The Southern Tea – "Scissoring is NOT Fake" feat. Becky

Release Date: January 28, 2026
Host: Lindsie Chrisley
Guest: Becky (of Karma and Chaos podcast)

Episode Overview

This episode of The Southern Tea features a lively, candid conversation between Lindsie Chrisley and guest Becky. The main theme centers on motherhood, changing relationships, queer family-building, the challenges of early parenting for both birthing and non-birthing parents, and debunking myths about lesbian intimacy. The episode is sprinkled with personal stories, candid admissions, and Becky’s unique perspective on building a non-traditional family, all with unapologetic humor and relatable transparency.

Lindsie and Becky also tackle internet drama, “icks” in adulthood, high school reunions, and memorable moments from their friendship. The episode is an honest, free-flowing heart-to-heart with plenty of laughter, vulnerability, and the promise to spill "the whole tea."

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Catching Up & Internet Drama

• Lindsie discusses being trolled online, getting wrongly accused of comments due to an impersonation, and the emotional toll that can bring.
  • [07:30] Lindsie: "Now this girl is dogging me out for my bad nose job and I didn’t even do this. This is a troll using my picture."
• Becky expresses empathy, relates her sensitivity to online criticism, and notes how internet fandoms don't always overlap ("Don’t dog me because I’m sensitive and you’ll make me cry").
• Accidental Instagram faux pas: Lindsie unintentionally posted "Happy Ice Days" during a tragic news event, illustrating the dangers of social media timing.
  • [09:59] Lindsie: "Absolutely that is not my character. I would never f***ing do that, you know, bad timing on your part."

2. Motherhood & Non-Traditional Family Creation

Motherhood Real Talk

• Becky candidly explains the emotional rollercoaster of early months as a non-birthing queer parent.
  • Felt disconnected from her newborn son, Bex, even though her wife Leah carried him using Becky's embryo.
  • [12:17] Becky: "I loved Bex in Leah’s belly. I loved that child. So when he was born, I expected for that love to be there. I had no connection to him... My world came crashing down."
• Lindsie echoes these feelings are common, even among traditional couples.
  • [18:17] Lindsie: "It’s very easy to get lost in that when your whole priority shifts..."
• Becky emphasizes the importance of realistic expectations and emotional honesty for new parents.

Experiences as a Queer Family

• The couple’s process involved reciprocal IVF; Leah carried Bex, who is Becky’s biological child and the child of their donor, Matt.
  • Open relationship with their donor and his family; praises the flexibility and intent in queer family-building.
  • [21:55] Becky: "We built our family with such intent. Right. Like, there was... and money. It’s not cheap..."
• Discussion of surrogacy legality, rights issues, and the identity building behind intentional parenthood (including extensive testing, counseling, and legal processes).

3. IVF, Surrogacy, and Parenthood Logistics

• Becky details their path: choosing IVF over IUI due to higher success rates and insurance requirements.
• Describes failed embryo transfers, miscarriage, and the emotional toll.
  • [28:54] Becky: "I did a second transfer, I got pregnant, I had a miscarriage and now I think I’m good."
• Lindsie reflects on the “what ifs” regarding more children, acknowledging the unpredictability of family planning.

4. Debunking Lesbian Myths – "Scissoring is NOT Fake"

• Lindsie confesses ignorance about scissoring, leading to Becky’s straightforward clarification:
  • [32:18] Becky: "It’s not fake. It is 100% something that is real... I don’t think that also porn portrays it the right way."
• Comedic plans to demonstrate it (fully clothed) with podcast cohorts poking fun at TikTok and viral moment possibilities.
  • [34:06] Becky (after calling Kale live): "Right now, I’m not in a position to turn anything that could go viral down. So, yes, you could use me for literally anything at this point."

5. Adulthood "Icks" and Random icks

• Lindsie and Becky exchange adult “icks” (pet peeves specific to adulthood), such as teeth scraping on forks, slurping coffee, or odd behaviors by men.
  • [35:00] Lindsie: "My number one ick at this moment is hearing teeth scrape on a fork..."
  • [36:14] Becky: "Someone eating and slurping and noises are triggering for me for sure."
• Discussion of quirks in relationships, TikTok trends on “icks,” and their pet peeve tangent.

6. Friendship Memories, Podcasts, and Shared Laughs

• Memories of silly adventures and shared travel (the infamous limo at a reality TV awards event).
  • [50:25] Becky: "Finally, we like, calm her [Kale] down, and we get in the limo... [she's] just sitting there miserable... we're just screaming having so much fun."
• Hilarity in dressing for events, differences in style, and competitiveness (“shotgunning” drinks, competitive games).
• Reflections on college life, sorority/frat tales, and Becky’s journey coming out (starting with dating men, sensation of “butterflies” from her first girlfriend).
  • [57:20] Becky: "I didn’t know any gay people or, like, realize that that was even really a thing until I went to college… then the first time I dated a girl, it was like, holy—like, these are the feelings that people talk about."

7. Relationships: Butterflies, Toxicity, and Settling

• Differentiating real “butterflies” (healthy romantic excitement) from anxiety in toxic relationships.
  • [60:39] Becky: "There’s a difference between like good nervous and bad nervous… The butterflies come from, like, oh, thinking about like kissing them or whatever."
• Candid discussion on unhealthy relationship cycles and how people equate chaos with chemistry.
  • [64:46] Becky: "Chaos is familiarity for a lot of people… Healthy relationships feel boring to those that are just used to chaos."

8. Reflections on Friendship & Personal Growth

• Admits to initial concerns about whether they’d vibe given different backgrounds (southern, queer, etc.), but transformed into laughter-filled friendship.
• Plans for future meets, embracing their quirks, showing up “matching,” and just enjoying life’s chaos together.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

| Timestamp | Speaker | Quote | |-----------|---------|-------------------------------------------------------------------| | 07:30 | Lindsie | "Now this girl is dogging me out for my bad nose job and I didn’t even do this. This is a troll using my picture." | | 12:17 | Becky | "I loved Bex in Leah’s belly... When he was born, I expected for that love to be there... I had no connection to him." | | 18:17 | Lindsie | "It’s very easy to get lost in that when your whole priority shifts..." | | 21:55 | Becky | "We built our family with such intent. Right. Like, there was... and money. It’s not cheap..." | | 32:18 | Becky | "It’s not fake. It is 100% something that is real." | | 34:06 | Becky | "Yes, you could use me for literally anything at this point." (on being filmed for viral podcast moments) | | 35:00 | Lindsie | "My number one ick... is hearing teeth scrape on a fork..." | | 36:14 | Becky | "Someone eating and slurping and noises are triggering for me for sure." | | 57:20 | Becky | "I didn’t know any gay people or...realize that that was even really a thing until I went to college...then the first time I dated a girl, it was like, holy—like, these are the feelings that people talk about." | | 64:46 | Becky | "Chaos is familiarity for a lot of people... Healthy relationships feel boring to those that are just used to chaos." |

Important Timestamps

• [05:50] Lindsie recounts getting unfairly dragged online.
• [11:32] Becky’s raw account of becoming a non-birthing parent.
• [19:30] Discussing the shifting partner dynamics post-baby.
• [21:55] Details of family-building with an open donor and legal processes.
• [28:54] Becky's IVF and miscarriage experiences.
• [32:00] The scissoring myth is debunked.
• [34:06] Kale agrees to participate in a scissoring demonstration video.
• [40:28] Lindsie admits to almost peeing her pants laughing at Becky and Kale's antics.
• [50:23] Limo story at the reality TV awards.
• [57:14] Becky describes coming out and meeting her first girlfriend.

Tone & Style

The entire episode is informal, genuine, and filled with southern warmth, with moments of self-deprecating humor, candor about messy parts of life, and an openness about tough emotional journeys. Lindsie and Becky are unfiltered, irreverently funny, and supportive, making complex topics feel conversational and accessible.

Summary Takeaway

This episode highlights the messiness and beauty of family, friendship, and growth—especially when walking a less-traditional path. Both host and guest underscore the need for honest conversations about motherhood, relationships, identity, and all the awkward feelings (and icks) that real life brings.
Listeners will laugh, relate, and perhaps feel a little less alone, whether they're “boy moms,” non-birthing parents, queer families, or anyone navigating life's unexpected pivots.

Follow Becky: @Hayter25 on all socials, podcast “Karma and Chaos,” and solo pod “And for the Haters”
Follow Lindsey: The Southern Tea (wherever you get your podcasts)