Attract Don't Chase with Chitra Rochlani

How to Find Joy Within When Life Feels Hard (Joy vs Happiness)

We chase a lot of things. The career, the to-do list, the image of the perfectly put-together life. And somewhere in all that chasing, we forget the one thing that was never out there to begin with.Joy.Let me start by clearing something up, because we use these two words like they mean the same thing, and they do not. Happiness is fleeting. It comes from outside us. A moment, a thing, a person, an achievement. It arrives, and then it leaves, because that is its nature.Joy is different. Joy is a deep sense of contentment and wellbeing that lives inside you. It is a high vibrational state, and it stays. Happiness comes and goes based on what is happening around you. Joy persists from within, and you can tap into it even during life’s most difficult, inevitable challenges.That is the whole point. We do not have to wait for our circumstances to be perfect to feel joy.The story that changed how I think about hard momentsI saw a video recently that I have not stopped thinking about.A man was at an airport, his flight delayed, and he had somewhere important to be. Over a thousand people were waiting to hear him speak at a conference. As he approached the counter, the woman working it looked at him and told him, before he even spoke, that there was no chance of him flying out until that delayed flight decided it was ready.Most of us know exactly how this scene usually goes. Frustration. Tension. Two exhausted people on opposite sides of a counter, both bracing for a fight.He did something else. He looked at her and said he believed she was an incredible problem solver, that the airline pays her good money because she is good at solving problems. Not as manipulation. As a genuine choice to bring a little joy into a frustrating moment.And it shifted everything. She smiled. She asked what the problem was. She started working her computer while he worked his phone, and instead of complaining at each other, they were both quietly working to bring each other a small win. He found a flight that would get him there thirty minutes early. And just as he went to book it, she called out across the counter that she had found him a seat on a flight leaving in half an hour, one that would get him there three hours early.A simple infusion of joy changed the entire outcome.Joy is something we receive, and something we spreadHere is what I took from that story. The next time I am stuck in a frustrating situation, I want to ask myself a different question. Not “how do I get through this” but “how can I bring joy here, not just to me, but to someone else in this with me.”I do this at airports already. When a flight is delayed and there is a baby crying, I will catch the child’s eye and make faces, smile, play a little peek-a-boo from a few seats away. The baby gets distracted and stops. And I get the most beautiful, grateful nod from a mother who was too exhausted to think of it herself.It is so easy to get caught up in the frustration. It is just as easy, with one small pause, to think about the joy we can offer each other in moments of crisis. It only takes that mindset shift.A little experimentI went around recently asking people what brings them joy, recording them on the spot with no time to prepare. I turned it into some fun reels you can watch.👉 Watch the reel here: What brings you joy?Here is what amazed me. Before anyone even answered, a smile spread across their face. They got curious. Excited. “Ooh, what brings me joy? Let me think.” Two people actually broke into dance and song after talking about their grandkids and their work.Just talking about joy brought them joy. We do not even have to be living the experience. Reflecting on it is enough to lift us.What is your focus telling you?So I want to leave you with some honest questions.What brings you joy? And what stops you from focusing on it?Where is your attention going, all day, every day? Are you focused on the chase? On hustling for what you need? On building an image of perfection, the well-behaved family, the put-together life, so no one can judge you? On giving and giving and giving until there is nothing left?Wherever your focus lands, it will show you exactly what is standing between you and your joy.A few of the things that bring me joyI wrote mine down, so here they are:* Talking to loved ones. A video call with my cousins, my mom, my sister in India, or my kids checking in from college or work. That fills me up.* Listening to my bird app. Every time I hear chirping I open it and it tells me the names of the birds and shows me their pictures, and I feel so connected to them.* Watching hummingbirds drink from the nectar in my backyard.* Finding signs and synchronicities that feel like pure magic. Just last week I was a little worried about finances, and I drove past a car with a license plate that said SPEND. Exactly the nudge I needed.* Connecting with my spiritual sisters when I am feeling low, being heard, getting the advice I need.* Creating things. Baking, drawing, coloring in my adult coloring books. Being in community with like-minded people.My invitation to youBe full of joy whenever you can. Joy is an inside job. Do not go looking for fleeting outside happiness to fill that space, because if you have to chase it, that is a sign you are looking for the wrong thing.Commit to finding joy every day. Creating it every day. Looking for it every day. Because here is the secret: whether you find it or not, just the act of looking will make you feel joyful.Ask the people in your life what brings them joy. Let it inspire you. And over time you will stop reaching for the worry and the sorrow and the stress, and you will get more and more used to finding joy.What brings you joy? Tell me in the comments. I would love to read yours.Until next time, stay aligned.With love and light, ChitraShow Notes & Links🎧 Listen to the full episode of The Warrior Mindset Podcast: Spotify · Apple Podcasts · YouTube📺 Watch the “What brings you joy?” reel: instagram.com/reel/DY-mYCRJZpT🧘 Work with Chitra:* 1:1 Intuitive Coaching* ALIGN Community* Energy Reading Session* All Podcast Episodes🔗 Follow Chitra: Instagram · Facebook · LinkedIn Get full access to Chitra Rochlani at thewarriormindset.substack.com/subscribe

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What If This Is Happening For You?

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Have you ever felt completely stuck? Like no matter what you do, you can’t seem to get ahead. And every time you try to figure out why, you end up more frustrated than when you started.I’ve been there too.For a long time, I was asking all the wrong questions. Why is this happening to me? When am I finally going to catch a break? Why doesn’t anyone get what I’m going through?Those questions feel valid. They feel like the natural response to struggle. But here’s what I didn’t see at the time: they were keeping me locked in place.Victim mode. Every single time. And victim mode only ever leads to more suffering.The one thing I changedThe turning point didn’t come from working harder or pushing through. It came from changing one thing. Just one.The question.Instead of why is this happening to me, I started asking, what if this is happening for me? And what clues am I missing?That’s it. That one reframe changed everything.Suddenly I wasn’t a prisoner anymore. I was a player. A willing participant in my own life. And instead of banging on the walls waiting to be rescued, I started scanning the room for the clues that were already there.The clues were there the whole timeI used to be a chronic people pleaser. I wanted to do everything for everyone, just to be liked, just to be accepted. So I overthought everything. If someone said something even mildly off to me, I’d replay it forever.As a mom, I second-guessed myself constantly. I had no experience. I always landed on the same thought: I’m not a good enough mom. I could be doing better.One day a friend was visiting and I made a sly little comment about it, not really saying it directly. She looked at me and said, “Are you crazy? If I was half as good a mom as you, I’d be thrilled with myself.”It stopped me. This was a friend working full time, struggling to find time for her kids, carrying her own guilt. Her view of my motherhood was completely different from my own.And it made me look at the evidence more clearly. I wasn’t a bad mom. I just wasn’t looking for the clues that said so. I was only collecting evidence of how I was failing. Not the proof of everything I was doing right.Then something interesting happened. One clue led to another. And another. Before long, I didn’t have enough evidence to support the story I’d been telling myself.The patterns start to repeatAfter moving through a few of life’s escape rooms, I started noticing patterns. The same kinds of clues. The same traps. The same moment where people get close to the exit and give up right before they find it.I had a client who dreaded every tough meeting. “It’s going to be awful. I’m going to do terribly.” So I asked him to look for the clues. Think about all the meetings you’ve failed in. How often have you actually seen evidence of that?He couldn’t come up with many. Because he wasn’t bad at meetings. He held his own. He spoke up. He got his point across. What was getting him wasn’t the meeting. It was the anxiety of walking in unprepared, telling him a story that wasn’t true.Another client was raising teenagers. (If you’ve got teens, you know.) She kept saying her kids were out to press her buttons, trying to make her crazy on purpose.So I asked her: do you really think your teenagers wake up every morning planning how to make you feel like the worst mom on earth?“Whoa,” she said. “No. That’s not what’s happening.”Then we looked at the clues. If her kid was struggling with homework, maybe that said more about him than about her. If the room was always messy, maybe there was something underneath it that had nothing to do with making her mad.So many times we skip the evidence in front of us. We make an assumption, and the assumption makes us feel worse, and we never go back to check if it was even true.Here’s what I want you to take with youStop treating your struggles like solitary confinement, like you’ve been locked away and your only option is to wait it out.Start treating them like escape rooms.Because in an escape room, nothing is random. Nothing is permanent. Every weird detail, every frustrating dead end, every moment that makes no sense, it’s all part of the puzzle.Your life works the same way.And just like in an escape room, when you can’t figure it out, there’s a call button. Someone outside can see what you can’t, and they’ll help you.In life, that’s what a coach is. Someone who can see the patterns faster than you can, because they’re not standing inside your problem. I work with clients all the time who can’t see their own patterns. They’re too close. But coming in with a bird’s eye view and less emotional attachment, I can spot the clues much faster.You don’t have to suffer through that time in your life’s escape room. Save the suffering for the fun ones.One question to sit withI’ll leave you with this, and I’d genuinely love for you to sit with it.What escape room are you navigating right now?Not vague. Specific. What’s the situation, the pattern, the wall you keep hitting?Is it something at work you can’t get past? A relationship that’s gone toxic and you can’t find the way out? Your health, the same things recurring with no clear reason?Our systems are all connected. Mind, body, soul. And once you start seeing the clues, life gets easier, because you train your brain to spot them faster the next time around.So whatever your escape room looks like, know this: you’re not alone in it. And you can ask for help.You can start by pressing the call button.Until next time, stay aligned.If you’re ready to find the clues faster, let’s work together. You can also join the ALIGN community or listen to The Warrior Mindset Podcast. Get full access to Chitra Rochlani at thewarriormindset.substack.com/subscribe

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The Identity You Built To Survive Isn’t The Real You

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If I were to ask you, right now, “Who are you?”What is the very first thing you would say?I know how most of us answer. We list our qualifications. We list our titles. Mother. Wife. Daughter. Doctor. Lawyer. Coach. We become so deeply entangled in the roles we play for other people that we forget what it feels like to just be ourselves. We wear these titles like a mask, and for a long time, the mask works. It keeps us safe. It keeps us successful on paper.But there is a moment usually quiet, often exhausting when everything you’ve been pushing away finally asks to be seen. You realize that despite doing everything “right,” you feel completely disconnected from the person underneath it all.You find yourself thinking: I want to feel free. Not performing. Just… me.I want you to know that you are not broken for feeling this way. Your inner knowing is just trying to get your attention.Transformation isn’t about becoming someone new, or adding another impressive title to your resume. You don’t become someone new, you return to who you already are, without the noise.This is where the work begins: Peel, We look beneath the titles. What is actually underneath the mask you’ve been carrying? Feel, We create space to actually feel the exhaustion of performing for so long. Heal, From that open, honest place, we move forward.When we are aligned in our head, heart, and gut, we attract—not chase—a deep sense of purpose. We don’t have to force an identity. We just get to exist in our own truth.You deserve to show your authentic self to the world. But more importantly, you deserve to show her to yourself.With so much love and light,ChitraP.S. If you are tired of overthinking and ready for a space to just breathe and return to yourself, I’d love to invite you to step into ALIGN. It’s our weekly live recalibration space. Come as you are. Leave more aligned.P.P.S. If you want to explore this idea further, we dive deep into taking off the mask and finding your inner alignment on The Warrior Mindset Podcast. Get full access to Chitra Rochlani at thewarriormindset.substack.com/subscribe

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Demystifying Meditation: Finding Your Zen Without Sitting Still

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Today, I am going to share something that might surprise you: you do not need traditional meditation to find your Zen. In fact, for a lot of people, the act of meditating is exactly what makes them feel like they are failing. We have been conditioned to believe that finding calm requires sitting perfectly still and clearing our minds.Here is what usually happens with high-achieving, self-aware individuals. You sit down to meditate, and suddenly your mind is louder than ever. Your to-do list, worries, and inner critic all show up at once. Instead of feeling calm, you feel frustrated.A New Perspective on StillnessLet us clear up a major misconception: meditation is not about clearing your mind. Instead, meditation actually begins when your mind is already clear. You cannot use meditation to calm your mind; you use a calm mind to get into meditation. If your brain is busy when you sit down, you are just being human, because thinking is your brain’s job.Meditation is simply about awareness, not perfection. It is not something you force; it is something you allow. If traditional methods are not working for you, try these three practical ways to get into a flow state:* Nature: Go outside to walk, sit, and breathe. Let the outdoors center you.* Movement: Stretch, dance, and move your body. This helps you process what you are feeling instead of overthinking it.* Art: Try journaling or doodling to create something. This gives your intuition a way to speak.The goal is not to meditate perfectly. It is simply to create space so clarity can find you.Join Me In Person or OnlineFor those of you local to Livingston, join me for free outdoor meditation sessions at the Oval gazebo. We focus on practical techniques and have open discussions to demystify the practice.Free Live Event:Join me on April 30th at 12 p.m. EST for a free live event: Demystifying Manifestation. We will discuss how to attract a life full of impact, meaning, and purpose.Register here: https://www.fitwarriorlife.com/alignevent Get full access to Chitra Rochlani at thewarriormindset.substack.com/subscribe

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Demystifying Spirituality: What It Really Means

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Someone recently asked me to explain the meaning of spirituality. It has become a massive buzzword lately, with everyone claiming to be involved in it. Yet, despite this trend, most people are not actually Zen at all.We need to demystify this topic and put it into simple terms without any fluff.You Are Not Your LabelsThe first step in this process is getting to know your spirit. Throughout life, the world places layers upon us through parenting, schooling, and societal norms. To find your true self, you have to peel back those layers to see who you were before the world changed you.You are not what you do. You are not who you were born to. You are not your education, wealth, fame, friends, home, or your car. When you strip away all the expectations of the material world, what remains is your spirit.What Spirituality is NOTThere are many misconceptions about what makes someone spiritual. Here is what it is not:* It is not a checklist of activities: Reading books, walking in nature, occasionally doing yoga, or attending a retreat are great tools, but they are not the end goal. They are simply scenic routes.* It is not a temporary feeling: It does not count if you feel good during meditation but spend the rest of the day angry at your neighbors or annoyed by your coworkers.* It is not an emotional roller coaster: Swinging between super high highs and crashing lows depletes your energy. True spirituality energizes you.The Reason You Attract Difficult PeopleTrue growth requires serious introspection and the ability to be challenged without getting defensive. Every experience is designed to lead us toward our core purpose.For example, if you constantly attract toxic people, there is usually a deeper reason. Deep down, your soul might want to love and nurture others, but you have a block that stops you from communicating effectively. The universe will continue to send tough people your way to force you to learn compassion and how to express your truth with love.When you do the internal work to heal and understand this, you stop repeating the same frustrating cycles. You can finally answer the question “I am” with absolute clarity and ease.Join the Live Event: Attract, Don’t ChaseManifest Like A ProIf you are tired of throwing darts in the dark and want to build a life full of impact, meaning, and purpose, I invite you to join my upcoming free event on April 16th at 7:00 p.m. Eastern time.We will be channeling live guidance, practicing meditation, and connecting with like-minded individuals. Registration is absolutely free, but securing your spot is required.Register for the event here: https://www.fitwarriorlife.com/alignevent Get full access to Chitra Rochlani at thewarriormindset.substack.com/subscribe

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Are You Absorbing Other People’s Energy?

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Recently, I had a conversation with friends about thrifting. We were talking about buying used clothes and wondering a very specific question: do you take on the energy of the people who wore those items before you?When I shared this online, the answers were completely split. Some people avoid thrift stores entirely to protect their peace. Others said they would happily wear clothes from a sister or a close friend, but maybe not a stranger.As an intuitive healer, I work closely with energy every day. So, is it true that we might absorb the vibes of the previous owner?Probably, yes. Here is why.The Reality of Energetic ExchangesThink about how you feel in different environments. When you walk into a spa with clean sheets, incense, and soft music, there is a specific, calming vibe. You feel at peace. Now contrast that with a loud rock concert. The energy is completely different, and you certainly would not go there to meditate.We take on energy from the things, places, and people around us. Have you ever walked into a room and instantly felt good? Or maybe you have met someone who is constantly complaining, and you felt completely drained after talking to them?The Glass of Water AnalogyIf you are highly susceptible to taking on other people’s vibes, you might have a leak in your aura.Imagine a clear glass of water. If you drop a tiny bit of black ink into it, the water might get a little muddy, but it will not turn completely dark. If your own energy is crystal clear, picking up a tiny bit of negativity will not impact you much.However, if your glass is already muddy and you surround yourself with people who constantly add dark ink, you will feel the effects heavily. You will find it much easier to take on other people’s heavy emotions, whether that is stress, grief, or anxiety.5 Ways to Protect and Cleanse Your EnergyIf you often feel drained for no obvious reason, it is time to practice energetic hygiene. Here are five steps to keep your aura strong:* Check your own energy: Are you radiating uplifting vibes, or are you unintentionally putting out negativity?* Assess your environment: Pay attention to who you are hanging out with. If you are surrounded by heavy or toxic energy, you need to be extra cautious.* Create a protective shield: Before stepping into a crowded or draining environment, visualize a bubble of light wrapping around your body three times. Say to yourself, “I am putting on this protective shield of love and light to keep out any energy that does not serve me.”* Cleanse when you return: After giving a lot of yourself or returning from a heavy environment, cleanse your space. You can light sage, clear off a cluttered table, or simply wash your hands and face with the intention of washing away the day’s heaviness.* Trust your intuition: This is the most important step. If your gut tells you not to borrow a certain item or hang out with a specific person, listen to it. Your inner wisdom will never guide you wrong.We cannot avoid negative energy entirely; it is everywhere. But by raising our own vibration and taking steps to protect ourselves, we can stop feeling so drained and maintain our inner peace.Ready to align your energy?If you want to practice tuning into your intuition and keeping your vibration high, I would love for you to join me for a special gathering.Join my free community Align Event!* Date: April 16th* Time: 7:00 PM* RSVP here: https://www.fitwarriorlife.com/alignevent Get full access to Chitra Rochlani at thewarriormindset.substack.com/subscribe

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Stop Stalling: How to Break the Overthinking Habit and Start Healing

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“Stop thinking.” How often do you want to scream that in your own head? We are living in an epidemic of overthinking where we obsess, analyze, and replay conversations over and over again. We run scenarios for problems that have not even happened yet. If you are guilty of that, I have been there too.The Illusion of Control We have been trained to believe that if we just think hard enough, we will find the answer. But here is the truth: you cannot think yourself out of an emotional problem. Overthinking is not problem solving; it is a stalling tactic. It is your ego trying to control the uncontrollable, and frankly, it is exhausting.We look fine on the outside, but on the inside, our mental muscles are weak. We let the inner critic or the inner witch run wild in our minds. This happens because we have not yet learned to listen to that inner warrior who can actually take charge and make our lives much better.A System to Stop the Spiral So, how do we stop? We need a system, and I use the GROW model.* G is for Get insight: First, you have to identify the pitfall, which is the belief that worry equals work. Worry is just interest paid on trouble before it is due. You are burning energy that you should be using to build your life.* R is for Recognize: You have to catch the patterns that you repeat over and over, which is about being honest with yourself. When you are staring at the ceiling at 2am, recognize it and do not engage with the thoughts. Just say that you are doing it again and trying to control the future.* O is for Overturn: This is where we flip the script and replace the pattern. We do this by using the three A’s: awareness, acceptance, and action. You accept the thoughts, validate your own safety, and take action to replace that fear thought with something else. Remind yourself that you have handled 100% of the bad days you have had so far, and you are still here.* W is for Win: This is the outcome when you stop overthinking. You win back your energy, you win back your time, and you win the mind so you can win the world.Intellect vs. Intuition Success is not about having the most data; it is about having the most clarity and inner alignment. We have overdeveloped our intellect, and while it has served us well, we have also starved our intuition. Logic is slow because it needs data, processing time, and testing. But intuition is fast, efficient, and crystal clear. All you need is trust.When you stop overthinking, you make space for that gut feeling to come through. That is your superpower. But you cannot hear it if your head is full of noise. You need to declutter that chaos, peel back the conditioning, and deal with the reality so you can finally heal.Ready to Stop the Spiral?If you are ready to stop the spiral and start living, you might need a guide. In my mindset mastery coaching, we work one on one to break these specific patterns that you might have built over time. We identify where they came from and understand how to replace them.We declutter the mind so you can finally hear yourself think clearly, efficiently, and proactively. This allows you to listen to that intuition coming in.Stop thinking. Let’s start healing.Apply for Coaching Here: https://www.fitwarriorlife.com/intuitivecoaching Get full access to Chitra Rochlani at thewarriormindset.substack.com/subscribe

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Are You Strong on the Outside, Suffering on the Inside?

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The Hidden Cost of High-Functioning BurnoutLet’s talk about suffering today. I know we do not like to admit it, especially if we are high achievers, but if you are entrenched in suffering, you are probably out of sync with your heart and your soul.I want you to take a second and look around at the relationships in your life right now. Are there arguments, constant chaos, or toxicity? We cannot possibly live our most authentic life, giving and sharing love the way we are meant to do, if we are in deep suffering.The Emotional Resource HogI have been working with people one-on-one for years now, and I started to see a specific pattern in those who carry immense suffering. It hit me like a lightning bolt that there are some people who just lack the capacity to give back. Suffering takes up every ounce of energy that we have. It is a resource hog.We live in an ego-driven world that demands that we function despite our pain. No one hands you a prescription that says you are suffering emotionally and need to take a month off to heal. So we suppress it, push it down, and try to power through.But here is the reality:* When we suppress suffering to function for our day-to-day things, we eventually act out from that suffering.* We are so exhausted from that act of keeping it all together that we have zero capacity left for compassion.* If you are a patient in the ER, you cannot possibly help the person in the bed next to you. You are there to be saved, not to save someone else.The Illusion of Keeping It TogetherIn our life, we are not given that time to process our emotions, feel what is coming up, and then move on. We are just going, going, going, running on empty. We take care of our kids, our dogs, our families, our parents, and our work.On the outside, it might look like we are doing it all. People probably look at you and glorify being busy, overworked, and stressed. However, when we are in this zone of suffering, we are giving love and compassion from a place of depletion.What happens to children who are being raised in these emotionally unavailable homes? They look for connection elsewhere. They are craving the love of emotionally available parents, and when they only have exhausted parents, they begin a dysfunction of their own. This cycle continues until someone decides to put an end to it, gets help, and says they cannot move on like this.You Cannot Heal What You Refuse to FeelYou cannot break this cycle without awareness. If you are tired of being this high-functioning burnout, you need a space to reset. I urge you to not wait until you are completely empty. First, you need to fill your own cup.If you are ready to find true alignment and stop the cycle of “hustling” without direction, I invite you to our upcoming live event.Join the Workshop: Manifest Like a ProThe Power of AlignmentIn this interactive session, we will explore how to raise your vibration and attract your tribe through the trifecta of Intuitive Edge, Emotional Maturity, and Intellectual Growth.We Will Explore:* Awareness: Pinpointing the specific areas that need your attention.* Clarity and Purity: The two essential prerequisites to manifestation.* Attract, Don’t Chase: How to integrate your purpose, passion, and legacy.Event Details* Date: March 25, 2026* Time: 7:00 PM ET* Location: Live on Zoom* Investment: $33* Link: Register for the Alignment Workshop HereIt is a space for inner growth and nourishment where we stop pretending and start healing. Let’s get you back in touch with your authentic self so that you can give true, real love to everyone who is around you. Get full access to Chitra Rochlani at thewarriormindset.substack.com/subscribe

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How to Fire Your Inner Critic and Reclaim the Driver’s Seat

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Who is actually running your life right now? Is it you, or is it that persistent voice telling you that you are not good enough? In my world, we call this the inner critic or the “evil inner witch.”This is the voice of fear, worry, doubt, and insecurity. It is often the loudest voice in the room. This critic is an old program installed by society, conditioning, or how you were raised. While it might think it is protecting you, it is actually keeping you small.When the critic is in charge:* We overwork: We push ourselves to prove our worth to others.* We fear conflict: We say yes when we want to say no because we need external validation.* We chase metrics: We follow external markers of success but feel empty on the inside.The Three A’s: Reclaiming Your PowerTo win the mind so you can win the world, you must move into the “win” phase of the GROW model: Get insight, Recognize, Overcome, and Win. This transition happens through the Three A’s:* Awareness: You must catch the thought. When anxiety hits, stop and acknowledge it. Be the observer of the thought, not the thought itself.* Acceptance: This is radical. Do not fight the thought or shame yourself for having it. Acknowledging that it makes sense to feel this way because you are human actually disarms the critic.* Action: You must validate your own worth. Do not wait for a boss, partner, or child to tell you that you did a good job: tell yourself and internalize your wins.Mindset work is a practice. Just as you would not go to the gym once and expect a brand new body, you cannot do this work once and expect a new life.Join the Workshop: Manifest Like a ProIf you are ready to find true alignment and stop the cycle of “hustling” without direction, I invite you to our upcoming live event.The Power of AlignmentIn this interactive session, we will explore how to raise your vibration and attract your tribe through the trifecta of Intuitive Edge, Emotional Maturity, and Intellectual Growth.We Will Explore:* Awareness: Pinpointing the specific areas that need your attention.* Clarity and Purity: The two essential prerequisites to manifestation.* Attract, Don’t Chase: How to integrate your purpose, passion, and legacy.Event Details* Date: March 25, 2026* Time: 7:00 PM ET* Location: Live on Zoom* Investment: $33* Link: Register for the Alignment Workshop Here“I always love listening to you because you make me think about things I never think about (things I completely take for granted). So I appreciate being reminded!”-EvelynStop letting the inner witch drive the car. You are the driver: your warrior and your inner cheerleader belong at the wheel. Get full access to Chitra Rochlani at thewarriormindset.substack.com/subscribe

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How embracing our strengths and blind spots changes the way we connect

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Have you ever caught yourself labeling someone as “difficult,” “too much,” “so logical,” or “emotionally unavailable” and filed them away in that box? Or has someone done that to you?Today, I want to talk to you about the duality factor. This concept shifted a lot for me in the way that I show up in my relationships. The truth is that every single one of us carries both strengths and blind spots, brilliance and struggle, light and shadow. Learning to see people as whole humans instead of one-dimensional characters can radically shift our relationships with others and ourselves.The Problem with the Label MakerWe live in a world that loves shortcuts, fast opinions, quick judgments, and simple labels. We like to label everything and put it in its proper place. Think about how we organize our homes or label every box in our kitchen.But humans are not simple. We cannot just be labeled.Someone can be incredibly confident at work and deeply insecure in love. Someone can be generous with everyone else and harsh with themselves. Someone could be highly intuitive but struggle with structure or follow-through. Some people can be logical, grounded, and reliable, yet emotionally overwhelmed on the inside.Duality is not a flaw. It is just a feature of being human. There are two sides to us. There are multiple facets to us. The problem begins when we start seeing people, and ourselves, only through one lens.Strengths and Blind Spots Live TogetherHere is something I really want to help you understand: your greatest strengths often sit next to your biggest blind spots.* The leader who moves fast may struggle with patience.* The empath who feels deeply may struggle with boundaries.* The visionary who dreams big may struggle with details.* The peacemaker may struggle with speaking their truth.None of this makes them bad or wrong. It just makes us human. When we forget this, we do two things. We judge others harshly for their blind spots, and we shame ourselves for ours.Neither creates growth. And here at the Warrior Mindset, we are all about growth. We are all about facing our truth and getting real with ourselves.Shifting From Judgment to CompassionWhen you start seeing people as “both and” instead of “either or,” something powerful happens.Instead of saying someone is selfish, it becomes: they are very driven, and they may struggle with awareness of other people’s needs. Instead of saying “I am bad at this,” it becomes: this is an area that I am still learning, even though I am strong in other ways.This shift does not excuse harmful behavior, but it humanizes it. Compassion does not mean tolerating misalignment. It means responding with clarity instead of cruelty.When you see people as whole, you stop expecting them to be perfect. You communicate more clearly instead of resentfully. You set boundaries without needing to villainize yourself or others. And here is the beautiful part. When you start offering this kind of compassion outward, you often receive it inward. People start to feel safer with you. Defensiveness drops, and connection deepens because everyone wants to be seen for their full humanity.The Warrior’s Work: IntegrationNow, let us bring this home. Where in your life are you being one-dimensional with yourself? Where are you defining yourself by one mistake, one struggle, one blind spot, or one role you have not mastered yet?What if instead you said:“I am capable and still learning. I am strong and allowed to need support. I can hold confidence and uncertainty at the same time.”This is the warrior’s work. Not perfection, but integration.I want to leave you with a little reflection for today. Think of someone in your life who challenges you. Ask yourself what might be their strength and their blind spot. What would compassion look like without abandoning your boundaries?Then, offer yourself the same question. When you learn to honor duality, you do not just become more compassionate. You become more free and creative in the way that you deal with difficult people. You detach from the outcome because now you see them as another human who is also struggling.The more we see people as whole, the less we harden our hearts. The more we accept duality, the less we fight reality. And the more compassion we practice, the more aligned our lives begin to feel. That is the warrior mindset.If this resonated with you, share it with someone who might need a reminder that they do not have to be one way to be worthy. And if you need help understanding this at a deeper level, let’s talk and see if we can get to the core of your feelings. Get full access to Chitra Rochlani at thewarriormindset.substack.com/subscribe

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