms. Flare and Corey had to literally shower me. And it was such a humbling experience, but also just like, I don't know, I was mortified. Like, it was just like so many emotions going on. I would say that was teamwork, like, trying to figure out how to, like, get your stuff done while you really can't. Like, you're trying to hold yourself up and that's basically all you can do. So I would say, like, that is like more teamwork than just like a generic shower to me. But I totally understand, like, the patience aspect because. Yeah, like, you gotta take turns.
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B
Yeah. See, I'm gonna need two shower heads, like, ever in my future. I'm gonna. I'm gonna need that. And I will tell you, the most humbling experience of any relationship that I've ever been in is breastfeeding a child and laying in a bath with milk pouring. And your ex husband. Well, I guess he was my current husband at the time. Sitting on the edge of the bath, just, you know, watching you really struggle.
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C
Wait, so timeout. You were in the bath breastfeeding?
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B
Yeah, I did that every night for six months.
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C
Was it to help the breastfeeding or like, what was it?
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B
No. Will was out of the house a lot when Jackson was first born. He was our primary income and I was filming for Chrisley Knows Best, like a little bit, but. And. And that was more like supplemental income to his. But he wouldn't get home until rather late. So I was doing a lot of the parenting duties by myself, which, I mean, in fairness, I should have been because I was a stay at home mom and he was making the money for our house, it just became easier to put him in the bath with me. It was kind of like a connection point. I would put him in the bath and I would bathe him and bathe myself and give him his nightly feeding. And by the time I had fed him, Will was home. So he would come sit on the edge of the bath, and we would talk, and he would get Jackson in his towel and take him and lotion him up and put his pajamas on him.
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C
I feel like that I've never. And I'm sure it's been done. I've just, like, never heard of anybody talking about, like, trying to bathe with their baby before. But that seems like actually a very smart move.
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B
Yeah. I mean, it was just. I was doing all of the things, and I've. I feel like I was a young mom. I was like a fresh 23. Like, I didn't really. You don't know what you're doing, like, when you become a parent for the first time. And I'm like, this just seems like a. An easier thing. And I'm doing multiple things at one time. And then it kind of allowed me to. I create. I produced so much breast milk, Kristen. Like, when I tell you I was 18 weeks pregnant, and I know it wasn't breast milk, but I guess it was colostrum or something.
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C
Okay.
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B
I would get in the bath at night when I was 18 weeks pregnant, and it would just, like, pour out.
- [68:08]
C
Oh, my God.
- [68:10]
B
Like, it was a lot. And so because of that, I would just be so full. I'm like, this is so much easier to just, like, get in the bath, bathe him, feed him, let Will take him, and everything's done.
- [68:25]
C
I feel like that makes a lot of sense, and it kind of is killing multiple birds with one stone. I love that.
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B
Yeah. And. And truly, if you are going to have a baby or you're in the thick of it right now, maybe try it. Because I feel like that was also the only reason that Will and I really had time together at night between the time of him getting home and us going to sleep.
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C
I feel like the time management when you become a parent is so important, but, like, the hardest thing to try to get a grip on is what.
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B
I mean, it is so hard. I feel like once you get a grip on it, it becomes easier with time. But you do feel kind of like a walking zombie when you come home because you actually have zero. If it's your first kid, you have zero idea what you're doing.
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C
I. Yeah, I'm nervous For sure.
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B
For weekly devotional this week, I want to start sharing some of my church notes from the last two weeks. I'm going to share a little bit of those, but I ran across a quote that said, nothing will give you greater peace than letting God be in control. And I can just say from experience over the last couple of months, that is so incredibly true. These are church notes that I have from the last two weeks that really resonated with me, and I feel like they were takeaways from the sermons that helped me, and hopefully they help you too. The first one is we need to be focused less on the left and right, and we as humans seem to refuse to do that. It's not about the left and right. It's about the lost and found. We need to love all people like Jesus does. Mercy when it's messy. Seeing the very image of God and people who may not see it in you, and failing to extend to others what we so freely receive from God.
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C
I really like that you're doing that. I think that'll be really helpful to a lot of people.
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B
I agree. And it's been so helpful for me, too, to be able to kind of, like, go back through the weeks and just kind of see from. From week to week, like, what I took from it. Yeah, it's become very interesting to me. So weekly tea, I don't have a story necessarily, but like, a story of myself.
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C
Okay.
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B
So I decided after talking to one of my girlfriends, she was like, lindsay, you have to join the are we dating the same guy? Group on Facebook.
- [71:07]
C
Okay.
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B
And I'm like, okay, cool. So I go to join the, like, one that's local to me, and this girlfriend tells me that she is in, like, a plethora of are we dating the same guy Facebook groups. And she spends an extensive amount of time just, like, getting in people's business.
- [71:26]
C
Okay.
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B
And I'm like, okay, well, I only want to be in the one that is, like, local to my area because I might know people in there. So it takes a while to, like, get into this group. And I have to tell you that you have to fill out this thing that states, like, all the things that you're going to follow, like, rule wise, and you have to, like, type it all out and agree to this stuff. And you can't screenshot, you can't share with other people, like, outside of the group, the. The stuff that you're seeing on the group. So, like, if I see somebody that I know on there, I'm not supposed to tell, like, that person. So I'm scrolling through there and I just have to say that the majority of men I have come to realize are just full blown narcissists and gaslighters.
- [72:21]
C
Oh yeah. Oh, yeah.
- [72:23]
B
And it further proved my point of the dating app and how treacherous they are.
- [72:33]
C
I was never a fan of the dating app life. I know some people have success, but.
- [72:37]
B
No, but like, who do I think I am being in these group, like this group when I'm not even dating anybody? Like, there's nothing for me to find out about my own self or somebody that I would want to be finding out about. Like I'm pursuing somebody or somebody's pursuing me. Like there's going to be none of that. Like I am literally doing this to be in other people's lives, people's business.
- [72:57]
C
You just want to know the tea. It's kind of like when you're doing your mug shot scroll.
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B
Oh yeah, I know. I. I've kind of moved away from that a little bit because it's kind of like predatory behavior.
- [73:09]
C
You know what I mean?
- [73:09]
B
It's like, why are we doing that? Why do we need to know that, you know, somebody robbed the Dollar General or, you know, my road was shut down a couple miles away because someone was in a garage that was not there with a firearm that had pistol whipped his girlfriend two hours before in a neighboring area. Like, why do I need to know this?
- [73:39]
C
Yeah, you know, I get wanting to be in the know and being nosy, but I feel like the are we dating the same guy might be more entertaining than the mugshot.
- [73:47]
B
So entertaining. And then it made me think like about these dating apps situations. Like people will literally take photos of the profile of the dating app and just pop it. Like in this group. No.
- [74:00]
C
I saw a TikTok Lindsay of a man who used his walking down the aisle photo at his own wedding in his Tinder profile.
- [74:10]
B
See, it's just so treacherous. And I do not understand the Internet. I do not understand the dating apps. I just want to meet a man, like a good, honest, Christian man that has very little mental health problems. Like if he just has like a few, like that's okay. But I just, I need to find one of those. In the wild.
- [74:35]
C
You need like meet a farmer dot com.
- [74:38]
B
No, because I've heard treacherous things about farmers too.
- [74:42]
C
Oh. I mean, honestly, you'd be needing to lift logs at this point to look underneath.
- [74:50]
B
But these girls will be putting these photos up and some of the stuff like underneath is just wild. Like it was my ex boyfriend's roommate and like this is all the tea on him or heard he broke up up with someone and he was in a long term relationship and they broke up and he's basically an alcoholic. And this guy was sleeping with four girls and matches with everybody on this specific dating website. And the photos are like 5 years old. He doesn't look like that. I'm like, what is happening?
- [75:32]
C
You're just getting all the tea. Holy crap, it's all the tea.
- [75:36]
B
So if you are not on are we dating the same guy group in your local area? Definitely get on it because you're going to find out a lot of information and like these women out here really are attempting to do the Lord's work for the fellow women and I really appreciate it and I'm just on it to be nosy.
- [75:56]
C
I love it. I can't wait to hear what you come back with from there.
- [76:00]
B
Well, I mean, I can't tell you too much because it would be violating the rules and I'll get kicked out.
- [76:05]
C
No, you're going to tell me on the side.
- [76:08]
B
Okay. On that note, if you guys have not followed the Southern Tea on Instagram, you can follow us at the Southern Tea Podcast. If you have not subscribed to the show, you can do that from any podcast app. Wherever you get your pods, always first at Podcast one. Also, make sure you join our official Facebook group. I have learned to love that group so much. Thank you guys for listening and I hope that you have a very blessed week and we'll talk to you soon. Bye.
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