We Talk Back: "The Judgment Olympics" with Good Moms Bad Choices

Release Date: January 2, 2026
Hosts: TamBam & AJ Holiday
Guests: Mila & Erica (Good Moms Bad Choices)
Podcast Theme: A sharp, unfiltered discussion led by unapologetic Black women, focusing on sex, relationships, motherhood, femininity, judgment, and empowerment—sprinkled with humor, wisdom, and a defiant spirit.

Episode Overview

In this vibrant crossover episode, TamBam and AJ from We Talk Back team up with Mila and Erica of Good Moms Bad Choices for a candid, hilarious, and deeply honest conversation about the "Judgment Olympics"—the ways society judges women, particularly single women, mothers, and those defying patriarchal norms. The group dives into stereotypes, dating confessions, internet controversies, and the quest for authenticity, all while celebrating the right to live out loud—on their own terms.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Catching Up & Relatability

(03:11 - 13:00)

• The women open with banter about weekends, travels, and life transitions (from moving cities to breaking feet at weddings).
• They discuss the challenges of transplant life: finding belonging, scattered belongings across cities, healing, and settling down.
• Quote:

  “I've been like a gypsy for the past year…after a year of living out of a suitcase and boxes, I'm finally about to be back in an apartment of my own⁠—back in Charlotte, the place I did not necessarily want to be. But here we are.”
  —TamBam (08:13)

2. Single Women and the Judgment of Sexual Histories

(15:03 – 21:02)

• The hosts dive into the hot topic of men asking women for a "list" of sexual partners.
• Loud rejection of the concept, with wit and wisdom:

  “Not only am I not giving you my list because I don't remember and I didn't write it down. …I'm also going to stop talking to you for even asking such an ignorant, ridiculous question.”
  —Mila (15:11)

• Honest admissions about lying (or not answering) and how double standards play out.
• Playful “hoe facts” logic:

  “If you wore a condom, it doesn't count, period.”
  —Mila (18:47)

• Commentary on the insecurity and ego behind men’s curiosity and how women navigate those situations gracefully.

3. Culture, Backlash, and Internet Clamor

(21:02 – 26:39)

• The group discusses the negative reaction Ayesha Curry received for reflecting on her early marriage and motherhood.
• Erica:

  “What woman who got married at 21 and got pregnant within the same year…why would she not be reflecting at this age, in her 30s now…the shoulda, coulda, woulda?” (21:37)

• A call-out on how both men and women uphold restrictive stereotypes about “wife” behavior.
• Shining a light on the social media tendency to distort and amplify narratives, especially about Black women.

4. Patriarchy, Matriarchy, and Gendered Power

(28:08 – 35:00)

• Potent exchange on whether we live in a patriarchy.
• AJ:

  “I always say how being submissive, that is definitely an ultimate form of manipulation. …There’s always women behind the scenes…actually running things.” (28:16)

• Mila:

  “Women are the gods on the planet, and this is why these niggas mad.” (30:18)

• Consensus that balance between masculine and feminine energy is necessary, but noting the deep-rooted societal inequalities (e.g., “pink tax” for women’s products).

5. Stereotypes of Mothers and the Child-Free

(41:07 – 46:09)

• The “Judgment Olympics” segment lists societal stereotypes about single mothers (they have ‘baggage’, are ‘unwanted’, etc.) and child-free women (selfish, ‘clock is ticking’).
• The group mocks the double standards around parenting expectations, especially between mothers and fathers.
• AJ:

  “Just because I don’t have kids does not mean I ain’t got shit to do, okay?” (42:00)

• They highlight the rudeness and insensitivity of questions like “Why don’t you have kids?”

6. Motherhood, Friendship, and Reclaiming Identity

(46:10 – 55:14)

• Mila and Erica reflect on their different journeys as mothers and how judgments, especially from other women, shaped their experiences.
• The importance of maintaining identity and joy while mothering, and resisting the trap of ‘mom martyrdom’.
• Erica:

  “I was heading down a path of imprisonment …when I went into motherhood, I felt like that girl had to die. …But your child deserves to see you show up as a whole human.” (48:14)

• Friendship dynamics shift post-motherhood; sometimes friends drop off, sometimes they rally.

7. Games: Would You Rather & Relationship Red Flags

(58:13 – 72:12)

Playful, revealing “Would You Rather” games, e.g.:

• Worshipful man with no ambition vs. challenging man who triggers you.
• Build up a man vs. find him ‘built’ but boring.
• Cheated with a baddie vs. a basic in Crocs.
• Preference for men who moan during sex, or don’t make a sound.
• The group’s hilarious, honest takes showcase their refusal to settle or hide their desires.

Memorable Moment:

“He sounded like a cartoon villain. He was like, ‘muahahaha’… That's how he came.”
—TamBam, explaining why she broke up with a guy (66:23)

8. Dumb Bitch Stories – Vulnerability + Laughter

(76:12 – 88:50)

Both Mila and Erica share wild, vulnerable “dumb bitch stories” about dodgy men, broken trust, and letting love/sex cloud judgment.

• Erica’s: Flying out a broke ‘model’ who ended up being a scam artist and proposed with a tiny ring during sex.
• Mila’s: Accidentally inviting a manipulative, short king with a big dog and bigger red flags into her life; escapades included consensual non-consensual kink, spiritual manipulation, and slapstick moments—until it became dangerous and Erica had to intervene.

Quotes:

“I have one final question. Is this him? Are these his pictures? Is he a model? …No, this was not him in any of the pictures. So I was basically just dating a whole lie.”
—Erica (79:58)

“I was like a crackhead for this dick, okay?”
—Mila (86:51)

9. Plugging Sisterhood & Self-Love

(89:27 – End)

• Mila and Erica plug their Good Moms Bad Choices brand, its retreats, and book, encouraging women to find community and healing.
• A final word on the importance of supportive friendship and genuine expression:

  “I don't want to be a lonely rich bitch… Who am I gonna go home to the yacht with?”
  —Mila (69:10)

Notable Quotes & Timestamps

• “Not only am I not giving you my list because I don't remember and I didn't write it down... I'm not in 12th grade.”
  —Mila (15:11)
• “I've hoed across the country, you know, I live in a different city than I hoe in.”
  —Mila (17:32)
• “If you wore a condom, it doesn't count, period.”
  —Mila (18:47)
• "It's not selfish not to want to be responsible for somebody else for the rest of your life."
  —AJ Holiday (52:08)
• “The longer you wait to have kids, you get more information.”
  —AJ Holiday (44:00)
• “Our entire podcast is about—I've done everything except fit that mold hard.”
  —Erica (46:30)
• “Motherhood really showed me who my friends were… it continues to.”
  —Erica (52:23)
• “I let him move in, and he was bipolar… then he slapped me in my face...I was like, oh, God's really trying to try me right now. Like, are you a real dumb bitch?”
  —Mila (86:14)
• “Those short dudes be packing sometimes… but… they might slap you. They're going to mind-fuck your brain.”
  —Mila (87:23)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• 03:11 – Hosts and guests catch up, share funny personal updates
• 15:03 – Discussion: Giving partners a “list” of sexual partners
• 21:02 – Ayesha Curry, backlash, and women’s public narratives
• 28:08 – Patriarchy, matriarchy, and gendered power
• 41:07 – The Judgment Olympics: Stereotypes of single mothers and child-free women
• 46:10 – Navigating motherhood and friendship
• 58:13 – "Would You Rather?" relationship games
• 76:12 – “Dumb Bitch Story” segment: Dating scams, dickmatization, and red flags
• 89:27 – Guest plugs and wrap up

Tone and Style

Raw, unfiltered, and comedic—these women blend wisdom with riotous humor, swinging effortlessly from introspection and sisterly advice to wild stories about love, sex, and the shenanigans of modern womanhood. The conversation is energetic, irreverent, and deeply real.

Concluding Thoughts

This episode is a must-listen for any woman who’s ever felt scrutinized for her choices, questioned her place, or just needed to laugh at the absurdities of dating, motherhood, and life. Through honest storytelling, mutual support, and sharp wit, the hosts and guests carve out a space where women are free to be their full selves—glitter, flaws, and all.

Find Good Moms Bad Choices:

• IG: @goodmoms_badchoices, @milah_map, @watcherica
• Podcast: Good Moms Bad Choices
• Book: "A Good Mom's Guide to Making Bad Choices"
• Retreat info: Good Vibe Retreat

Find We Talk Back:

• IG: @OfficialTamBam, @AJHoliday2.0
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