Aurel (SO/SP 6w7 693) experienced a major stroke in early adulthood—an event that unraveled his sense of self and fractured his memory. What happens when your personal history goes missing? In this conversation, Aurel reflects on the slow, painful reconstruction of identity and how trauma rewrites not just the past, but the present narrative. We talk about radical empathy, activism, and the emotional labor of confronting systemic injustice while piecing together who you are. This is a deep dive into Type 6 themes—humility, doubt, the search for expertise, and the existential anxiety that rides alongside all of it. Aurel also shares how role-playing games became a surprising avenue for self-exploration, offering both escape and insight. Gender, memory, social responsibility, and the long arc of healing—it’s all here, held together by a steady curiosity about what it means to tell the truth, especially when the truth feels scattered.

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TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Intro

05:45 - Grounding to a sense of reliable orientation as a core mental type carrying significant memory loss

09:37 - Mosaic of identity: pieces of Aurel's life, "firming up" to actually get better attachments

14:56 - Being 'proactively solid', having a passionate moral compass, feeling guilt backlash

19:36 Anti-fascism, practicing good discernment, community care-taking

21:01 "Can we put a time stamp on this so people who aren't white don't have to hear about how I learned to care about racism if they don't want to?"

23:44 - Social core 6 'sounding the alarm' to this reality, searching for and spreading truth through the 'best information'

31:55 - A fascination with information, 6 wing 7 'play mode', anti-arrogance of 6, "I don't want to be responsible for your orientation"

35:17 - Navigating influence and value, proselytizing mode, anti-elitism and self-erasure of the 6-9 stem

46:17 - Role-playing games as an artistic form to navigate different aspects of self and identity

53:07 - Intersection of memory loss and identity, "none of us hold all of ourselves", not being certain of self-perceptions

01:02:14 - Gender Identity, re-inventing yourself, the complexities of social labels, 6s ability to see the categories held by the collective mind

01:11:44 - Gender expression through the sexual instinct, sexual blind 6 afraid of 'being caught', sexual versus social attunement, finding 'flavor' through the arts but having 3 last

01:26:43 - Outro

CREDITS

Interview by Josh Lavine

Edited by Kristen Oberly

Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay

Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/

Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/

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#59: Aurel (SO/SP 6w7 693) – Understanding/Expressing Identity, Reliable Orientation with Memory Loss, and Sounding the Alarm