Shownotes

How spiritual growth can translate directly into better sex
The #1 thing every man should do when he wakes up in the morning
Why sports pressure was easier for Brenden than being in conflict with his partner
A simple daily practice that can change everything for men
How to bring out the best in a man as a woman
Why you need to be whole in yourself to experience true masculinity and femininity

Bio

Brenden Durell is a breathwork and somatic facilitator, intimacy guide, author, and co-founder of Oríkao, a ceremonial grade heirloom cacao brand sourced from indigenous communities in the Amazon. He has spent over 14 years working at the intersection of embodied practice, plant medicine traditions, traditional Tantra, and sacred sexuality. Known for his ability to bridge ancient wisdom with modern life, Brenden guides individuals and couples into a more intimate relationship with themselves and the people they love.

His work lives in the body: in the breath, in presence, in the places we've learned to armor ourselves against feeling. Rooted in the principles of traditional Tantra and sacred sexuality, he helps people dissolve the walls that keep them from experiencing life and love more fully, reclaiming their body as a place of power, pleasure, and presence.

Brenden has been featured in Forbes, Men's Health, and has appeared on multiple seasons of Netflix's Too Hot to Handle. He is the founder of The Golden Room, a global community for those committed to deeper nervous system health, conscious living, and authentic connection. He is also a devoted father and partner currently raising his daughter between Peru and the United States.

You can follow Brenden's work on Instagram and on his website.

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Timestamps

00:00:45 - Guest introduction

00:02:16 - How Layla and Brenden first met

00:04:09 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:06:28 - What Brenden learned from teaching on a reality TV show

00:07:32 - Our society is sex forward but intimacy terrified

00:08:26 - How an invitation into intimacy can still impact people who are far from that world

00:10:44 - The part of reality TV that takes advantage of people for entertainment

00:15:56 - Layla shares her experience teaching on Netflix's Too Hot to Handle

00:17:07 - How Brenden showed up as the divine masculine for Layla during filming

00:17:27 - What the divine masculine truly is to Brenden

00:19:43 - Brenden describes what presence feels like in his body and mind

00:22:27 - Layla shares one of the great feminine arts she learned from Alison Armstrong

00:25:14 - What Brenden's partner does to make him feel more loved than he ever has

00:25:58 - This is one of the greatest acts of love a woman can offer in partnership

00:27:25 - Why sports pressure was easier for Brenden than being in conflict with his partner

00:28:36 - More men would thrive in relationship if they weren't afraid of this one thing

00:29:35 - A lot of Brenden's partner's requests that help her come out of her spirals are simple

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00:32:18 - Why Brenden's relationship has been the greatest lesson for him in intentional living

00:35:15 - How Brenden translates all his personal growth and spiritual work into lovemaking

00:39:40 - Why men need to stay big, not get smaller, to serve

00:41:08 - This is the moment a man decides to come into spiritual work

00:43:12 - What Brenden sees as the reason men have changed so drastically

00:51:02 - What makes Brenden's flavor of divine masculine different than most men's

00:51:27 - You need to be whole in yourself to finally experience true masculinity and femininity

00:53:01 - The #1 thing Brenden would have every man do when he wakes up in the morning

00:55:03 - A simple practice that can change everything for men

00:56:14 - How to bring out the best in a man as a woman

01:00:47 - Brenden shares about his experience inside Layla's program, Men's Sexual Mastery

01:05:01 - The cycle Layla has observed of High Priestesses, Kings, and Queens

01:05:34 - Conclusion