This Tantric Life with Layla Martin

What a Tantric Orgasm Actually Feels Like (and How to Get There)

Shownotes The real reason premature ejaculation happens How a Tantric orgasm feels different than a default orgasm Why pushing your body during sex actually blocks pleasure How to train your body for deeper pleasure and sexual experiences How to bring breast activation into your lovemaking experiences The power of yin versus yang in sexual experiences Bio Diana Richardson is widely regarded as a leading contemporary authority on human sexuality and conscious intimacy. A bestselling author on Tantra, her work centers on the union of sex and meditation, and on practical ways this sacred connection can transform intimate life. After completing a law degree, she became a disciple of the Indian mystic Osho in 1979, initiating a lifelong exploration of sexuality, love, and meditative awareness, further influenced by the teachings of Barry Long. Integrating these influences through lived experience, Diana developed Generative Sex, also known as Cool Sex, an evolutionary and sustainable approach to intimacy. This distilled wisdom is shared through her practical Love Keys, presented in her bestselling book, The Heart of Tantric Sex. For over 30 years, Diana has guided more than 15,000 couples in week-long residential retreats in Switzerland, and she is now launching a Rekindle online course based on these highly successful live retreats. You can follow Diana's work on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube. Discover her online course here and her books and live retreats here. Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:52 - Guest introduction 00:03:08 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:05:06 - Diana describes how Tantric orgasm feels different than default orgasm 00:07:09 - When you don't think about orgasm as a goal, you can stay more present 00:07:48 - How a flow state compares to an orgasmic state 00:09:18 - How sex in our culture has become as aspect of the mind instead of the body 00:11:20 - You can't make an orgasmic state happen, you can only prepare the ground 00:12:14 - How to train your body for sexual experiences 00:14:49 - Why it's important to bring your body into your everyday life 00:18:12 - What it looks like in everyday life to make your own body the priority 00:18:57 - [AD] MOOD Sex Magic - Podcast coupon code + 2 free sticks: [MOOD Sex Magic] 00:20:34 - Why being in your mind can make you feel like you control the universe 00:22:46 - Why it's important to trust our body's intelligence 00:24:15 - Diana shares the deconditioning process she experienced with Tantra 00:27:40 - Why pushing your body during sex actually blocks pleasure 00:29:05 - Intensity during sex can come from a fear of loss of erection 00:30:53 - Why language around the penis and vagina matters 00:33:46 - The one thing Diana sees that helps women open into an orgasmic state 00:38:38 - The 3 elements Osho says are required for a blissful state 00:40:15 - The most valuable thing Diana wants women to know 00:42:17 - How to bring breast activation into your lovemaking experiences 00:46:40 - The real reason premature ejaculation happens 00:51:50 - The power of yin versus yang in sexual experiences 00:53:28 - What Diana finds in men who are willing to try a new way of making love 00:57:55 - Why Diana and her partner approach sex in a softer way 01:01:52 - Conclusion

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The New Science of Psychedelics, Sex, and Deep Connection

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Shownotes Layla's story of encountering aliens for the first time How psilocybin impacts people's sex lives compared to SSRIs What changed for Tomasso sexually after a guided psilocybin experience What makes your romantic partner the best, or worst, thing for your nervous system Why a healthy, happy man can set a tone for an entire relationship Why choosing your partner is the most important decision you will ever make Bio Tommaso Barba a PhD candidate at the Centre for Psychedelic Research, Imperial College London. Under the mentorship of Dr. David Erritzoe and Prof. David Nutt, he has co-authored more than ten high-impact publications, including five as first author, in prestigious journals like The Lancet EClinical Medicine and Nature Scientific Reports. His research explores the efficacy of psychedelics compared to traditional antidepressants, short acting tryptamines and the impact of psychedelics and MDMA on couples' intimacy, advocating for their potential in improving couples' connection within therapeutic settings. Tommaso's work has garnered widespread international and national media recognition, reflecting both its scientific importance and its societal relevance. He has been featured in Forbes USA, The Times, The Telegraph, Rolling Stone , CNN, Women's Health and more. You can follow Tomasso's work on Instagram and on X, read his research here, and sign up to join Tomasso's Psychedelics and Couples Study. Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:01:00 - Guest introduction 00:03:13 - The legendary story of how Layla and Tomasso first met 00:04:40 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:11:57 - Layla shares her story of encountering aliens for the first time 00:15:45 - The real, tangible outcome of Layla's alien experience 00:17:29 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:21:35 - How psilocybin impacts people's sex lives positively compared to SSRIs 00:27:30 - The parallels between psychedelics and sacred sexuality 00:31:15 - Tomasso shares what changed for him sexually after a guided psilocybin experience 00:36:36 - [AD] 2 FREE sticks of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir with code PODCAST at checkout 00:42:29 - Why your romantic partner can be the best, and worst, thing for your nervous system 00:50:43 - How Tomasso's research has mapped to his own growth in intimacy 00:53:04 - The moment Tomasso realized he didn't actually love himself 01:00:48 - A healthy, happy man can set a tone for an entire relationship 01:06:14 - Why love is a skill, not a feeling 01:16:00 - Why obsession and ecstatic feelings can be big red flags 01:20:01 - The most important decision you will ever make 01:25:53 - The exact study Tomasso would do if funding wasn't an issue 01:29:39 - Conclusion

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How to Reclaim Your Feminine Power and Magic

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Shownotes How to attract what Seren calls Earth Alpha men Why healing trauma is an act of cultural magic How quantum leaps and manifestation often come from total collapse The difference between womb healing and the High Priestess path Layla and Seren's personal definitions of magic Why healing your wounds with the masculine allows you to see men as sacred Bio Seren Bertrand is a cultural mystic and visionary, best known for her best selling and award winning books on feminine wisdom and eco-spirituality. Seren has been married to Dr. Azra Bertand for over a decade, with a beautiful daughter, and live on 18 acres of land in Appalachia, with their many fantastic beasts, curating an enchanted portal of the new paradigm. You can follow Seren's work on Instagram and learn more on her website. Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:55 - Guest introduction 00:03:48 - [AD] Awaken your natural feminine radiance at my FREE live event, Rise Like Venus 00:07:52 - Seren shares her womb journey from fragmentation to restoration 00:12:01 - What Mary Magdalene said to Seren while writing the Magdalene Mysteries 00:17:19 - Why healing trauma is an act of magic 00:21:34 - How Layla's ancestral trauma was connected with two years of health challenges 00:28:50 - Live your life in a way that your magic is more intact than those who came before you 00:31:26 - The difference between womb healing and the High Priestess path 00:40:29 - Layla now recognizes her mother as an ancestor 00:42:43 - Layla's definition of magic 00:44:29 - Seren shares her definition of magic 00:48:42 - [AD] MOOD Sex Magic - Podcast coupon code + 2 free sticks: [MOOD Sex Magic] 00:58:38 - If you choose to work with the poison, you will find medicine in it 01:03:40 - Why the poison path is a death and rebirth initiation 01:08:38 - Daily devotion and beauty can help you fall back in love with being alive 01:12:05 - A simple daily womb practice to stay connected with your body 01:23:18 - Seren explains what she calls Earth Alpha men 01:40:54 - Why we need to be looking for more "yes!" frequency 01:43:46 - Integrating your wounds with the masculine allows you to see how sacred men are 01:46:32 - Conclusion

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How This Tantra Teacher Faces Grief and Still Has the Best Sex of Her Life

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Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist Why Tantra allows you to be both fully spiritual and fully human The reason your nervous system goes numb trying to process intense emotion How to use spiritual practices as enrichment to your life rather than bypassing Why women's sexual energy after 40 years old ignites instead of dwindles A simple beginners' practice for overcoming ageism and unlocking confidence Bio Kirsti Kuosmanen is a lifelong artist, psychotherapist, and pioneer in women's sexuality and embodied spirituality. A professional actress since 1989 and a graduate of Drama Centre London, she is a founding member of Stella Polaris Improvisation Theatre, Finland's first improv theatre. Alongside her performance career, Kirsti trained as a Gestalt Psychotherapist at the Gestalt Institute of Scandinavia and has spent nearly two decades guiding deep personal and relational transformation. Her spiritual path began in 2006 and led her into Tantra in 2013, shaping her work at the intersection of psychology, embodiment, and sacred sexuality. Kirsti is the author of Secrets of a Glowing Woman, Power Years of a Glowing Woman, and the forthcoming Garden of Venus. Kristi has trained extensively in Tantra, women's health, holotropic breathwork, psychedelic therapy, and coaching. She is a sought-after speaker for business organizations, teaching presence, communication, and embodied leadership. You can follow Kirsti's work on Instagram and learn more on her website. Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:00 - Guest introduction 00:04:27 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist: [FREE VITA Coaching Checklist] 00:07:02 - Why the birth of Kirsti's first child caused her a breakdown 00:08:57 - This is what it feels like to find your soul 00:14:18 - Tantra allows you to be both fully spiritual and fully human 00:15:22 - How the Tantric path supported Kirsti in a life transition through grief and loss 00:18:07 - Layla shares about her final conversation with her beloved stepfather 00:23:23 - Why your nervous system goes numb while trying to process intense emotion 00:26:13 - Experiencing spiritual practices as enrichment to your life rather than bypassing 00:29:16 - The witches were the original holders of grief, death, birth, and magic rituals 00:30:08 - [AD] MOOD Sex Magic - Podcast coupon code + 2 free sticks: [MOOD Sex Magic] 00:33:04 - Kirsti and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC Elixir 00:37:02 - One of the top shadows that shows up in the Tantric field is ageism 00:39:38 - Why women's sexual energy ignites instead of dwindles after 40 years old 00:42:44 - Post-menopausal women used to use their power to become leaders and guides 00:45:46 - The younger male response Kirsti received when she began owning her sexuality 00:50:42 - Why men of ALL ages want to be sexually initiated, not just young men 00:54:00 - Some simple rules for experiencing Kundalini awakening 01:01:16 - Kirsti shares about her new book, Garden of Venus 01:05:29 - A simple beginners' practice for overcoming ageism and unlocking confidence 01:07:15 - Kirsti shares something she is currently struggling with and how she's overcoming it 01:08:44 - Conclusion

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Kundalini Rising & Soul Rebirth: Listening to Your Inner Oracle with Rebecca Campbell

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Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist Layla and Rebecca share the stories of their Kundalini awakenings How undigested energy becomes trauma in our nervous systems How a Goddess dress and a case of norovirus became a spiritual crossroads for Layla How to tell whether your soul or your ego is speaking Rebecca's favorite simple way to stay connected with your soul Bio Rebecca Campbell is an international bestselling author, mystic, and spiritual teacher whose creations have inspired millions of people all over the world. Her bestselling books, oracle decks, and trainings have been translated into over 40 languages worldwide and her work has been featured in Vogue, The Sunday Times, Oprah.com, Psychologies Magazine, and more. Rebecca's mission is to support people to live a soul-led life and develop a direct experience of the sacred. Her events are full sensory experiences… you will always leave having shifted something energetically and connected deeply to your soul. Buy her latest book, Your Soul Had A Dream, Your Life Is It. Learn more about Rebecca's work on her website and follow her on Instagram. Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:00 - Guest introduction 00:02:34 - Layla's invitation to you as you listen to this episode 00:04:31 - What does your soul most want you to know in this moment? 00:05:08 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:09:21 - Rebecca shares the experience that initiated her spiritual path 00:10:59 - The moment Layla realized there's something deeper inside of her 00:14:53 - Rebecca's first time seeing soul in her adult life 00:19:08 - The two appropriate responses for pretty much anything in life 00:20:22 - The story of the soul death portal Layla experienced when her stepfather passed 00:25:47 - How undigested energy becomes trauma in our nervous systems 00:29:49 - Western society doesn't know what to do with death or how to honor it 00:33:31 - [AD] [MOOD Sex Magic] - Podcast coupon code + 2 free sticks 00:36:53 - How a Goddess dress and a case of norovirus became a crossroads for Layla 00:39:52 - Birth, death, and grief are beautiful… but they're not pretty 00:42:33 - Why Rebecca was afraid to become a mom 00:50:01 - Rebecca's story of her Kundalini awakening 00:53:20 - Layla shares the story of her Kundalini awakening 00:59:04 - How Western culture has let those of us who have energetic awakenings down 01:03:09 - How simple obligations can help to ground and regulate an awakening 01:04:52 - Layla shares guidance for people having a Kundalini awakening 01:09:42 - How to tell whether your soul or your ego is speaking 01:17:57 - Rebecca shares her favorite simple way to stay connected with your soul 01:18:55 - Bonus question with Layla 01:24:39 - Conclusion

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Why Kegels Don't Work and Other Surprising Things About Your Pelvic Floor Health

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Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist How pelvic floor health directly connects to pleasure How modern life and high heels create tightness in your pelvic floor What you can start doing now to improve your pelvic floor health Lauren's advice to women who feel numbness during sex Bonus pelvic floor practice with Layla Bio Lauren Ohayon is the creator of "Restore Your Core®" (RYC®), a comprehensive and sustainable fitness program that empowers women who aim to be strong, long, mobile, and functional. With more than two decades' of experience as an internationally renowned pelvic floor movement specialist, Lauren focuses on resolving core and pelvic floor issues minus the "burn and shred" mentality. Her signature program has helped over 10,000 women regain confidence in their bodies and a life no longer limited by pain and pelvic floor symptoms. RYC® also boasts over 500 highly trained movement professionals around the world. She is also the co-founder of Body Ready Method® which is rooted in the RYC® Method and offers evidence-based online pregnancy, birth, and recovery programs and has trained over 1,800 professionals globally. Lauren and the RYC® teachers help women across the globe gain core strength, achieve ideal pelvic floor function, and learn to move efficiently and exercise optimally. Learn more about Lauren's work on her website and follow her on YouTube and Instagram. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelaurenohayon/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@restoreyourcoremethod Website: Normal UTM (if you are hyperlinking text): https://restoreyourcore.com/?utm_source=tantric_life&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=homepage&utm_campaign=promotion Tiny URL (if the link shows): https://link.restoreyourcore.com/4d4b9uxv Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:00 - Guest introduction 00:02:58 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:04:26 - How pelvic floor health connects to pleasure and sexual experiences 00:09:24 - How modern life and high heels create tightness in your pelvic floor 00:12:51 - One of the best things you can do for your pelvic floor 00:19:07 - How the Tantric and Daoist traditions view the pelvic floor 00:22:54 - Why tighter isn't better for your pelvic floor 00:26:24 - Pelvic floor work should train the pelvic floor to be responsive 00:30:53 - MOOD Sex Magic - Podcast coupon code + 2 free sticks 00:35:10 - Loving your pelvic floor allows it to do what it needs to do to heal 00:37:34 - Why the most important part of a jade egg practice is your relationship to it 00:46:17 - What you can start doing now to improve your pelvic floor health 00:51:12 - Blood flow is the core biological basis of sensitivity in your body 00:56:11 - Lauren's advice to women who feel numbness during sex 00:59:57 - A powerful moment Lauren fell in love with the capacity of the pelvic floor 01:03:18 - What would happen if the whole world was in touch with their pelvic floor 01:06:13 - Conclusion 01:06:43 - Bonus pelvic floor practice with Layla

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How to Stay Madly in Love During Conflict with Your Partner

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Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist Layla explains what she calls the 3% in a relationship Why it's important to process challenges somatically using your bodies The #1 question Layla asks herself when conflict arises How to use conflict as a vehicle into a deeper level of connection How a couple in their 70s went from roommates to intimacy, safety, and turn-on Bio Fabienne Annick is a Sex, Love & Spirit Coach who sees sexuality and partnership as profound mirrors for self-awareness and gateways to healing, growth, and magic. Her work is deeply inspired by her own exploration of conscious relationship with her beloved husband, Jef. Explore Fabienne's programs and coaching on her website and follow her on Instagram. Jef weaves together integrative psychology and cognitive restructuring as an improvisational art form. He has served as a consultant, coach, speaker, healer, teacher, and high performance mentor for more than a decade. A master level Shadow EFT practitioner who has innovated his own methodology, Jef's highest ideal is to model and help people influence energetic/emotional mastery with patterns of thought that create internal harmonization. His vision is one of stabilization and healing which continuously disperses itself throughout the collective psyche, while recognizing, honoring, and learning from the template of Union, alongside with his wife Fabienne, as their most sacred and valuable endeavor. Discover Jef's powerful work on his website and follow him on Instagram. Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:57 - Guest introduction 00:02:59 - Layla explains what she calls the 3% in a relationship 00:04:33 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:06:06 - Fabi and Jef share their epic engagement story 00:14:53 - How sovereignty and self-responsibility show up in conflict 00:19:16 - Why your relationship with yourself impacts your partner's ability to relate to you 00:23:03 - The value of processing things individually before coming together as a couple 00:24:15 - Keys to processing challenges in connection somatically with your bodies 00:26:14 - Second ad: MOOD Sex Magic (clean, scientifically-backed aphrodisiac supplement) 00:28:07 - Layla's top question for herself when conflict arises 00:35:47 - How to practice self-responsibility during relational challenges 00:47:04 - Fabi shares how she uses parts work to process high emotional intensity 00:55:03 - We all still think we're the only one who is broken and flawed 00:57:37 - Layla share the 5 core emotions that feel the most vulnerable for her in conflict 01:03:11 - 95% of humanity's problems come from the unwillingness to feel pain 01:07:00 - How to use conflict as a vehicle into a deeper level of connection 01:13:24 - What it looks like to walk through life as a perpetual student 01:17:06 - Fabi shares an experience of conflict with Jef that put her in full denial 01:24:55 - A vulnerable moment that made Jef fall more in love with Fabi 01:31:44 - Jef shares how a couple in their 70s went from roommates to safety and turn-on 01:39:08 - Conclusion

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The Hidden Teachings of Mary Magdalene and the Radical Love We Were Never Taught

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Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist Exactly what the "witch wound" is and where it lives in your body The one thing Layla would change in the Catholic teachings Why spiritual lies live inside our bodies as self-hatred How spirituality impacts our ability to be a sexual being What most people still don't understand about Mary Magdalene Bio Meggan Watterson is the Wall Street Journal bestselling author of Mary Magdalene Revealed. She is a feminist theologian with a Master of Theological Studies from Harvard Divinity School and a Master of Divinity from Union Theological Seminary. Meggan is the founder of The House of Mary Magdalene, a spiritual community that studies the sacred texts left out of the traditional canon and practices the soul-voice meditation. Her work has appeared in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New Yorker, HuffPost, TEDxWomen, and Marie Claire. Meggan's most recent book, The Girl Who Baptized Herself, was recommended by Glennon Doyle in ELLE as "the book that kept me up way too late." You can follow Meggan's work on Instagram and find her books, meditations, and offerings on her website. Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:45 - Guest introduction 00:02:36 - The moment the gospel of Mary Magdalene began transforming Meggan's life 00:05:40 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:06:20 - Layla explains the messaging that Catholic scripture sends to women 00:12:32 - The shift in Christianity from fighting the unjust to enforcing it 00:19:41 - How distorted teachings contribute to loneliness and alienation 00:24:43 - A sovereign power exists within every person 00:26:36 - The one thing Layla would change in the Catholic teachings 00:33:00 - How experiencing rage helped Meggan finally return to her body 00:36:21 - The original definition of salvation 00:42:46 - We are only ever as far from our power as we are from our own embodiment 00:49:32 - Spiritual lies live inside our bodies as negative self talk and self-rejection 00:58:53 - Meggan shares her experience with self-doubt and a desire for external validation 01:05:18 - Layla shares the hallmarks of the Tantric tradition 01:17:37 - How spirituality impacts our ability to be a fully expressed sexual being 01:23:59 - It's easier to control men who don't have a power center outside of religion 01:30:15 - What most people still don't understand about Mary Magdalene 01:32:15 - A simple practice you can do right now to reconnect with the voice of love within you 01:43:09 - Conclusion

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What This Acclaimed Sex Therapist Wants You to Know

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Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist Ian's definition of great sex and how you can bring it into practice Why basic chemical attraction is part of what keeps couples together How dating apps impact relational and sexual experiences The number one key to Ian and his wife's sex life after 25 years together A daily practice for men and one for women to enhance presence and pleasure Bio Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sex therapist who works with individuals and couples on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress. He's regularly featured as an expert in various media, such as The Atlantic, The New York Times, The Economist, and NPR, as well as contributes regularly on the topic of relationships for CNN. Ian lectures frequently, with recent presentations for the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium, the Ackerman Institute, Tony Robbins, Goop, and TED 2021, and is the New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First and the recently published So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and is also a member of the American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA). He's the co-founder and co-director of the Sex Therapy Program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, one of the oldest and most respected not-for-profit mental health training and treatment facilities in New York City. You can learn more about Ian's work on his website. Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:46 - Guest introduction 00:02:36 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist: FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:05:21 - Ian shares how his personal experience inspired him bring his work to the world 00:10:28 - The science behind how pleasure is created in the vagina through intercourse 00:15:53 - How sensual touch above the waist and communication impact sex and pleasure 00:16:59 - How to get a woman's desire going and enhance it throughout sex 00:24:25 - Ian shares his definition of great sex 00:31:18 - Layla explains what a recap after a sexual experience is and how it helps 00:33:00 - Ian and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:37:17 - How basic chemical attraction is part of what keeps couples together 00:39:45 - Can you create sexual desire if it was never there in the first place? 00:43:39 - Chemistry comes in all different forms 00:47:33 - Why porn is easier than partnered sex 00:55:54 - Ian shares what he sees as the biggest contributors to sexual issues 01:00:11 - How dating apps impact relational and sexual experiences 01:06:37 - The role willingness plays when it comes to sex in a long-term partnership 01:09:55 - The 3 different ways sex gets started 01:13:10 - The big key to Ian and his wife's sex life after 25 years together 01:13:56 - Conclusion

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What It Really Means to be Multi-Orgasmic

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Shownotes Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist Different ways we unknowingly leak our sexual energy in modern life Key ways to begin rebuilding your sexual energy How exchanging energy with your partner leads to increased pleasure What obstacles men face in becoming multi-orgasmic and how to fix them A simple practice to feel your Qi in less than 30 seconds Bio Lee Holden is a Qi Gong Master who has brought ancient tradition to the mainstream. He's the author of the bestselling book Ready, Set, SLOW and a PBS favorite with shows such as Less Stress, More Energy and Your Fountain of Youth. Lee is the founder of Holden Qi Gong, an online education center for Eastern Wisdom. You can learn more about Lee's work on his website and find him on Instagram: @holdenqigongofficial Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram 🌐 Website 💌 Weekly Email 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎶 Listen on Spotify 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements 🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women Timestamps 00:00:00 - Take your business to the next level with my FREE VITA Coaching Checklist 00:00:51 - Guest introduction 00:02:11 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 00:05:30 - Sexual energy as the source of vitality 00:13:26 - When you can celebrate your power, you no longer have to hate yourself 00:14:41 - Transforming sexual energy into life force energy into spiritual energy 00:17:50 - Sexual energy is universal energy 00:22:24 - Get 2 FREE stick packs of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir using code PODCAST 00:24:20 - Different ways we unknowingly leak our sexual energy in modern life 00:27:45 - Layla's shares her favorite question to take inventory of your stress 00:32:52 - When you're inspired about the future, you have more energy in the present 00:40:36 - Key ways to begin rebuilding your sexual energy 00:44:19 - How sexuality used to be part of prescribed medicine 00:49:54 - How exchanging energy with your partner leads to increased pleasure 00:52:42 - What multi-orgasmic means for men 00:58:34 - How Lee learned to become multi-orgasmic 01:02:03 - Layla's shares her story of how she learned to be multi-orgasmic 01:04:06 - What obstacles men face in becoming multi-orgasmic and how to fix them 01:06:34 - Why becoming multi-orgasmic is important for both the man and his lover 01:09:12 - Energy work can build a bridge so both partners feel in the mood 01:10:51 - How slowing down during sex heightens and amplifies sexual energy 01:11:59 - Lee shares a simple practice to feel your Qi in less than 30 seconds 01:15:08 - Conclusion

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What a Tantric Orgasm Actually Feels Like (and How to Get There)

The New Science of Psychedelics, Sex, and Deep Connection

How to Reclaim Your Feminine Power and Magic

How This Tantra Teacher Faces Grief and Still Has the Best Sex of Her Life

Kundalini Rising & Soul Rebirth: Listening to Your Inner Oracle with Rebecca Campbell

Why Kegels Don't Work and Other Surprising Things About Your Pelvic Floor Health

How to Stay Madly in Love During Conflict with Your Partner

The Hidden Teachings of Mary Magdalene and the Radical Love We Were Never Taught

What This Acclaimed Sex Therapist Wants You to Know

What It Really Means to be Multi-Orgasmic