Podcast Summary: We Talk Back

Episode: "Delulu"

Hosts: TamBam & AJ
Date: September 25, 2025

Main Theme & Purpose

In "Delulu," TamBam and AJ invite listeners into an unfiltered, humorous, and insightful conversation about modern femininity, dating, pop culture, and self-care as the fall season begins. The episode serves as both a seasonal vibe check and a platform for the hosts to share thoughts on everything from dating multiple men and celebrity beefs to guided meditations for renewal.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Catching Up & Dating Multiple Men (02:36–06:14)

• AJ: Describes a low-key weekend, focusing on rest and gym routines.
• TamBam: Spills about going on multiple dates, one with a different man each day (03:36).
  • Quote: "Make the best man win, period. I don't know what else to tell you, you know?" (04:50, TamBam)
• The duo challenge societal expectations around single women dating widely.
  • AJ: “If we don’t do the ‘Are we together? Check yes or no?’... then I don’t know what to tell you.” (05:15)

2. Cardi B’s New Album & Female Rap Beefs (06:18–12:28)

• Both hosts hype up Cardi B’s second studio album, celebrating its energy and Cardi’s transformation.
• AJ draws parallels between public hip hop beef (Kendrick vs. Drake) and Cardi’s directness, especially her diss tracks aimed at other female rappers.
  • Quote: “Don’t sub me, bitch. You gotta tap me on my shoulder. Otherwise, I don’t know you talkin’ about me.” (08:26, AJ)
• They weigh in on DJ Akademiks’ public criticism that Cardi’s platinum numbers rely on old singles (“WAP,” “Up”), dismissing this as part of a pattern of him tearing down women in music (10:23–10:58).
• The hosts highlight Cardi B’s working mom example, setting new standards for public femininity and success (11:21–12:06).
  • TamBam: “It’s such a beautiful Cinderella story."

3. Pop Culture & Cancel Culture: Jimmy Kimmel Controversy (13:03–18:02)

• TamBam covers the temporary suspension and reinstatement of Jimmy Kimmel after controversial remarks.
  • AJ: Critiques limits on free speech and how public/government responses are becoming more punitive, warning about increasing censorship (14:01–16:55).
    • Quote: “Freedom of speech is very much under attack right now.” (15:14, AJ)
  • TamBam points out corporate pressures, noting Disney's financial loss as a catalyst for Kimmel's return (16:55).

4. Music Industry Crime & Tragedy: The D4VD Case (18:13–23:01)

• The hosts discuss the scandal involving Gen Z artist D4VD, whose car contained a missing teenager's body.
  • They note internet sleuths picking apart creepy connections between his song releases and the victim’s dates.
  • Draw broader connections to artists like YNW Melly, noting the disturbing trend of real violence in rap lyrics (22:03).
• TamBam: “When niggas tell you, like, they got crazy nicknames, don’t fuck with him.” (22:35)

5. Seasonal Vibes: Fall Favorite Rituals, Self-Care, and Home (24:10–38:30)

• The significance of fall: Both celebrate the season as a time for coziness, reflection, and layering up in style (24:16–30:49).
• Rituals:
  • AJ: Decluttering and deep cleaning to prepare for the new year (30:49).
  • TamBam: Morning ritual, stretching, and movement inspired by Asian routines (31:44).
  • Both: Adopting new forms of self-care—yoga, Pilates, and better bedding.
• Hilarious stories about aging, body aches, and mishaps with non-Western toilets keep the vibe funny and real (33:03–41:53).
  • AJ: “When I’m getting on that dick, I hear my hip crack and my knee crack...” (33:56)

6. Fall Wellness & Cooking (43:47–52:00)

• AJ shares a deep dive into making, buying, and dosing matcha for energy, warning against overconsumption (44:28).
  • TamBam: Shares a cautionary, hilarious tale after overindulging in a THC-infused beverage (45:38–47:42).
• Fall food essentials:
  • AJ: Homemade shrimp and gravy sans bacon, using seafood stock for flavor (50:42).
  • TamBam: Crock pot favorites—chicken tortilla soup, zuppa toscana (49:27).

7. Domestic Aesthetics & Fashion for Fall (55:14–61:56)

• AJ discusses home upgrades, especially in bedding and considerations for buying new furniture solo after a breakup (55:24–56:03).
• TamBam: Essentials for a fall vibe—candles, pumpkin décor, neutral tones, and cozy scents (57:02).
• Both discuss boot shopping, layering, the cyclical nature of fashion, and reselling clothes for a fresh start (59:00–61:56).
  • AJ: “I will buy somebody’s pre-loved boot... if I can get it at a fraction of cost.” (60:00)
  • TamBam: On clothing hoarding: “That’s the exact definition of hoarding, because I’ve associated a memory with this item.” (62:40)

8. Guided Meditation & Affirmations for Fall (63:23–68:35)

• AJ leads a 5-minute guided meditation for the new season, focusing on breath, visualization of autumn, and affirmations about rest and release (63:23–66:55).
  • Affirmation: “I welcome rest. I honor this season of quiet. Stillness restores me.” (65:50)
• Both urge listeners to embrace fall as a time for letting go and renewal:
  • AJ: “Map out next year this fall, and all the things that aren’t serving you, let them go.” (67:35)
  • TamBam: “Fall teaches us the beauty of release and letting go.” (68:05)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• TamBam: “Make the best man win, period.” (04:50)
• AJ: “Don’t sub me, bitch. You gotta tap me on my shoulder.” (08:26)
• AJ: “Freedom of speech is very much under attack right now.” (15:14)
• TamBam: “When niggas tell you, like, they got crazy nicknames, don’t fuck with him.” (22:35)
• AJ: “When I’m getting on that dick, I hear my hip crack and my knee crack...” (33:56)
• TamBam: “That’s the exact definition of hoarding, because I’ve associated a memory with this item.” (62:40)
• AJ [Guided Meditation Affirmation]: “I welcome rest. I honor this season of quiet. Stillness restores me.” (65:50)

Important Segment Timestamps

• Opening Banter & Dating – 02:36–06:14
• Cardi B Album & Rap Beefs – 06:18–12:28
• Cancel Culture: Jimmy Kimmel – 13:03–18:02
• D4VD Music Industry Crime – 18:13–23:01
• Seasonal Rituals & Aging Mishaps – 24:10–41:53
• Fall Wellness & Foods – 43:47–52:00
• Home Aesthetics & Fashion – 55:14–61:56
• Guided Meditation & Affirmations – 63:23–68:35

Tone & Language

The episode is lively, uncensored, and comedic, with plenty of realness, vulnerability, and banter. The hosts keep the environment candid and inclusive, dropping gems and laughter in equal measure while championing Black femininity and sisterhood.

Final Affirmations

• AJ: “Map out next year, this fall. Let go of all things that aren’t serving you.” (67:35)
• TamBam: “Love yourself more this fall. Be a little selfish this fall. It’s okay. Be a little self-serving this fall and let go the things that ain’t serving you.” (68:05)

For those who haven’t listened:
This episode is a vibrant blend of real women’s experiences, cultural commentary, relatable self-care talk, and honest advice—all delivered with sharp wit and a side of sisterly love. Whether you’re seeking inspiration for fall, grappling with relationship norms, or just want some Black girl joy, this episode’s for you.