We often think "ambivalence" means indifference. Its actual meaning is quite different: ambivalence means having multiple and often opposite emotions in one moment. Motherhood contains much joy—but what about the resentment, grief, anger, fear, exhaustion, and guilt that can exist alongside deep love?

Psychotherapist and researcher Dr. Margo Lowy joins us to discuss her book MATERNAL AMBIVALENCE: The Loving Moments and Bitter Truths of Motherhood and the emotional contradictions at the heart of parenting.

Dr. Lowy explains why naming difficult emotions can actually strengthen our relationships with our children at all stages of our parenting, from postpartum anxiety to learning to let our children go.

We discuss:

Why the pressures of perfectionism are so damaging for mothers
The taboo around negative parenting emotions

How self-awareness and emotional honesty can improve parent-child relationships

Here's where you can find Margo:

https://drmargolowy.com/
@drmargolowy on IG
Buy MATERNAL AMBIVALENCE: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9798888455999

What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.

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