Therapy Gecko - Episode: “MY MOM SOLD MY POKÉMON CARDS”
Release Date: June 1, 2025 | Host: iHeartPodcasts
Introduction
In this emotionally charged episode of Therapy Gecko, hosted by Lyle from iHeartPodcasts, listeners are taken on a journey through personal struggles, mental health, and the complexities of human relationships. The episode delves deep into the experiences of two callers, Ivan and Aiden, who share their heartfelt stories with Lyle, seeking guidance and understanding.
Ivan’s Story: Masking and Personal Struggles
Timestamp: [02:13]
Ivan begins the conversation by discussing his habitual politeness, which he describes as a "defense mechanism" to appear approachable and friendly. He opens up about his uncertainty regarding an autism diagnosis, reflecting on how he hyper-focuses on verbal communication and social cues.
Ivan [04:25]: "I think that about myself. Although I've asked a lot and no one's in my therapy history like made that diagnosis... it would be like probably some form of high functioning thing."
Lyle gently probed deeper, addressing Ivan’s potential masking behaviors and the emotional toll they take. Ivan candidly shares how constantly rehearsing conversations and maintaining a façade leads to exhaustion and feelings of disconnection when interactions don’t go as planned.
Ivan [05:37]: "I'm constantly talking to myself in very strange situations... It's been around for a long time in my history of just how I interact with people."
Exploring Masking and Its Impact
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As the conversation progresses, Ivan elaborates on the challenges of masking, revealing how it affects his ability to form close, personal relationships. He expresses frustration over the limited number of deep connections he has, attributing it to the emotional fatigue caused by maintaining his social mask.
Ivan [08:08]: "And I'M just, you know, reaching out to the world to see what other people think about that."
Lyle empathizes, acknowledging that Ivan's experiences are not uncommon and highlighting the universal struggle of seeking meaningful connections.
Lyle [09:40]: "I think it's a very universal experience."
The Impact of Lost Connections and Betrayal
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Ivan shares a particularly painful incident where his mother sold his prized Pokémon card collection without his knowledge or consent. This revelation not only devastated him financially but also emotionally, as the cards represented a significant part of his identity and past.
Ivan [16:27]: "It really broke me. And that break... It really sucks because I understand... but that amount of money, and this is not to brag. I'm not trying to put myself in a better position."
He describes the deep sense of betrayal and the subsequent strain on his relationship with his parents, revealing his decision to distance himself emotionally.
Ivan [23:53]: "Honestly, I just wanted to share that and ask questions and kind of get a response because... it hurts."
Aiden’s Call-In: Navigating Life Post-Graduation
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Aiden enters the conversation, sharing his recent struggles after graduating high school. He reveals his mother's actions of selling his Pokémon cards, which were more than mere collectibles to him—they were a cornerstone of his teenage years and personal growth.
Aiden [46:12]: "I'm in between trying to figure out stuff with my life and stuff with jobs and just personal life, trying to fit into everything that's new."
Aiden discusses his current work helping his father in a dent repair business and his aspirations to find a career that allows him to stay socially active, such as becoming a private investigator or a bartender.
Aiden [48:05]: "I've been thinking about... I really want to be around people and exist."
Providing Guidance: Lyle’s Advice to Aiden
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Lyle offers practical advice to Aiden, emphasizing the importance of leveraging his current situation to build financial stability while engaging in community activities. He suggests negotiating a fair wage with his father and actively participating in local indie music scenes to cultivate meaningful relationships and potential career opportunities.
Lyle [60:47]: "If your dad's teaching you how to do shit in the future, you’re still doing something that's like, could compound over long term."
Lyle underscores the value of saving money at a young age, avoiding the common trap of accumulating debt through college, and instead investing in experiences that foster personal growth and community connections.
Lyle [63:10]: "You're in a cool position because you get to save money and you still get to live cool young guy life."
Conclusion: Empathy and Encouragement
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As the episode wraps up, both Ivan and Aiden express their gratitude for the support and advice received. Lyle reiterates the importance of building strong personal connections and taking proactive steps towards financial independence and personal fulfillment.
Aiden [72:08]: "I enjoyed it, man. That was a good, that's honestly great advice."
Lyle closes the episode with a heartfelt message, encouraging listeners to seek meaningful connections and make the most of their current circumstances.
Notable Quotes
- Ivan [02:22]: "No, I get that a lot. It's mostly awkwardness, but I appreciate it."
- Aiden [79:12]: "Honestly. Make sure to love yourself before you love another."
- Lyle [61:03]: "You gotta negotiate with your dad to pay you at minimum Nevada minimum wage."
Key Takeaways
- The Struggle of Masking: Both Ivan and Aiden highlight the emotional toll of maintaining a facade in social interactions, leading to exhaustion and shallow relationships.
- Impact of Betrayal: Aiden’s story underscores the profound emotional and financial impact of his mother selling his cherished Pokémon collection without consent.
- Building Financial Stability: Lyle emphasizes the importance of saving money early, avoiding debt, and leveraging current opportunities to build a secure future.
- Community and Connections: Engaging in local communities and cultivating meaningful relationships can provide emotional support and open up career opportunities.
Final Thoughts
This episode of Therapy Gecko offers a poignant exploration of personal identity, mental health, and the complexities of human relationships. Through heartfelt conversations and practical advice, listeners gain insight into navigating life's challenges while building meaningful connections and striving for personal growth.
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