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UnFollow: Question Everything with Mel Gray
Hosted by Mel Gray · EN
đ What if changing your life was as simple as asking better questions?
Welcome to UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitementâthe podcast that challenges the status quo and helps you create a life you truly love.Â
Each episode is not a directive, but a doorwayâan invitation to rethink, unlearn, and step into your power. If youâve ever felt stuck, lost, or like thereâs more to life, this is your space.
đ Hosted by Mel Grayâaka Coach Mummabearâa Scottish lassie turned lawyer, #1 bestselling author, award-winning speaker, and master-certified professional coach. From battling childhood cancer with her son, moving across the world, building a nonprofit, adopting, getting sober and redefining successâMelissaâs story is proof that asking the right questions can change everything.
đĄ In this podcast, youâll discover:
â How to challenge limiting beliefs & rewrite your story
â Conversations with bold thinkers, game-changers & leaders
â Real talk about relationships, resilience & reinvention
â Tactical strategies to UnFollow whatâs holding you back
đ§ New episodes drop Friday 9am ESTâhit FOLLOW so you never miss an insight that could change your life.
One.LIFE. What are you gonna do with it?
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Season 17 Episode 7: UnFollow Autopilot
Mar 21, 202500:24:37Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailTHE WORKFollow Airplane ModeThe idea of turning my phone on airplane mode for anafternoon makes me feel:What exciting benefits could I have by putting myphone on airplane mode?List the joys you know you would experience if youhad some periods of airplane mode in your life?List your excuses for why you would not be ok turningyour phone off one afternoon a week:No excuses! I am committed to joining#teamairplanemode and will start this week on________________ for _______ number of hours.As a coach, here are some things I have heard:âMy phone being in another room wonât workfor me. I am a deep sleeper.âTry one of those alarms for rooms. They are sofancy now, and they even wake you up with morningmeditations. You are welcome!âI am a single mum. I cannot put my phone onairplane mode.âOne single-mum friend told me she got a landlinefor her ex-husband for when he has their children, justin case. So, no excuses, lassies! Where there is a will,there is a way.âI work from my phone. My clients justwouldnât put up with my phone being off.âWe teach people how to treat us, lassies and lads.Let that sink in for a second. If you make yourselfavailable 24/7, then thatâs what will be expected.I would say start small here: âI will be out of pocketSunday until 3:00 p.m.â or â7:00 p.m. onward is familytime. I will not have my phone on but will respond firstthing in the morning.âIt is amazing how much easier it gets,when you start to see how good it feels.Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."
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Season 17 Episode 6: UnFollow Lassies who Lunch
Mar 7, 202500:22:17Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailWatch my latest clip on FOX HERE!THE WORKFollow Women Who Walk WinDoes a âWomen Who Walk, Winâ group feel exciting for you?If not, what does? Weekly book club? Weekly yoga in the park?Decide, and then do it.Ask yourself these questions from a place of excitement.Are you a Heidi?Do you have success and yet struggle to enjoy it?Like Heidi, list the things you want. Itâs an exercise inawareness of what you donât want.Right now, go into your phone, and set three dailyalarms, every day at the same time and name themâPresence, Pause.âWhen the alarms go off, set a one-minute timer. In thattime, get present. Look at where you are, whatâsaround you, and touch the surface around you. Whatdo you see, smell, feel? This exercise will start tochange your ability to be present.Set a reminder on your phone. Mine is 9:00 p.m., andit says, âTime to unwind, beautiful lassie.â What willyours say? What time will you set it?My phone is placed in another room at that point, and itâsmy signal to my body to get ready for bed.Commit to moving your body for thirty minutes everyday. If you do six days and the seventh day you donâtshow up for yourself, start again.I love to walk but also love the gym, yoga, biking, surfing,and hiking. What is your favorite way to move your body? Youdo not need to commit to sixty- and ninety-minute workoutsto get the benefits. Research in this area is very conclusive:thirty minutes of movement is all you need for overall healthand wellbeing.Heidi committed to yoga. Why? She loves it. Stop doing allthe movement you think you need, and instead mix it up. Keepit fun and enjoyable. If thirty minutes feels overwhelming, dowhat I did. I started at ten minutes a day and built up to whatfelt empowering.Remember, this work is about choosing to UnFolloweverything you have been taught and choosing to Follow whatfeels empowering to your ONE.Life. Movement is medicine.Let it be.What could prevent me from growing my trust inmyself?Identify the barriers, both internal and external, thatmay be hindering your self-trust. Is it past failures,fear of judgement, or perhaps lack of self-awareness?What past experiences have eroded my trust inmyself?Reflect on specific instances where your self-trusttook a hit. How have these experiences shaped yourcurrent level of self-trust?What affirmations or mantras can you use to reinforcetrust in yourself?Craft empowering statements that you can repeat toyourself in moments of doubt. What words resonatewith you on this journey?When have you successfully trusted your instincts andwhat was the outcome?Recall instances where trusting yourself led topositive results. How can you apply those lessons tofuture situations?What activities or practices make you feel most intouch with your inner wisdom?Identify actions or routines that help you tune intoyour inner voice. How can you incorporate these intoyour daily life?What role do external influences (friends, family,media) play in your level of self-trust?Examine the impact of outside voices on your abilityto trust yourself. Are they bolstering your self-trust orundermining it?How can you measure the growth of yourself overtime?Consider benchmarks or signs that will indicate youare growing self-trust. Is it taking more risks, seekingless external va
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Season 17 Episode 5: UnFollow Blame & Follow I Am Responsible
Feb 28, 202500:21:37Tap to summarizeSend a textTHE WORKFollow I am ResponsibleI didnât decide to be responsible for my ONE.Life. I becameresponsible, one action at a time. Itâs not a decision, but adoing.I have chosen for over fourteen years to show up formeetings, to have hotline parties, answer the phone, and topick up newcomers, like Sheri did for me. I have chosen to goon retreats, to call my sponsor, and to be a sponsor. Itâs action.It was my thought to call the hotline. It was my decision toget in Sheriâs car.What are you thinking about now?Who are you blaming?What are you blaming?Maybe you had a rough childhood. Maybe you wereabused. Maybe you lost a parent young. Maybe it is none ofthose, and yet you still know there is more to this ONE.Life.Maybe the victim mentality was taught or learned, and maybeit was neither. And yet here you are.List areas of your life you are responsible for:List areas you wish you were, and ways you canchange that reality:What action can you take today? This is not, I repeatnot a thought prompt. This is a do prompt.What can you do today to stop blaming and startdoing?Are you terrified? Good. Do it with nausea and butterflies.Be so close to not doing it, but do it anyway.When my clients join my six-month coaching intensive,EMPOWERED.Life, we start here. They are not addicted todrugs, alcohol, sex, or money. Often, they are addicted topleasing people, to perfectionism, to busynessâthings thatare quite literally as deadly as my addiction.Often, they blame the kidsâ sports schedules and theirfamily for stepping on their boundaries. They claim itâsbecause they have the job they have and they canât change.They tell me they were born in a certain state and they cannotâjust move.âWhat if all that changed just by taking some actions ofresponsibility and not blaming your kids and parents orbowing down to every societal norm we have been fed?What is one action you can do today, and for the nextseven days, you can repeat it without fail?If one action could change your ONE.Life in a positiveway, what would it be?As you begin to answer these questions, do it with thecloud of excitement over you. With the hope and joy of whatself-responsibility can mean in your life. What can choosing toUnFollow blame do for you, in the most exciting way.Choosing to Follow, I am responsible is exciting. Itâsfreedom. Itâs joy. Itâs possibility. Itâs letting go and forgiving, soyou can have the ONE.Life you desire.Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."
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Season 17 Episode 4: UnFollow Self-Imposed Prisons
Feb 21, 202500:27:29Tap to summarizeTHE WORKFollow FreedomWhat would a morning feel like waking up sober?What would a day not consumed by fear of whether Iwill black out look like?What would I do with my time and energy, if it wasnâtconsumed by my obsession with alcohol?When you question from there, instead of out of fear andshame about how you got here or why you canât stop orbelieve you are just like your family, you canât move forwardwith the same momentum.Instead, close your eyes:What is the first thing that comes into your wee noggin? What prison have you imposed on yourself?What if, today, you told one other person that?Shame cannot live in the light, sweet friend. I have neverpublicly told the story of being arrested, never shared it onsocial media, and because of this book and the value I feel thisstory will bring, I had to tell my children about this before wepublished it. I had to show them that I made mistakes, that perfectionism is against our religion in this home, and how, instead, we strive for knowing ourselves and becoming our favorite version of ourselves. Thank you to Melissa Parsons, who was the first person I ever heard talk about favorite version over best self. My life has never been the same.Does your favorite version of yourself do this thing?What would your favorite version of yourself tell you?Write down everything amazeballs that will happen in your ONE.Life, if you take yourself out of this selfimposed prison and you are free to be that favorite version of yourself.Who can help you?Who will support this shift in you?Tell that person you want their help. This will change your life from the inside out.Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."
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Season 17 Episode 3: Why You Should Question Everything With Excitement
Dec 13, 202400:30:07Tap to summarizeTHE WORKFollow Question Everything With ExcitementMy intention word as I read this book is:What single word encapsulates what you hope toachieve or feel as you read through these pages?As I read this book, I want to:Identify the transformation or insight youâre seekingas you delve into this book.The one thing in my life that will have the biggestimpact by being questioned is:Is it a relationship, job, self-belief? What stands to gainthe most from your thoughtful introspection?What has been my autopilot mode and how has itserved or hindered me?Examine the routines, habits, or belief systems youhave unconsciously followed. Are they enhancing orlimiting your life?What are the goals I have set because someone elsewanted them for me?Think about the ambitions youâve chased to meetexternal expectations. Are they in line with your trueself?What am I most afraid to UnFollow and why?Explore the fears that anchor you to the familiar or tosocietal norms.Who is the person Iâm pretending to be and how doesthat align with my authentic self?Reflect on any âmasksâ youâve worn to meet theexpectations of others. How do these serve you, andwhat is the trade off?Who is my future self, what would thrill them the mostabout my life today?Envision your future-self looking back. What wouldexcite them about the choices and changes youâreconsidering now?What is my favorite version of myself and whatchoices do I need to make to become that person?Picture your favorite version of you. What steps canyou take now to evolve into that version of you?What am I most excited to explore on this journey ofintrospection?As you prepare to question everything withexcitement, what specific queries spark your curiosityand eagerness?The one thing in my life that will have the biggestimpact on being questioned is:Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."
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