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UnFollow: Question Everything with Mel Gray
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đ What if changing your life was as simple as asking better questions?
Welcome to UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitementâthe podcast that challenges the status quo and helps you create a life you truly love.Â
Each episode is not a directive, but a doorwayâan invitation to rethink, unlearn, and step into your power. If youâve ever felt stuck, lost, or like thereâs more to life, this is your space.
đ Hosted by Mel Grayâaka Coach Mummabearâa Scottish lassie turned lawyer, #1 bestselling author, award-winning speaker, and master-certified professional coach. From battling childhood cancer with her son, moving across the world, building a nonprofit, adopting, getting sober and redefining successâMelissaâs story is proof that asking the right questions can change everything.
đĄ In this podcast, youâll discover:
â How to challenge limiting beliefs & rewrite your story
â Conversations with bold thinkers, game-changers & leaders
â Real talk about relationships, resilience & reinvention
â Tactical strategies to UnFollow whatâs holding you back
đ§ New episodes drop Friday 9am ESTâhit FOLLOW so you never miss an insight that could change your life.
One.LIFE. What are you gonna do with it?
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Season 17 Episode 18: UnFollow Words
5d ago00:15:10Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailSend us Fan Mail!THE WORKFollow The EnergyâI can feel you before I can hear you.ââUnknownâYour energy introduces you before you even speak.ââUnknown⢠One thing I plan to do this year to increase my physicalenergy is:⢠Iâve noticed lately I have negative energy, and one wayI can get back on the beam is:⢠Your Mason jar is full to the brim with water. How doyou plan to spend it today?⢠What are some ways you can get off the beam as youtransition from activity to activity?⢠How do you want your energy to be when you showup today?⢠How do you plan to get that energy and keep it?⢠What are some solutions to get you back on the beam?⢠Think about a friendship that is causing you somefriction - ask yourself how do you feel before, after andduring being around them?⢠Are those feelings and emotions ones you desire in afriendship?⢠What emotions and feelings do you desire in afriendship?⢠Do you have a Sunshine Lollipop friendship?⢠If you answered no, what would a Sunshine Lollipopfriendship feel like, look like?⢠What ways can you protect your energy when you arearound people with conflicting energies?⢠What relative or relationship drains your energy andwhy?⢠How can you protect your energy in that relationship?⢠Write all the ways being sensitive to other peopleâsenergies can help you win at your ONE.Life:Get your copy of Mel's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Mel explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Mel on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Mel Gray."
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Season 17 Episode 17: UnFollow Work-Life Balance
Mar 3100:18:16Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailSend us Fan Mail!THE WORKFollow Work-Life AlignmentThe best day of my life is:I know this is the best day of my life because:The core values I plan to review in my life are:The evidence I found of these values in my life are:One thing I know could get me off the beam and burnme out is:When I show up at work, I want to show up like:When I show up at home, I want to show up like:I am bringing my energy for these people right now:I define alignment as:For me alignment looks like:For me alignment feels like:One change I plan to make after reading this chapteris:Get your copy of Mel's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Mel explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Mel on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Mel Gray."
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Season 17 Episode 16: UnFollow Raising Spoiled, Entitled Brats
Mar 1200:15:38Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailTHE WORKFollow FamilyâFamily is not an important thing, itâs everything.ââMichael J. Foxo What are your familyâs values?Be sure to place them somewhere in the homeeveryone can see.o Set a date for you and your partner to go over thedivision of labor in your home. Be sure to set a fewhours, and let it be flexible at first.o Set a weekly family meeting time and day - Sunday6pm is good for us. Discuss the upcoming weektogether. Ask what everyone has going on and whoneeds extra help this week.o Set a time weekly with your partner to discuss theweek. We like walk and talks, where we discuss howwe can help each other, our current workload, and anytravel.o Divide chores up between kids that are age-appropriate. You would be so surprised if you Googleage-appropriate chores. Our kids are so much morecapable than we allow them to be.Our kids set a timer for thirty minutes and like to tackle their chorestogether. If this doesnât work, assign themindividually.o We will discuss with kids on (date and time)Remember: slow and steady wins the race. Changes taketime. Implement one at a time until you feel confident to moveon to the next one.Get your copy of Mel's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Mel explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Mel on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Mel Gray."
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Season 17 Episode 15: UnFollow Perfectionism
Feb 500:37:56Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailTHE WORKFollow Start Before You Are ReadyThe three thought errors I keep having right now are:Three thought resets to those thoughts are:I define perfectionism as:I see my perfectionism is holding me back in these 3areas:I can see I am procrastinating in these 3 areas:One area I plan to focus on for the next year is:The one thing I plan to Start Before I am Ready is:The first step I will take to start that one thing is:I will begin the one thing ___________________date, timeList three times you have done something someonesuggested without questioning it.What will you do next time and why?Next time someone metaphorically tells you to gohome, what will you do?Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Mel Gray."
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Season 17 Episode 14: UnFollow Failure
Nov 1400:21:45Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailTHE WORKFollow Winning or LearningâThe only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.ââHenry FordThink of a time you felt like you failed: How could you thought reset that so-called failure into a win?How do you define winning?How do you define learning?My messy middle is:Describe the things you will learn from your messymiddle:My favorite way I want my messy middle to concludeis:At the conclusion of my messy middle, I want to feel:I plan to show up for my messy middle like:What would my life coach tell me today about mymessy middle?My âTo Be Continuedâ is:If I did know how my âTo Be Continuedâ would end, itwould be:Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."
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Season 17 Episode 13: UnFollow Boundary Blowups
Sep 1200:15:29Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailJoin the WhatsApp group here: https://chat.whatsapp.com/GHQ8LajRllK3Aj8PkVC3m0Join the Zoom here: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87930066143THE WORKFollow Boundary BlessingsâSometimes the most loving thing you can say is no.ââMelody BeattieCheck your texts, what patterns do you see?How could you honor your boundaries in respondingto requests for your time?List 3 responses or ways you will share yourboundaries:List 5 bylaws for your life, based on your values:Write down a response that you fear hearing whenyou share your boundary.Create a script for how you plan to respond when youfeel your boundaries are being disrespected.What conversation am I avoiding that will result in aboundary blowup, if not handled soon?Who could I role-play this through with, before I havethe conversation?If I were writing a script about this, what would I say?Whatâs one step I could take today to move towardsharing my boundaries?List 3 things that would stop you from sharing yourboundary.List one boundary sharing that would change yourentire life.List the boundary blessings that could come with this.Set a date and time to share a boundary.Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."
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Season 17 Episode 12: UnFollow Parent Pleasing
Sep 500:21:05Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailJoin the WhatsApp group here: https://chat.whatsapp.com/GHQ8LajRllK3Aj8PkVC3m0Join the Zoom here: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87930066143THE WORKFollow Your Inner KnowingâDonât let the noise of othersâ opinions drown outyour own inner voice.ââSteve JobsWhat quiet nudge inside you needs to be a ROAR?What could you do to make your eight-year-old and eighty-year-old self proud?What areas of your life do you need to tell your eight-year-old inner child to sit down and that youâve gotthis?The Power of the Post-it: What goals can you write liketheyâre already done and put on a Post-it to keep inplain sight? What do they say?What do you need to UnFollow in spite of people, notto spite people?Whose disapproval scares you the most?What does your favorite version of you say to yourparents?What does your favorite version of your life soundlike?Write your intentions around this work.Example: IntentionâI am willing to sit in theuncomfortable process to UnFollow in order to getcomfortable with my inner knowing.Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."
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Season 17 Episode 11: UnFollow Martyrdom Mountain
May 23, 202500:17:50Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailTHE WORKFollow the Path to an EMPOWERED.LifeUnFollow the path to Martyrdom Mountain and head backdown to an island I like to call an EMPOWERED.Life.A Mum And... means: who are you when you are notbeing a Mum. Who are you?What decision have you made, knowing accoladeswill come from others?How do you define success?On a scale of 1-10 how happy are you?What is one thing you could do that would grade youhigher on the happy scale?List all the challenging things that have happened toyou in your ONE.Life and how they are keeping youon up on Martyrdom Mountain.Pick one thing that you will work on this year to helpyou walk back down the mountain to anEMPOWERED.Life.List questions that get you excited about your life.Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."
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Season 17 Episode 10: UnFollow Fix All the Trauma
May 20, 202500:16:00Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailTHE WORKFollow Break Generational Trauma, One Trauma at a TimeâHealing is a daily event. You canât âgo somewhereâ to behealed: you must go inward to be healed. This means a dailycommitment to doing the work.ââDr. Nicole LePera, The Holistic PsychologistOur purpose is not to create a perfect life for our kids or ourpeople. It is to show our humanness and to raise our kids toknow they are deeply loved by their deeply imperfect parents.And to show our people we are flawed humans who are doingthe best with what we know, right now.Our work is to become aware of our traumas and triggersand the impacts they can have, if unchecked, and then todecide which ones have the biggest impact on our people.Have you ever met an adult with no issues? No parentissues or people-pleasing, boundary issues or control issues?Me, neither... Not sure I want to or need to, either.What if, each year, we focused on different parts ofourselves instead of tackling all our trauma and hoping we canbe perfect for those close to us?It can be so overwhelming, when you begin work in yourlife with a coach, mentor, therapist, guide, or pastor. Instead,pick one thing, and focus on that! Shift that! Grow in that area!This year, my big focus will be:While I am doing this for me, I know____________________________ will also be hugely impacted.The reason I choose this for my yearly goal is:When I feel like I am not making real progress, I willpay attention to mini-magical moments by:Actions I will take include:My triggers around this trauma are:I want to show up for my people in the following way:By showing my people my human, imperfect side, Iam giving them a gift of:Focusing on one per year will shift the all-or-nothingthinking. It will calm the inner rebel and alsoUnFollow that âin order to be great humans, we mustbe healedâ false narrative.More of us talking about what we are healing, and why, ishow we collectively change and encourage others. Throughbravery and belief, not shame and perfectionism.It is only by living we truly heal!So, letâs live, lassies and lads, and show our imperfectselves as we do it.Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."
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Season 17 Episode 8: UnFollow Bullying our Bodies
Apr 4, 202500:23:30Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailTHE WORKFollow Learning to Love our BodiesâYour body hears everything your mind says.ââNaomi JuddWhat if we stopped allowing our brains to bully our bodies? âIlove my bodyâ doesnât mean I have to like everything about it.But it does mean I stop my brain from bullying her.Enter this work thinking of your future self, your favoriteversion of yourself, the one who doesnât bully her body everyday. The one who speaks kindly to her body and doesnât judgeher or others. When you get excited about that version, onlythen begin asking all the questions.Questioning everything with excitement is a method forliving. Itâs where we choose to not only heal, but live. Itâswhere we decide to not only think but do!Your body loves you. She has proven this time and timeagain. Now, show her some love by healing some open woundsyou still have.This work helps you to UnFollow society defining what ourbody should look like and making the decision you will defineit! Year after year, we criticize our bodies, and it hasnâtchanged anything; so, itâs time to change the status quo and,instead, do the work and Follow learning to love our bodies.This is your reminder that you do not need to love everypart of your body in order to be kind to it. What if you beginthis work by treating your body the way you hope yourdaughter treats hers, the way you pray your son treats his?Sometimes, the thought of loving our bodies is too far-fetched;but imagining itâs your daughterâs, your motherâs, your bestfriendâs, that changes your mindset and leads you on the pathof healing.List all the things your body has done for you. Donâtstop until you get to at least twenty.Write a letter to your body, apologizing for the wayyou have bullied it, including the things you have madeher miss out on. Then, burn it!UnFollowing all the abuse you did to her requires youto replace it with a new following. Write a letter onhow you plan to treat her, going forward. How youplan to learn to love her. Write it from a place of joyand excitement and possibility. No shame can live inthis letter! Laminate it! Put it on your mirror. Have itin plain sight, read it every day, until your mind nolonger bullies your body.Write on a Post-it: âI love my body and everything shehas done for me.â Place it somewhere you see it daily.Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!Curious about Group Coaching? Check out ONE.Life today!Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.lifeRemember, you can change your life one question at a time.Letâs get started today.Follow Melissa on IG @coachmummabear_Remember to leave an honest review and subscribe to "UnFollow: Question Everything with Melissa Wiggins."
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