We chase a lot of things. The career, the to-do list, the image of the perfectly put-together life. And somewhere in all that chasing, we forget the one thing that was never out there to begin with.

Joy.

Let me start by clearing something up, because we use these two words like they mean the same thing, and they do not. Happiness is fleeting. It comes from outside us. A moment, a thing, a person, an achievement. It arrives, and then it leaves, because that is its nature.

Joy is different. Joy is a deep sense of contentment and wellbeing that lives inside you. It is a high vibrational state, and it stays. Happiness comes and goes based on what is happening around you. Joy persists from within, and you can tap into it even during life’s most difficult, inevitable challenges.

That is the whole point. We do not have to wait for our circumstances to be perfect to feel joy.

The story that changed how I think about hard moments

I saw a video recently that I have not stopped thinking about.

A man was at an airport, his flight delayed, and he had somewhere important to be. Over a thousand people were waiting to hear him speak at a conference. As he approached the counter, the woman working it looked at him and told him, before he even spoke, that there was no chance of him flying out until that delayed flight decided it was ready.

Most of us know exactly how this scene usually goes. Frustration. Tension. Two exhausted people on opposite sides of a counter, both bracing for a fight.

He did something else. He looked at her and said he believed she was an incredible problem solver, that the airline pays her good money because she is good at solving problems. Not as manipulation. As a genuine choice to bring a little joy into a frustrating moment.

And it shifted everything. She smiled. She asked what the problem was. She started working her computer while he worked his phone, and instead of complaining at each other, they were both quietly working to bring each other a small win. He found a flight that would get him there thirty minutes early. And just as he went to book it, she called out across the counter that she had found him a seat on a flight leaving in half an hour, one that would get him there three hours early.

A simple infusion of joy changed the entire outcome.

Joy is something we receive, and something we spread

Here is what I took from that story. The next time I am stuck in a frustrating situation, I want to ask myself a different question. Not “how do I get through this” but “how can I bring joy here, not just to me, but to someone else in this with me.”

I do this at airports already. When a flight is delayed and there is a baby crying, I will catch the child’s eye and make faces, smile, play a little peek-a-boo from a few seats away. The baby gets distracted and stops. And I get the most beautiful, grateful nod from a mother who was too exhausted to think of it herself.

It is so easy to get caught up in the frustration. It is just as easy, with one small pause, to think about the joy we can offer each other in moments of crisis. It only takes that mindset shift.

A little experiment

I went around recently asking people what brings them joy, recording them on the spot with no time to prepare. I turned it into some fun reels you can watch.

👉 Watch the reel here: What brings you joy?

Here is what amazed me. Before anyone even answered, a smile spread across their face. They got curious. Excited. “Ooh, what brings me joy? Let me think.” Two people actually broke into dance and song after talking about their grandkids and their work.

Just talking about joy brought them joy. We do not even have to be living the experience. Reflecting on it is enough to lift us.

What is your focus telling you?

So I want to leave you with some honest questions.

What brings you joy? And what stops you from focusing on it?

Where is your attention going, all day, every day? Are you focused on the chase? On hustling for what you need? On building an image of perfection, the well-behaved family, the put-together life, so no one can judge you? On giving and giving and giving until there is nothing left?

Wherever your focus lands, it will show you exactly what is standing between you and your joy.

A few of the things that bring me joy

I wrote mine down, so here they are:

* Talking to loved ones. A video call with my cousins, my mom, my sister in India, or my kids checking in from college or work. That fills me up.

* Listening to my bird app. Every time I hear chirping I open it and it tells me the names of the birds and shows me their pictures, and I feel so connected to them.

* Watching hummingbirds drink from the nectar in my backyard.

* Finding signs and synchronicities that feel like pure magic. Just last week I was a little worried about finances, and I drove past a car with a license plate that said SPEND. Exactly the nudge I needed.

* Connecting with my spiritual sisters when I am feeling low, being heard, getting the advice I need.

* Creating things. Baking, drawing, coloring in my adult coloring books. Being in community with like-minded people.

My invitation to you

Be full of joy whenever you can. Joy is an inside job. Do not go looking for fleeting outside happiness to fill that space, because if you have to chase it, that is a sign you are looking for the wrong thing.

Commit to finding joy every day. Creating it every day. Looking for it every day. Because here is the secret: whether you find it or not, just the act of looking will make you feel joyful.

Ask the people in your life what brings them joy. Let it inspire you. And over time you will stop reaching for the worry and the sorrow and the stress, and you will get more and more used to finding joy.

What brings you joy? Tell me in the comments. I would love to read yours.

Until next time, stay aligned.

With love and light, Chitra

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