Why do I keep choosing the people, relationships, and dynamics that confirm my deepest insecurities? That question sits at the heart of this episode. I'm joined by neuroscience-based love coach Leah Mitchell to unpack why we're drawn to the "wrong" people on a chemical level.

We get into why we stay stuck seeking validation as adults, the truth about reaching for the "narcissist" label, how cortisol and stress shape attraction, why we chase the chaos we grew up with, and why secure love can feel so threatening. None of it leaves you stuck. Leah shares her idea of "regardless energy" and a real first step toward choosing differently.

If good love has ever felt boring, if you sabotage the healthy thing, or you're tired of ending up in the same place, this one is for you.

In this episode:

Why we get stuck seeking validation
The truth about the "narcissist" label
How attraction works on a chemical level
Why secure love can feel like a trap
Learning to trust yourself and choose connection anyway

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If something here hit home, let me know what you're taking away, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. I'll see you back here next week.