We Talk Back – "Would You Ratherthon"

Date: December 4, 2025
Hosts: TamBam & AJ Holiday
Podcast Network: The Black Effect and iHeartPodcasts

Episode Overview

In this lively and unfiltered episode, TamBam and AJ Holiday host a "Would You Ratherthon," where the duo tackles a rapid-fire series of “Would you rather?” questions, mostly centered on relationships, money, self-care, and personal growth. True to the show’s form, the conversation is raw, comedic, and peppered with personal anecdotes. Interspersed with their signature repartee, the hosts reflect on life lessons, community activism, femininity, cultural expectations, and the realities of Black womanhood. This episode highlights the hosts’ knack for infusing humor into thought-provoking discussions about sex, relationships, money, societal double standards, and self-worth.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. AJ's Community Recognition & Nonprofit Work

Timestamps: 03:21–08:55

Charleston Proclamation:
AJ shares her recent honor—a community service and cultural awareness proclamation day from the city of Charleston, recognizing her for amplifying Black women's voices and promoting mental health, empowerment, and social awareness.
- “Co-host of the nationally recognized We Talk Back podcast... a media leader whose work amplifies the voices of African American women and promotes authentic dialogue about mental health, empowerment, and social awareness.” —Read by AJ [05:26]
Launching Mummy's House:
AJ details her new nonprofit, “Mummy’s House,” an alternative for pregnant girls seeking an option besides abortion—a place to live and finish school. She draws on her own teenage pregnancy experience and discusses the city's lack of support for the homeless.
Reflection on Choices:
AJ recounts her personal story of being a pregnant teenager, kicked out by her mother unless she had an abortion, and the complex, lifelong emotional impact of that experience.
- “Have your baby, girl, it'll be all right. I got $5 for you... Non-profits, we don't get donations, right? There are organizations out there that can help.” —AJ [13:52]

2. Abortion & Societal Pressures

Timestamps: 08:55–15:28

Nuanced Conversation:
The hosts candidly discuss the emotional depth and societal perception of abortion, including stories of judgement, regret, and the cultural practice of making light of a deeply personal subject.
- “A lot of women have abortions because they sacrifice the baby for their future. It's an actual sacrifice.” —AJ [14:32]
Social Media Outrage:
AJ highlights a viral moment where a woman twerked outside an abortion clinic post-procedure, challenging the appropriateness and sensitivity of such public displays.

3. Relationship Drama & Lessons

Timestamps: 19:06–28:24

Public Relationship Fallout:
The hosts dissect the recent online confession by Rashida Nicole, who is publicly dealing with divorce and pregnancy alone after previously mocking her husband's former partner—highlighting the cycle of “the other woman” syndrome and the lie women tell themselves about being better than the last partner.
- “Women lie and tell themselves that they're better than the next woman... Let that man go be with his type.” —AJ [20:12]
Friendship Betrayal in Pop Culture:
Discussion around Funky Dineva publicly exposing Tamar Braxton and Mendici's alleged affair, and the consequences of friends airing private matters following a fallout.
- “If we fall out, that's fine. But airing all my dirty laundry out for the public, that's fucked up.” —TamBam [24:59]
Men and Emotional Health:
AJ muses about male friendships, caddiness, and how some men can be just as (or more) gossipy as women, challenging stereotypes about male silence.

4. Celebrity Lawsuits & Social Media

Timestamps: 28:29–31:46

Megan Thee Stallion Defamation Suit:
The hosts react to the federal judge tossing out Megan Thee Stallion’s defamation case against Milagro for not following proper notification protocols for media defendants, comparing it to Cardi B’s suit against Tasha K and discussing the limits of gossip about celebrities.

5. Would You Ratherthon: Comedic & Candid Choices

Timestamps: 36:15–66:31

Top Scenarios & Commentary:

Privacy vs. Publicity in Relationships:
“Would you rather date a man who posts you or one who posts everything, including your arguments?”
Both choose privacy, agreeing social media brings unnecessary drama. [37:02–37:34]
Money for Bills vs. Vacations:
TamBam chooses unlimited bill money for peace of mind; AJ wants vacation funds for luxury, but concedes security is important. [39:09–40:04]
Texting Habits:
Given a choice between a fast, lying texter or a slow, honest one, both value truth and patience, with TamBam noting she’s not pressed for instant replies. [40:12–42:01]
Childhood Household Chores:
Lighthearted complaints about growing up washing dishes vs. folding laundry, using childhood stories to explain their preferences. [42:25–44:13]
Gift-Giving vs. Apologizing:
Faced with men who either buy gifts or just apologize but never change, both would rather get the gifts than empty apologies if the behavior isn’t changing anyway. [47:51–48:26]
Body Rewind:
Both would rather have their teenage metabolism back than deal with knee pain. “I never had no good knees... Metabolism been slow as hell.” —AJ [48:38]
Dating Scenarios:
Preference is given to men with no kids over three baby mamas, though with some reservations; AJ shares stories about a former partner who had red flags like no kids, no headboard, and not sharing food. [51:23–54:46]
Job Passion vs. Pay:
Both women would choose a job they love that pays average money over one they hate for high pay, citing the importance of peace over wealth. [54:56–55:34]
Phone Habits:
They’d prefer a man who keeps his phone face down over one who answers calls during sex—“Don't answer no calls having sex with me, weird!” —TamBam [55:57–56:09]
Omitting Truth vs. Lying:
Both said omitting the truth is still lying, but it's preferable to a chronic liar who only confesses when caught. [56:30–57:08]
On Accountability:
“People don’t take accountability because they don’t agree with your perspective...You can only hold yourself accountable.” —AJ [57:10–58:28]
Funny or Offbeat Hypotheticals:
Would you rather fight a horse-sized duck or 50 duck-sized horses? AJ opts for the big duck; TamBam for the mini-horses. [59:09–60:03]
Mama’s Boy vs. Estranged Son:
Both prefer a man who loves his mama over one who doesn’t talk to her at all, examining the psychological roots. [60:09–61:49]
Rewind or Pause Button on Life:
Both select rewind, wishing for the chance to make alternate choices rather than freezing time. [62:02–62:30]
Desirability in Partners:
“Why nobody wants you but me? I don't like that.” —TamBam [64:08], expressing that it’s more attractive if a partner is desired by others.
Housewife/Hoe Double Standard:
Playful debate on whether men marry “safe” women but cheat with “hoes,” with AJ concluding, “You can't spell housewife without hoe.” [64:30–65:09]

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

On Life Choices:
“[Having an abortion] is literally a sacrifice, though, right? A lot of women have abortions because they sacrifice the baby for their future.” —A.J. Holiday [14:32]
On Self-Delusion in Relationships:
“Women lie and tell themselves that they're better than the next woman...Let that man go be with his type.” —A.J. Holiday [20:12]
On Friendship & Loyalty:
“If we fall out, that's fine. But airing all my dirty laundry out for the public, that's fucked up.” —TamBam [24:59]
On Dating Standards:
“If I catch my nigga hollering at bitches in a DM and none of them bitches want him, I'm fucking livid.” —A.J. Holiday [64:03]
On Housework Childhood Trauma:
“I despise...washing dishes. I spent all my childhood, I just was washing dishes.” —TamBam [42:28]
On Life Regrets:
“I don't be regretting, but I do want to go back and, like, alter some shit. Make a different decision.” —A.J. Holiday [62:05]

Episode Structure & Flow

[03:02–08:55] Personal wins and new community projects (AJ’s recognition and "Mummy’s House").
[08:55–15:28] Real talk on abortion, societal pressure, and Black women’s experiences.
[19:06–31:46] Commentary on public relationships, celebrity drama, and lawsuits.
[36:15–66:31] Would You Ratherthon: back-to-back “would you rather” scenarios, with the hosts’ trademark banter, honesty, and deeper social commentary.
[66:31–66:42] Closing thoughts: “Choose wisely” and gratitude for the audience.

Overall Tone and Takeaways

The energy is irreverent, authentic, and supportive, with TamBam and AJ Holiday balancing laughs and realness, pushing Black women to embrace self-knowledge, confidence, and options in relationships and beyond. Listeners are left with a deeper appreciation for the complexity of Black womanhood, the importance of community, and the value of owning one’s narrative—even when life gets messy.

For More:
Catch new episodes every Thursday on the Black Effect iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts.
Follow @officialtambam, @ajholiday2.0, and @wetalkbackpodcast on Instagram for updates and more.

We Talk Back – "Would You Ratherthon"

Date: December 4, 2025
Hosts: TamBam & AJ Holiday
Podcast Network: The Black Effect and iHeartPodcasts

Episode Overview

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. AJ's Community Recognition & Nonprofit Work

Timestamps: 03:21–08:55

Charleston Proclamation:
AJ shares her recent honor—a community service and cultural awareness proclamation day from the city of Charleston, recognizing her for amplifying Black women's voices and promoting mental health, empowerment, and social awareness.
- “Co-host of the nationally recognized We Talk Back podcast... a media leader whose work amplifies the voices of African American women and promotes authentic dialogue about mental health, empowerment, and social awareness.” —Read by AJ [05:26]
Launching Mummy's House:
AJ details her new nonprofit, “Mummy’s House,” an alternative for pregnant girls seeking an option besides abortion—a place to live and finish school. She draws on her own teenage pregnancy experience and discusses the city's lack of support for the homeless.
Reflection on Choices:
AJ recounts her personal story of being a pregnant teenager, kicked out by her mother unless she had an abortion, and the complex, lifelong emotional impact of that experience.
- “Have your baby, girl, it'll be all right. I got $5 for you... Non-profits, we don't get donations, right? There are organizations out there that can help.” —AJ [13:52]

2. Abortion & Societal Pressures

Timestamps: 08:55–15:28

Nuanced Conversation:
The hosts candidly discuss the emotional depth and societal perception of abortion, including stories of judgement, regret, and the cultural practice of making light of a deeply personal subject.
- “A lot of women have abortions because they sacrifice the baby for their future. It's an actual sacrifice.” —AJ [14:32]
Social Media Outrage:
AJ highlights a viral moment where a woman twerked outside an abortion clinic post-procedure, challenging the appropriateness and sensitivity of such public displays.

3. Relationship Drama & Lessons

Timestamps: 19:06–28:24

Public Relationship Fallout:
The hosts dissect the recent online confession by Rashida Nicole, who is publicly dealing with divorce and pregnancy alone after previously mocking her husband's former partner—highlighting the cycle of “the other woman” syndrome and the lie women tell themselves about being better than the last partner.
- “Women lie and tell themselves that they're better than the next woman... Let that man go be with his type.” —AJ [20:12]
Friendship Betrayal in Pop Culture:
Discussion around Funky Dineva publicly exposing Tamar Braxton and Mendici's alleged affair, and the consequences of friends airing private matters following a fallout.
- “If we fall out, that's fine. But airing all my dirty laundry out for the public, that's fucked up.” —TamBam [24:59]
Men and Emotional Health:
AJ muses about male friendships, caddiness, and how some men can be just as (or more) gossipy as women, challenging stereotypes about male silence.

4. Celebrity Lawsuits & Social Media

Timestamps: 28:29–31:46

Megan Thee Stallion Defamation Suit:
The hosts react to the federal judge tossing out Megan Thee Stallion’s defamation case against Milagro for not following proper notification protocols for media defendants, comparing it to Cardi B’s suit against Tasha K and discussing the limits of gossip about celebrities.

5. Would You Ratherthon: Comedic & Candid Choices

Timestamps: 36:15–66:31

Top Scenarios & Commentary:

Privacy vs. Publicity in Relationships:
“Would you rather date a man who posts you or one who posts everything, including your arguments?”
Both choose privacy, agreeing social media brings unnecessary drama. [37:02–37:34]
Money for Bills vs. Vacations:
TamBam chooses unlimited bill money for peace of mind; AJ wants vacation funds for luxury, but concedes security is important. [39:09–40:04]
Texting Habits:
Given a choice between a fast, lying texter or a slow, honest one, both value truth and patience, with TamBam noting she’s not pressed for instant replies. [40:12–42:01]
Childhood Household Chores:
Lighthearted complaints about growing up washing dishes vs. folding laundry, using childhood stories to explain their preferences. [42:25–44:13]
Gift-Giving vs. Apologizing:
Faced with men who either buy gifts or just apologize but never change, both would rather get the gifts than empty apologies if the behavior isn’t changing anyway. [47:51–48:26]
Body Rewind:
Both would rather have their teenage metabolism back than deal with knee pain. “I never had no good knees... Metabolism been slow as hell.” —AJ [48:38]
Dating Scenarios:
Preference is given to men with no kids over three baby mamas, though with some reservations; AJ shares stories about a former partner who had red flags like no kids, no headboard, and not sharing food. [51:23–54:46]
Job Passion vs. Pay:
Both women would choose a job they love that pays average money over one they hate for high pay, citing the importance of peace over wealth. [54:56–55:34]
Phone Habits:
They’d prefer a man who keeps his phone face down over one who answers calls during sex—“Don't answer no calls having sex with me, weird!” —TamBam [55:57–56:09]
Omitting Truth vs. Lying:
Both said omitting the truth is still lying, but it's preferable to a chronic liar who only confesses when caught. [56:30–57:08]
On Accountability:
“People don’t take accountability because they don’t agree with your perspective...You can only hold yourself accountable.” —AJ [57:10–58:28]
Funny or Offbeat Hypotheticals:
Would you rather fight a horse-sized duck or 50 duck-sized horses? AJ opts for the big duck; TamBam for the mini-horses. [59:09–60:03]
Mama’s Boy vs. Estranged Son:
Both prefer a man who loves his mama over one who doesn’t talk to her at all, examining the psychological roots. [60:09–61:49]
Rewind or Pause Button on Life:
Both select rewind, wishing for the chance to make alternate choices rather than freezing time. [62:02–62:30]
Desirability in Partners:
“Why nobody wants you but me? I don't like that.” —TamBam [64:08], expressing that it’s more attractive if a partner is desired by others.
Housewife/Hoe Double Standard:
Playful debate on whether men marry “safe” women but cheat with “hoes,” with AJ concluding, “You can't spell housewife without hoe.” [64:30–65:09]

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

On Life Choices:
“[Having an abortion] is literally a sacrifice, though, right? A lot of women have abortions because they sacrifice the baby for their future.” —A.J. Holiday [14:32]
On Self-Delusion in Relationships:
“Women lie and tell themselves that they're better than the next woman...Let that man go be with his type.” —A.J. Holiday [20:12]
On Friendship & Loyalty:
“If we fall out, that's fine. But airing all my dirty laundry out for the public, that's fucked up.” —TamBam [24:59]
On Dating Standards:
“If I catch my nigga hollering at bitches in a DM and none of them bitches want him, I'm fucking livid.” —A.J. Holiday [64:03]
On Housework Childhood Trauma:
“I despise...washing dishes. I spent all my childhood, I just was washing dishes.” —TamBam [42:28]
On Life Regrets:
“I don't be regretting, but I do want to go back and, like, alter some shit. Make a different decision.” —A.J. Holiday [62:05]

Episode Structure & Flow

[03:02–08:55] Personal wins and new community projects (AJ’s recognition and "Mummy’s House").
[08:55–15:28] Real talk on abortion, societal pressure, and Black women’s experiences.
[19:06–31:46] Commentary on public relationships, celebrity drama, and lawsuits.
[36:15–66:31] Would You Ratherthon: back-to-back “would you rather” scenarios, with the hosts’ trademark banter, honesty, and deeper social commentary.
[66:31–66:42] Closing thoughts: “Choose wisely” and gratitude for the audience.

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Summary

We Talk Back – "Would You Ratherthon"

Episode Overview

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. AJ's Community Recognition & Nonprofit Work

2. Abortion & Societal Pressures

3. Relationship Drama & Lessons

4. Celebrity Lawsuits & Social Media

5. Would You Ratherthon: Comedic & Candid Choices

Top Scenarios & Commentary:

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

Episode Structure & Flow

Overall Tone and Takeaways

Summary

We Talk Back – "Would You Ratherthon"

Episode Overview

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. AJ's Community Recognition & Nonprofit Work

2. Abortion & Societal Pressures

3. Relationship Drama & Lessons

4. Celebrity Lawsuits & Social Media

5. Would You Ratherthon: Comedic & Candid Choices

Top Scenarios & Commentary:

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

Episode Structure & Flow

Overall Tone and Takeaways