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AJ Holiday
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Tam Bam
We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talk back.
AJ Holiday
What's up, y'all? It's your girl, AJ Holiday. What's up, Tam Bam?
Tam Bam
Hey, y'all. Hey, aj.
AJ Holiday
Hello.
Tam Bam
It's hot. It's hot today. I'm so happy for a little bit of sun. Look at that sun on my face.
AJ Holiday
I know. Ain't y'all had an arctic storm last week?
Tam Bam
And we indeed. And it was freezing out here. The Lord work in mysterious ways. It was 26 and now it's 64.
AJ Holiday
You want to give you a little feel of home.
Tam Bam
I need that. Hey, y'all. I love y'all. I forgot y'all was here.
AJ Holiday
Y'all got going on.
Tam Bam
How was your weekend?
AJ Holiday
Rainy, cold. Really relaxing. I guess.
Tam Bam
You stayed inside.
AJ Holiday
I'm trying to think. Let me think. Because I'm trying not to lie to y'all no more because I do be doing and then lying about it. Nah. Really didn't do anything this past weekend. For real. No dinner? Nothing.
Tam Bam
I didn't do really this weekend either. I just worked and I've been working out and my leave out is up, and I'm just tired of, like, flat in it. So I was like, you know what? I ain't gonna go nowhere. I'm just gonna let it be. You know how them girls who we no shade. I love y'all. Before I say this, bitch. You know how the girls who date white men typically had a nappy leave out? And that's right here. Yeah, baby. I might get me one of those white boys this week.
AJ Holiday
Girl, the damn lace and shit on my wig is so stank.
Tam Bam
You wear a wig to the gym?
AJ Holiday
Yes, I be wearing a hat wig. You know what I'm saying? Like right now, this is my gym look from today.
Tam Bam
It's so hot.
AJ Holiday
What's the difference between that and a sew in? Oh. Cause the hat.
Tam Bam
The fact that you could extra hat.
AJ Holiday
But are you going to the gym with the sew in out too?
Tam Bam
Oh, when I. When I had my wig on, that red wig I was wearing. I just have a hat in my braids.
AJ Holiday
Oh, you wilding. Why you wilding, bitch? I'm so scared the hat gonna fall off and you man, my braids be up underneath these wigs. Okay. I be so ashamed at how I be letting my natural hair look. Cause I really do try not to touch it, but I don't moisturize my hair enough. This shit be really looking meek, Milly.
Tam Bam
Okay, so wait, you be walking around your nigga like that all day?
AJ Holiday
Yes. He'll say something occasionally. It's love. You don't know if a nigga love you until you could just walk around with them damn nasty ass braids.
Tam Bam
Okay. And he still want to fucking braids out, friend.
AJ Holiday
I did say, you know what? Let me wash my hair at least every two weeks. Still haven't.
Tam Bam
Yes, I wash the braids like, you.
AJ Holiday
Know what I'm saying? But like unloose the hair all the way and like wash and condition. Workout week, about three to four weeks.
Tam Bam
Every three or four.
AJ Holiday
It's nasty.
Tam Bam
Okay, though honestly, if your hair is braided up, if you had box braids or something like that, it'd be the same thing. Yeah.
AJ Holiday
In my head, I do sweat a lot in my head too. So I need to do better. Okay. I do just nasty.
Tam Bam
People just starting to do their New Year's resolution. Give up on your braid. Give up your braids for Lynn. No.
AJ Holiday
Okay, I can get the braids up as long as you don't make me give the wig up for Lynn.
Tam Bam
Why can't you throw braids back in like that you had before?
AJ Holiday
I have been wanting braids, man, but I just. It's the in and out. I don't be feeling like, you know what I'm saying? I be wanting to get braids, but to sit there and actually get them and then having. They are easier nowadays to take out though. For whatever reason, the weave is just different. And my hair, my scalp itches a lot with braids. I don't know how everybody else's.
Tam Bam
You know what? I saw, y'all, I saw that studies, new studies showing that the braiding hair is. Got a lot of cancer causing agents.
AJ Holiday
It's polyester.
Tam Bam
They're trying to kill us. Yeah, it's polyester every way they can.
AJ Holiday
That's why a lot of people have, have like allergic reaction reactions to that stuff.
Tam Bam
Girl, when I got those loc extensions Remember how crazy I went last year, y'all? My scalp was on fire. Fire. But I paid, like, over $2,000 for this hairstyle. And it was supposed to be human hair, so I'm just confused as to why this synthetic hair is touching my head. And she's like, oh, I wrapped the top with braiding hair.
AJ Holiday
That. No, $2,000.
Tam Bam
That's not what I paid for.
AJ Holiday
So she definitely tripping.
Tam Bam
Yeah, then we'll go back there. But anyway, let's get into sins.
AJ Holiday
Let's get into it. What we got going on this week? Cha Washington, D.C. has been named the nation's ghosting capital. Y'all know I love me a good ghost. Okay? It says with 76% of residents admitting to cutting off contact with someone in the past year, Survey from number hashtag number Barn reveals that D.C. residents ghost an average of 5.1 people per year and have been ghosted about 3 to 4. 3.4 times. Reasons for ghosting and include losing interest, 54% and red flags like dishonesty. 28%. When it comes to dating, 75% of singles report being ghosted. With men 77% more likely to experience it than women, 72%. What do you think about that?
Tam Bam
I hate ghosting. I hate that.
AJ Holiday
Why I don't owe you a response every time. Every person you meet, you owe them a response as to why you don't want to talk to them no more. Imagine that. Especially when you like single and dating. You run into all these we on the dating apps. You actually letting niggas holler at you, holl at you in the street. Like, I don't feel like I owe you an explanation every single time. Yes, it does. When you're not giving somebody an explanation. That's why I like mutual ghost, where we both just fade to black. It's fine then, you know?
Tam Bam
But if we were, like, really talking, and I feel like I'll give you an explanation, but if it was just, like, casual, I missed you, and it just kind of. I don't consider that as ghosting. I think ghosting is when you was really, like, kicking it. Yeah. And then you disappear. That's fucked up. I feel like. Yeah, I always give some type of explanation. At least that at this stage.
AJ Holiday
How you doing? How do you do it?
Tam Bam
Oh, so today I gave this guy. I told him I was no longer interested. I told him I gave him my number in January, and I told him a few weeks ago that he had not asked me on a date yet, and he still had not asked Me. And now I'm no longer interested. That's fucked up. No. Yeah, it's March. I gave you my number in January. You just want to text and be pen pals, nigga, right? Leave me alone. You wasting my time.
AJ Holiday
I just saw a meme. It was this dude, like, it was like slow music playing in the background. And then the caption was something like, when she's slowly starting to lose interest, right? Like, he's just like. The text messages are getting few and far in between. And all the women in the comments was like. Cause you probably ain't take her out. You probably done wyd her to death. And that's usually what it be like. Why we. I'm annoyed at this point, right?
Tam Bam
It's like. And I even mentioned it. I was like, look, you haven't asked me out. What's up? And then two. Two more weeks passed by, and you still texting me. Boy, get off my phone. You wasting my time. Leave me alone.
AJ Holiday
So when I saw this, the first thing I thought was, cause they asked all them fucking STDs in DC so then I pulled up, like, the list by City for STDs and stuff like that. So Baltimore is actually number five on the list, which we know is close to D.C. and then D.C. is actually number seven STI cases per hundred thousand population. They got 1334 STIs, HIV cases, this is from this year. 593 chlamydia, 22,738 gonorrhea cases, 6450 syphilis cases. Four hundred and eighty nine. So I wonder how that factors into that.
Tam Bam
20,000 gonorrheas?
AJ Holiday
Yes.
Tam Bam
Oh, my God.
AJ Holiday
22,000 gonorrheas. No, it's 22,000 chlamydias and 6,000 gonorrheas. Number one on the list is to add right quick, if y'all want to know, number one on the list is Detroit, Michigan. Y'all be careful.
Tam Bam
Damn.
AJ Holiday
Yeah.
Tam Bam
All right, so I know y'all saw this because it's going viral everywhere. High school track runner speaks up after striking opponent. So there's this video of Aaliyah Everett, a student athlete at I.C. norcom High School in Virginia, claims that situation. Claims that this situation was misunderstood. And the quote she quoted, it's like they are going off of one single angle. She told WAVY tv. Everett and Kayleen Tucker, a junior at Brookville High School, were competing in a 4 by 200 meter relay where they nearly collided.
AJ Holiday
Why your voice trembling, bitch? Let me stop.
Tam Bam
Yo, that Video is so funny to me.
AJ Holiday
I'm sorry.
Tam Bam
Yes.
AJ Holiday
It's only funny to me now because you laughing.
Tam Bam
That shit is funny. When she said, a bitch you beat with me, it's funny to me because I know how she felt. Like, you ain't never. What? You ain't never been a sore loser about some shit. Like, in life, especially as a kid, I remember, like, trying to do my baby doll's hair. And when it wouldn't do what I wanted to do, I remember snatching the head off like mad as fuck and then trying to put it back on. And it would never go back on. Right. It's like, fucked up.
AJ Holiday
Like, despite what y'all think about me, I am Ms. Benefit of the Doubt. Right. And I actually have a lot of empathy for both girls because in the moment, it's like, just like you said, like, oh, like, that's.
Tam Bam
It was really.
AJ Holiday
To me, it was a unsportsmanlike reflex.
Tam Bam
Yeah.
AJ Holiday
So if anything, she should be banned, right? From sports. I mean, I don't even think it should go into college, you know, especially if she doesn't have a history of behavioral issues. Yeah, she comment. Exactly. People in the comments say, oh, no, she needs to be prosecuted. Like, are y'all nuts?
Tam Bam
Y'all? We google how much one of those little batons weigh and it's less than a pound.
AJ Holiday
Like, exactly. But this student is saying that she has a fractured skull and all type of other things. She got hit once with it, but it didn't look like she was coming.
Tam Bam
To hit her again.
AJ Holiday
The bitch just kind of fed up. It just remind me of Nasty Kerrigan. Remember that shit?
Tam Bam
Oh, yeah.
AJ Holiday
This happened in the 90s. Yeah. She hired people to actually injure this. This woman, Nancy Kerrigan was actually injured by another ice skater who she hired, like Hitman, essentially, to ruin this lady's career.
Tam Bam
What's her name was like Nicole Smith. No, that's.
AJ Holiday
Damn, it's Nancy. No, girl, Nicole Smith is.
Tam Bam
I know who that is. That's my man.
AJ Holiday
Nuts. Okay, it was Nancy Kerrigan. And the lady, the other lady's name was Tanya Hardin. Tanya Hardin hired her ex husband and his uncle or some shit to run up on Nancy Kerrigan and hit her in the thigh. So basically came. It was a career ending injury, you know what I'm saying? She was winning all of the fucking Olympics running circles around this other hoe, and she got mad. So I liken it to that. But no, it's not the same. She just was mad she was losing. Now her crying after the Fact, gaslighting people. Now, maybe she'd her ass whoop a little bit about that, but prison time, can y'all be more like. I feel like at this point, it's almost like what black people. Like, since when did we become the police so much, right? Y'all be online doing all these investigations, and I feel like y'all make y'all open up floodgates for other people to mishandle us because it almost seems like y'all okay with it, right?
Tam Bam
Cause they just kids, man. They just kids. She made a bad choice. She needs to apologize and acknowledge her behavior and stop trying to absolve herself. But all that other shit like, oh, assault and all that. Relax, kids. Kids sometimes fight in sports. Shit, Adults fight in sports.
AJ Holiday
That's what I'm like. She had. She had something in her hand at the time, right? But let's just say football, hockey, like, people get hit with shit all the time, right? Not about to criminalize a high school student for this.
Tam Bam
Right?
AJ Holiday
Damn mind. Couldn't have been my kid. Okay? Now, yeah, she should be banned from sports. She probably will be or some type of disciplinary action. But jail time, Y'all need to cut it out.
Tam Bam
Y'all running out.
AJ Holiday
Y'all need to cut it out.
Tam Bam
So thank you for the end of tape.
AJ Holiday
That is. That shit was. I never thought it was funny until you was laughing about it.
Tam Bam
How did you not see?
AJ Holiday
That's like a frustrated. Like, it's one of those. Like, I can see how it happened. You see what I'm saying? I wouldn't do it. Right, Right.
Tam Bam
But I can see how that.
AJ Holiday
Yes. From a child with less than life expect of adults. You know what I'm saying? Like, she just was acting out. She's a bad kid.
Tam Bam
Okay.
AJ Holiday
She might need a spanking.
Tam Bam
Right? But that's it.
AJ Holiday
Yeah, hell wrong with y'all. Anyway, so apparently Khloe Kardashian be lying today.
Tam Bam
Little.
AJ Holiday
Her little daughter Truth. Okay. Got the baby thinking that her and Tristan are husband and wife. So it says. In a recent episode of episode of the Kardashians, Khloe Kardashian opened up about her unique co parenting approach with ex NBA star Tristan Thompson. She revealed that their six year old daughter. True. Excuse me, I called a baby Truth. True. Believes her parents are still married. And Khloe Kardashian chooses to maintain this belief for now. This decision stems from her desire to teach truth traditional values and shield her from adult complexities. Part of me understands the other part don't like you should she should have a different name. That's why I don't understand it.
Tam Bam
You lied to all the things we lie to kids about, though, when they're little.
AJ Holiday
Jail. No, we say the nigga in college.
Tam Bam
Tooth fairy, Santa Claus, Easter Bunny. You're her marriage, you know?
AJ Holiday
Right.
Tam Bam
So I understand. I ain't mad. Like, whenever you're ready.
AJ Holiday
But the baby name is true, though. Girl, you wilding. Okay. Yeah, definitely wilding. I don't disagree with it. I wouldn't do it, but it's not the worst harm that they could cause a child. That's definitely like a little. It's definitely like a little stupid traceable lie, basically.
Tam Bam
But I've seen worse. I've seen. I had a client back in Europe who. Damn. I shouldn't really say this on the show, but it's over now.
AJ Holiday
Do it.
Tam Bam
She had a baby while she was living with her aunt and gave her baby to her aunt to raise and then went back home with her parents. So her aunt raised her baby as her child. And now they, like, the child's growing up thinking that her mom is her cousin. And they never told. I don't know how it is now, but they never told her mom that she was even pregnant.
AJ Holiday
Wow.
Tam Bam
Well, her mama don't know that that's her baby for real now. See those. That.
AJ Holiday
That type of lie is different. That's like wild, wild lies. You know what I'm saying? The kids gonna have identity issues, all type of things, you know?
Tam Bam
Right. And then she also never told the boy who got her pregnant that he has a child. Yep.
AJ Holiday
Oh, yeah, she wiling. That's terrible.
Tam Bam
Between them and her mom, her aunt took the baby and raised the baby as hers.
AJ Holiday
That is not a little white lie that can do a lot of harm.
Tam Bam
Huge lie. Your whole life is a lie.
AJ Holiday
Because sometimes, for whatever reasons, like, people who have been raised that way, they always feel disconnected from the family that raised them. They know, like, innately, like, they know something that's not right, something's wrong. Yeah.
Tam Bam
Yeah.
AJ Holiday
That's terrible, child. Well, Chloe ain't doing all that, but.
Tam Bam
Right.
AJ Holiday
Tell the kids the truth, man. Kids are very advanced nowadays.
Tam Bam
And God forbid that child need blood or a kidney or something like that or. And you find out your mama ain't your mama, right?
AJ Holiday
Or like, remember that black lady who actually took a baby from the hospital? And it wasn't until the girl was, like, trying to get her license or something like that, and she couldn't produce the birthday.
Tam Bam
Oh, that kid from the hospital.
AJ Holiday
I believe that woman is still in prison. She got a lot of time. I think she received a year. For how long she had the girl?
Tam Bam
Yeah. And she was like 18 or something like that.
AJ Holiday
And the girl still wanted a relationship with her.
Tam Bam
Oh yeah.
AJ Holiday
She still.
Tam Bam
Yeah, she still loved her mom because that was her mom who loved her and cared for her. 18 years.
AJ Holiday
Right. Girl, people are nuts.
Tam Bam
That's crazy. Yeah. I ain't even mad at Chloe. There's a. Just don't let it go on too long, you know.
AJ Holiday
Right. Speaking of the kids. So did you see this ddg Halle Bailey's baby daddy. He really acting like a baby daddy now. Chad, you know, he's like a big streamer as well as a rapper. So he was, you know, talking to his audience and basically saying he, he. He would have said something sooner, but he was trying to protect her golden image, whatever the fuck that means. And her image is still golden to the majority of us. So he, he was feeling some type of way because he went to visit the son, not necessarily pick him up. This is his words. He went to see his son. So they aren't together. He alluded to the fact that maybe he's seen other people and so has Hallie. Seeing other people. You can't chill at my house if you can't come get your. See, he said the son was sick, he just wanted to go over there, which they live an hour and a half apart or something and. And like hang out with the kid downstairs. But then he ends up getting kicked out. What did you do to get kicked out the house? And maybe you just over wore your welcome for today, right? What do you. This is what happens when you leave.
Tam Bam
Your home have changed. Yeah. The boundaries have changed in our relationship. So you can't just. Maybe I got a new man. Like maybe. Or maybe I just don't even want to be bothered with you today. And that's my prerogative because you don't live here and you're not my man. So I don't owe you that. If you wanna take your baby. If you wanna take your baby somewhere and it's okay with my schedule, that's fine.
AJ Holiday
Right? Or even if it's okay on my schedule for you to hang out here, but maybe today is not. So the baby's sick, Wait until he's better. Cause you're not traveling with the sick kid. Men can't even care. I'm not saying men can't, but men barely like to touch little tiny babies until they get a certain size, you know, so you can't take the baby with you. You. You came here. We don't know the ins and out. Maybe he wasn't. Maybe she didn't want him there ahead and told him to come. Now I see your face. I don't feel like that shit like, we. We don't know. But this is what happens when you have. When you create a family with somebody and y'all not together. I'm pretty sure she would have preferred for her to be in a relationship with her son's father, but for whatever reason, it can't happen right now. It's just different. My nigga. Get over it, girl. You are nuts. Okay, yeah. For whatever reason, like right now, you can't. Have it your way, sir. It just annoyed me. This wasn't even like stupid Internet news, for real. It just really, really, really. He annoyed the shit out of me just watching it. That golden image thing is what got me.
Tam Bam
I don't really care about them. Like, this is like, no shit. I love Holly. She's so talented. But I mean, how many times we've seen this story over and over and over and over again in our regular lives, you know?
AJ Holiday
Too many.
Tam Bam
Too many. So it's just another part for the course as far as I'm concerned. Now, doi has ruffled a few feathers after in a recent episode of Hot Ones. Is that podcast Hot Ones Podcast, where she tells DJ Miss Milan a straight man is her biggest red flag in a relationship. So if you recall, recall, doi has been vocal about being queer. In a recent Breakfast Club interview, the Grammy award winning artist said, I'm bisexual. That's cool. I've dated bisexual men. No problem.
AJ Holiday
Well, I mean her preference, right? See now this is. This is where it gets kind of sketchy because you know how like we be with the white. The black men who like white women and how they like to talk shit about black women just because they like white women. Like, you can say why you prefer a white girl without downing black black women. This is kind of on the same lines of that, right? We gonna call a thing a thing. You can say you like bisexual men, right? Or queer men without calling heterosexual men a red flag, right? Cuz to me, baby, I don't give a damn. These things get on my nerves. I don't want coochie, okay? I never been mad at a enough. At least he could do the duggity. That is coochie.
Tam Bam
When I'm pissed, I want to see like, maybe I need to watch the full interview to understand what abouts. Did you Hear what about straight.
AJ Holiday
No, I didn't.
Tam Bam
Makes them a red flag, because I prefer my men straight, too.
AJ Holiday
Yeah, like, but I guess, you know, more queer. We can think of, like, some of the characteristics of a queer man, of a bisexual man. They may be, like, a little bit more feminine, maybe. You know what I'm saying? Softer. Maybe they more attentive. Like, maybe those are the things that would. That are attractive. Because I remember, like, the clubhouse. Clubhouse days. It used to be a bunch of girls on there saying they prefer bisexual men. So when these men be out here being deceitful, like, there's a whole group of women that is. Come as you are over here, baby. You don't have to lie about, you know, being down low or being attracted to men anymore. You actually have women that are okay with that. Lots of them.
Tam Bam
Yeah. Just not me. Don't come over here with that. Cause that's a problem for me. And it's not because I judge your sexuality. Be who you want to be. But I'm not competing with bitches and niggas. I can't. I don't have the time. So I got to worry about pussy and dick.
AJ Holiday
Right. And coach be going through enough as is. Now I got to. Now I'm trying to. Really trying to figure out why I'm a ph. Y'all screwed up all the time because.
Tam Bam
You might be fucking a boy or a girl. Like, I just ain't got time to pick a side.
AJ Holiday
I would me. I want people who pick a side. That's just one of the things in life. It ain't no. It ain't no double dutching. Okay. Pick a side and stay there.
Tam Bam
Yeah.
AJ Holiday
And be honest. If you do, like, the other side and this side, like, just be honest with people. So a lot of heterosexual men seem to be, like, offended by that shit.
Tam Bam
I think a lot of women who are 35 plus don't believe in bisexual at all as far as men are concerned.
AJ Holiday
Right. Yeah, you gay.
Tam Bam
You just gay to 35 and older. 35 and under. They acknowledge bisexual as a. As a category for men.
AJ Holiday
Hell, no. I'm from Charleston, girl. It's punk. That's a punk.
Tam Bam
You call me Ms. Helen. That's definitely.
AJ Holiday
My homegirl was like, I really think Charles and the only people that say punk.
Tam Bam
Yeah. That's not like some old ladies, baby.
AJ Holiday
You a punk. And I. I don't want to date a punk.
Tam Bam
Yeah. I don't.
AJ Holiday
I prefer heterosexual men. Now, you. You can't control what people don't tell you.
Tam Bam
So is That a Slurpee? Because do gay guys call themselves a punk?
AJ Holiday
Yeah.
Tam Bam
So he. Like, I'm a punk? Yes.
AJ Holiday
Like, especially in Charleston, they call each other punks. Like. Yeah, it's not. I don't think it's as bad as the F bomb. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, I like it.
Tam Bam
See, I had to learn. I had to learn because I did not know the F word was a bad word. In many, many.
AJ Holiday
Depends on who you talking to and who you know, who wants to make a problem with it, basically.
Tam Bam
Oh. But I learned real quick because I was in Atlanta and I was at the gas station, this was many years ago. And I was like, oh, it's a lot of. It's a lot of out here. That's what I said, right? And I didn't mean it. Like, in my head. I thought that was just another way to say gay guy. I promise you, I did not mean anything bad by it. But this gay guy got me together real cool.
AJ Holiday
A random gay guy.
Tam Bam
A random gay guy at the gas station was like, fish, who the fuck you calling? Who you? And I was like, wait, did I say something wrong? I'm so.
AJ Holiday
But I thought fish was a term of endearment too. Like, girl, you giving Fish.
Tam Bam
No, that's bad. I thought he said it like bad. And he was like, you get your ass whooped by this.
AJ Holiday
Uh. Oh. He said that to you? Oh, did you pull your gun out?
Tam Bam
No, I ran. I ran real fast. I ran like that girl with the baton. The one in the front who got hit in the head with the baton. I was running just like that bitch.
AJ Holiday
So I would have been like. So you think men should be able to put their hand on women because you're still a man?
Tam Bam
I ain't had time to have that conversation. Okay.
AJ Holiday
I would have.
Tam Bam
Oh, no, he was a big. He was a big ass, punk, burly bitch. Sometimes you gotta know when to find.
AJ Holiday
I like them double standards.
Tam Bam
Cause he was definitely ready to square up with me, squabble up. I was like, oh, no, I'm getting up out of here. It's two in the morning. We drunk. He drunk too. It's after the club. I don't have no time. I'm like 24 years old at the time, this big old man.
AJ Holiday
Shame.
Tam Bam
But I learned my lesson. I apologize. You know, I am sorry. I didn't mean nothing by it. So.
AJ Holiday
Yeah, you got a punch by the puncture.
Tam Bam
Oh, yeah, I did. I don't care. I call it. I ran. I ran for that.
AJ Holiday
All right. Y'all, listen. So this week's episode, okay, it's kind of pre recorded and it would make more sense if we have visuals, but we don't. We did, but we don't. Anyway, we doing truth or dare this week, y'all. Okay? That's about it.
Tam Bam
We didn't get to learn some of our truths. And AJ tried to embarrass me.
AJ Holiday
How?
Tam Bam
Cause remember we called that nigga and he said, y'all. Oh, girl, yeah, he lying. I'm gonna let y'all know right now before you even hear that nigga was lying.
AJ Holiday
But y'all see how I get blamed for stuff? How the hell I try to embarrass you?
Tam Bam
Because you said keep it in there. So we keeping it in there.
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Tam Bam
So did you do dry January drink?
AJ Holiday
Did y'all do drink enough to have to do dry Anything you do dry?
Tam Bam
I heard. I'm joking. I'm joking. I didn't do dry January.
AJ Holiday
Why are you telling my man business?
Tam Bam
I didn't do dry January. I didn't drink that much because it was just cold outside. It wasn't nowhere to go, you know? So I kind of did dry January, but this is my first time, like, for real drinking, like, shots of liquor.
AJ Holiday
Yeah, I usually listen. I don't chase nothing. Okay. So I usually drink my liquor straight.
Tam Bam
Yeah, but you.
AJ Holiday
You.
Tam Bam
You diluted that.
AJ Holiday
Just. No. Okay.
Tam Bam
I. Yeah, you diluted it a little bit. It's not technically a shot.
AJ Holiday
Okay, so why did you do juice.
Tam Bam
On the side to go with my shot. To chase it.
AJ Holiday
Oh, you just don't mix it together.
Tam Bam
Yeah, I just need something to wash it down because we don't know how much liquor you really have in this shower.
AJ Holiday
It's still brown. What you put in there anyway.
Tam Bam
You can take some brown sugar.
AJ Holiday
It's pure pressure. But I don't drink enough to have to not drink.
Tam Bam
Yeah. Cause you filling it up with apple juice.
AJ Holiday
So this little bit of liquor might have me gone. Okay, we gonna see. So let's see. It says the rules of the game. Each round, guests are asked a spicy or embarrassing or revealing question. They can either answer honestly or take a shot to stay silent.
Tam Bam
Okay?
AJ Holiday
No dodging, no half answers. Just the truth. Or the booze.
Tam Bam
Listen, we might need to get me a hotel room out the business account tonight. Cause I don't know if I'll be able to drive back to Columbia. We gonna see. All right, so here's the warmup round. Breaking the ice light and fun questions to start. All right, first, what's your most embarrassing drunk story?
AJ Holiday
I already told that on here.
Tam Bam
What is it? Tell it again. No, take a shot.
AJ Holiday
My most embarrassing drunk story is when I took a laxative.
Tam Bam
Oh.
AJ Holiday
Earlier in the day prior to my then boyfriend coming over. And, you know, maybe I might have took it the night before.
Tam Bam
You know what I'm saying?
AJ Holiday
Usually, like, that shit's supposed to start working by the next morning, but it didn't. So now here we are, like 8 o'clock, the next fucking evening. I'm like doing wild bitch squatting. I had a different pet at the time, honey. My dog, Honey. Rest in peace, honey. She was a Lhasa apso. So I'm squatting bitch. I mean, on some porn shit, you know, like squatting, throwing it back, hair swinging and shit, around and gagged. And a quarter sized piece of dookie. About a quarter sized piece of dookie popped up and this nigga running around the room like, I'm so embarrassed. Like, slightly, but, man, you haven't seen me, okay? You might ain't never seen this shit.
Tam Bam
It come out. It's embarrassing.
AJ Holiday
Like, listen, I ran to the bathroom to get like, shit to clean up the carpet, but before I could, my dog ate it. Like, she ate. Oh, my God, you know. Cause I guess she saw me as her mom. I'm her mom. She's my mom.
Tam Bam
No, dogs are just cleaning up. Dogs are just disgusting.
AJ Holiday
Honey ate the doo doo, man.
Tam Bam
And that's why I gotta say, y'all gotta stop letting them dogs kiss y'all in the mouth. And y'all know who y'all are that I'm talking about. Stop letting them dogs kiss y'all in your face. They will eat your dookie.
AJ Holiday
Yes. Cause that same dog used to go outside and eat cat shit and come and throw it up in the House and I got to clean it up.
Tam Bam
Yeah, exactly.
AJ Holiday
Yes. I don't kiss animals in the mouth.
Tam Bam
No, don't do that.
AJ Holiday
That's my embarrassment.
Tam Bam
Yeah, that was pretty embarrassing. And I'm glad you were comfortable to share it again.
AJ Holiday
I don't.
Tam Bam
Listen, I don't see the thing about me when I'm drunk. And this is a problem. Nothing embarrasses me, you know, when I'm drunk. So I'm trying to think, what was an embarrassing moment? Drunk.
AJ Holiday
I'm gonna tell. Can I tell them about an embarrassment? You may not think it's embarrassing, but somebody telling me you did this, I felt like secondhand embarrassment.
Tam Bam
Me?
AJ Holiday
Yes, bitch.
Tam Bam
What? Somebody told you I did something embarrassing?
AJ Holiday
I told you about this. I think the nigga said, wait, I.
Tam Bam
Don'T know if I need to hear.
AJ Holiday
This, but it's not bad. It's not like dookie, okay? The said his homeboy took Tammy on a date. You know what I'm saying? They go back to the house, he thinking he about to smash, and this bitch start acting out movies, drunk acting out movies, freestyling, goofy shit.
Tam Bam
And that's what I'mma do. The entertainment is free, period. But imagine a nigga think he about to get some pussy and he died. Set it off.
AJ Holiday
I literally put that shit in my notes. Cause that's a whole movie scene. Like, imagine taking a bitch. Like, imagine seeing that on the screen, right? Like, he just ready, like, oh, man, she going to the bathroom.
Tam Bam
You want to come upstairs?
AJ Holiday
And she come out with like, set it off.
Tam Bam
She come out looking like Cleo. Acting and lights, camera, action. I really didn't, like, I don't remember doing that, but it sounds like me. That's true.
AJ Holiday
That sound like her.
Tam Bam
That's so true. I know he was like this stupid ass.
AJ Holiday
So you got an embarrassing drunk story.
Tam Bam
I can't think of any. Like, I told you, I don't be embarrassed. I can tell somebody else story. I can't. I don't have no embarrassment.
AJ Holiday
You didn't drink.
Tam Bam
Oh, I do have an embarrassing moment, now that I think about it. This was back at Benedict College and we was like drinking real heavy back then, taking shots of Patron. And I had got some cheap ass shoes from like. I think they were rainbow girl. Rainbow shoes.
AJ Holiday
And they had like fashion Nova is rainbow.
Tam Bam
Yeah, it's the same shit graffiti on it, right? But it went with my little mini skirt that I had got from whatever those PacSun or whatever. And baby, I was in there thinking I was the finest bitch walking through the club. And the heel broke on that bitch while I was going down the steps. And then I tumbled all the way down the steps in main event. Y'all remember main event? Oh, my God. So I went falling down the steps and I was like, for real hurt. And then, like, people were laughing. And then the people. I looked to see who was laughing the loudest, and it was the bitches who I was with. Like.
AJ Holiday
Your friends always gonna laugh at you.
Tam Bam
The friends laughing the hardest at me. And I was so embarrassed that I did not even say. And we had just got there, like we were coming walking in, you know, like going to the Vibrant. Yeah. And it broke. And then what was more embarrassing is that I had to walk out like this because, you know, I'm off. I'm off guilt. And I had to walk. So that was an embarrassing moment for sure.
AJ Holiday
Yeah, that's definitely embarrassing. Rainbow and them cheap ass gotta be all sexual shit. That's definitely embarrassing. I fell down in the club. I always fall, as a matter of fact.
Tam Bam
Really?
AJ Holiday
I haven't fell in a while, but I be real, like, cautious because the is clumsy. So I definitely not fell down in the club before. So I think. Have you ever seen a risky text you regret while drunk?
Tam Bam
Yes, and let me tell you why I regret it. Cause I was drunk and I was. I sent. I sent an ass shot to my mama. I did not send it to the right person. And my mama was like, what the fuck?
AJ Holiday
You stupid?
Tam Bam
First of all, I don't want my mama to know me in that capacity.
AJ Holiday
Your mama know what that ass look like?
Tam Bam
She know what it look like, but she don't know it in that manner. She did not need to know in that manner. I was so mortified that I sent that to my own mama. She don't know how. She don't need to know how I be getting down. You know what I'm saying?
AJ Holiday
I don't know if I ever sent, like, something, I mean, to send or I feel some type of way about sending, because I think only time I would probably be embarrassed is if I don't get the response I was looking for.
Tam Bam
Right?
AJ Holiday
Yeah. And that's never happened, right?
Tam Bam
You never sent a text and it went to the wrong person. Oh, I remember one time I was in London and it was some rappers from the States that had came to London, and we got on Twitter, we all linked up, and it was after the show and we were back at the hotel or whatever, and my homegirl was like, with somebody else, and I was with this person in the room. But I wasn't trying to give her no ass, you know? Which as a grown woman, it's like, why are you even there if you're not trying to do nothing? Right? So we all. We've been drinking, we've been smoking. I think I'm texting her this. You can come back. You can come down here. Because this ain't about to get no ass. I sent it to him while you sitting right there. I sent him to text.
AJ Holiday
See, I don't make those type of mistakes. I'm too playing for that. When I tell you I'm double check checking the top to see who name up there before I hit send.
Tam Bam
And he was like, okay, you can shout it. You can go to her. She gotta come here.
AJ Holiday
No, this for you. Who's the most famous person you've ever DMed?
Tam Bam
Girl, I be staying in these famous DMs, so I can't think of, like, the most famous. I mean, I don't know. I guess I'm not telling y'all. Cause I be talking to us. I ain't telling y'all.
AJ Holiday
I don't know if I ever. I don't know. I want Kanye to go do birthday with me one year. So I've definitely messaged Kanye.
Tam Bam
You still want that?
AJ Holiday
Yeah, I still fuck with Kanye.
Tam Bam
Kanye. Kanye says so. You ain't skinny enough to hang out with Kanye. You see what he said anyway? He said, laugh at, bitch.
AJ Holiday
I'ma just say your mama was a fat bitch. Don't forget, nigga, your mama. Your mama was trying not to be a fat bitch no more and lost her fucking life.
Tam Bam
Don't say that.
AJ Holiday
What? It's the truth.
Tam Bam
We have not even taken a shot. Why he talking about we have not taken shot yet? What did he say about. I'm not. I don't even know. Next question. Oh, my God.
AJ Holiday
Tell me what he said.
Tam Bam
He just was saying, like, if you with a fat bitch, you broke. Like, basically something along those lines. You broke. If you with a fat. That's the only reason you with hers, cuz, you ain't got.
AJ Holiday
So if you with a fat, that what that mean? He got money, right? Right.
Tam Bam
That's. I guess that what that mean. I like my. I can. I like a little chubby.
AJ Holiday
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Tam Bam
The Spicy Truth have you ever hooked up with someone and regretted it immediately?
AJ Holiday
Absolutely.
Tam Bam
Yes. Absolutely.
AJ Holiday
And I'm ghosting.
Tam Bam
Absolutely.
AJ Holiday
I'm ghosting. Like, I'm not talking to you no more.
Tam Bam
I listen. I was dealing with. This was very young. This is my 20s. I was working at this club in Summerton. I was bartending. And this guy had a Dr. Pepper Caprice. You back, you know, back when used to have the cars with like the.
AJ Holiday
Somebody gonna know that I don't care.
Tam Bam
Cause you if you know him, you know him. This, like, he was so cute. And I was talking to him all the time. We started. We finally hooked up one night. This had narcolepsy, I think.
AJ Holiday
Cause he was falling asleep in the. Yeah, I had a couple fall asleep on me. I was like, what the. I had a fall CG in my coochie before, like, running. Bite me. Wake up, wake up.
Tam Bam
He end up telling me that he had a condition.
AJ Holiday
Oh, okay.
Tam Bam
But you. You need to tell somebody that up front.
AJ Holiday
Yeah, he get a little. A little tiny pass.
Tam Bam
I'm thinking, like, is my sleepy. Like, what is going on?
AJ Holiday
Not the sleepy dick, man. Have I ever had a dude fall asleep while sex, though? I feel like I have for sure.
Tam Bam
Yeah. Drunk as hell. All right.
AJ Holiday
I had a dude come to my house one time, pissy drunk, literally smelling like urine, pants wet.
Tam Bam
I had a nigga so pissy drunk come to my house one night. He couldn't drive. Like, this was my people, though, so I loved him to death. He has since passed away, rest in peace. But he was so drunk, he went to sleep on the couch, right? Cause he just couldn't drive the rest of the way home. And we wasn't like that. So he was like on the couch. I'm up. I'm up. Because I haven't been up drinking. This nigga gets up, and I watch him walk into the kitchen, open the refrigerator and piss in my refrigerator, thinking he was in the bathroom.
AJ Holiday
What?
Tam Bam
When I tell you, I walked over there and straight punched him in his shit like so. And then he woke up and he was like, oh, my God, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.
AJ Holiday
Did he clean it?
Tam Bam
Yeah, he cleaned it, and then he had it professionally cleaned and bought me a grocery refrigerator full of groceries. Pissed in my refrigerator thinking he was in the bathroom and that was the toilet and not the girl who.
AJ Holiday
You open the door, you ain't lift a lid. That's.
Tam Bam
He was sleepwalking.
AJ Holiday
We can stay retarded, y'all.
Tam Bam
All right, the next question. Have you ever cheated or been the side piece?
AJ Holiday
You drinking because you don't want to tell. Are you drinking because you want to? Just want to drink.
Tam Bam
I don't know nothing about that, so let's drink. If you're not gonna talk, drink so you can stay silent.
AJ Holiday
Well, I've been an unofficial side.
Tam Bam
I've never before. Yeah, I've never cheated, and I've never.
AJ Holiday
Been outside, and I've definitely done on somebody boyfriend before, but I've never, like, been, like, a real side chick. I wish a would even treat me like that.
Tam Bam
Well, what's the difference?
AJ Holiday
I just feel like you. You only with that person. Like, you. You like, single, but in a relationship with somebody who's in a relationship with somebody else. So. No. And then cheated. Of course not. Never cheated. You can answer that truthfully, can't you?
Tam Bam
I've never cheated. Oh, my gosh.
AJ Holiday
Women don't even cheat. Black women don't cheat. Like, why would they even put that on?
Tam Bam
This is stupid. This game is. This game is getting dumb.
AJ Holiday
It's offensive.
Tam Bam
All right.
AJ Holiday
So offensive.
Tam Bam
What's the next one that's so offensive? What is something your ex would say is your biggest flaw?
AJ Holiday
I'll shut the fuck up.
Tam Bam
Mine too. We talk back. What she say?
AJ Holiday
I don't shut the fuck up. I be looking crazy in the morning. Way off. Those are physical flaws.
Tam Bam
No, I think. Yeah, it's my mouth. My mouth can be reckless at times, but I think I've gotten better. I think in my 20s and 20s, I would talk. I would, like, not shut up. But now I just know. I know to pick my battles, and I just not gonna go against everything.
AJ Holiday
Yeah. I feel like you don't really want quiet, aj. If I'm quiet, I'm actually, like, about.
Tam Bam
To leave you, so it's either talking or leaving.
AJ Holiday
Yeah. Because I'm still fighting for the thing when I don't have nothing to say.
Tam Bam
That'S when it's over.
AJ Holiday
That's when you better be going through my cell phone.
Tam Bam
I got to say, name one person at this table you secretly hook up with at the table.
AJ Holiday
What table?
Tam Bam
Girl.
AJ Holiday
Bye. Get your crochet you wouldn't do me? No.
Tam Bam
If you were gay, you wouldn't do me?
AJ Holiday
No.
Tam Bam
Bitch, if you were gay, you still wouldn't do me.
AJ Holiday
No.
Tam Bam
That's fucked up.
AJ Holiday
I know you. You're fucking sickening.
Tam Bam
She do me, y'all. It's okay with me.
AJ Holiday
Only a gay mind could think about if they was gay, if they'd fuck a bitch. You gay. If you thinking like that. Like. No, I'm just saying I'm not gay, but.
Tam Bam
Hmm.
AJ Holiday
I might fuck Tammy. That's weird.
Tam Bam
No. Like, you think I'm attractive enough to get done by other people?
AJ Holiday
Yes, bitch, once you get the fucking talking, I'm out of there. That's why the motherfucker goes your ass. That is funny.
Tam Bam
It's probably true. Probably true. All right, next question. Text your ex I miss you. Or take two shots. I wish I would. I pour. I drink the rest of this bottle.
AJ Holiday
Before I drink because I'm about to play with my life like that, let alone the next life.
Tam Bam
Yeah.
AJ Holiday
You know what I'm saying? Around somebody going, your cell phone. You what?
Tam Bam
It was. It was one already in there, you guys. So I'm gonna be drunk.
AJ Holiday
I'm taking a sip. My face start feeling numb. I drink too much, man. Yeah, I'm definitely not.
Tam Bam
You're not playing fair. I feel like I'm playing by myself.
AJ Holiday
I just. Did I not just drink?
Tam Bam
Barely. Let me see you drink some more.
AJ Holiday
Oh, my God.
Tam Bam
Drink it to the middle, Justice.
AJ Holiday
What? I know where that come from.
Tam Bam
Look, you know? Yay.
AJ Holiday
I got that one.
Tam Bam
Okay, girl, you is really playing on my top. All right, what's the next one? Let someone else go through the last five text messages. That's so you can look at my text, even if it was some raunchy in there.
AJ Holiday
What did I text the last time?
Tam Bam
It ain't nothing in my phone. My phone. Dried tumbleweed. I opened this text thread. Tumbleweed. A road across this period.
AJ Holiday
This is my life. My last five. But look at this one. That's what I text last night.
Tam Bam
What does that even mean?
AJ Holiday
Poopity Scoop. Remember Kanye sign? And then he just said, huh? And I didn't say nothing else.
Tam Bam
Who is that? You do realize this is a show, right?
AJ Holiday
Poopity Scoop.
Tam Bam
What does that even mean?
AJ Holiday
All right, you remember they said Kanye didn't want to give Drake this particular beat, so he just made a song with some on it, like, poopity Scoop, doopity scoop, Poopity. You don't remember that? Okay, well, that happened.
Tam Bam
So that's Why I text Poopity School. My last five texts are from wig dealer style seat Josh Will, he's a democratic dad nominee in Florida and Gavin, the guy who just did our show. So yeah, I don't have any. Oh, then in Buck tv, y'all shout out to Buck tv. But that's it. Why?
AJ Holiday
You sent me a question mark My.
Tam Bam
Phone dry show the group your hidden Instagram DM folder. I didn't. I didn't even know you could do that.
AJ Holiday
You have a hidden folder?
Tam Bam
There's hidden folders on Instagram?
AJ Holiday
Young bitches. Man, we kinda old.
Tam Bam
I don't even know what that means. I don't hide shit. And if a nigga, if a man is messaging me on Instagram and he hits vanish mode. Oh, stop talking to me. Have you ever had somebody like DMing you and then all they go to vanish? Yes, you need to vanish, nigga. Cause if you can't talk to me openly right. Get your ass out of here.
AJ Holiday
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Tam Bam
All right. Call a past hookup and ask if they do it again. You want to do it?
AJ Holiday
I'mma drink. I ain't playing like that. See? You single? Yeah.
Tam Bam
You can't call nobody.
AJ Holiday
Be like, what should I say, though?
Tam Bam
Like, what should I say?
AJ Holiday
For the podcast. You want this?
Tam Bam
Want this? I don't talk like that.
AJ Holiday
Okay. What you doing tonight? What you doing tonight? You want to come over? Can I come over tonight?
Tam Bam
All right. Hold on.
AJ Holiday
Oh, who we calling?
Tam Bam
I can't believe I'm doing this.
AJ Holiday
Yeah.
Tam Bam
Hey. How you doing? I'm doing.
AJ Holiday
How you doing?
Tam Bam
Good. How you been? I've been all right. How you doing? What's up? I'm good. Just thinking about you. I just wanted to know if you wanted me back in your bed. Back in the bed to do what? What we doing in the bed? What you think?
AJ Holiday
You still going to suck my toes?
Tam Bam
Boy, stop lying. I ain't never put your Toes in my mouth.
AJ Holiday
What?
Tam Bam
I'm sweat.
AJ Holiday
If you still going to.
Tam Bam
Do that thing you used to do with my toes. I be. Stop lying. Put your toes in my mouth. Listen, listen. It's between me and you.
AJ Holiday
I hear it now too.
Tam Bam
My home girl is right here. I do not suc.
AJ Holiday
No toes.
Tam Bam
It was.
AJ Holiday
It's okay. I liked it.
Tam Bam
I ain't gonna tell nobody else.
AJ Holiday
So that's a yes? Yeah, that's a yes.
Tam Bam
I'll take it.
AJ Holiday
Yeah.
Tam Bam
Bye. Bye. I listen, I've never put anybody look.
AJ Holiday
Like a that suck toes.
Tam Bam
I'm. I'm sweating from that look. Can you see me? I've never put nobody's toes in my mouth.
AJ Holiday
I never suck a nigga toes that. Like, what type of love is that?
Tam Bam
A foot?
AJ Holiday
Yeah, you look. You lick the mad feet before.
Tam Bam
No, I've never done that. He's lying.
AJ Holiday
He's lying, everyone.
Tam Bam
He's lying.
AJ Holiday
I can't believe you, man.
Tam Bam
I never did that. Okay, he playing, y'all. He playing. Okay, audience submission. Okay, so listen, after y'all watch. Listen to this episode or watch this episode, I need y'all to DM us your drink of truth questions for us to do next time. Okay? So good questions because these was like mid. You know.
AJ Holiday
Hold on. Have you ever faked the orgasm?
Tam Bam
No. We're going. I'm going through the list. That's next.
AJ Holiday
Oh, you see?
Tam Bam
Are you reading?
AJ Holiday
Oh, okay, go ahead. Sorry.
Tam Bam
So now we're going to the hard hitting questions. The first one. Who in this group do you trust the least and why? That don't apply to us.
AJ Holiday
All right, I'm a drink.
Tam Bam
All right. Have you ever faked an orgasm? What woman has not?
AJ Holiday
We got to do it often.
Tam Bam
Yeah, like all the time. Some men come because they think you're coming, right?
AJ Holiday
Yeah.
Tam Bam
So I just fake it.
AJ Holiday
But clink, clank and then.
Tam Bam
But we just heard that men fake orgasms too.
AJ Holiday
I just don't know how. How do you fake it? You just. Oh, if they're using a condom, I guess they could fake it.
Tam Bam
Or if they inside you.
AJ Holiday
I'm a no. You want to know as a woman, if somebody came in you, it's going to something going to come down. Like how do you come in me and I don't and there's nothing.
Tam Bam
But what if they're like it was a little bit.
AJ Holiday
It's still going to have a dog water. Just like a little bit like just clear.
Tam Bam
I heard somebody call somebody that not that sticky icky. I like I was with this Guy, he was playing video games and they called each other Dog water. Is that what they're talking about on the video game?
AJ Holiday
That sound gay?
Tam Bam
Okay, I don't know. All right. Are they gay? Somebody let me know right now. All right. What's the most toxic thing you've ever done in a relationship?
AJ Holiday
I gotta think hard because, I mean, I, I, you know, the problem is that I consider the things I do not toxic. And that's the problem.
Tam Bam
That's the toxic thing.
AJ Holiday
I know.
Tam Bam
Not knowing when you're toxic, dude.
AJ Holiday
I, I guess ignoring people, that's toxic, like, you know what I'm saying? Like putting them on punishment, ignoring the phone calls and stuff like that. Yeah, I'm, I'm good for ignoring a. So that's bad because it's just like a power and control thing, I guess.
Tam Bam
The most toxic thing I used to do. I haven't been single for so long, but I would start fights to have rough sex later on purpose in our relationship.
AJ Holiday
You can act in it.
Tam Bam
No, it wasn't acting. It wasn't acting. It was just like I would like the aggression that came with the anger from earlier.
AJ Holiday
You're nuts.
Tam Bam
What type of fights? Like, fights, it would be dumb, it would be like stupid. But it started arguing just so we could be aggressive later. That was something I used to do.
AJ Holiday
So you like the break up to make up?
Tam Bam
Yeah, I like the intensity of all of that. So I think that's the most toxic thing I used to do. I don't do that anymore, but that was the thing that I used to do in my last relationship. If you could erase one pass hookup, who would it be and why?
AJ Holiday
One the fuck all of them niggas. If I come, if I ain't come, what?
Tam Bam
It ain't happening.
AJ Holiday
It don't count. All them niggas is control, alt, delete, Definitely.
Tam Bam
The nigga with the doctor the pepper car, you gotta go.
AJ Holiday
It's a few people, man. You around to see them now as a grown ass woman. Because I, when I, I'm, I'm thinking about people like my early 20s and like that you around and see them like, oh my God, you can never see my coochie now, right? I cannot believe you could say that. You got this right.
Tam Bam
I feel you.
AJ Holiday
There's a few people I would love to erase. Delete, eliminate. You know why the on Instagram do they say unalive? Why?
Tam Bam
I just don't say, oh, eliminate.
AJ Holiday
YouTube, you can't say dead and die. You can say that on Instagram and I guess I think people just come over.
Tam Bam
Yeah, but why are you.
AJ Holiday
Why y'all don't say eliminate instead of unalive? That is not even a word.
Tam Bam
I guess it's a word now because people decided it was one.
AJ Holiday
I eliminate. So eliminate.
Tam Bam
How did that get to. Is the liquor hitting you? Because you're getting off topic, talking about eliminating. Who would you. Who would you erase and why?
AJ Holiday
I would erase. I'm gonna tell y'all something real. Like, it's real, like, personal. I was pregnant at 15. I wish. I'm so glad my mama saved my life, y'all, because she did make me get on that motherfucking cold slab. I did not have a baby. But if I had a child by the person I was pregnant for at that age, I would tell them he's dead. I would not tell anybody who that person is. I wish.
Tam Bam
What about the kid, though?
AJ Holiday
Delete him.
Tam Bam
You would tell them that there was their dad, though, right?
AJ Holiday
No. That's how bad it was. Yeah.
Tam Bam
Damn. That's cold blooded.
AJ Holiday
But he had a big dick and.
Tam Bam
That'S all he had. Sometimes it be like that. That all they got is that.
AJ Holiday
That's it.
Tam Bam
It's not enough.
AJ Holiday
He might have been a big.
Tam Bam
But you. It might not have even been big. You was 15. You.
AJ Holiday
I've been growing for a long time.
Tam Bam
And it's still big. And you're grown.
AJ Holiday
I haven't grown for a long time.
Tam Bam
That was a big dick.
AJ Holiday
No business on. Yeah, I wish. This is very graphic, but I do wish I could delete that man from my virgina.
Tam Bam
I just. I wish I could delete all the. From my Virginia. And so for my husband that I have that I'm gonna get. I don't want none of these niggas. All of them can go.
AJ Holiday
All of them.
Tam Bam
All three.
AJ Holiday
Times. 25.
Tam Bam
Yo, fuck you. All three of them can go. All right, all right. That was it. Double or nothing. Guess who refused to answer a question. Must take two shots instead of one. Let's just take two shots for the road, all right?
AJ Holiday
Yeah, man, we better get the fuck up out of here.
Tam Bam
Yeah. Two shots for the road. Truth or dare. Are you really happy right now?
AJ Holiday
Like, in life, it's period. I actually am. I have some secrets. I'm very happy right now.
Tam Bam
What kind of secrets?
AJ Holiday
A lot of. See, I'm not pregnant and I'm not engaged.
Tam Bam
I know you're not secret. I know you ain't drinking, but I.
AJ Holiday
Got some good things going on, girl. I'm happy.
Tam Bam
Okay, good, good.
AJ Holiday
But, you know, like, being happy is like. It's fleeting. It's a fleeting moment. Sometimes you don't just be happy from the time you wake up to the time you go to sleep. It's going to be some shit. But overall, yes.
Tam Bam
Okay.
AJ Holiday
Are you.
Tam Bam
I'm happier than I've been in a long time. I'll say that. Happy adjacent. I'll say that. I don't feel like. I feel displaced still, girl.
AJ Holiday
You know? I know.
Tam Bam
So I feel very much dis. Displaced. But I have a lot of good things brewing, you know, A lot of good things going. But, yeah. So overall, yeah, I can say I'm happy.
AJ Holiday
Yeah, man.
Tam Bam
Yeah, I think so.
AJ Holiday
Those are goals.
Tam Bam
Let's take a shot to that. Yeah. All right. If you're watching, let's take a shot. All right, Pause us. Go pour your shot. Then we're gonna take a shot to happiness. So pause this real quick. All right?
AJ Holiday
Four, three, two, one.
Tam Bam
Cheers to heaviness. Tap it down. Now.
AJ Holiday
I've been having street liquor from the time I. The last time I poured that bottle.
Tam Bam
Now, no, you weren't drinking nothing straight.
AJ Holiday
Was I not.
Tam Bam
You put apple juice in there. I seen you. All right, so I think that's all of our truth and dare questions for tonight.
AJ Holiday
We're gonna wrap it up.
Tam Bam
All right.
AJ Holiday
Last episode, y'all. We've been working today. Okay?
Tam Bam
All right, so final thoughts. You don't want to fuck me if you were gay. It's a lie. We know. We know that, girl. Buzz most certainly hit this. What else? You're not a cheater. You're not a side bitch.
AJ Holiday
Nope.
Tam Bam
And wait, who's the most famous DM you've ever done?
AJ Holiday
I said Kanye, remember?
Tam Bam
Oh, you sent him one.
AJ Holiday
Yeah.
Tam Bam
Okay.
AJ Holiday
And then you all the time.
Tam Bam
Oh, let's not go back to that. Let's leave that alone.
AJ Holiday
When he heard what I said about his mama, he might be upset. But you can't be, nigga, because you need to calm down.
Tam Bam
Listen, wrap us up. Cause I just want to make sure we have a show for another year.
AJ Holiday
All right, Y'all, don't take no shots if you're depressed or not happy, okay?
Tam Bam
Take them.
AJ Holiday
Take no. Hell, no. No. Go to therapy. Call your therapist.
Tam Bam
Do whatever you need to do to get you through.
AJ Holiday
No, man.
Tam Bam
Just for today.
AJ Holiday
All right, Whatever. But if y'all enjoyed this episode, y'all tune in every Thursday on the Black Effect. Iheartradio. Appreciate whoever the fuck you get your podcast at, this is your co host, AJ Holiday 2.0 on Instagram y'all click like share, subscribe all the good things and maybe we need to be saying in the beginning of the video. But yeah, go ahead Tam y'all.
Tam Bam
It's official. Tam bam on Instagram. I love y'all so much. Y'all remember, speak now and never hold your liquor deuces.
AJ Holiday
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We Talk Back Podcast Episode Summary: "Truth or Drink"
Release Date: March 13, 2025
Hosts: TamBam & AJ Holiday
Produced by: The Black Effect and iHeartPodcasts
In the "Truth or Drink" episode of We Talk Back, hosts TamBam and AJ Holiday delve into a variety of pressing topics affecting modern relationships, societal behaviors, and personal anecdotes. The episode combines insightful discussions with candid humor, reflecting their mission to guide femininity to its ultimate greatness.
The episode opens with a deep dive into the phenomenon of ghosting, particularly highlighting Washington, D.C., dubbed the nation's "ghosting capital." According to a survey by Number Barn, 76% of D.C. residents admitted to cutting off contact with someone within the past year, ghosting an average of 5.1 people annually. The primary reasons cited were losing interest (54%) and encountering red flags like dishonesty (28%). Men reported a higher tendency to both ghost and be ghosted compared to women.
Insight: While AJ expresses frustration over feeling obligated to respond to every ghosting incident, TamBam emphasizes the importance of communication, especially in more serious relationships.
TamBam discusses a viral incident involving Aaliyah Everett, a high school athlete accused of unsportsmanlike behavior after nearly colliding with a competitor during a 4x200 meter relay race. Everett claims the situation was misunderstood, highlighting the complexities of adolescent conflicts.
Insight: The hosts draw parallels between this incident and the infamous Nancy Kerrigan case, discussing societal reactions and the appropriate consequences for high school students involved in such conflicts.
The conversation shifts to celebrity culture, focusing on Khloe Kardashian's decision to maintain her daughter True's belief that she and Tristan Thompson are still married. This approach is intended to teach "traditional values" and shield their child from adult complexities.
Insight: While acknowledging the intent behind Khloe’s decision, the hosts debate the long-term implications of such protective lies on a child's sense of identity and trust.
TamBam and AJ discuss recent headlines involving Halle Bailey's baby daddy, Chad, who stirred controversy by behaving erratically while co-parenting. The situation underscores the challenges of maintaining respectful and cooperative relationships post-breakup.
Insight: The discussion highlights the frustrations of co-parenting dynamics and the importance of setting boundaries to ensure the well-being of the child involved.
The hosts critique Doi, a media personality, for labeling bisexual and queer men as relationship red flags. They argue that such generalizations are problematic and perpetuate harmful stereotypes.
Insight: TamBam and AJ emphasize the importance of respecting individual preferences without demeaning entire groups, advocating for honesty and transparency in relationship expectations.
In the latter half of the episode, TamBam and AJ engage in a spirited game of "Truth or Drink," where they ask each other provocative questions, sharing personal stories and humorous incidents.
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Insight: The game segment showcases the hosts' chemistry, vulnerability, and humor, offering listeners relatable stories and laughter while navigating the blurred lines between personal experiences and playful banter.
The "Truth or Drink" episode of We Talk Back successfully merges meaningful discussions with lighthearted games, providing a comprehensive look into modern relationships, societal expectations, and personal growth. TamBam and AJ Holiday's unapologetic and unfiltered approach ensures that listeners are both entertained and enlightened, reinforcing the podcast's commitment to empowering women and fostering open conversations.
Final Thought: The hosts encourage listeners to engage with their content, stay authentic, and continue the conversation beyond the podcast.
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This summary captures the essence of the "Truth or Drink" episode, highlighting the key discussions, personal anecdotes, and notable quotes that define TamBam and AJ Holiday's approach to tackling contemporary issues with wit and wisdom.