When we're the kinkeeper in our friend group—aka the one who organizes the get-togethers, remembers the birthdays, and sends out availability polls—it can get overwhelming, and we can even find ourselves resentful over it. Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg, hosts of the podcast "How to Be Fine," discuss how to approach conversations with friends about sharing the kinkeeping burden more evenly.

Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg host the podcasts "By The Book" and "How to Be Fine." The current season of How to Be Fine is all about the loneliness epidemic and friendship quandaries, from jealousy to BFF breakups.

Kristen, Jolenta, Amy, and Margaret discuss:

Why new friends can actually be better than childhood friends sometimes
What to do when one person is doing all the administration and planning in the friend group
How to make friends as an adult

Here are links to some of the things we mentioned in the episode:

Allison P. Davis for The Cut: "Adorable Little Detonators Our friendship survived bad dates, illness, marriage, fights. Why can’t it survive your baby?"
Our episode "Keeping Up with Friends Without Kids"
Hear Amy on the "How to Be Fine" podcast talking about friendship burnout

Here's where you can find Kristen and Jolenta:

www.kristenmeinzer.com
www.jolentagreenberg.com
www.kristenandjolenta.com
@howtobefinepod, @jolenta_g, @k10meinzer on IG
Listen to "How to Be Fine"
Buy the book HOW TO BE FINE: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780062957207
https://patreon.com/listentobythebook

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What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Margaret Ables and Amy Wilson.

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