Podcast
Emotionally Unavailable
Hosted by Malisa Hepner · EN
Welcome to "Emotionally Unavailable," a transformative podcast that began as a personal journey toward emotional availability and has blossomed into a vibrant space for growth, healing, and connection. Join me as I explore the depths of self-discovery, spirituality, and personal empowerment, sharing my light and the insights I've gained along the way.
In each episode, I engage in heartfelt conversations with inspiring guests who are also navigating their paths to emotional freedom and teaching others to do the same. We cover a wide range of topics such as- human design, astrology, the journey of deconstructing from religion- to name a few; all aimed at fostering deeper self-love and understanding.
Whether you're seeking to heal past wounds, explore your spiritual side, or simply learn how to love yourself and others a little better, this podcast is for you. Tune in and embark on a journey of exploration, growth, and community as we illuminate the path toward emotional availability and authentic living. Let's discover the power of vulnerability and connection—one episode at a time.
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How to Make Someone Feel Seen Instead of Solved
6d ago00:57:38Tap to summarizeWhat does someone really need when they're hurting? In this episode, therapist Malisa Hepner welcomes back friend of the show, Elaynie Painter, to explore why our instinct to fix, solve, or offer advice can sometimes create more distance—and what it looks like to truly be present instead. Together they discuss emotional safety, self-awareness, nervous system regulation, and how learning to stay with someone's emotions (instead of rushing to change them) can transform your relationships. Whether you're supporting a grieving friend, navigating conflict with your partner, or learning to be more emotionally available, this conversation offers practical tools to help you show up with greater compassion and connection. The next time someone shares something painful, pause before responding.Notice if an urge to fix arises, take a breath, and choose presence over problem-solving. Feeling understood often heals more than being given answers. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner
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Who Are You Becoming? The Psychology & Spirituality of Identity, Manifestation, and Growth
1w ago00:21:57Tap to summarizeWhat if the biggest thing standing between you and the life you want is the identity you're unconsciously holding onto? In this solo episode, Malisa Hepner explores the powerful intersection of psychology and spirituality, diving into identity work, manifestation, self-sabotage, and the courage it takes to become the version of yourself capable of receiving what you desire. She unpacks how subconscious patterns keep us stuck, why vulnerability is essential for transformation, and how the people you surround yourself with can either reinforce your old identity or support your growth. If you're ready to stop repeating old patterns and step into a more authentic, aligned version of yourself, this episode offers practical insights to help you begin. Choose one behavior this week that reflects the person you're becoming—not the person you've always been. Small, consistent actions reinforce a new identity more powerfully than waiting until you "feel ready." Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner
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Why I Welcome Grief: Learning to Live After Profound Loss
1w ago00:25:02Tap to summarizeIn this deeply personal solo episode, Malisa Hepner shares what it's been like navigating life after profound loss while continuing to choose joy, presence, and healing. Reflecting on how PTSD, grief, and the nervous system intersect, Malisa offers an honest look at what healing actually feels like in real life. She also explores why she no longer resists normal human emotions, how creating an energizing home has become an act of self-care, and why reconnecting with creativity without chasing validation has changed her relationship with life. If you've ever wondered whether it's possible to hold joy and sorrow at the same time, this episode is a reminder that healing isn't about leaving grief behind—it's about learning to carry love differently. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner
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The Path to Enlightenment Through Embodiment | Healing Trauma by Feeling, Not Escaping
2w ago00:29:47Tap to summarizeWhat does it actually mean to become embodied? In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with Ben Oofana to explore the path to enlightenment through presence, emotional healing, and reconnecting with the wisdom of the body. Together, they discuss how unresolved trauma disconnects us from ourselves, why emotions are meant to be experienced rather than avoided, and how traditional Native American healing practices can support deeper transformation. This conversation explores the difference between intellectual understanding and true embodiment, offering practical insights for anyone seeking greater self-awareness, emotional resilience, and authentic inner peace. Enlightenment isn't about escaping your emotions—it's about becoming fully present with them. True healing happens when the mind, body, and spirit come back into alignment. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Ben's links: Website, Teach me to meditate, Heartache Hotline, Breakup First Aid, Heal My Heartache, Youtube, Insta
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Are People Really Redeemable? Emotional Availability, Self-Sabotage & Healing
2w ago00:14:33Tap to summarizeIn this solo episode, Malisa Hepner dives into emotional availability, self-sabotage, accountability and spiritual beliefs. This conversation challenges polarizing thinking while offering practical insights into healing, boundaries, and personal growth. Whether you're navigating difficult relationships or your own patterns, this episode will leave you thinking long after it ends. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner
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What Grief Really Needs | Loss, Love & Living After Death
2w ago00:57:33Tap to summarizeIn this deeply moving conversation, host Malisa Hepner sits down with grief advocate Kirsten O'Connor of thisisgrief.nz to explore what happens after unimaginable loss. Following the death of her daughter Kahlia, Kirsten shares the lessons grief has taught her about love, presence, and what genuine support really looks like. Together, they discuss why our culture struggles with grief, how acknowledging death can deepen our connection to life, and why sharing our stories is one of the most powerful paths toward healing. Whether you're grieving yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers compassion, understanding, and hope without minimizing the reality of loss. Grief isn't a problem to solve—it is love that continues after loss. Healing begins when we stop trying to fix grief and start making space for it. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 Kirsten's links: Website, Insta, Tiktok Kirsten's first visit to the show: Spotify, Apple Kirsten's Second Visit https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner
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The Courage to Be Seen: Finding Confidence Through Your Unique Blueprint
3w ago00:55:26Tap to summarizeWhat if confidence doesn't come from changing who you are—but from understanding how you're designed? In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with Katie MacLachlan (@begoodguide) to explore how Human Design and astrology can serve as tools for greater self-awareness, emotional resilience, and authentic self-expression. Together, they discuss Mercury retrograde, releasing conditioned patterns, honoring your unique blueprint, and overcoming the fear of being seen. Whether you're new to these concepts or have studied them for years, this conversation offers practical insights for living and leading with greater authenticity. The more you understand your unique design, the less energy you spend trying to become someone else—and the easier it becomes to show up authentically and confidently. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Katie's last visit to the show! You can find Katie's website here, and her instagram here!
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Astrology for Healing: How Your Birth Chart Can Unlock Self-Awareness
3w ago01:08:45Tap to summarizeCan astrology be more than horoscopes? In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with Bee Doyle to explore how astrology can become a powerful tool for healing, self-awareness, and personal growth. Bee shares her journey into astrology, explains how birth charts can reveal patterns, strengths, and challenges, and discusses how understanding your cosmic blueprint can support trauma healing and living with greater purpose. Whether you're astrology-curious or already a believer, this conversation offers a grounded perspective on using astrology as a tool for deeper self-understanding. Astrology isn't about predicting your future—it's about understanding yourself more deeply. When paired with curiosity and self-reflection, it can become a meaningful framework for healing, growth, and navigating life's challenges with greater compassion. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Bee's links: Website, Insta, Youtube Bee's links: Website, Insta, Youtube
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The Sneaky Signs You're Being Emotionally Unavailable (Even If You Think You're Not)
3w ago00:37:02Tap to summarizeHost, Malisa Hepner, explores the often-overlooked signs of emotional unavailability and why it isn't always obvious. Through personal stories, relatable examples, and practical insights, she explains how emotional unavailability can show up as perfectionism, overthinking, people-pleasing, emotional independence, intellectualizing feelings, and more. Learn how these protective patterns develop, how they impact relationships, and what it takes to create deeper connection with yourself and the people you love. Emotional availability isn't about feeling every emotion perfectly—it's about being willing to stay present with your inner experience instead of protecting yourself from it. Healing begins when you recognize the subtle ways you've learned to disconnect and practice choosing connection over protection. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner
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Healing Starts Within: Self-Awareness, Love & Lasting Change
4w ago00:37:21Tap to summarizeWhat does it really take to heal when life feels unbearable? In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with author, speaker, and Peace, Love and Bring a Bat podcast host David Chametzky for an honest conversation about mental health, emotional availability, and finding hope. David shares the practices that helped him move from surviving to truly living, including the healing power of havening, self-awareness, authentic love, and forgiveness. Together, they explore what it means to face your pain with compassion and create lasting emotional change. When you're overwhelmed, resist the urge to judge what you're feeling. Instead, pause and ask yourself, "What is this emotion trying to tell me?" Meeting yourself with curiosity rather than criticism creates the safety needed for healing and lasting change. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Dave's links: Website, insta
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