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FirstAdam: A Transparent Podcast for Men
Hosted by JB & Andy · EN
Most men struggle with the same issues. The problem is we feel alone. FirstAdam is about men talking honestly about the struggles we have and how we try to deal with them. Maybe you can relate or you feel alone, numb, and are struggling. Join us as we talk openly and honestly about it. You just might find hope.
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Disappointed
2w ago00:42:04Tap to summarizeHow many of us were taught growing up: Be strong. Don’t struggle. Figure it out yourself. Keep performing. Don’t let people down. And somewhere along the way, many men quietly started believing the same thing about God. That His love has to be earned. That His approval rises and falls with performance. That when you fail, drift, struggle, or fall back into old habits… God steps back in disappointment. So men hide. They isolate. They stay busy. They distract themselves. They promise to “do better next time.” But internally, they carry exhaustion, shame, pressure, and the constant feeling that they are never quite enough.This conversation goes straight into the internal battle many men never talk about, the pressure to perform spiritually, the fear of failure, the weight of condemnation, and the exhausting cycle of trying to earn what was already given through Jesus. We talk directly to the man who feels distant from God… The man who still believes he has to clean himself up before coming back…The man who talks to everyone else about strength while quietly falling apart internally. This is a conversation about identity, grace, shame, sonship, and the kind of freedom men are desperate for but rarely know how to receive. Because a lot of men don’t need another motivational speech.They need rest. They need truth. They need to stop approaching God like employees trying to keep a position and start approaching Him like sons who already belong. If you’ve been carrying spiritual exhaustion, hiding in silence, or feeling like God is disappointed in you, this episode is for you. We hope it will challenge the lies you have believed for years and remind you that maybe God isn’t asking you to work harder. Maybe He’s simply asking you to come home.
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Champion
Apr 1100:47:15Tap to summarizeA lot of men expect victory to feel like arrival… but it often feels like isolation.. And here is what most guys don’t say out loud: “I feel alone.” “I don’t feel known.” “I don’t feel connected to anyone in a real way.” So instead, we stay moving. We’re living in a time where connection is everywhere… but real connection is rare. More access. More messages. More content. But less honesty. Less depth. Less “this is what’s actually going on with me.” Guys are showing up, performing, producing, and quietly drifting at the same time. And loneliness thrives in that gap. Not because there’s no one around, but because there’s no one really in. You can be surrounded and still feel invisible. You can be respected and still feel unknown. You can have conversations all day and still go home feeling like no one actually sees you. And the dangerous part? It doesn’t feel dramatic. It feels normal. It looks like staying busy. It sounds like, “I’m good.” It hides behind routines, responsibilities, and just enough success to keep anyone from asking deeper questions. Loneliness doesn’t always break you all at once. It wears you down quietly. It numbs your expectations. It lowers your standards for connection. It convinces you that depth isn’t realistic anymore. So you stop reaching. You stop opening up. You stop expecting to be understood. And without realizing it, you start building a life where you’re needed, but not known Where you’re surrounded but still alone. And underneath it all, something starts to settle in. That’s the shift. That’s where it turns. Because what starts as a feeling of loneliness slowly becomes a mindset of isolation. And what becomes a mindset starts shaping everything. How you think: “No one really gets me.” How you show up: Keep it surface. Don’t go there. What you believe about yourself: “I guess this is just who I am.” What you expect from life: “Connection like that isn’t for me.” But here’s the truth most guys miss: Loneliness lies. And the longer you believe a lie….eventually it will become a truth.
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Prepper
Mar 400:38:00Tap to summarizeLet’s be honest — every guy has thought about it at least once. Zombie apocalypse. Bug-out bags. Bunkers. Ammo stacked in the closet. Freeze-dried food piled in the garage like the end of the world is scheduled for Tuesday. There’s something about the idea of being a prepper that hits a nerve in men. Maybe it’s the instinct to protect. Maybe it’s the thrill of being ready when everyone else isn’t. Or maybe it’s just the quiet satisfaction of knowing if everything falls apart… you won’t. But if we’re being real for a minute, most of us joke about being preppers while being completely unprepared for the storms that are already hitting our lives. The pressure in our marriages. The weight of responsibility. The battles in our minds. The moments when leadership is required and no one else is stepping up. And that’s when something hit me that flipped the whole idea of prepping on its head. The original prepper in history wasn’t some guy with a bunker. It was Noah. Think about it. Noah started building a massive ark when there were no clouds in the sky. No rain. No weather forecast. No evidence anything was coming. Just a warning from God… and the guts to believe it. For 120 years he built. Hammering boards. Stacking timber. Day after day after day. And the entire time people laughed. Can you imagine the conversations? “Hey Noah… what are you building?” “A boat.” “A boat? Why?” “Because it’s going to rain.” “…What’s rain?” Every swing of the hammer probably looked ridiculous to the people around him. Every year that passed without rain probably made him look more foolish. But Noah kept building. That kind of faith is savage. It’s the kind of faith that obeys before it sees proof. The kind of faith that prepares before the pressure shows up. The kind of faith that builds when everyone else thinks you’re crazy. And it forced me to ask a question I think every man should wrestle with: Am I building anything right now that will survive the storm… or am I just waiting for rain? Because most men wait for crisis before they start praying. We wait until the marriage is breaking before we lead spiritually. We wait until our kids are drifting before we step up as fathers. We wait until anxiety crushes us before we start seeking God. But real faith doesn’t start in the storm. Real faith starts in the quiet days when nothing looks urgent. That’s when Noah built the ark. The ark your family may need tomorrow… is built by the obedience you start today. Board by board. Prayer by prayer. Decision by decision. Because storms are coming. Pressure is coming. Hard seasons are coming. Moments that test what you actually believe are coming. And when they do, you won’t suddenly build an ark overnight. You’ll step into the one you’ve already been building. The ark you’ll need tomorrow is built by the obedience you start today. So the question is simple: Are you building… or are you waiting for rain?
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Life Hacked
Feb 1100:48:28Tap to summarizeWe live in a world obsessed with shortcuts. Life hacks. Money hacks. Fitness hacks. Faster results with less effort. And somewhere along the way, we started treating faith the same way. What’s the minimum effort I can give and still get the life I want? What’s the least I can do and still call myself faithful? But faith was never meant to be hacked. And when we try, it leaves a lot of men confused, disconnected, burned out, or quietly drifting. Some of us go all in, carry the weight, exhaust ourselves, and eventually disappear. Others never step through the doors at all because church feels cold, heavy, or impossible to belong in unless you perform. In this episode, we get honest about why faith can feel either freezing cold or unbearably heavy. Why church can feel more like survival than sanctuary. And why so many men feel like they don’t quite fit, no matter how hard they try. This is a Survivor’s Guide to Church—not built on rules, pressure, or religious performance, but on anchors that actually hold when life gets hard: Belonging before behavior Consistency over perfection Freedom from performance Faith lived in real community Grace doesn’t need help. Jesus didn’t almost save us, He finished the work. Faith was never meant to feel like grinding through winter just to prove you’re committed. It was meant to feel like stepping into warmth, staying long enough to thaw, and realizing you don’t have to earn the fire. If faith has ever felt heavy, foreign, or exhausting, this conversation is for you. If you’re tired of striving, performing, or pretending, this is your invitation. Stop hacking faith. Stop surviving church. Stop carrying what Jesus already finished.
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Disqualified
Jan 2000:49:43Tap to summarizeDisqualified. It’s a word loaded with finality declared unfit, ineligible, removed from participation. Not because you lacked passion or purpose, but because someone decided you didn’t meet their conditions. Disqualification isn’t always about a lack of skill, maturity, or effort. More often, it’s about a perceived deficiency imposed from the outside, by critics, authority figures, past failures, or even well-meaning voices that spoke too loudly or too soon. But here’s the tension: being disqualified by people is not the same as being disqualified by God.Human opinion may remove you from a position, but it does not have the authority to remove your calling. Rejection can sideline you socially, but it cannot cancel what God has already spoken over your life. Human judgment can’t cancel a divine calling. If you’ve ever stepped back, shut down, or second-guessed your calling because of criticism, rejection, or comparison, this is for you. If you’ve ever assumed “maybe I missed my chance” or “maybe I’m not the guy”, this is for you. Because the most dangerous disqualifications aren’t official. They’re internal. And can we remind you, God is not looking for permission from people to use you. So let us ask you, in what area of your life have you quietly disqualified yourself? What would change if God’s voice carried more weight than everyone else’s? Join us as we talk with Worship Leader David Jones as he speaks openly about feeling disqualified. Disqualification that comes from outside only has power if it’s believed on the inside.
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No Resolutions
Dec 3100:41:58Tap to summarizeNo Resolutions New Year. I’ve got a serious question to start: can you think of a worse way to spend New Year’s Eve than standing in Times Square, freezing, shoulder-to-shoulder with strangers, possibly wearing a diaper, waiting for a ball to drop? Yeah… hard pass. That pretty much sums up how a lot of us feel about the new year. Everyone else looks excited, but inside we’re just tired. In this episode we skip the resolutions, and talk honestly about what men actually feel in January: pressure to perform, pressure to provide, and the quiet fear of repeating the same year. We get into why “trying harder” usually fails, why perfection makes men quit by February, and how isolation slowly kills momentum. This isn’t hype or self-help, it’s about renewing your mind, releasing last year, and stepping into who God actually made you to be. Do you want 2026 to be amazing. Take our advice. No New Year RESOLUTIONS.
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Dangerous
Dec 600:47:05Tap to summarizeSome of the world’s most dangerous jobs require unbelievable courage. Think about the people who scale 80-story buildings on steel beams the width of a shoebox. Or the loggers who work on slick hillsides with massive machinery and zero margin for error. Or the commercial fishermen in pitch-black conditions. Or the technicians who calmly walk up to an active explosive device and say, “Well… let’s see if we can keep this thing from blowing us all up.” These jobs make most of us say, “Nope. Hard pass. I’ll stay in my air-conditioned office, thank you.” But there’s another job that’s just as risky only this one doesn’t happen on a construction site or in the ocean. It happens in your soul. That job is praying the words of Psalm 139:23–24: “Search me, O God… test me… reveal what’s in me… and lead me.” Because inviting God to search your heart is the spiritual equivalent of stepping into a dangerous work zone: • It takes honesty. • It takes courage. • It takes the willingness to face things you’ve been avoiding. • And it takes trusting God more than you trust your self-protection. Just like dangerous jobs expose your physical limits, this prayer exposes the parts of your inner life that are fragile, messy, or hidden: The fears you don’t talk about. The motives you try to justify. The blind spots everyone else sees. The pressure points that reveal what’s inside. The patterns you’ve learned to live with but shouldn’t. It’s not dangerous because God is out to harm you. It’s dangerous because God tells the truth you’ve trained yourself to ignore. And here’s the twist: Just like the deadliest jobs in the world often provide the greatest impact, saving lives, building cities, creating resources, this dangerous prayer leads to the greatest transformation. Letting God “search you” is how you get free. It’s how you grow. It’s how you become the man God designed you to be. In the end, the most dangerous job isn’t out there in the world, it’s allowing God inside to “Search You”. Dangerous Prayers make Dangerous Men.
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Thanks...Giving.
Nov 2400:39:29Tap to summarizeThanksgiving is days away. Turkeys are thawing, in-laws are landing, tensions are rising, and most men are already carrying more weight than they’ll ever admit out loud. Today, we’re dropping a truth bomb that could change your entire mindset before the holidays even hit. Your brain literally cannot hold gratitude and depression at the same time. Science confirms it. Scripture commands it. And life proves it. Join us as we dive into the real battles men face during the holidays: loneliness, financial pressure, broken relationships, grief, regret, and the weight of trying to hold everything together. If you want this Thanksgiving to be different, not heavier, not lonelier, not another holiday to survive then start with two things: one gratitude toward God, one gratitude toward someone in your life. It takes seconds but changes everything. Same life. Same circumstances. Different lens. Gratitude doesn’t delete your problems. It doesn’t magically fix the job, heal the relationship, refill the bank account, or erase the pressure. But it does change the man looking at them. Same life. Same weight. Same reality. But when your lens changes your strength changes. Your mindset changes. You change. And when a man changes, everything around him eventually follows. Thanks....giving. New podcast out now. Take a listen.
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Surrender
Sep 1800:50:15Tap to summarizeWhen a marriage is breaking and divorce feels inevitable, a man can feel like his entire world is collapsing around him. The vows he once spoke with confidence now echo in his heart as painful reminders of what’s been lost. The home that was meant to be a refuge feels more like a war zone. Nights are restless, filled with questions that never get answered. Days are heavy, with conversations that end in silence, shouting, or walls built even higher. Every glance across the room carries unspoken tension, and every step forward feels like another step deeper into darkness. He tries everything he knows. Working harder, talking longer, even pretending the cracks aren’t as deep as they are. He fights to keep control, to fix what’s broken, to hold on with his bare hands. But the harder he grips, the more it slips away. The harder he tries, the more helpless he feels. His strength runs dry, his resolve shatters, and the weight of failure presses down on him like a crushing stone. And then, somewhere in the middle of the wreckage, he comes to a crossroads. He discovers the one thing he’s never truly tried: surrender. Not giving up, but giving over. In his lowest moment, he falls to his knees, finally admitting what he’s been afraid to say...he can’t do this on his own. He hands his pain, his anger, and his shattered dreams to Jesus. And in that surrender, something unexpected happens. He doesn’t find weakness, he finds strength to stand when everything around him is falling apart. He doesn’t find bitterness, he finds grace to forgive and to be forgiven. He doesn’t find despair, he finds hope. Hope that even when a marriage ends, Christ’s love never does. Hope that even in brokenness, God can bring beauty. Hope that surrender is not the end of his story, but the beginning of a new one. On this episode, we invite a friend to share his story of what it looks like to surrender in the middle of pain. Not after the storm has passed, not when everything is neatly resolved, but right in the thick of it, when the wounds are fresh, when the questions are loud, and when the outcome is still uncertain. His story reminds us that surrender isn’t about waiting until life makes sense; it’s about choosing to trust Jesus when nothing does. It’s about laying down pride, fear, and control, and finding that even in the valley, God is present, God is faithful, and God is working.
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Treasure Hunting
Aug 700:44:58Tap to summarizeEvery man knows the ritual. You’re headed out the door, running late, feeling heroic until it happens. Your keys? Gone. Not misplaced… vanished. Like they entered a witness protection program for car accessories. You check the usual places: the counter, the pants from yesterday, the truck cupholder, your buddy’s couch. Nothing. So you enter “search mode.” Shirt comes off for no reason. You’re crawling under furniture like it’s Navy SEAL training. You question your dog. Accuse your kids. Stare down your wife with suspicion like, “Did you move them?” Eventually, you check the fridge, your boot, and yes, even the toilet tank. And just when you’ve given up and accepted a life of Uber rides… boom. There they are. Right where you left them. In your hand. Or your pocket. Or hanging from the door you walked past 12 times. Treasure hunting is wired into the soul of a man. There’s something deep within us that longs to search, to discover, to uncover what’s hidden and claim it as our own. It’s why we’re drawn to adventure, purpose, and even risk. But in life, not all treasure shines. The world offers fool’s gold, money, status, and comfort that promise fulfillment but leave us empty. Real treasure is found when we seek after the things of God: wisdom, truth, purpose, and eternal reward. We’re talking about the real hunt the one every man is on. The search for purpose, for meaning, for that one thing that’s worth giving your life to. Maybe it’s buried under bills, burnout, or just the noise of everyday life. But it’s there. So what are you hunting for? Have you found it yet?
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