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Hey, what's up? How's it going? My name is Lyle. I'm a gecko sometimes and this is geck mail. I made an Instagram store story where I asked people to send me mail. Not like literal mail but email with stuff with words. You know. It's kind of will be like the regular podcast except it's just me, you know How? Normally there's a lot of podcasts out there where it's two people having a conversation. And that's what a lot of my podcast is normally. But today my podcast is gonna just be me ranting a lot while looking at things that other people have said. It's gonna be like a monologue podcast, but I will be reading viewer mail. It's almost like, like, like reading those Reddit stories, except instead of posting them to Reddit, people email them to me. That's what people used. That's what people used to do before they could post their stories on Reddit. They just said them. They didn't. They emailed them to people or they just said them. I'm off one right now. I'm gonna go on a rant today. I'm not holding it. I've decided this. This episode of Geck Mail, I'm not holding anything back. All right? I'm gonna give my true opinions on things. Normally I'm scared. Normally I'm like. I don't want to give my opinions because. Not even because I'm afraid of people getting mad at me. Serious, Seriously. Not even because I'm afraid of people getting mad at me, but more so because I think as time has gone on, I've just developed this, like, deep agnosticism towards fucking everything. You know, towards every. There's some things that. That agnosticism hasn't touched, but. But it's touched a lot of stuff. The older I get, the more I learn through my own personal experience, the less I feel like I fucking know about anything. That's the main reason why I don't give a lot of strong opinions. Or at least try not to give a lot of strong opinions. But I'm not gonna do that today. I'm gonna not be agnostic today. I think the world needs a little bit more Agnosticism, in a sense, is. But that's an opinion in and of itself. Alright, fuck this. This. That was the. That was too long of an intro. Thanks for listening to this podcast. This is gonna be like an hour and a half of me rambling. And I think it's gonna be fun. I think we're gonna have a good time. I drank a cup of coffee and we have some good emails that we're gonna listen to. So let's do a Geck mail. Okay, this first one is called. This is from Soup Corn, and the subject line is, I don't like my home country of Japan. Hello, Therapy Gecko. I met you one time in Shibuya at A show. It was a fun experience. So thank you for coming. Yes, I did a show a couple times in Shibuya, Tokyo, that was fucking fun. All right. Anyway, this is just a dump about what I thought about today. I don't know what I should do with my life. I'm an architecture student from Japan and I am on study abroad. I don't like Japan in terms of the work culture. The people who are too shy to talk to each other, having to play the mind games, read the room, who's greater and better every single minute. Yeah, in. I've talked about Japan. I feel like a bunch on the show. Japan has a crazy work culture and it also has. There's a name for this. Dude, hold on. There's a name for this. I'm gonna google this Japanese term for outward verse, inward expression. There's a word for this. Okay, here it is. I think. I think it's called tata mae, the public facade, what you say and do outwardly to maintain social harmony and expectations. And then honey, which is like your true inner feelings. And so I think like, yeah, in Japanese, like work culture from what I understand. I mean, I'm a fucking white American guy, but from what I understand is that there's a very strong culture of like, do not say what you feel and keep it inside to maintain social harmony. So there's a lot of. I think what this emailer is talking about is. Yeah, having to play those mind games and having to. And also like social hierarchy and order it. Like there's. This is more important over there. Like there's this thing when you go out to drinks with your boss. Like it's expected that you go out to drinks with like your co workers and the people you work with, even after work hours. And there's a weird thing where like when you clink your glass, your superior, you have to make sure that if your boss's glass is like above yours, like, you have like a lot of respect for hierarchy and whatnot. Okay, so I don't like the work culture. I don't like having to play these mind games. But I love the designs, some music, fashion and the architecture that the Japanese produce. They're so funny, diverse, elegant, chaotic yet orderly. I want to get out of Japan, but I like Japan. I want to live doing design, but I also want money. And being an architect isn't the best choice if you want to be rich. Is that true? I thought architects make a lot of money. Is that not true? Okay, I would. I'm going to guess this person Is true. Okay. I just want to live my life reading books, watching movies, going to museums, travel sometimes learn new things and design stuff. Maybe it's just the work life, the adult life that I'm scared of. Not Japan, necessarily. Interesting, Interesting. That could be true. I guess that I tend to compare myself with other people, especially people from high school. I get anxious when I'm talking to the people who went far, full business. I feel their ideology is fit for society. They have a clear goal, a motive, and already starting up the ladder. Interesting. Okay, so this person gets anxious when they talk to people who kind of went straight up, you know, they were like, all right, I'm gonna go to school, I'm gonna get the job. I'm gonna respect my elders. I'm gonna, you know, fit in. In to the way that society wants me to conform. I'm still deciding on which ladder to take. I might be too scared or too greedy to decide what to do. The study abroad is hard, but so fun for me. I am having a great experience in the city. I am studying at the moment. The people are usually helpful and easier to talk to than in Japan. But I'm different here as a guest. Wait, ah, this person. I don't think this person put where they are studying. I'm gonna get where I'm gonna guess they're studying in America. I mean, I don't. Maybe they could be studying in Europe or Australia or Canada or whatever. That's just me being fucking America bias. It's like, yeah, they're studying abroad. Of course, if you're. What, you're gonna go to another country, you're gonna go someplace that's not America. Okay? The people are usually helpful, easier to talk to than in Japan. But I'm here as a guest. My chances to get a job here after study abroad are very, very low. I have not heard about it. I think being a guest and being. I think being a guest versus being a resident gives you different lenses. Or maybe I am in that period where you can oversee someone's flaws because they are your crush or something. Okay, this. This seems more American now. Yes, this seems now more American. This. That's. That's. That is, I guess, a little bit of America as you kind of. You fall in love with it, I guess. Why did I say that? You fall in love with it. You go over and you're like, oh, there's a lot of cool stuff here, but it is a honeymoon phase. And then you're like, oh, wait, there's actually a lot of flaws. But it's like that with everywhere. I mean, shit, for me, it was like that with Japan, you know, I mean, you go to Japan and it's like, wow, everything's cleaner, everything's nicer, everything's fucking sick. And then you're like, wait, why is it like that? And then you start to start to learn about all this kind of like societal conditioning and whatnot. Okay? Or maybe I'm in that period where you can oversee someone's flaws because they are your crush or something. Nah, Japan is still kind of shit. Okay? That's the whole email from Soup Corn. I don't know. They bring up a lot of interesting things. There's a lot of information that's missing from this email that I'm. That is. Would be important to ponder it. Like, where did they go? But you know what I'll say, this Soup Corn, is that the, the first of all, you're not alone. You're not alone at all. And everyone, everyone knows you're not alone in the desire to do. Like. You're not alone in the sense that you see this path ahead of you that all your like, classmates are taking and friends are taking and you see what's up, right? Especially in a. In a culture like Japan. And you see this traditional route and you look at it and you're like, ah, man, is this, Is this it? Is this what I gotta do? And you're like, is there anything else? And you're. And it's not only that, right? It's not only that. It's that you see other people. Not, not that you see other people who feel the same way as you, but submit to it. You fucking see other people who don't question it and don't think about it and are fine with it. And that is, I think what makes you anxious is you're like, fuck, you know, I'm, I'm. Why am I, why am I cursed with wanting something more? And my friends are totally down to just like, you know, suck up to a boss and, and take the, take this traditional route. And let me tell you something, it's a, It's a blessing and a curse. And you know, I've. I've never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever in my life, you know, from. I mean, from like fucking elementary school, man, like thought that I was gonna get go into science or, or medicine or law or like anything traditional. I'm. This is a hard one to draw from my personal experience because I just feel like I got. I feel like I got really lucky with A lot of ways that my life turned out in this kind of regard, but also, if I hadn't gotten lucky, I would. I probably would have just kept trying different shit until I got lucky. But it's tough. There's lots and lots and lots of times in my life and I'm not even. And you know, I mean, take career out of it, right? You know, I mean, look at like life in general. There's a certain kind of brain that just is like, I want more out of this. Although this person, they said they just want to read books, watch movies, go to museums, travel sometimes learn new things and design stuff. Can you not find just like some job? I don't know. I don't know what is available in Japan. Maybe you would have to leave Japan also. I could. This person is probably young. This person's probably like 19, 20, 21. Try going somewhere. I don't know where you can go. I don't know where you can go, but you could go somewhere. America. I know America is, sucks and it's hard to get into and is expensive, but like, I don't know what's up, what's up in Canada. Do they, do they let people go to Canada? I feel like I'm not being helpful to this person at all, but I have a lot of thoughts about it. If all you want to do is read books, watch movies, go to museums, travel sometimes learn new things and design stuff, as you said, you can totally, totally be like, okay, like, like it's like, sit down, do some googling, do some research and just be like, what fucking job can I do that makes the most amount of money with the least amount of work? Like, how many. There's gotta be some bullshit jobs out there that you can just like do your bullshit thing for money, then live your life. That's a, that's a big thing, is that you don't have the thing you do for money. Doesn't have to be your fucking life and your. How you define yourself. So you probably have a lot of friends who are like, I. It's really important to me to climb the corporate ladder and to succeed and to do a good job. And that doesn't have to be you. It doesn't have to be you. You can just, you can, you can work at some fucking coffee shop for as little hours as you need to to pay some humble amount, some humble lifestyle. You live with roommates, you know, live cheap and just fucking live your life, man. If that's what you want to do, if that's what you want to do? Okay. I don't know if any. I don't know if that was helpful at all. Let's keep going. Oh, this is from the same person. Okay. This person sent me multiple. Alright, this is from the same person, but it's kind of interesting. Okay. This is also from Soup Corn. I told my Muslim friend her favorite cake has alcohol. Hi. So my friend decided to buy some cake and said I can have some. I take some and went home. Later that day I had a bite and realized it had an alcoholic flavor. So I thought this was her first time eating it. Maybe she doesn't know about this. So I call her telling her that there is some alcohol, 9% wine. But the thing is she already had a bite. In fact, it was her favorite cake to buy at the supermarket. She didn't know there was alcohol in it before. But now that she knows, she probably feels guilty religiously. She can't eat her favorite cake anymore. I feel so bad. Should I have not told her about this or was this the right thing to do? What can I do to make it up? Is this. Okay? So this is the same guy who. From Japan who was talking about wanting to leave. I feel bad for this person because this. This guy's Soup Corn is the name of this emailer. This guy's mind is so I feel. But I. This is this guy's brain. If this is a guy, I'm gonna. I'll just assume it is. This guy's brain is so anxious that he thinks that it's. That it's somehow his fault that this cake has alcohol in it. That this. His friend bought. Like he. It's almost like. Like he, like he's acting as if he fucking like gave her the cake without knowing she bought him the. He's acting like he gifted her cake and it had alcohol in it and he fucked her up. But he's just informing her as a friend that the cake has alcohol in it and now he feels bad about informing her of reality. That is helpful for her. Soup Corn. If you're listening to this podcast, I think you needed strong internal mindset shift because you're. If you're doing this with cake, you're probably doing this with the rest of your life of just believing that you're somehow guilty of all. Everything, which is you can't live life like that. It's gonna fuck you up. Yeah, you have. There's no reason at all to feel bad about this. You're in. You're helping your friend by informing her that this Cake has. I mean, it's a bummer for her, but it's not your. It's a bummer for her, but it's not your fault. It's like. It's like if you. It's like if you told your friend that it was going to rain today and then you felt bad that it was gonna rise if you fucking made it rain. Can't be so hard on yourself. Super corn. Alright, this one is from Gabby. Subject line. My dad can't stop marrying women he meets off the Internet. Hi, Geck, My name is Gabby. I am 21 and my father is on marriage number four since 2022. For some context, his first wife was an arranged marriage and he ended up leaving her and their daughter three years in for my mom. Him and my mom met through the Internet in 2003. Wow, that's pretty early for meeting on the Internet. My dad was disowned from his family because of the divorce and moved from India to the US to be with my mom. They were together for 17 years, but he cheated on her a lot and they got divorced like three times throughout my childhood. My mom unfortunately passed away in 2020 and the dating started immediately. With no concern for his grieving children. He has a pattern of finding women that do not live close to where he's living at all, talking to them for weeks to a month and FL flying us all out to meet them for the first time. That's crazy. I mean, I guess you get. Hopefully. Hopefully these women live in cool places that you get to go to. Bringing them expensive gifts, buying them cars, apartments, paying for their children's college, and then proposing to them only to get heartbroken. Months after the most notable wife he had lived in Chicago, he flew out to meet her for the first time by himself after two weeks of talking to her, and that weekend he was there, he got her an apartment in downtown Chicago. Jesus Christ. And as soon as he got back, he told us she was moving in with us the following week. Wait, he got her an apartment? And then. Fucking. But if you got her an apartment. Well, first of all, what does your dad do for a living? Dude, your dad is. Anyway, as soon as he moving in with you guys, if she. He's got her an apartment in Chicago. Anyway, I'm going to speedrun the rest of the story, but basically this woman and her daughter moved in, did not speak to any of us unless if it was to ask about our dad's dating history. Two weeks in, they both went to Chicago for the weekend and came Back engaged without any of our knowledge. And then they eloped at the courthouse the same week. Anyway, I really don't like her, and my dad was forcing us to be extra nice to her and her daughter and give them special treatment and just kind of would go do things without us to make them feel more welcome. And then the fighting started and they started a divorce, like, three months in. She moved back to Chicago to an apartment he was paying for four with her car. Okay, I'm going to just keep going. I'm going to skip a lot of this. He was tracking her in her car and got a second apartment in Chicago to be close to her, and it was awful. He was heartbroken and a mess for months. I can't be. He would say things like, I can't be a good dad to you guys if I'm not happy. He would leave my siblings alone in the house for weeks and tell them to just door dash. I was living on my own at that point because I could not take it anymore and had no knowledge of him leaving them. Anyway, his other marriages don't go so great either, but. Yeah. Hope this helps. Love you, Geck. Hope this helps. What helps? This helps. Well, I don't know what you mean by hope this helps, but. Okay, yeah, that's a loaded thing. That's. Yeah. Your dad. God, I hope. Yeah, that's. I really hope this isn't me when I'm 50. I really hope it's not me when I'm 50. I, it, I, I, it might be. It might be me when I'm 50. This might just be me when I'm 50 years old is like, just, you know, being, like, being that, Being, like now, I don't think I would abandon my kids. But if I had, like, if I was, like, 55 or if I was, like, if I was, like, in my 60s and I had, like, grown kids that were on their own and I had a dead wife, I'd probably. I would also probably just start meeting. Marrying women from the Internet randomly at 60. I mean, when you get to lose. It's 60 anyway. Yeah, that's crazy. Your dad sounds like a. I mean, that's crazy, right? Because if your dad's. You're, like, 21. Your dad's probably in his, like, 50s, 60s. Can you fix your life? You dad's probably been that guy forever. That's the weird thing about getting older. That's a weird thing. When you meet people who are, like, in their 50s and 60s, you know, they just like that they're they. They have been that way for most of their life and will probably continue to be that way forever. But I'm glad you're out of the house at least and you're not like, dealing with all this bullshit. I feel bad for your siblings. I don't have. I don't have advice on any of this, but it was interesting to read. Okay. This is from Doug. Subject line, baloney and cake. Hey, Geck, I just ate an entire ice cream cake, and now I'm feeling sick, but I kind of want to do it again. I also just smoked and a fried. I also just made a smoked and fried baloney sandwich and it smells great. Also. I saw you in Dallas last year. That's the whole email sounds awful. Actually, it sounds awesome. That's the thing, man. That's what sucks about Food is fucking great in the moment. And then afterwards it's like, this is. Was a horrible decision, man. God. Eating it into I. That's the thing. I could do it. I could eat an entire ice cream cake, easy. I could do it easily. If you put an entire ice cream cake. If you put an ice cream cake in front of me right now, I could eat the whole thing easily. You know, I could eat a whole piece of. I could just keep going until there would be no stop. That's the problem with food, your body. I think my body has evolved to a point where it's. And it won't tell itself to stop. You have to manually stop. You have to use your higher human consciousness to stop. But I don't know. This guy seems like he's doing a pretty. He's. He's taking it in stride. Okay, let's see. This is from Sabha Sheba. Subject line is so antsy. Hello, dearest Lyle. I'm feeling so antsy all the time, and I don't know what to do about it. I've always been pretty introverted and enjoyed my time alone, but now I can't do it anymore. I've met such cool people this summer, and now all I want to do is meet people. Because isn't that the point of life, to make connections? I mean, I'm still autistic and thus socially inept, but I do enjoy meeting people. But now when I'm alone in my room, or alone in general, I get so lonely and feel the need to get a tattoo or piercing or take a risky walk down a dark alleyway or text someone I shouldn't text just for some kind of feeling. It's so lonely being alone. And I don't know how I suddenly became uncomfortable being alone. I don't like it when I'm alone. I feel like I'm unlovable for some reason. Idk, Idky, man. It's weird and irrational. Any words of wisdom or words in general will be nice. Thanks, man. By the way, I'm a college aged woman for context. Well, first of all, you know, I agree with you. I think meeting people and making connections is one of the biggest points of life and. Yeah, I know what you mean. And I, you know, I mean, everyone has their own thing when it comes to like how they cope with loneliness, you know, I mean, I've sought comfort in, you know, food and pot and, you know, porn and all these things or. Yeah, or texting someone I shouldn't text or something like that. And how do you deal with it? I mean, I think it's a question of, it's just, this is a question of putting yourself out there, right? I mean, you said you met such cool people this summer. How did you do that? How did you meet these cool people? Do more things that put you around in spaces with other people? There's a lot. That's the thing, right, is like life rewards you for just doing things really, you don't even have. That's, this is, this is honest, honestly. This is one of, this is one of the main lessons I've learned and I, and I need to apply this in my life more often. This is key, is that life doesn't reward you for making the right choices because there's no such thing as the right choices. But life rewards you every time for doing stuff. It doesn't, it's. You don't need, you don't need to do the right stuff. You just have to do stuff. If you sit at home alone and jerk off and do nothing, you will, there will be no rewards to you. But if you do anything, you don't have to do the right thing. You don't have to meet the right people, you don't have to make the right. If you just fucking do anything, you get, you'll just get rewarded. So you have to just do something. I don't know where you live or where you are, but there's probably other people there. So just think of something you can do. Like, I mean, you know, we've talked about this a bunch on here, like go to a fucking event. I would avoid the dark alleyways. I don't know you, I'm gonna guess that you're like a alt kind of a lady, you know, what about going to, go to, go to shows, go to the fucking dark carnival or whatever. Go to the DeviantArt meetup, whatever it is. Go to something. Go to something, though. There's plenty of like, ulti. Autistic young people in wherever city that you are that you can meet up with and hang out with, but you just got. You got to go to where they are and you got to find that out and you got to do the truly minimal amount of work that is required to figure out where those places are. The real work is in the hole, is in the, you know, putting on clothes and getting outside and going, doing the thing. But the more you put yourself out there, the less time you spend in your room and the more time you spend out in the universe, you'll just get rewarded naturally. Naturally. You don't even have to worry about, like, doing the right shit. So you don't have to worry about. You don't have to worry about saying the right things. Even when talking to people. You don't have to worry about saying the right things. You have to worry about the fact that you're trying to say anything at all to anyone. You know, that's how I feel about relationships and friendships and dates and whatnot. You have to. You just have to keep throwing yourself out there and eventually you'll get rewarded. So, I mean, that's my, that's my advice, man. It's just to leave your house. You know, don't. It's good that you're uncomfortable being alone. You should be right. The point of life is you want to make connections and you want to live a life that you're proud of and happy with. And, you know, you don't want to look at the highlight reel of your life. You're sitting around not doing anything. So go. Just leave the house. So many opportunities to leave the house. Get out of. Get out of the house, man. Okay, let's see here. This is from Francesco. Subject line words. Dear Gecko, I am a listener. Whenever my podcast backlog gives me some time to listen to the other listeners ramblings, I really appreciate it, even if sometimes I wish the episodes were a little bit shorter so that they could be around the ballpark of 30 to 40 minutes per episode. I people, I, I. You make the episodes short, and people want them long. You make them long. People want them short. Folks, I'm telling you, do whatever you want with your fucking life. People will. People will complain about whatever you do. There's no right a. That's right. That's Literally, to add on to what I just said, just do something. Because people are always. There's always. There's no right thing to do. That's why you can never ask your. That's why you can't ask your audience what kind of episodes they want to listen to or what kind of content they want. Because there's always gonna be there. You always have to just do whatever it is that you want to do. Anyway, that's. I'm rambling. Okay. Anyway, whatever. I'm gonna skip this. My life is a mess. I guess I. Okay. My life is a mess. I guess I lost my dream as I was going, and then I somehow got back on track. But it's not the same thing. And I can't seem to be able to let go of the past. Every time I feel down, I tend to do these things, boil in remorse for previous bad life choices, work mindlessly to forget my problems, and then at the peak of stress and self loathing, I treat others poorly. The effect is that every day I sink deeper in mud and then regret how poorly I behaved to others. Repeatedly, every day for months on end, blaming myself for everything and fearing the consequences of my actions. Sometimes even after I said I'm sorry and I truly am. Because broken things can never be fixed to their original state. Now, you might be saying, if you are aware of this, why don't you just stop? Apparently, it's not something that I can control entirely. If you have any advice for me, it will be welcome and I thank you in advance for it. Have a great day and good luck for the future of your project. Keep up the good work. Thank you, Francesco. Okay, hold on. I'm gonna try to digest this real quick because this is very vague. My life is a mess. I lost my dream as I was going and got back on track. I can't seem to be able to let go of the past. Okay, so we got remorse for bad life choices, forgetting problems. Look, I mean, there's a lot of stuff here, right? I'm sure. What are you doing when you mean you're poorly, behave poorly to others. Like, I'm curious what you're doing. And we've all had that happen. Like you youu, your emotional state drives your actions and you're like, oh, fuck, I was just being a dick. You know, and then you. And then you work harder on controlling your emotions and controlling your fucking, you know, to the best of your ability. And you, you try to. You kind of try to wrangle it all in, right? But yet you Can't. You can't boil in remorse. You can't do that. You can't do that. Francesco, you. You. There's so much opportunity in the world for. Again, I'm gonna make this the theme of the episode. Just do things. Life rewards you for just doing things. And there will always forever, no matter what previous bad choices you made in your life, there will always be an infinite amount of things to do. There will always be an infinite amount of things to fucking dwell on from the past. So, Francesca, I mean just. You can't dwell on the past. You can't. You just can't dwell on the past. Also, nobody ever does. Nobody ever does everything perfectly. Nobody ever does anything perfectly. Nobody. Nobody ever fucking did everything perfectly. And by the way, a few people. Here's the thing, actually, that's not true. A few people did. A few people have been perfect and amaz. There's a few Ned Flanders is out there who just. They were awesome the entire time and they made all the right choices and they're rich and amazing and they've never done anything. They never said anything bad to anyone or done anything bad to anyone. And they made all their perfect life choices and they sleep well at night and they never. That all their thought, the quality of their thoughts is amazing. Those people totally exist. But that's. They're good. Good for fucking them. It's not the majority. It's really not the majority. The majority of people probably live with some regret or remorse over actions in the past, over whether over how they hurt other people or how they hurt themselves or like people are reminisce about what life could have been or they live lives of quiet desperation. It's part of the human experience. You're not alone in this, right? So what you're experiencing is life. This is. You're not. You were never gonna do everything perfectly. That's not. It's not within you. That's. That's. That's like. I mean, that's. That's why people love Jesus, is because he apparently was amazing and did. It was awesome and he turned water into wine and shit and fucking was. Everyone, everyone liked him. But that's not you. You're not Jesus. None of us are Jesus. And we were never going to be. We were all going to be fickle, weird, imperfect people in a fickle, weird, imperfect, complicated world. And you have to accept that none of your choices were ever going to be the perfect ones. You knew. You did what you could with the knowledge you had at the time. So, like fucking Just, just stop bathing and like masturbating in the shame and the fear and the guilt and the. Just stop. You're like showering in it every day for no reason. It helps no one. It doesn't help. It doesn't help you become a better person for yourself or for the other people around you. And it just, like, why? Like why? Why? By the way, I totally bathe in shame and guilt and self loathing all the time. That's why I'm able to go on this rant to you. I feel really good in this moment and in general, I, I'm, I'm pretty good at, I think, like moving on and you know, like, just, you know, whatever. If I was like, ah, fuck, I should have done differently in that situation or I should have done differently in that situation. I've gotten, over the years, I've gotten pretty good at not dwelling too hard on things because as life goes on, I realize that you only have the information that you have. And you gotta, you gotta be quick to forgive yourself for bad life choices. I mean, don't be too quick that you don't learn your lesson. You want to learn your lesson and you want to not, you know, repeat shit that, to keep harming yourself. I do that too. I have plenty of lessons that I refuse to learn, I guess. But every, but every year of my life, I. It's, it's like, it's like a stock. It like goes up and down and up and down, but it trends upwards as I get, as I get older and live and do more things that I notice that I'm better at. What, what is a term for this? Error correction. Life is error correction. And as I get older and as I do more things, I get better at the error correction. So life is error correction, meaning you do things and then you see how the things that you do affect you and affect other people. And as you do things, you, you err to err is human. And then you correct those errors. So you have to allow, you have to understand that these errors that you made are not bugs. They're part of the process of being a human being is you. You, you. You error and then you correct and you learn. And sometimes you get. If you're someone, you let your emotions really fucking take hold of you, you forget all of your error correction and you submit to the desires of the emotion that is currently possessing your body like a demon. And that's something to wrangle. If you're, if you're someone that lets emotions possess your body. Like a fucking demon. But life. Life is just error correction. So when you look back at your life, Francesco, at the errors, just. Just flip the mindset, because right now you're looking back at the errors, and you go, oh, I committed all these errors. I flipped up. I made all these bad choices, and I fucked up, which means that I'm. I'm. I'm done. And I was never gonna be anything. And I. Because, you know. Because the best version of me would have never made those errors. And so you dwell and you dwell and you dwell and you dwell and you. The error. Because the errors were inevitable. Because you're a human being doing things. The errors were inevitable, okay? So understand that they were inevitable. But then now what's in your agency is to just. To correct them and learn from them and also understand that they're gonna keep happening. You're gonna make bad choices until you die. You're gonna make bad choices until you die. Probably you'll get better at making. At. You'll. At having them be less bad and probably less frequent, but you'll never be perfect. You'll never be James Bond. You'll never have the right. You know what I hate? I saw this movie. I'm gonna go on. I'm on such a rant. Whatever. I don't care. I hope people are enjoying listening to the. I saw this movie, the F.1 movie. I wasn't gonna see it, but there's some people go. And I went. And I hated it so much. Has anyone. Has anyone seen the F.1 movie? I fucking hated that fucking movie so much. I promise is related. It's by that guy Jerry, I think. Jerry Bruckheimer. Right? Jerry Bruckheimer. He made Top Gun Maverick. Did he make the. Did he make the original Top Gun too? I never saw the original Top Gun, but I saw Top Gun Maverick, and I saw F1, and I thought. And I. And by before. I know that the point is that the movies are supposed to not be realistic, but I fucking hate those movies because in those movies, I hate those movies because they're perfect. I know. That's the point. That's the point. I'm gonna spoil the F.1 movie. If you are gonna watch the F.1 movie, then you can skip ahead, But I'm gonna spoil it because who care, okay? In the F.1 movie, everyone just has the perfect thing to say. You know, every character enters the room at the perfect time. Everyone has. There's no awkward. There's no, like, you know, someone mumbles and they said, what? And then Someone goes, oh, sorry, I didn't hear you. Do you think, should we know? Everything's perfect. Everything's written so that it was a perfect thing that is said. And you know what happens in F1. Here's the thing. I'm. Here's the spoiler. They win the race. Because of course they win the race. There's this part of the F1 movie where the Brad Pitt's character is, like, talking to the love interest and he's like, man, I don't even care if I win this race anymore. You know, I used to be so obsessed with the trophies. I used to be so obsessed with, you know, getting the accolades and the money. But then I realized all it was about was the racing. It doesn't even matter if I win. Which would have been great, you know, if it weren't for the fact that he wins the fucking race at the end of the. Have him not win the race then. Anyway. Okay, I'm. Hold on. I knew that this was real. This is why this is related. Because life is not a Jerry Bruckheimer movie. That's why I talked about this. Life is not a Jerry Bruckheimer movie where everything is perfect and you always say the fucking right thing and you always win the race. Life is weird and gross and awkward and uncomfortable, especially if you're a person who thinks and feels in some deep sense. And that's a blessing and a curse. Embrace it. So embrace the. The uncomfortability of your errors. You don't want to be Brad Pitt. That's soulless. You don't want your life to be the F.1 movie. That's a shitty movie. We all know people whose life is like the F.1 movie. And maybe this not, you know, the F.1 movie. It looked good. It had good cinematography, and, you know, Brad Pitt. That's cool, I guess. That's a cool life. But you don't want your life to be the F.1 movie. You want. You want. You want something deeper than that. You want something that people will. That. That will be remembered. You know, I. People will Forget about the F.1 movie. So. So embrace. Feel honored to live an imperfect human existence and embrace it and try your best. That's my rant, Francesco. Okay, that was a lot. How long was that? How long was I ranting for? That was I. Was I rant? Was that. Did I spend 45 minutes on that one fucking email?
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This is from Keith Subject Line Feeling Weird? Hey Lyle, Hope you're well. I just wanted to email you to talk about how weird life is or at least I've been feeling weird about it recently. So many people that I feel I have put a lot of time and effort into a friendship or some sort of relationship with have been disintegrating lately as I'm 23 and everyone seems to be moving on and creating new lives that I am no longer a part of. I still live with my parents, only have a part time job even though I've graduated college six months ago. Now I have no motivation to do anything other than hang out with old friends like I did in the past. But none of them have time it seems. I don't know, I guess this was kind of a whole lot of nothing. No it wasn't. It makes a lot of sense. Hopefully it makes you ponder. Okay. Yeah, I, I feel like I recently talked about this on the show, but it's something I've been thinking about a lot is like as you get older, your friends and your family all like start to have their own lives. I'm 27. My. All my. I used to live in a house when I was a boy with my mom, my, my mom, my dad and my sister. We always still live in a house together for like fucking seven years. Something like that. I don't. Maybe longer. Eight. I don't know. For a long time we all lived in a house together and we all had, we all meet those, the four of us, my mom, my dad and my sister, we all lived in a. And we all had a life together and you know, then my parents got divorced. They got remarried. I grew up. My sister grew up. Now me, my mom, my dad and my sister all live in different states and we all have our own lives and we used to have, you know, we were all in each other's lives and we check in on each other and I call them and we talk and I, you know, I love them and they love me and. But you know, we're, I don't see them every day. They're not in my, they're not a part of my Daily, Daily, true. Daily life. You know, my high school friends, I talk to them in a group chat every day, which is awesome. But you know, I don't, it's not like I was in high school where I saw them like all the time in class. And you show up to class and you have your friends and everyone's like a, like you have people in your life, right? Like, that's kind of how this shit goes is as you get older, everyone starts to develop their own lives and you let you find yourself less and less. You have people kind of like, you know, you have friends and you family, but the less people like in your life. And a lot of people are lucky. You know, they have really nice, they have really great relationships like spouses and, and families and people they work with or, you know, some people are lucky enough that they have people in their life like in, in their life. You know, I'm not talking about like having friends, I'm not talking about having family. I'm not. I'm talking about like, you know, you know what I mean? Whoever wrote this email. You know what I mean? So you're 23, which is a pivotal age because you graduated college and you're seeing your friends move on and they are creating their lives that you're not a part of. But that's, that's again, that's natural. It's to be accepted. But the good news for you, Keith, is that because you're only 23, you have a lot of time to create your own life that can have people in it. How do you create a life that has people in it? Well, it's kind of the running theme of, of the episode a little bit. You just do things, you know, you do things that get you around other people, develop yourself as a person so that you know, someone will want to be in a relationship with you. That person can be in your life, do pro social things. You have hobbies, leave your house, create shit that other people want to be a part of. You know, there's, there's ways in which you can, if you feel a lack of people in your life, there's ways in which I think you can be creative and throw yourself into the universe to again attract people in, into your life. So for you specifically, I would say go ahead and more, you know, take your time to mourn a little bit. This is a bit of a grief to getting older, but there's also a, it's also. This is a bit of, this is a bit of a grief to getting older, but it's also. I think it's a perspective thing, and I deal with a lot of this stuff myself. I think it's a perspective thing because if you. There's inherent grief to it. But if you look at it as, like. Like people. I hate when people say getting older sucks. It's like things only suck if you decide that they do. So look at this as a challenge, as an opportunity, and take it. And take it on with the. With some excitedness. Like, you've. You're. You're challenged now to create your own life. It's insanely hard. And we all know that we live in a crazy world. We all know we live in a crazy economy. We all know we live in weird, uncertain times. We've kind of always lived in uncertain times in a way, because, you know, when the. Was anything ever certain but you. But these. If you have to just embrace it, embrace this challenge that you have now to build your own life. Keith, you graduated college six months ago. What for? What. What do you do? Figure out a way to throw yourself into the universe and get other people around you doable. There's a lot of opportunity, man. I've been on a lot of emotion. I've been on a lot of motivational rants today, but I'm into it. I like it. I like thinking about life. And I think it's something that a lot of people are struggling with the, like, loneliness and feel like they don't have other people, like, in their life. But there's just. There's just so much opportunity, you know, if we truly live in a world where so many people are struggling with this, and there should be so much opportunity for you to figure out how to get those people together. Okay. This is from Theo. Subject line, cracking girlfriend. Hi. I love to crack my girlfriend's fingers. All ten, a couple times each. I also love to crack her back. And I often do it even after finishing or during sexual intercourse. She had never done this before, and she doesn't do it alone. I once asked her if she lets me do it because she likes it or just to please me. She answered the second one, and it made me very pleased, but also made me doubt my sanity. Sometimes it can hurt, and I'm seriously sorry when it happens, but every time we laugh at it, and then she lets me continue. We have been together for almost three years, and I stopped myself from asking too many questions. And I enjoy the luck I have in finding a person who lets me do such strange things to her body. Greetings from Italy. Theo. They Are really doing some weird shit over there in Europe. They are really testing the limits of the human experience. Yeah, I don't know. I crack my own fingers a lot. I've had a time. I've had a time or two, I was holding hands with someone and did a little bit of a crack, you know, because it does. It feels good. If it feels good to crack your. It feels good like, because when you do it to yourself, right? Like that feels good like the cracking also, like because you. You, when you do it to yourself, you experience both sides. You do the cracking and you get cracked. But just doing the cracking, the satisfying too. That's that. What is. Your girlfriend let. You gotta. You gotta let your girlfriend do something weird to you, though. I don't know what. Maybe she can. Yeah, that's what I would do if I was in the situation. I was like, all right, thanks for letting me crack your fingers. Cuz I'm weird. What can I. What can I do for you? Do you wanna. Do you want $10? Do you want. You can lick my. I can't think of a single thing that would be a good trade for this. Just be nice. Just be very, very nice to this lady. Just be. Just be extremely nice to this lady forever and do whatever she tells you. Okay. This is from Brody. Subject line. Read mine, please. You got it. Hello, Lyle. Love the podcasts. I always listen to them while I'm at work. I do refrigeration and heating and air and while I'm doing a job, I have your podcast in my ear. It's really entertaining. But that one guy that had an obsession with Reese's Cups, he don't know real game. I know exactly. I remember exactly the caller that you're talking about. I know what you're talking about. He doesn't know the real game about eating them while they're still dressed. I'm talking peel that skirt back a little bit and take a few nibbles. Now that's real game. I don't do that. I just rip the whole thing off. Also, what's your thoughts on mastering a craft? Okay, that's a subject change. So far I'm in. I'm a year in my current job, which is refrigeration, heating air, and I'm 19 years of age, male. This person writes in interestingly. Do you think it would be best for me to stick with it and try to make a company or stick with it for a few years and try to learn a new skill? Wait, so both options are to stick with It. I'd love to make a lot of money and buy nice materialistic things and all that, but I wouldn't want to get myself tied down trying to operate a company and not be able to live my life again. Love the podcast. I hope to hear myself on here while at work. Lol. Okay, I'm trying to understand what this person is asking. So I think they're saying, do you think it would be best for me to stick with it and make a company or. I haven't. What I. Brody, I have no idea what the. You're saying in this email. I have no idea what you're saying in this email, man. I don't know what you're saying in this email, but I. For some reason reading it, I just think you're going to be fine. Don't buy a bunch of crap that ties you down to your job. I'll say that. Also, you're 19. Like, buy fucking stocks or some shit. Don't buy dumb bullshit. That's all I'll say to you, Brody. Honestly. Honest. Honestly, Brody, I don't think you're gonna listen to a single thing I'm. I would say. Anyway, I'm sorry. I'm sorry, because I know you're actually going to listen to this. Yeah. Yeah. You know what? Yeah. Stick with heating, refrigeration, air. I do feel like in the AI universe, this. That's one of the more like real. Real, like real blue collar is what will make most money. So. Yeah, keep doing that. Keep doing that. And try not to get yourself killed. I feel like you're gonna, like, get into a, like, motorcycle accident or something. Don't do that. Just don't do anything stupid, Brody. You're gonna be okay. Just don't. Don't do anything stupid. I don't know why I'm worried about this guy. Something about it. Something about this email. There's nothing blatantly concerning about this email, but something about the way it's written concerns me. You'll be okay, Brody. You'll be okay. All right. This is from Buzz Saw Kill. Subject line in all caps. Desperation. Hello, Therapy Gecko. I know you're a therapist. I'm not a therapist. Do people really think I'm a therapist? Hey, Therapy gecko. I know you're a therapist. So I'm assuming that means you know how I can get hella bitches, which I am in desperate need for. Here is my situation. I love Primus. I'm all caps. Fat. I'm a ginger. How am I supposed to pick up women like this. And then they put four question marks. How? And then they put six question marks. First of all, if they get past the fatness, then they look up a little and see the orange disdain on my head, which is a turn off for some, right? And even if they can look past all of that, I play them something like John the Fisherman, which is an entry level Primus song. And I can see in their faces they're getting drier than a raisin in the Sahara. I mean, really, people tell me I just gotta find the right woman, but it seems like nobody around me is the right woman. Like, I'm a clam and in a sea of muscles. My favorite shark is the hammerhead shark. Now, you might read this and think it's a personality problem. Okay, wait, you just put. This is the most ADHD email I've. No, it's definitely not the most ADHD email. But it's just funny to me that you put. It's just funny to me that in the middle of this email, I'm like kind of glancing over the rest of it. I'll read the rest of it. But just in the middle of this email, you just randomly put what your favorite shark is. Keep. Keep being you. Buzz saw. Kill. Okay, I'm glad you put that in there. It's good. I'm glad I know that about you now. Now, you might read this and think it's a personality problem, but it all caps Totally isn't. I am friends with a lot of women and they love me. But, like, as a friend, obviously, you know, and I've been told that I'm a little weird, but, like, I'm not weird to the point where I'm repulsing women. You know, I mean, maybe I say a weird thing here or there, but it's not creepy weird. I'm not saying your tits look real squeezable, honey. I'm saying something like, do you ever think if eating cum is vegan? Okay, you know what I mean? That's a bit of a bad example for things I say, but that's just off the dome. It's actually a perfect example of a thing that you say because you just said it. If you can please give a word or two, or maybe even three, if you're feeling serendipitous for this Primus fan, I would appreciate it. Thanks. Okay, I have a lot of thoughts. I gotta get them together. First of all, shout out Primus. They did the south part Theme song. There's an epic. Dude, this is fucking sick. Concert video. I think the whole thing's on YouTube. It's Matt Stone and Trey Parker doing songs from south park with Ween and Primus, and it's at Red Rocks. And then Wean and Primus also do some songs. It's so sick. You got to check it out if you're a fan of South Parker, Wiener Primus. Anyway, so I'm gonna call you Buzz, because that's your thing. Listen, Buzz, here's the thing. I'm a. I'm. The idea of be yourself is one that is tricky because you want to. You want to be. You don't want to. You don't want to dilute your essence such that you are palatable for others, right? You know, that's not a good thing. But you cut. But some part. But. But. But maybe some parts of your essence could be formed a little bit, right? Like you. Like. Like you take a big thing of marble. You. You carve it to make a statue, right? You shaved away a lot of stuff, and you refined it, and you made something that's beautiful and was better than when the marble was just a brick. But it's still the marble, right? The essence is still there. So if I were you, I don't think you should dilute who you are to be palatable to other people, but you should probably learn how to, like, you know, take it down a notch, you know, because here's the other thing. This also. Here's the thing. The subject line of the email is desperation in all caps. And let me tell you, if you are going into this with desperation, it doesn't. And I. I'm. I'm not. I'm telling you this from experience. If you go into the dating universe with desperation, I don't care how slick you think you're being. They know. They know. They know. It doesn't matter how slick you think you're being. If you're desperate, it comes off. You can't. You cannot prevent your subconscious feelings from coming out in your behavior. So if subconsciously you're desperate, it'll come out in your behavior, no matter how fucking slick you think you're being. So you have to kind of rid yourself of the desperation, which is hard. It's hard. It's hard to not want things that you want, but just know that it comes. How you feel about yourself, how you feel about the world, how you feel about your situations. They all come out in your words and actions whether you want them to or not. They just do. They just bleed out naturally. Also, you seem to Be upset about being fat. I get upset about being fat myself. You can always lose weight. That's within your control. You know, start going to the gym, start, you know, doing, do a little bit of. I'm not gonna go huberman on this because I'm the last guy to give any of this kind of advice. But you know, do a little bit of fasting, do a little bit more walking. Don't do it to get attention from women, but do it because you clearly don't like the way that you look and feel in your body and that comes off, right? So do it for yourself. So a, that and then here's actually, here's another, here's another thing I'm gonna throw, throw at you. Buzz. This email is very you focused, right? Like when you say things like do you ever think eating cum is vegan? And you start playing a Primus song, right? Here's the thing. When you, if you're hanging out with a lady, you just start being like, hey, check out this fucking YouTube video. Hey check out this thing. And you're just taking yourself and you're like throwing it at them. You're not really gonna connect you. I'm just gonna make this observation. But it seems like when you're meeting these women that you're throwing yourself at them instead of trying to connect with them by showing interest in them and their lives. Like here's the thing, you like Primus, that's cool. But that, and your favorite shark is the hammer tied shark. That's great. But who gives a shit, right? If you're on a date with someone, if you're meeting someone, you gotta, you wanna get to know them, you gotta ask them questions about themselves. You got. Connecting with someone means you learn about them and their content, the context in which they live, the things that they like, who they are as a person. And you interact with that because if a girl goes to hang out with you and you're just, you're just a brick wall of yourself and you're putting on this Primus song and you're talking about sharks and you're talking about come and like there's no connection. This, this, this woman's gonna be like, I might as well have gone on a, on a date with a, with a, you know, a tv. That was, is just one side. This is a one sided thing, right? It seems I'm just gathering from your email that you might be having a lot of one sided interactions. And so if I were you, I would just, I would take all of the ego out of this process, I would take all of the. I, you start. Here's you in this email. You have it. This is how the email is formatted. It says, here's my situation. And then you wrote, you wrote this in like numerical list. You wrote, one, I love Primus. Two, I'm fat. Three, I am a ginger. Is the. The format of the email is like, there's a lot of ego in it. And I'm. And I don't mean ego in the way of, like egotistical. I mean ego in the way of like the self. Like, this is like, it's just, it's about. It's like, me, I'm fat, I'm ginger, I love Primus. I like, I'm. I'm this, I'm that, I'm the other thing. And it's not. There's no. You got it. You gotta drop all of the ego. You drop all of the understanding of yourself and go into these things, completely flip it. Like, why are you, like, why are you pulling out your phone to play John the Fisherman? Why are you doing that? You. Don't be, don't do that. Not because you could play, you could play the cool. You could play the coolest music or whatever that. But like, it's, it's a signal to me that you're not actually engaging with these people that you're meeting and you're just throwing the ego of yourself at them. And people hate that and people. And it leads to no connection. So you could be fat and you could be ginger and you could love Primus and you could wonder if eating cum is vegan. And you know, look, if you're. Those are all things within you that aren't necessarily gonna repel other people from you. But if you're Lee and if, but if you lead with all of that, and that's like your fucking North Star or whatever, you're not connecting. So next time you go on a date with someone or you meet someone, take. Don't eat, don't mention Primus. Don't think, don't even think about yourself. Take like literally strip the ego from it, strip the self from it and focus a hundred percent on the person you're attempting to connect to to. And attempt to connect with them by showing genuine interest in who they are. Right? And if in the process of doing that, you can find connection through things like the music you like and your life experiences and, you know, your, your curiosity about come, then bring them out. But first and foremost, you want to go in there with the Idea of seeing if you can connect with this person. Not about, like. Also, dates are not about trying to get people to like you. They're about seeing if you connect with people naturally. They're not. They're not things that you win or lose. So go into these. So I've. I've been repeating myself, but go into these. Seeing if you connect with people and not see and not being like. And not because you're going on to all this shit with this mindset of like, I'm a weird, fat ginger guy who loves this weird music. No one's gonna like that shit. Where it's like, that's all. That's left field. That's not. You're so far away from the mindset that you want to be going into this with. You want to be going into this with an egoless mindset that has nothing to do with you that goes like, huh, I'm gonna see if I like this person, see if I find them interesting, see if I can connect with them. And then, you know, try to lose weight. If that's what you want. If you want to feel better about yourself. And yeah, primus is cool. You should. You should check out. Check out that fucking red rocks concert with the south park guys. It's so sick. All right, let's see what else we got. I'll read. I'll read another one.
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Lyle
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Lyle
This is from Rambunctious Rampage Subject line Airplanes and growing up. Hello Mr. Gecko. I've been listening since 2022 when I started going to trade school to work on airplanes. Three years later now I am a full time mechanic working on executive jets. I always thought you would think my line of work is pretty cool and honestly I enjoy bragging about it because how many people have you met that work on airplanes? Sure, it's cool. Sorry, sorry, sorry. No it's cool. It's cool to work on airplanes. I like that. I like being in airplanes. I use airplanes to get places. It's good someone has to work on them. If they don't then they don't exist When I graduated school, I got engaged to my fiance of seven years. We moved 400 miles away together for work. I landed my dream job right out of school and was promptly fired three months later after the works. After the worst two weeks of my life, applying to jobs and playing Fallout New Vegas, I got my current job, which is going better than I ever could have expected. We have two cats and have been thriving in our big apartment. 1200 square feet. This guy really likes to brag. I built a gaming PC in March and we each have a bookshelf full of our own books. You should try reading. Okay, now, fuck you. Thanks for your time, sir. Sorry. You actually, you seem like a cool guy. Rambunctious Rampage. I'm jealous. I'm not gonna try reading. I'm happy for. I really am. I'm happy for you. That's why I was being a dick is because I'm actually. I'm jealous because you seem happy about life, which is nice. And I'm happy for you. I'm happy for you that you got. You went from the worst two weeks of your life to. To live it to enjoying life. It's good, man. It's good. I like it. I like it. You know what? We get a lot of. I think it's good. It's good to know that. I feel like a lot of, you know, there's a lot of fucked up shit going on in the world. So anytime I read an email of someone being like, oh, I actually enjoy life and things are going good, I'm happy. Especially. I love. I love a good store. I love this. I love a good comeback story. Worst two weeks of your life. Now you got books. I've read a couple times. I tried reading, but I. I don't have the. I don't have the patience for it. I like. I like playing video games, though. I'm not a Fallout New Vegas guy. I don't like games that are too complicated or like, feel like work, you know, I feel like I was a dick to this guy, but, you know, he told me to try reading the Nerve. The Nerve. No. Thank you for sharing, Remax Rampage. I appreciate you. Thanks for making airplanes. Who do you. What, Wait, you work on executive jets? Like for like, like, do you make like Bezos's rocket ship and shit? That is pretty cool. Or I guess it's cool. You ever seen the movie Airplane? She watched the movie Airplane. Rambutious Rampage. Okay, let's read another email. All right. This is from Skip Subject line. I hiked across Spain. Hey, Lyle. Love the show. You're a real G. Thank you, skip. In 2023, I hiked from the bottom of France all the way across the top half of Spain on the Camino D. Santiago. I've always wanted to do that shit. That's cool. Then I went to and spent weeks recovering on the beach in Lagos, Portugal. I hiked the Camino because I was feeling dead for years. No purpose, had gone through a breakup and a pill addiction and had no aim in life. So I found out about the Camino from a friend and spent two years bartending to save up to do it. When I had the money, I quit my job, bought the plane ticket, packed my shit and. And off I went. I ended up meeting six other hikers, all Europeans, who became my close, close friends. It's been two years since that trip, and we all still Talk in our WhatsApp group almost daily. Spain. And those people made me feel life again. Magic is real. It's out there. You just have to find it, Skip. Ooh, what a great email to end on. Thank you for sending this, Skip. I love this. This. So, so, so this the theme of the episode today. The motherfucking theme of the episode today. The life rewards you for just doing shit. And look at this guy, right? This guy fucking, he, he, he didn't have any money. He spent two years party saved up for it, and then he fucking went and he did it and he got rewarded. Life just rewards you for doing it doesn't. I got it. I got, I got a, I got to apply this more to my own life, you know? Life just rewards you for doing shit. It really does. It's not a, it's. And I, I less and less and less feel like you got to make any sort of like, right decisions or whatnot, but it just rewards you for doing shit. I mean, this is a perfect example, this guy. Fucking breakup, pill addiction, no aim in life, recovery, just fucking, you know, that's the thing that I believe heavily in serendipity. Like, this fucking shit just finds you. This is why I first started, like, doing my solo travel shit when I was, you know, in my, like, early 20s. I was solo traveling because the more you go and do things and put yourself out there and try talking, just. Life just rewards you for doing shit. I love it. I love it. Skip, thanks for. This was a great email to end on this guy's friends now because, yeah, we had a bunch of other emailers who were like, I don't know how to make friends. I don't know what to do? Do. Do something crazy, you know you're gonna die. Do something anyway. Well, okay. I kind of, I feel like I black out when I do these and I'm like now I'm. And I'm like, I don't even know what the hell I just recorded. And I'm gonna put on. I don't know what I just recorded and I'm going to put on the Internet, but I, I, it's too late. So that was Geck mail. Thank you guys for listening. I'm about to, I'm actually, I'm in a half hour, I'm going to the airport cuz I'm going to the gathering of the Juggalos to do some interviews, do my. I'm gonna do a Gecko IRL episode there and I think I'm gonna try to make another. I made, I made, I made that Japan video. I made my Tijuana video. I'm working on another video and then I'm gonna shoot something at the gathering that I'm excited for. That'll be awesome. See I, I'm. That's what I'm trying to do. I'm just trying to do shit. I'm just trying to. If I just keep doing shit and making the. I'll tell you guys something. My all my like Gecko views or whatever are like down. Which is like it's been five years. It's not like the craziest thing in the world, but so I'm like, okay, you know, what do I, what do I do now? I want to keep doing shit. So that's what, I'm just gonna keep doing shit. I'm gonna go to the gathering of the Juggalos. I'm gonna go to Kenya, I'm gonna go to Alaska. Just do shit, interview people, just make videos, put them on the Internet, you know, I mean when I made that, I made this like video about having an existential crisis in Japan. I didn't think people would resonate with it. I thought it was just gonna kind of, you know, be me whining for a bit and die. And then I posted it and bunch of people were really into it, so. And I would have never known. And it was the first video I posted in a while that was not Gecko related. It was just me and there was, I didn't have a strategy behind it and I, it was just, just doing things. You just do shit and the universe awards you. So anyway, thank you guys for listening. I hope you enjoyed this. I hope you like, I hope I hope you're doing all right. I hope, I hope, I hope this was beneficial to listen to. If you want to be on the next Geck mail, send me an email@therapygeckomailmail.com and if you sent me an email and I didn't read it in this episode, I just have a backlog of emails. So I might get to your email. I might read an. I might read Your email in 7 months if you send it right now. But you know, I try to read, read all of them. So. Therapy gecko mailmail.com I'm a gecko. I'll be back. What? Let's see if this gets posted on Sunday. The next episode will be an irl. Yeah, that's it. I'm a gecko or a person or a thing. Thanks for listening. Okay, I'm gonna shut up. Bye. Thank you. Thanks for listening.
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Ryan Seacrest
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Lyle
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