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If you do this guided, somatic practice every day for the next 30 days, the way that you show up in the world will completely change. I've spent over 20 years working with thousands of brilliant and deeply caring people who kept getting stuck behind not putting their work out there because of the fear being seen. Maybe you have something to say, create, or go after, but right before you do, you're held back. You shrink the idea before you share it or stay quiet. Maybe you watch somebody else doing what you want to do and think to yourself, I could never have that, or you're growing, but then a part of you is afraid that that growth is going to cost you something, that showing up more fully might make certain people uncomfortable, or being your full, authentic self is too much and could cost you losing love. And so you keep it in. You make yourself smaller. You keep things comfortable for everybody else. But here's what's actually happening. Your nervous system is running on an old pattern, one that you learned at some point that being seen equals danger. And that pattern protected you when you needed it, but now it's keeping you stuck. And so what I'm about to share with you is a powerful somatic practice that you can return to every day for the next 30 days to help you rewire this. It'll guide you through the experience of how integration and transformation actually happen. When the activation and nourishment are held simultaneously, you'll embody a deeper sense of safety so that you can feel authentically expressed in all areas of your life. For this practice, I recommend working with a feeling or sensation that's 5 to 8 out of 10 in terms of level of intensity, really saving the big stuff for a trained professional. You always want to make sure that you're resourced, meaning you have a level of safety and nourishment before doing any advanced process like this. And sometimes somatic work can activate trauma. So if you have big T trauma, whether it's diagnosed or not, meaning you can't hold the present moment with love. Always take care of yourself. Work with a trained specialist versus doing a process like this that I'm about to lead you through, you want somebody to hold for you while you're integrating the big stuff. And you get to have that. There is support for you. And to be clear, this is not meant to replace working with a trained professional. As we go through the process I'm about to take you through. If resistance comes up, and that's totally normal, I just want to invite you to welcome it, create safety for it. Most People resist resistance, but that just adds another layer of resistance. So instead we're not going to be judging what arises, we're going to be able to reveal the wisdom inside of it. When we meet it with acceptance, it will show you what it's here to teach you, what it wants you to see. So meet everything with curiosity and compassion. Okay, let's begin. Find a comfortable position, sitting or lying down, whatever feels right for you. And just take a moment to orient yourself to this space. Notice the room that you're in, the light, the shapes, what it smells like, and let your attention just focus on whatever is pleasant in your direct experience right now. Let your body register, I'm here, I'm safe in this moment. And when you're ready, go ahead and close your eyes. And if you'd like, you can let one hand rest on your heart and the other on your belly. Take a nice slow deep breath in through your nose, just holding on the inhale for a moment, sipping in a little bit more air and holding, holding, holding. And begin to exhale gently letting go of any tension or tightness in your body. And on your next inhale again, fill your lungs and your belly, gently holding on the inhale, sipping in a little bit more air, holding, holding, holding. And when you're ready, you can gently let it go, just allowing yourself to soften, dropping into this present moment exactly as it is, And start to feel into the sensations running through your hands and your feet. In this moment, notice this percolating, alive energy that starts to magnetize as you pay attention to it, in your hands and in your feet. And just notice what in this moment feels peaceful? Where in your body do you notice a sense of safety, nourishment or neutrality? Maybe you feel a sense of warmth around your heart, or you feel supported and held by the chair or ground beneath you. But if this is hard for you for any reason, you can think of someone you love, maybe a child, a partner or a four legged friend, and just bring them to mind and feel your care for them. Notice what it feels like in your body to care for them. And as you place your awareness there, let it expand, taking a moment to appreciate it, really allowing yourself to receive, knowing that this is a resource for you that you can come back to any time you want, Breathing that in, letting it go. And when you're ready, I want to invite you to keep one part of your awareness anchored in a resource, in the safety. While you bring to mind a time where you felt like you wanted to hide, where you didn't want to be seen. Maybe it was when you were about to put your work out there, give a talk or go on social media. Maybe you took a risk to share vulnerably in a relationship or when you pitched your services to someone to work with you. See if you can bring forward a specific memory like a scene in a movie now. And just notice any sensations that get activated in your body as you bring this up. And letting go of this story now sense into what gets activated in your body. Maybe there's a weight in your chest, a knot in your stomach or contraction in your throat. You might want to place your hand wherever the energy is activated now. And as you bring presence to this sensation, just notice any images that go with this. Maybe the earliest memory you have of feeling this. Just let whatever surface surface. There's no need to search hard for something. We're just getting curious. And if a younger memory doesn't come up, just work with the situation you brought forward or contraction in your body now and give it a one word title. That might be shame, fear, invisibility, Whatever word arrives first, let that be perfect. One word. Now place that memory or the contractions you've been feeling in your body in a bubble in front of you, letting that image be whatever it wants to be in that bubble. But notice that there's space between you and it. Just see it held in front of you right now, giving it as much space as you'd like to have from it in this moment. And notice that this is a part of you, not the whole of you. These are just images and energies. It's not who you are breathing in. See if you can hold both the sense of safety and the energy you've been avoiding at the same time. See if you can meet all of it with curiosity, openness and compassion, allowing it to be exactly as it is just for this moment. And if there's any resistance to being with this, just notice and welcome that too. We're just breathing into and allowing the resistance, knowing that it's just trying to protect you, feeling into the safety that's here in this moment, Breathing and receiving. And if it feels right, I want to invite you to cross your arms over your chest, each hand resting on the opposite shoulder like you're giving yourself a gentle hug. And I want to invite you to start to tap one hand to the other hand, just tapping left to right, left, right to right. Just allowing this to be a slow, steady rhythm, a kind of anchor. And as you tap, just continue staying connected to the sensations in your body and to what feels nourishing again, allowing any sensations, images or emotions to be here to arise. There's no need to analyze anything. Your system knows exactly what to do. You're just breathing safety, allowing, all of it in this moment. And if you want to take it a step deeper, just ask yourself, is there any more I can allow to be here, to be exactly as it is? As you continue to tap left to right, left to right, breathing in, allowing. And if at any moment it feels like too much, just slow down. You can return to focusing on what feels good. You are in complete control. Otherwise, just let your system naturally move between activation and what feels safe, discovering what happens when you fully open to and accept what's here without a story, tapping left to right, left to right, breathing in and opening. And if it feels right, I want to invite you to gently let go of the tapping. Just take a nice slow deep breath in, releasing, relaxing. As you breathe naturally, just notice that there's nothing that needs fixing. We're just simply meeting the moment with acceptance. And now I want to invite you to open the aperture of your awareness, to notice the walls in your room. You're just kind of resting your awareness back, noticing to the walls mind that any energy is here. There's a part of you noticing the sensations. And there's a part of you that's aware of your breath, your body, this room, this moment. You're both the one that's feeling and the one that's observing, just tuning into and anchoring into safety in this moment. If it feels right, I want to invite you to bring back that original memory. But now there's distance between you and it. But from this new place of embodying your openness, repeating after me to yourself, silently inside, it's safe for me to be seen. I can be seen and connected at the same time. I can show up as my full self and still belong. I welcome myself exactly as I am and it's safe for me to expand. And if there are any words that you want to share to this part of you specifically, go ahead and do that silently inside, right now, Taking a nice slow deep breath in and gently exhaling, letting go. And just notice that nothing here is threatened by your expression. And if there's anything else you need to say or do to feel complete for now, you can go ahead and offer yourself that right now. You can even hit pause if you want more time. And from this place, I just want to gently invite you to clarify what's the next most intelligent step. What's one small step that you can take towards being seen? Just one moment of showing up a little bit more fully than you did yesterday. Maybe it's sharing something that you've been sitting on, saying yes to the thing that you've been holding back, or letting someone in just a little bit more. Whatever feels like the next true step for you. Go ahead and clarify that inside yourself right now. And then just take one last slow, deep breath into your heart space and on the next exhale, you can gently open your eyes with a smile. Beautiful. I just want to honor you for taking the time to show up for yourself in this way. It is such a gift, not only to you, but all those you will serve as a result.