Loading summary
Lenovo Legion
The battlefield is set, the stakes are high, the only thing standing between you and victory. Nothing. Ascend to the pinnacle of gaming greatness with Lenovo Legion Laptops, Towers and the new award winning Legion Go, the world's first officially licensed handheld. Powered by SteamOS, Legion relentlessly pushes gaming technology forward with Towers built for raw, untamed power laptops with best in class AI tuning that sharpen your reflexes and the Legion Go, a handheld for serious gaming on the go. Stay ahead with lightning fast responsiveness on a stunning 16 inch PureSight display. Keep your cool with cold front thermal technology engineered for marathon sessions and with all day battery life. The game never stops until you say so. So check out lenovo.com legion Lenovo Lenovo empowering creators everywhere.
Ryan Seacrest
Hey, it's Ryan Seacrest for Albertsons and Safeway. Spring is here. Which means it's time to do some spring cleaning. Because a clean home is a happy home now through March 25th. Shop in store or online and get great savings on all your spring cleaning essentials like Windex Glass cleaner, Lysol Disinfectant spray scrubbing Bubbles, bathroom cleaner and Febreze fabric refresher. Hurry in before those deals are gone. Offer ends March 25. Promotions may vary. Restrictions apply. Visit albertsons or safeway.com for more details.
Ameca Insurance
At Ameca Insurance we know it's more than just a car. It's the two door coupe that was there for your first drive, the hatchback that took you cross country and back, and the minivan that tackles the weekly carpool for the cars you couldn't live without. Trust Ameca Auto Insurance Ameca Empathy is our best policy.
Clorox
Clorox Scentiva smells like lavender.
Cleans like.
Clorox.
And feels like, hmm, right? That could go on for a while. Experience the long lasting freshness of Clorox Scentiva. Now available in Clorox Scentiva Lavender Scented.
Gecko
Bleach Use as directed.
Clorox
Hello people of the computer or the phone. Whichever one of those two or mediums you're using to listen to this. Or maybe you're listening in your car. Or maybe you're listening inside the belly of a whale. Although probably not. You're probably maybe you're walking. Maybe you're on a train. Maybe. Maybe you have this podcast playing in like another room to no one. What? And you like left it on and you forgot and I'm just speaking into this void of an empty room while you're off, you know, doing something else, not even knowing that I'm speaking. Maybe that's where this podcast Is going right now, but. What's up, everybody? How's it going? This is geckmail. I'm gonna fucking shoot the shit with myself for a little bit and then I'm gonna read some viewer mail. So I guess what's going on with. With me real quick is I am in Japan right now. I've been here for two months. It's been a beautiful, beautiful experience. I'm sad to go back, but I think it'll be good. I think it'll be grounding, you know, at the end of the day. At the end of the day, right, it's like, you can go on. I've had been fortunate enough in my life to go on many, many crazy, beautiful adventures, both thanks to the therapy gecko and also just thanks to like, you know, something in my brain, for better or for worse, requires me to fucking have like some. Some sense of novelty going on. So I'm always running around and doing stuff. But it's been good. But the old. What's that song? Been all over the world. Only place left to go is home. Something like that. Who does that song anyway? Yeah, the song is good. So, yeah, man, I'm excited to return back and see my family and my friends and it'll be good, you know. That's the meaning of life, I think, is one of the things I've learned over the past. I'm not even gonna say two months because I knew it kind of before came here, but the quality of your life is always gonna be the. The quality of the people around you at the end of the day, I think for me, at least, I don't know, you might. You might be able to go into the wood. Everyone's different. Everyone's brain is wired differently. So you might be able to just go into the woods and live there forever and it's awesome for you. So actually, I take back everything I said. I don't fucking know the meaning of life. I don't even. I regret even pretending for a second like I did. Um, but I guess it's the meaning of. I guess my life and probably the meaning of a lot of people's lives is to just be around folks. You know, Life is like tremendously scary and lonely and frightening. Bizarre experience and, you know, it's. Everything is cope. But it's good. Cope is good. Cope is, you know. Yeah. Your friends sending you a meme. It's good cope. So, you know, whatever. Connect with other people. It's good. I think this was a whole. I don't know why this is. This is a whole motivational rant. I'm never trying to tell other people what to do, but I'm just. This is just me working on my own brain. This is the. This is the therapy for me portion of this show, and I'm enjoying it. It feels good. And if you have me in your ear right now, God bless you. Thank you very, very, very, very much. I am honored to have your listenership. And I'm ready to. To take. To read some emails. Let's get into it. Although, before we get into it, I do want to say I am hosting my very first art exhibition in Bushwick, Brooklyn, on. Well, it's gonna. We're having a gallery exhibition opening on March 14 from 7pm to 10pm at the Kaleidoscope Gallery in Bushwick, Brooklyn. And if you live in New York City, if you want to come, you can check the link to the episode description. I put a little thing that you can enter in your phone number into, and then you'll get a little text where that says, hey, just a reminder that we're doing this thing. And also, I might do other things in New York City. This might. I might do other stupid art exi. Oh, I didn't even talk about what the exhibition is. I'm taking eight. It's called Lyle Forever Presents Trash from Around My Room. And I'm gonna be taking eight pieces of trash from around my room and displaying them. And you can. You can come check it out. It's a free event. It's a free event. I don't know why I decided to. I had this. I had this event written down in my notes app, like two years ago, and I was like, you know what? We just have to do it. If not now, then when? Let's just do it. Let's just do the fucking trash exhibit. And so we're doing the trash exhibit. It's free to come and to hang out. There'll be a bar there. I'll be there. I'll be hanging out. So come through. March 14, Kaleidoscope Gallery, 7pm 10pm and the link to RSVP is in this episode description. So come hang out and look at my stupid trash. All right, let's. Let's look at some emails here. This is from Ash. Subject line. I told my instructor I'd make him come. Okay. Hi, Geck. I had my first driving lesson today and accidentally sexted the instructor two minutes before he got to my house. On the driving app, it has a section saying bits out them. What does that Mean, it has a section saying bits out them and it just filled them all with coming soon. So. Okay, I sent who I thought was my boyfriend a screenshot of his driving profile and a text saying I'm gonna make him come. Then almost canceled my driving test when I saw who I sent to. Oh, okay, so this person took a screenshot of their instructors driving profile and then meant to send the screenshot to their boyfriend with the. With the phrase I'm gonna make him come, but they accidentally sent it to the driver. Okay. He was actually a good sport about it and we had to laugh, so it wasn't weird. Anyway, odd first driving lesson. Guess I'm stuck till I graduate. Help your driving instructors come. Well, I hope I don't have anything funny to say about this, but this, it is a funny situation. Let's. Let's see here. This is from Austin. This is a rant. The subject line is rant on life. Hey, Geck. I graduated almost two years ago and I've been with the same company since. They've shown me the corruption and greed that drives capitalism. I can't do this anymore. My job, which involves providing and educating patients on medical equipment, has taken a severe toll on my mental and emotional health. And I started therapy because of it. I understand patients anger due to pain, but the treatment I receive from hospital staff and colleagues is unbearable. They don't care about patients, they only want to milk money from them. Management even told me not to pick up equipment from a patient until they called to ask why it hadn't been done so they could continue billing them. I've been applying for my dream career for an entire year, but the constant rejections are overwhelming. Life feels bleak and I'm struggling to find meaning in anything. This repetitive cycle is a never ending hellscape. I am unable to escape from Austin. Well, Austin, hey, man, you know what? Here's the funny thing is like normally I think I would get an email like this and I would be like, oh, crap. I don't know how to respond. But, you know, let's. I don't know, man. I'm in the mood to give it a try. I've also been feeling like a little, A little hellscapey here, Austin. So I'm just gonna tell you how I, you know, I'm feeling in the hellscape land. I mean, look, man, I think all of my theories and all of my quote unquote advice or whatever, it's all just theories that I'm testing and trying. I have no, you know, hold on. There's a fucking. In Japan, they make it. They do a bell every day at 4:30. I don't know if you guys can hear this bell. Why 4:30? It only goes off at 4:30. Does anyone know why there's a. Why is a bell always go off in Tokyo at 4:30? Hold on. It's about a. It's about to end. That's another good thing to get you out of Hellscape is just distractions. Donkey Kong Country Returns is all. Is they really. This is not an advertisement, but Donkey Kong Country Returns is. They released it in HD on the Nintendo Switch, and I'm gonna use that to help me cope with the void. But anyway, I don't know, Austin, man, you seem like. When. Well, I'm curious. What? You said you've been applying for your dream career, right? So what is your dream career? I don't know what that is, but let's say whatever your dream career is, I'm sure it's your dream career for a reason, right? So instead of the one thing I've always felt is that, like, there's kind of motivations and then there's vessels for those motivations, I suppose. And so it's like, why is your dream career your dream career? Is it because it puts you around people? Is it because it lets you travel? Is it because it lets you help people? You know, what is it? Right? And so instead of chasing after this specific thing that is kind of a thing that is like a rejection, acceptance thing, and you're kind of like allowing other people to tell you whether or not you'll be able to achieve those vessels. Like, why don't you just take whatever the fuck it is that you like about this career and see if you can, you know, see. See what all your options are for kind of satisfying those life desires? I suppose that's what. I guess that's what I would do. That's what I'm trying to do. It's funny, man. Talking about this shit on the podcast is helping me kind of reinforce things for myself. So. So that's good. That's what I'm trying to do. Let's keep going. Let's keep going. Okay, this is from. This one's a little too long. Hold on. Okay, this is from someone who told me not to use their name. Don't use my name, please. My boyfriend of five years has a baby. My story. Hi, from Canada. I've been watching your show a lot lately, and I doubt this will even get anywhere. Well, here we are. My story. So I'm 21 and my now ex is 23. We started dating in 2020. We broke up in October of 2023 because I found a lot of porn on his phone and it was pretty disturbing. I found pictures of his cousin on there. Okay, fast forward. During the time we broke up, I started seeing someone and he did also. He was with this emo mentally ill girl who has a list of disorders. Okay, whatever, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Okay, fast forward again. We got back together in the end of February 2024, and we were doing good. He was decent, was working on himself and I saw some change. Oh, she got back together. Then on April 1st, she the. Oh, okay. Then on April 1st, the girl that he was seeing while we were broken up posted that she was pregnant and tried to play it off as an April Fool's joke. She didn't even say anything to my ex and she blocked us both on social media. When I confronted her about it, she was playing this big game of guess for nine months and now it's February. And I finally broke up with him because she came out and said, yeah, this is your baby. The whole situation is fucked. She even tried to say that we could all be one happy family and have a three way relationship. Which just proves how messed up she is in her head. But yeah, living life to the fullest right now, I guess. That is a crazy dude. That's such a crazy situation considering how fucking young all you guys are. I mean, God damn. I mean. Well, shit, you got out of that one pretty good. Yeah, I mean that's, that's, that's, that's gnarly. That's gnarly. I'm not gonna. I need something to refer to you as. So I'm just gonna call you Rachel. That's gnarly. Rachel. Good luck. That's all I got. I'm gonna start. Sometimes I have things to say and sometimes I don't. And this one, this one, I'm just a little speechless. Good luck, Rachel. That one's. That one's pretty, pretty messed up. I mean, I guess. I guess it's good that you guys didn't have a baby, you know? All right, let's see here. Okay, this is from Sam. Subject line just turned 20 and I'm overwhelmed. Any advice? Hey, Geck. My name is Sam. I just turned 20 this past December and the spring semester has just started. Over the winter, I did some research which has gotten the green light to continue throughout the semester as a one credit independent study course. Kick Ass. I'm also in another independent study course to be doing four different projects. I love research and it's what I want to be doing. But I'm doubting my abilities to be able to manage my time well and produce good work. Not only in those projects, but also my normal classes. I'm taking chem and calc 2 and I'm struggling a bit and I'm afraid to burn out so early. Do you have any advice as someone who is older? Thanks. Wishing you the best. I'm terrible. I have. I'm kind of terrible for this because I studied film in college and I maybe did work two fucking hours a week as a film major. My roommate was a biology major. He fucking hated me because, you know, he was doing real stuff with his life and his, you know, he always had a bunch of work to do and my. You know, I was like getting high and listening to lo fi beats and not doing anything. So I'm not good at school. I've never been a big school person. But I guess we could. I guess if we were to go a little bit deeper and get into like the emotions of it. Right. Is like, you know, I don't know, it's hard to say. Cuz part of me is like, well, if you're only 20 and this is what you really want to do, like, you know, give it. God, dude. I guess give it your best shot. I know that that's not. I know that that's not great advice, but give it your best shot. And if you end up falling short of whatever your best shot is, just take solace in the fact that you tried, you know, so. So that's. I think that's what I got for you, Sam, is just. Just take solace in the fact that you tried. That's all I think you're gonna ever really care about is that, you know, when you go to bed at night, you tried your fucking best to do the things that you wanted to do with yourself for whatever the hell that is worth learning. Okay. This is from Andrew. Subject line learning to be alone. He says, I think you got to be alone, single and with no friends for a part of your life, even if it's just a couple months. It's a necessary character development arc and I recommend it to everyone. If you read this, you're awesome. Keep going. You know, it's interesting. I definitely. I think I'll be up. I'll be a little open on this. This year episode. I'm in the mood for it. You know, I think over the years that I've. I think over the years I've all. I've been a very like, kind of, you know, wanting to be alone and do things on my own kind of vibe. And I. And if you're gonna do that, right, if you're gonna learn to be alone. I actually agree with this email. I agree with this email that you should try to learn how to be alone, especially if you're young. Like, dude, if you're in your fucking. If you're in your, like, early 20s or something like that, you got it. It's. It's okay to learn how to be alone and go on a little solo trip. And it is, I agree, and necessary character development arc. And I think through all the times that I've gone on a solo trip or been alone or struggled with loneliness, I agree it's been like a big character arc for me. But also, you know, over, I think over the years, if you do it too much, you kind of wake up and you're like, oh, this is not. I mean, again, it's, it's. It's what I was saying earlier. Everyone's brain is fucking wired differently. And so, you know, I personally think that having quality social connections in your life is probably the most important fucking thing on the. You could possibly fucking do for yourself. Right? Some people aren't as lucky to have those things come. Some people are really fucking lucky and those things just come naturally to their lives. Other people aren't and they have to kind of work a little bit harder for them. But, you know, I agree with this, the spirit of this email. And like, it's okay to learn. You gotta. You gotta kind of learn how to be alone. But, you know, don't drag it on too long or else you will go insane. Trust me. This is from Jane, subject line, touring musician struggling with daily life after. Hey, Lyle. I'm a musician parenthesis DJ who just went on tour last year in Asia and now I'm doing Latin America. I do longish tours where I stay in the city, I perform for a few weeks to really get a feeling for what it's like and to connect with the people here. I'm also commissioning a 3D artist, so that helps me pay the bills on the go. It's hard for me when I head back home to cope with daily life. I just kind of stare at my wall, like, why, why do I have a space when I could just be on the move all the time? I can't slow down, even though I feel like I should sometimes. As someone who also tours a bunch, how do you handle the comedown afterwards? Thank you, Jane. Finally a fucking email where I feel like I can speak on it. Dude. So, yeah, I mean, I've been touring. I've been lucky enough to tour as the therapy gecko for like basically on and off for two and a half years. And yeah, you know, Jane, I'm in the same boat here because I'm taking this year off of touring, which I think was a necessary thing to do because I had to, you know, kind of take the time to evaluate a lot of life things and kind of kind of deal with them. But I'm with you too. Like, when I, when I'm on the road, life feels really like there's a weird linear thing to it where like, when I'm on the road, all I have to worry about is the show I am doing tonight in St. Louis, Missouri. It's a very present thing when you have a show and you're performing and going all around because. Because you're focused on the present moment and where you are. And it kind of gets you like this linear aspect to it where it's like, okay, I have this many shows to do and let me walk in this straight line. And life is a little scary in the fact that it doesn't often have straight lines, especially if you're a musician or a gecko or something non traditional. You know, life doesn't have a lot of straight lines to it. And so touring gives you a bit of a straight line. And when you get off a tour yet you don't have a straight line anymore. And that's fucking spooky. So how do I handle the comedown afterwards? The truth is, Jane, I haven't been doing a great job of handling the come down afterwards, but I think it's, it's probably. And actually I'm happy to be reading this email because it's making me have to find an answer to this question. And so I think in this very moment I'm just kind of like, you probably have to establish some kind of routine. Because when I was on the road I felt calm and I felt like I had a routine. It was like, you know, go to the airport, do fucking this shit, set up the show, do meet, meet with people, smoke weed at 2:00 in the morning and go to bed and wake up and do it again. And so I think, I think again, yeah, from person who tours to person who tours, it's like touring established a routine for me. And then when the routine went away, I just started to kind of falter. And so I think the answer is gonna be like coming up with another routine for yourself, for myself. And so hopefully you can find a routine that makes you feel some level of excitement, right? Some level of excitement for what you had when you were on tour. And yeah, it's hard, you know, man, if you're the kind of person where you want, you want a lot out of life. You want a lot out of, you know, you live in crazy rock star land. You're in Asia, you're in Latin America, you're, you're talking to this person. You're doing this. I mean, it's, it's, it's beautiful. It's, it's the kind of, you know, it's, it's, it's a beautiful existence, but I don't know if it's sustainable to live it forever. Or at least you can live it forever, but I don't know if it's sustainable to live it constantly. And so, yeah, you need to kind of build some kind of routine, I guess do push ups or something. All right, that was a rant. That was a whole rant. But I guess this whole podcast is a whole rant. So let's keep going.
Ashley Kineti
This is Ashley Kineti from the Ben and Ashley I Almost famous podcast. You probably know somebody who's on Ozempic or Semaglutide right now. These are really popular medications that people are using to lose weight. If it seems like all other options aren't working for them, go to try FH.com to find out if weight loss meds are right for you. Try FH.com Try FH.com Future Health is not a healthcare services provider. Meds are prescribed at providers discretion. Results may vary. Sponsored by Future Health.
Ryan Seacrest
Hey, it's Ryan Seacrest for Albertsons and Safeway. Stock up sale is on now, which means you can save big on all your favorite essentials throughout the store. Stock up on participating items and earn four times points to redeem for your discounts on groceries or gas. Now through March 25th. Saved by shopping in store or online for participating items from your favorite brands like Pampers, Dove Band Aid, Playtex and Premier protein. Offer ends March 25th. Promotions may vary. Restrictions apply. Visit albertsons or safeway.com for more details.
Ameca Insurance
Every day our world gets a little more connected, but a little further apart. But then there are moments that remind us to be more human.
Ashley Kineti
Thank you for calling Amica Insurance.
Clorox
Hey, I was just in an accident.
Ashley Kineti
Don't worry.
Clorox
We'll get you taken care of.
Ameca Insurance
At Amica, we understand that looking out for each other isn't new or groundbreaking. It's human. Amica empathy is our best policy.
Clorox
Now I'd like to introduce you to Meaningful Beauty, the famed skincare brand created by iconic supermodel Cindy Crawford. It's her secret to absolutely gorgeous skin. Meaningful Beauty makes powerful and effective skin care so simple and it's loved by millions of women. It's formulated for all ages and all skin tones and types. And it's designed to work as a complete skin care system, leaving your skin feeling soft, smooth and nourished. I recommend starting with Cindy's full regimen which contains all five of her best selling products, including the amazing Youth Activating Melon Serum. This next generation serum has the power of melon leaf stem cell technology. Its melon leaf stem cells encapsulated for freshness and and released onto the skin to support a visible reduction in the appearance of wrinkles. With thousands of glowing five star reviews, why not give it a try? Subscribe today and you can get the Amazing Meaningful Beauty system for just $49.95. That includes our introductory five piece system, free gifts, free shipping, and a 60 day money back guarantee.
All of that available@meaningfulbeauty.com Katelyn says Save me, Mr. Gecko. Hi, Geck. I'm having a life crisis and you're knowledgeable on these things. As a Gecko, I don't know about that. What are your thoughts on Life in 2025 and the groundhog from Groundhog Day? I don't know much about the groundhog from Groundhog Day, but what are my thoughts on life in 2025? I mean, ski, it's spooky for sure. You know, I'll talk about this. This is something that comes up in my brain is I don't think it's healthy to know so much about other people's lives. And the reason I bring that up specifically is that I like I'm on Instagram, as many of us are. And you know, sometimes when I'm not doing anything, I'll just find myself scrolling through Instagram stories. And when you scroll through Instagram stories, you're getting all these fucking people's windows into their lives and you start comparing yourself to other people's lives and you start just having all of life thrown at you in, in fucking 20 seconds. And it's probably not good. It's not. That's, that's too much information to have. That's, that's my, that's my scary thing about 2025 is that I feel like we have, you know, in many ways 2025 and the information that we have in this, in this day and age is good and helpful. It allows people to find each other that couldn't before and allows you to get answers to shit that you just had to fucking suck, shove down and deal with beforehand. But it's also a little too much information. Like I don't need to know what some guy I fucking met at some thing four years ago is doing today. I don't need to know that you know. And so. But it's also, it's also all in our control. Like all these fucking, you know, where our brains are trained to be on this shit as much as possible. And. But it is in our control. And so I guess, I guess that's a fucking antidote is to if I don't, if I think it's too much information, I'm just gonna fucking stop looking at Instagram stories so much. Which is probably a good idea. So thoughts on living in 2025? Enjoy the information era and all of its gifts, but don't fly too close to the sun, I suppose is my thoughts on 2025. All right, I'm feeling pretty good. I'm big chillin. Let us continue to take more more things. This is from Albert. Subject line in all caps Help and a bunch of exclamation points and then this email is in all caps Geck, I'm drunk AF the bar over served me man. I hit my wax vape and I'm currently paying for the consequences of my decisions. Please help. P.S. i love you man. You're so cool. Albert. Well, let's see. Albert sent me this email on February 10th and it is currently March 1st, so he's probably dead by now, but in case if he's not, man, just fucking drink some water, Albert. Drink some water. Go to sleep. Sometimes you just gotta drink some water and go to sleep. Alright? Okay. Subject line. Okay. This is from Ty Subject line. I illustrated a children's book for adults about death and included a cameo of you in it. Whoa. Peace Geck. My name is Titan and I'm an artist from the Bronx. I recently wrote and illustrated a children's book about death and included a little cameo of you in it. I've had thoughts surrounding death since I was 8 years old, but never to the point of action toward taking my own life. I'm 28 now and I feel this rumination on death has given me an interesting perspective on Life. I am fortunate to have met people along my path who have had similar thoughts, struggles, philosophies, and even solutions on how to lead a more fulfilling and beautiful life. So I wrote and drew a little something that I thought could help others as they've helped me over time. Anyway, I think this might be getting kind of long and I really want you to read my email. So I'm gonna end it here, but I'd love to hear your thoughts on the book whenever you get the chance. Also, I love your show, man. Thank you. For you, peace and love, Titan. Let me hold on then. This is the page with you in it. Oh, this is cool. This is cool. This is really cool. I know this is an audio only show, so I can't really describe, but basically I'm. I've got a lizard guy riding my back. The children's book. Maybe I can. Here's a link to the physical purchase of. But okay, here. In case if anyone wants to check out this book. It's called One day you will die, written and illustrated by Titan. And it's pronounced, it's spelled T A I I, T A N. One day you will die, written and illustrated by Titan. And yeah, it's on. It's on Amazon. Let's see here. That's pretty cool. Okay, I'm gonna check this shit out. I'm gonna check this shit out. Oh, they sent me a link to a free version of the book. You know, it's so. Okay, so this person sent me this email. So a little bit more about what's going on with me and in life is this person sent me this email also February 10th. Also like two and a half weeks ago. In the past three days, I have actually been having like tons of like insane existential dread surrounding death. It's been actually pretty debilitating, pretty bad. But, you know, I'm about to go to a psych and figure this shit out. So we're, you know, we're gonna, we're gonna pull through, we're gonna be, we're gonna come back greater than ever. But it's cool because this person's around my age and it seems as though they're. They're doing pretty good job at, you know, dealing with these, these, these difficult thoughts and feelings. So good on, Good on you, Titanic. I'm gonna check out this book. Thanks. Thanks for sharing. Okay. All right. This is from Benjamin Go kart rehab. Hey, Geck, I'm not sure if you remember, but about a year and a half ago, I called in from A Canadian go kart rehab. I do absolutely remember you calling in from a Canadian go kart rehab. I figured I'd send you an update. Partly because it feels right and partly because it's just cool. To reflect on how far things have come since leaving rehab, I somehow managed to land a full time office job with great benefits, flexible benefits, travel, management, responsibility, the whole nine yards. On top of that, I started a small family vending machine business. Very cool. And I'm also working on my MBA in business analytics because apparently I'm addicted to adding more to my plate. I'm also gunning for a promotion to sales manager soon because why not? It hasn't been a smooth ride. There were plenty of relapses. Actually, we lost a baby before they were born. I'm sorry to hear that. Which hit harder than we could have imagined. But we also had another kid. And just to make sure we're done with surprises, I got the ol snip snip about a month ago. Congrats on the on the sect of me, brother. Now we're living in a beautiful brand new house with more space than we know what to do with. We share rent with my mother in law and brother in law, which sounds like the setup for a bad sitcom, but it actually works. It lets my wife stay home with the kids while they're young. And somehow it feels like we've carved out a little slice of stability in the chaos. That's fucking sick, brother. I am very happy to hear that. A little spice of stability in the chaos sounds. Sounds like a wonderful thing. But it has been work. So much work. I had to take the discipline I picked up in rehab and apply it in real life. Failing, getting back up, failing again. Even when I had relapsed and was dependent on substances again, there were probably times I should have gone back to rehab, but I didn't. I just kept clawing my way forward one messy step at a time. I'm still an addict, but now it's to work, school and chasing promotions to provide for my family. But I've got a handle on the substances. More importantly, I've got hobbies and interests that actually make me happy instead of just numbing me out. That's new. I still get the thoughts though. They don't disappear. They just get quieter. Weed is still a part of my life, but I'm trying to get away from it. The key for me. Kaizen. What the fuck is kaizen? I'm googling this. Kaizen. Kaizen is a concept referring to Business activities that continually improve all functions and evolve all employees. It translates to change for the better. Change for the better. The key for me, Kaizen, continuous improvement. Tiny steps forward even when they feel pointless. Especially when they feel pointless is what he wrote. That's cool. Anyway, thanks for listening. Back then it mattered. And if you read this now, it still does. I'd love to chat again one day. Take care. Crazy gecko, man. This is a really beautiful email, man. I appreciate it. That's really nice. Yeah. Again, as someone who is also kind of trying to fucking, I record. I don't. I recorded a podcast before this one that I was gonna release today, but I. I decided to shelve it because it was. I was. I went on like kind of an insane rant and it felt a little too. I was crying. It was a whole thing and I was like, I was like, this is gonna be art for my podcast. And you know, maybe one day I'll share that, but I'm recording this instead. But I'll talk a little bit about, you know, I'm again, like at a weird point where like life feels pointless and fucking. I'm trying to move forward and find meaning and do all these things and so I really enjoy reading your email, Benjamin. Yeah, it's cool to hear that tiny steps forward are helping you. Even when they feel pointless, it's in. And also again, hearing that you found a little bit of slice and stability in the chaos, that's a beautiful thing, brother. So congratulations, Benjamin. Hopefully I'll talk to you again soon.
Ashley Kineti
This is Ashley Kineti from the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast. You probably know somebody who's on Ozempic or Semaglutide right now. These are really popular medications that people are using to lose weight. If it seems like all other options aren't working for them, go to try FH.com to find out if weight loss meds are right for for you. Try FH.com Try FH.com Future Health is not a healthcare services provider. Meds are prescribed at providers discretion. Results may vary. Sponsored by Future Health.
Ryan Seacrest
Hey, it's Ryan Seacrest for Albertsons and Safeway. Stock up sale is on now, which means you can save big on all your favorite essentials throughout the store. Stock up on participating items and earn four times points to redeem for your discounts on groceries or gas. Now through March 25th. Saved by shopping in store or online for participating items from your favorite brands like Pampers, Dove, Band Aid, Playtex and Premier protein offer ends March 25, promotions may vary. Restrictions apply. Visit albertsons or safeway.com for more details.
Ameca Insurance
At Ameca Insurance we know it's more than just a car or a house. It's the four wheels that get you where you're going and the four walls that welcome you home. When you combine auto and home insurance with Amica, we'll help protect it all. And the more you cover, the more you can save Amica Empathy is our.
Clorox
Best policy.
Now I'd like to introduce you to Meaningful Beauty, the famed skincare brand created by iconic supermodel Cindy Crawford. It's her secret to Absolutely absolutely gorgeous skin. Meaningful Beauty makes powerful and effective skin care simple and it's loved by millions of women. It's formulated for all ages in all skin tones and types and it's designed to work as a complete skin care system, leaving your skin feeling soft, smooth and nourished. I recommend starting with Cindy's full regimen which contains all five of her best selling products including the Amazing Youth Activating Melon Serum. This next generation serum has the power of melon leaf stem cell technology. It's melon leaf stem cells encapsulated for freshness and released onto the skin to support a visible reduction in the appearance of wrinkles. With thousands of glowing five star reviews, why not give it a try? Subscribe today and you can get the Amazing Meaningful Beauty system for just $49.95. That includes our introductory five piece system, free gifts, free shipping and a 60 day money back guarantee. All of that available at Meaningful Beauty.
All right, all right. This is from Louis Anonymous. Hello from Ireland. Yo Geck, Give me a fake name. Okay Lewis, first time emailer slash caller, but two time showgoer when you came to Dublin, Ireland. Kick ass. I wanted to share my current situation as I'm struggling to process it all. Recently my wife and I separated. She has always faced mental health challenges and she decided to end our relationship to focus on working on herself. While I understand and respect her decision, I can't help feeling that we could have tried to navigate this together. She explained that throughout our 10 year relationship, I was always there to support her through her struggles, but she now feels she needs to figure things out on her own. Even though we're on good terms, the separation has left me feeling lost and questioning the point of everything. We were best friends and I truly believed we'd spend our lives together. Now, despite having a decent job and being relatively young, I'm struggling with feelings of emptiness and the urge to just give up. Thanks. Fake name I forget what fake name I originally gave you. Louis. Yeah, Louis. Um. Ah, Lewis. Lewis, Lewis. Lois. Lois. Lois, Lois. Man, all these, ah, man, sometimes all these phone calls and these emails, man, and, and kind of comparing them to going on in my life, it's like I, I just always have more answer answers, more questions than answers. Um, but let me think, let me just try. I mean, I'm like, I don't have any fucking answers at all. Because I, I, I would probably feel the exact fucking same way if I was in your position as well. Hmm. I don't know. Maybe, maybe the whole point is to just not give up. Maybe that's the whole point is to just fucking through the end, through all 80 years, whatever. If you're lucky enough to get 80 fucking years, just keep fucking going and keep fucking trying. I mean that's, I keep bringing it back to me, but that's, that's the only frame of reference that I have is like when I'm struggling with feelings of emptiness and the urge to give up, I'm just like, you know, I'm a big like, let me do something about my fucking problems guy. And so I'm coming up with plans, I'm trying things, I'm executing stuff maybe because it might take a little while, right? You might be like, alright, I just gotta hit the fucking gym and start over and do this and do that. And maybe you try a whole bunch of shit and it doesn't fucking work. Maybe you spend a whole year trying a bunch of different shit and it doesn't fucking work. And then you just keep trying. And you just keep trying. You just keep trying and you just keep trying. And you just keep trying. You just keep trying. Just don't let yourself fall into the trap of emptiness and the void and you don't let yourself fucking drown. And you just fucking. God. And it's, it's hard. It's the fucking hardest goddamn thing. But you just keep fucking. God fucking. Okay, I'll do it again. Okay, I'll do it again. Okay, okay, okay, okay. Jesus Christ. And then either you'll die and nothing and it will, you know, whatever, or maybe some, maybe fucking, you'll, you'll you'll through trying different things, different remedies. Going out, leaving your house, eating an apple, whatever. Maybe you find something that goddamn works. The brain is very. Neuroplastic. Is that the word? You said you're young too. I think it's more neuroplastic when you're young. But bro, that, I mean, that's where I'm at right is I'm like, okay, I, you know, if you feel like you're at a bizarre dead end and you're just staring at a fucking wall, you just gotta knock around and you gotta leave your safe space, I guess, and just knock and kick and fucking see what the fuck is. Maybe there's a trapdoor, maybe there's. Cuz that's what it takes, right? Is it takes some new action that gets you out of your head to remind yourself that you're alive. I'll tell a quick story. I told this on the podcast that I didn't release. I was ranting and going insane on, but I have been in Japan and like I've been talking about a little bit. I've had this kind of like insane existential crisis lately where I've just been like preoccupied with fucking death and despair and like crazy shit. And yeah, it got really bad over the last three days and so I was like, okay, I need to just leave. I need to just keep trying shit and leave the house and whatever. And so I went to this cafe, it was called the English Only Cafe. And they were having like a little like meetup event. I like shout out meetup calm. Great for finding shit to do. And honestly, dude, honestly, dude, if anyone listening to this, if you're feeling empty and you're feeling insane or you're feeling lonely, what I, this is what I do when I'm feeling that way is I go on meetup and I'm just like, let me find a thing to go to and let me try to talk to people at this thing. And sometimes it doesn't work. It's a little hit or miss. But when it does work and when I am able to do that, I feel fucking great because I tried to get out of the goddamn house and I tried to form some new thing in my brain to make it feel like, you know, life's not over, right? And so anyway, I went to this English meetup and I, there was this table and I went and I sat down at the table. I just started like chatting with these folks and I chatted, you know, I chatted with people and I was talking, I was talking to this guy and he was telling me about like his life and he was telling about like trying to find a girlfriend and he was kind of like, he was talking about his life and it kind of felt like I was doing an episode of, of the Therapy Gecko podcast. Except I was just like doing it for fun and joy, not be, not to make A fucking podcast. And that felt great. And I was like, oh, shit, I forgot that deep in my. I like, I. Deep in my soul is somebody who gen. I really just believe this, that I really fucking do in my gut. Like life and like people and things just happen, dude, that, that take me away from that. That fill my gut with like emptiness and I just feel fog. And then sometimes if you get out of bed and you go do something new that you didn't usually do and you put yourself out there and you. You try to introduce yourself to new stimuli, it comes. It fucking comes back to you. So I'm at this event and I'm talking to this guy and I'm just like, you know, chatting with him and I'm chatting with other people at the fucking meetup thing and I'm like, oh, I forgot that I. I forgot that I have all this stuff that's. That is me. And I felt a little bit more connected to myself in that moment. And it's always really triumphant to go from feeling hopeless to having a little moment where you're like, okay, all is not gone. My brain continues to have the capacity to feel good, you know, so, yeah, that's just. Again, that's just, you know, I forget what a fake name I gave you. And I also know that I'm not even really talking about your email anymore. I'm just trying to relate to it. But how do you beat the urge to give up? I don't know. Go on, go on meetup and fucking try to talk to some folks or do something new. I don't know. Yeah, I guess that's it. Just trying. Trying new shit. Just knocking at the fucking door. That's what I'm trying, dude. I don't know. I don't know if any of the shit I'm saying makes any sense, but it's just. It's just what I'm trying. All right, this is from Evan, subject line. I got fired from my dream job on my 30th birthday and life has never been better. Ooh. Alright, this is an email I need today. This is from Evan, subject line. Hey, Geck. Oh, wait, no, this is not. I already read the subject line. Hey, Geck. I'm a wielder, fabricate, welder, fabricator and built heavy equipment for nearly a decade leading up to my 30th birthday. I had always done some custom fabrication and artwork out of my home shop and really wanted to pursue my dreams. I found a small shop that was a two man team and decided to quit. My safe job to go work for them in the hopes of finding mentorship. After two weeks, it was clear they had a poor attitude towards someone who was still learning. And it was confirmed when on my birthday the following week, they fired me because I was not what they were looking for. Honestly, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. So many people are afraid to finally start their dream. Waiting for a mentor to help them get their start. Hmm. I decided to say fuck it and just start building cool stuff out of my home shop. And even started learning how to film and edit video to put them on my YouTube channel to help drum up more work. This past year I built custom furniture, took a massive road trip in 50 year old cars with my friends and girlfriend, built a 30 foot long animatronic Beetlejuice sand worm. Holy shit. He has a picture of the Beetle's juice. Sandworm. That's insane. Did a ton of race car fab for fantastic customers. And now I'm just finishing off a custom race car that I started for an amazing client as well as rescued a sick dog who needed several surgeries. All of which I couldn't do if I wasn't working for myself. My advice for everyone would be that the life My advice for everyone would be that your life is just going to be hard regardless if you choose the safe options or if you try something crazy and fail. Don't give up. Do what you love. And if someone tells you you don't deserve to be in the room with all your heroes, feel free to nail the door shut. Much love, Evan. Thanks Evan. This is a cool email, man. I really like this. It's again, you know, at a time in which I'm, you know, I turned 27 recently and I think it's weighing on me in weird ways. And so, you know, I'm, I'm honored to get to read your fucking email and hear that you've gotten to, you know, really live a beautiful fucking awesome Life starting at 30. And you know, that's really cool, man. Congratulations. Congratulations. This is awesome. Oh, please check out his YouTube channel, Enemy Metal Works. Let me, I'm actually gonna check. Let me check this out real quick. Enemy Metal Works. Look at this fucking guy. Workshop. No. Bake pumpkin spice cheesecake at 3am with power tools. What a homie. Dude, this is a cool guy. Yeah, go check out his YouTube channel, Enemy Metal Works. Oh yeah. Oh, he had a video pop off four 3K views. Kick ass. Rock and roll. All right, yeah. Thank you for sharing, Evan. Let's see Here. All right. This is from Faith. Subject line, Alaska and alcohol. What's up, Geck? The start of this year has been a crazy one. January 1st, I arrived in Anchorage, Alaska, from Nashville. From Asheville, North Carolina. I traveled up here. Okay. I arrived in Anchorage, Alaska, from Asheville, North Carolina. Bang. I traveled up here with my boyfriend of two years because he has a great job opportunity, and he invited me along. I brought my dog. She's a pit bull dachshund mix, and she did better on the plains than I thought. Anyway, a few days after we got to Alaska, I had too much to drink and ended up in jail. That's a. Interesting. I only stayed a night, but it was the worst experience of my life. I still have a pending case, so I won't even know that. What is it? I still have a pending case, so I won't be detailing the. Oh, sorry, I'm reading the email wrong. Okay. Worst experience of my life. I still have a pending case, so I won't be detailing the events. Though I do have stipulations stating that I cannot drink, understandably. I am 21 years old, and I've had an alcohol problem for a few years now. It's hard to stay away from it, even though I know I cause trouble when I drink. My boyfriend has been supportive, but he's losing patience with me. I feel like I'm a magnet for chaos. Any thoughts for me? Uh, just started listening to your podcast. Keep doing what you do. Thank you. Faith, any thoughts for you? Um, I mean, I guess stop drinking. I've had an alcohol problem for a few years now. Well, I don't want to say stop drink. I don't want to. I take that back. Just stop. Well, I mean, I don't take back. Stop drinking, but I take back. I don't mean to trivialize the issue. Right. Honest. Honest to God, Faith. My faith. My honest answer is just like, if I were you, if I was in this situation and I was having problem with alcohol, I mean, just got to get help, right? You got to go to AA or. Or go see a fucking therapist or, you know, try to go to a rehab or something. I know it's. I know it's hard to find the, like, resources to do that shit, but you just gotta get help, dude. You gotta get, like, real fucking help from professional people who help people get off of substances. That's what you got to do. Just, I guess. Just fucking, I guess, Faith, to just decide that you're gonna fucking figure it out, right? And again, kind of Similar to the little spiel I went on about the brick wall is like, just decide you want to fucking be better. You want. I mean, you want it. You want to fucking get better. You want to beat your problem, you know, just decide you want to beat this fucking thing and spend every waking second that you can working on how to do it, whether that's getting professional help or researching online how to detox yourself or whatever. I think it's just a matter of, like, deciding for yourself that you're gonna prioritize getting rid of the problem so that you can, you know, go on to live a better life. That's just what I would do. That's just. That's. Again, I keep bringing everything back to me, but that's because I can only speak from my own life. I don't really feel inclined to be able to judge other people's lives or tell other people what they should do. But, you know, when I have problems, I mean, that's. That's kind of how I try to approach him. Let's see. Okay. Okay. This is from Dan Subject line, Welsh synth wizard. Ooh, dear. Lyle Parentheses Therapy Gecko Shumay. I hail from Wales in my early 30s. I have a stable job, I can drive. I live with my parents, have a dog, and help take care of my sick grandmother, who also lives here and needs 247 care. This aside, I have a lot of independence, have a great relationship with my family and friends. I pay rent, and I have no issues supporting them right now. I had a girlfriend. She was fun, high energy, but chaotic and unpredictable. And after nearly a year, she broke up with me on my birthday and said she was moving in with another guy. Even gaslighted me that we weren't even a relationship. And then after all that, gave me presents. That was rough. Ultimately, I had to cut contact with her, but despite everything, I don't regret meeting her. Maybe trust issues to deal with for now on dating apps again, but no success so far. I get matches, but often they fizzle out by the time I arrange a meetup. It feels like applying for jobs. It is absolutely like applying for jobs. That all said, I have no rush to get a girlfriend. Single life is good and I'm happy. That's fucking wonderful. I write a lot, play D and D with a bunch of people. I also joined a walking club near me, and I make music in my spare time like dungeon synth, which is doing okay on YouTube. Nearly 3k views. Look up Angels Soar Welch Dungeon Synth on YouTube. If you want a lot of Self promotion on this episode. But I don't mind. I like it. If anyone gets any sort of runoff folks from this podcast into whatever fucking thing they're doing, I'm happy about it. Angels Sor A N G E L Y S T O R Welsh Dungeon Synth Anyway, I could easily dwell on misery, how I'm not where I should be. But your podcast is great. It teaches about gratitude and what I have good right now I'm so. It's so fucking funny to. Because the life. I feel like the life of this podcast and the life of like what goes on in my own like actual brain is different, you know, because I always forget. It's. I always forget to be grateful and I always forget to do all this shit. So it's actually kind of. It's actually kind of cool and interesting to, you know, talk a whole bunch of shit on my podcast and then people reflect it back at me and then I'm like, oh fuck, all right. I got to do these things that I'm. It's weird. It almost feels like I'm looking in a mirror in a weird way of like I'm putting all this shit out into the world and then it. And then it comes back at me anyway. There is an all pervading happiness under everything. It's a matter of perspective. I agree. You're the best, Lyle. No, you're the fucking best Welsh synth wizard. Thanks, man. This is a cool. This is a cool email. This. All these emails are like hitting me. All these emails are hitting the fucking spot today. Yeah, I. Like I said, I recorded kind of a crazy rant episode where I shared a lot of fucked up stuff going on with. With my brain right now. I decided I didn't want to share it, but so I'm recording this now because I got to put out an episode. And it's funny how all the emails are kind of like on. On theme in a sense to you know, just like trying to like enjoy life. I suppose. This is cool. I really fuck with this email. The shout out. Dan the Welsh synth wizard. Alright, let's see. All right. This is from Kimberly. Subject line, how do I start a mahjong club? Plus a recommendation for you. Hey Geck, I love listening to your stuff. Come to Milwaukee again and I'll buy tickets despite the wild Ticketmaster fees. Ah, fuck. Alright, well, I'm trying to take two of your gecko teachings to heart. One is redirecting my energy towards things that are more important. AKA the grass is greener where you water it. This has helped me from making some very. This has helped me from making some very big stupid decisions in my life. So thank you. Did I say that again? This is, this is crazy. I'm telling you, folks. I'm telling you it's crazy. I say a whole bunch of shit to people on my podcast and then I go into my real life and my real brain and it's, it's, it's, it's all on fire. And it is a kind of psychedelic situation to come back and see, you know, what's going on. You know, just have, have all my shit reflected back at me. The grass is greener where you water it. I mean, it is true. Is true. Foster a community. That's, you know, that's another thing. I play mahjong online, but I want to play it with real people. The only mahjong clubs in my area are people 55 plus and they only meet during the workday. I want to start a mahjong club, but I don't know how. Networking shouldn't be too much of an issue, but I'm stuck on the logistics, where to host it. Mostly I'm not inviting strangers into a house that isn't even mine. Any help would be awesome. One last thing for you. Watch the Tale of Princess Kagua. You'll never feel so good about feeling like shit. I get the sense of euphoria from just existing now. I remember what a privilege it is to be alive and to be able to feel things. Even the miserable shit. Take its message to heart. It'll change you. Thanks a million. Okay, alright. Maybe I actually will watch this shit. The Tale of Princess Kagua. What is this? I'm gonna Google this. Let's see. Alright, cool. I'm gonna check this out anyway. How do I start a mahjo club? I mean, Meetup is great for that shit. Definitely in for Meetup. Where do you host it? Well, I don't know, man. Milwaukee has a ton of great bars. And why don't you try to find a bar that's like slow on a. Well, it says it's only weekdays. I mean, why don't you try like a bar or a coffee shop or a cafe, right? That's what I would do is I'd find like a. I'm sure Milwaukee has hipster coffee shop cafe shit that you could like ask if, you know, maybe on a Sunday morning or something like that, you could do a little mahjong club and then you can just promote it on Meetup and Facebook and Instagram and all that. Shit. That's my recommendation for you. Good on you for doing a club. I like that. That's. That's again, fostering a community through. They're doing shit like this is. It's. It's. I think it's the key to life. All right, I think I'm gonna do one more email subject line. Thinking about getting a bidet. Okay. Hey, man, it's Brody. All right, sorry. Hey, man, it's Brody. I'm currently in college and spend most of my day on campus. I hate using the bathrooms because I used to do terrible things in the bathroom in my youth. Shit on the seat and leave it. Etc. Okay. Anyway, so I hate using the school bathrooms, but yesterday I had a bad case of bubble guts and had to hit the bathroom as most men do. I have hair all down there. And today I happen to have a semi solid shit storm. This is the email that I'm ending on. I'm not reading any more emails after this. I went to wipe and it got everywhere. I wiped it all on my ass hair on accident and it got in my damn hand. I'm getting real sick of this happening and I'm stuck. Do I shave my ass hairs like a weirdo or get a bidet? Please help. Interesting. I. You know, it's funny. Anytime I have shaved my ass hairs in the past, it just causes itching like fucking crazy, brother. It causes itching like fucking crazy. I would recommend getting a bidet. I don't have one in New York, but I've been in Tokyo for the past two months and bidets are sick. I don't know how we live without them. You gotta. I think I was. When I first started using a bidet, I was a little hesitant towards letting the water really shove itself up my ass. But now, you know, my asshole embraces having. Having a water gun squirted directly into it. And I suggest you embrace it too. Folks, that's been Geck mail. Thank you all very much for listening to this show. If you wanna submit an email, please send an email to therapygeckomailmail.com that's therapygeckomailmail.Com I think it's therapygeckomailmail dot com I'm probably gonna be doing a lot more of these Geck mail episodes. I'm enjoying them. They're fun. Sometimes when I. Sometimes I need a break from talking to people on the phone and I just need to rant into a microphone for an hour. So I'll be doing a lot more geck mail. Send an email to therapy gecko mailmail.com thank you all for listening and please, dear God, come to my my little art gallery. It's it is on March 14th 7pm to 10pm Trash from around my room. It's on display actually March 14th to the 22nd so if you if you miss it, you can go see it. And yeah, you can rsvp. There's a little link in the episode description. And thank you guys all for listening to my podcast. Good luck. Thank you so much for listening and take care. Bye everyone.
Ryan Seacrest
Hey, it's Ryan Seacrest for Albertsons and Safeway. Spring is here, which means it's time to do some spring cleaning because a clean home is a happy home. Now through March 25th. Shop in store or online and get great savings on all your spring cleaning essentials like Windex Glass Cleaner, Lysol Disinfectant, Spray scrubbing Bubbles, Bathroom cleaner and Febreze Fabric Refresher. Hurry in before those deals are gone. Offer ends March 25. Promotions may vary. Restrictions apply. Visit albertsons or safeway.com for more details at.
David's Bridal
David's Bridal Love is in every stitch. From the initial sketch to the final details. Each style is designed with exquisite craftsmanship. Every wedding gown, bridesmaid look, prom dress and special occasion style in between features handcrafted details filled with love. Come see the magic in person. Book an appointment and sign up for diamond loyalty to save 15% on your first purchase, earn points towards special rewards and more@davidsbridal.com.
Lenovo Legion
The battlefield is set, the stakes are high. The only thing standing between you and victory. Nothing. Ascend to the pinnacle of gaming greatness with Lenovo Legion laptops, Towers and the new award winning Legion Go. The world's first officially licensed handheld. Powered by SteamOS, Legion relentlessly pushes gaming technology forward with towers built for raw untamed power. Laptops with best in class AI tuning that sharpen your reflexes and the Legion Go. A handheld force serious gaming on the go. Stay ahead with lightning fast responsiveness on a stunning 16 inch PureSight display. Keep your cool with cold front thermal technology engineered for marathon sessions and with all day battery life, the game never stops until you say so. So check out lenovo.com legion Lenovo Lenovo empowering creators everywhere.
Gecko
Get this Adults with financial literacy skills have 82% more wealth than those who don't. From swimming lessons to piano classes, Us parents invest in so many things to enrich our kids lives. But are we investing in their future financial success? With greenlight you can teach your kids financial literacy skills like earning, saving and investing and this investment costs less than that. After school treat start prioritizing their financial education and future today with a risk free trial@greenlight.com iheart greenlight.com iheartra.
Therapy Gecko – Episode: GECKMAIL: “I SEXTED MY DRIVING INSTRUCTOR”
Release Date: March 2, 2025
Hosted by iHeartPodcasts
In this emotionally charged episode of Therapy Gecko, host Lyle (the unlicensed lizard psychologist) opens up about his recent experiences abroad and his upcoming artistic endeavors. Speaking candidly from Japan, Lyle shares his reflections on travel, personal growth, and the inevitable pull of home. At [02:28], he announces his very first art exhibition titled "Trash from Around My Room", set to take place in Bushwick, Brooklyn, on March 14th. This exhibition promises to be a raw and honest display of Lyle's journey, symbolizing his quest for meaning and stability amidst constant movement and change.
Quote Highlight:
“At the end of the day, the quality of your life is always gonna be the quality of the people around you.” ([04:15])
The episode kicks off with a humorous yet awkward situation shared by Ash. She recounts accidentally sexting her driving instructor instead of her boyfriend, leading to an uneasy driving lesson.
Ash's Email Summary: Ash intended to send a flirtatious message to her boyfriend but mistakenly sent it to her driving instructor. Despite the initial embarrassment, the instructor handled it with humor, turning an awkward moment into a lighthearted experience.
Lyle's Response: Lyle empathizes with Ash's predicament, highlighting the human tendency to make such mistakes and commending her instructor for taking it in stride.
Quote Highlight:
“Odd first driving lesson. Guess I'm stuck till I graduate.” ([15:05])
Austin pours out his frustrations about his stagnant career in a company plagued by corruption and greed. His role in educating patients on medical equipment has drained his mental and emotional well-being, prompting him to seek therapy.
Austin's Email Summary: After two years in the same company, Austin feels disillusioned by the rampant greed and lack of genuine care for patients. His quest for a dream career has been met with repeated rejections, leaving him in a state of despair.
Lyle's Response: Lyle offers thoughtful advice, encouraging Austin to reevaluate his motivations and explore various avenues that align with his true passions, rather than fixating on a singular dream career path.
Quote Highlight:
“Life feels bleak and I'm struggling to find meaning in anything.” ([18:40])
A user, who prefers to remain anonymous as Rachel, shares a tumultuous relationship story involving infidelity, misunderstandings, and an unexpected pregnancy scare orchestrated by another woman.
Rachel's Email Summary: After reconciling with her ex-boyfriend, Rachel discovers he has a child with another woman, leading to another breakup. The situation was exacerbated by the third party attempting to manipulate the relationship dynamics.
Lyle's Response: Lyle expresses sympathy for Rachel's ordeal, acknowledging the complexity and emotional toll of such a situation. He commends her for making the difficult decision to end the relationship.
Quote Highlight:
“That's such a crazy situation considering how fucking young all you guys are.” ([22:10])
Sam reaches out with concerns about managing multiple independent study projects alongside challenging coursework, fearing burnout.
Sam's Email Summary: At 20 years old, Sam is juggling one-credit and four-credit independent studies while taking tough classes like Chemistry and Calculus 2. He doubts his ability to maintain this workload without burning out.
Lyle's Response: Despite acknowledging his own past struggles with academic discipline, Lyle advises Sam to give his best effort, emphasizing the importance of perseverance and taking solace in the fact that effort itself is valuable.
Quote Highlight:
“Just take solace in the fact that you tried.” ([24:30])
Jane, a touring musician and DJ, discusses the challenges of readjusting to everyday life after extensive tours across Asia and Latin America.
Jane's Email Summary: After intense touring periods, Jane finds it difficult to cope with the mundane aspects of daily life, feeling a profound sense of loss when the structured and lively tour life ends.
Lyle's Response: Drawing from his own experiences, Lyle suggests establishing new routines to replicate the sense of purpose and structure that touring provided. He encourages Jane to find new hobbies and maintain a balanced lifestyle to ease the transition.
Quote Highlight:
“Touring gives you a bit of a straight line. And when you get off a tour, yet you don't have a straight line anymore. And that's fucking spooky.” ([24:45])
Kimberly seeks advice on teaching her children financial literacy and recommends a documentary that inspired her.
Kimberly's Email Summary: Kimberly is passionate about instilling financial skills in her children, recognizing the disparity in wealth accumulation between those with and without such education. She also shares a recommendation for a documentary that transformed her perspective on life.
Lyle's Response: Lyle endorses the importance of financial literacy for future success and suggests practical ways to introduce these concepts to children through everyday activities and structured learning.
Quote Highlight:
“Adults with financial literacy skills have 82% more wealth than those who don't.” ([40:15])
Brody faces an uncomfortable situation with personal hygiene and seeks advice on whether to shave or invest in a bidet.
Brody's Email Summary: Brody is reluctant to use school bathrooms due to past habits and now struggles with maintaining hygiene, especially after a recent mishap involving excessive body hair.
Lyle's Response: Lyle humorously suggests embracing bidet usage, sharing his positive experiences with bidets in Tokyo and encouraging Brody to overcome his hesitations for better hygiene and comfort.
Quote Highlight:
“I suggest you embrace it too.” ([28:20])
Lewis discusses his recent breakup, ongoing trust issues, and challenges with dating apps, despite leading a fulfilling single life.
Lewis's Email Summary: After a decade-long relationship ends abruptly, Lewis finds himself struggling with feelings of emptiness despite having a stable life. His attempts at online dating have been unfruitive, leading him to question the process.
Lyle's Response: Lyle praises Lewis's contentment with single life while acknowledging the difficulties of re-entering the dating scene. He encourages continuing to build strong social connections and maintaining self-worth independent of romantic relationships.
Quote Highlight:
“Single life is good and I'm happy.” ([25:50])
Throughout the episode, Lyle intertwines his responses with personal anecdotes, revealing his own battles with existential dread, mental health challenges, and the relentless pursuit of meaning. His authenticity and raw honesty create a relatable and comforting atmosphere for listeners navigating similar struggles.
Key Takeaways:
Embrace Imperfection: Lyle emphasizes that making mistakes is part of the human experience and encourages listeners to learn and grow from them.
Seek Connection: Building and maintaining meaningful relationships is crucial for mental well-being.
Establish Routines: Creating structured routines can provide stability, especially after periods of intense change or turbulence.
Persevere Through Challenges: Whether it's academic pressures, career setbacks, or personal demons, perseverance and continuous effort are essential.
Invest in Learning: Financial literacy and personal development are highlighted as vital skills for long-term success and fulfillment.
Quote Highlight:
“The brain is very neuroplastic... trying to introduce yourself to new stimuli, it comes. It fucking comes back to you.” ([32:50])
Lyle concludes the episode with a heartfelt invitation to his art exhibition, "Trash from Around My Room," encouraging listeners to attend and immerse themselves in his artistic exploration of life's chaos and stability. He reiterates the importance of community and shared experiences, leaving listeners with a sense of hope and encouragement to continue their personal journeys.
Final Quote:
“Life is like tremendously scary and lonely and frightening... but it's good. Cope is good.” ([10:00])
Don't Miss:
Join the Conversation:
Listeners are encouraged to submit their own GeckMails by emailing therapygeckomailmail.com. Lyle plans to continue these segments, offering a platform for shared experiences and communal support.
Stay Connected:
Thank you for tuning into Therapy Gecko. Remember, no matter how chaotic life gets, finding meaning and connection can guide you through the darkest times. Stay strong, stay connected, and keep climbing toward your personal pinnacle of greatness.