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Welcome to a special episode of the Healing and Human Potential podcast. I'm Alyssa Nobriga and I'm so excited to share something truly transformative with you. So this is a session from my 5 day free training recorded live today. You'll learn proven coaching tools to overcome burnout, set boundaries, and break free from the fear of failure. We'll also clear your subconscious block so that you can claim the income that you desire and scale your business with more confidence. This episode will only be available for a limited time, so if you want to go deeper to receive the daily tools and prizes, you can go to alyssinobriga.com forward/bootcamp to opt in for free and we'll send all the details your way. Let's dive in. Day five, all about helping you break free of this fear of failure. We're going to go deep today so that you actually walk away having cleared this fear in your own system. And we're going to do a little whiteboard strategy and then talk about busting through some of the common blocks that hold people back from living their dreams. Self doubt imposter syndrome, Burnout boundaries. I hope that you're starting to see that business is your personal development path. So I want you to really get that as you have a fear of rejection, that's gonna show up in your sales conversation. Yes, it's gonna show up in dating too. But if you have control issues, that's gonna really show up and be reflected in how you delegate. Or if you feel unworthy, that will be reflected in how you price your services or how much you allow yourself to receive financially. We do the deeper work because that's what makes it click. 80% of the work is inner and we also do outer and strategy. And it's not like, let me do the inner work and then all feel ready to then grow, share my gifts and grow my visibility in the world. No, we do the inner work regulating your nervous system so you feel safe as you consistently honor the calling of your heart, sharing the work that you want to share in the world and feel really confident about the impact that you're making starting with yourself. So I'm so happy that you are here. We're going to dive deep. And this fear of failure, I want you to really get that this will come up as you take steps to either clarify or start taking steps towards your dreams. Because anytime you have gone for something and it didn't work, you're going to be hesitant to go for it again. So that could be in business Maybe you. You launched your business, you had a dream and a goal and you didn't arrive at it or it could even be in love. You loved deeply and you risked being vulnerable. But then you felt like you weren't met and it felt like a failure. Your. Your marriage failed. Work with whatever's alive for you today. All of my tools you can apply to any area of your life. It doesn't matter what kind of topic or niche you focus on. These tools are about getting to of what's really holding you back. And when you work in this way, unbiased, this is my method. But when you work in this way, it's more effective. And it doesn't just support you and your clients on one level of their life and your life, it supports you in up leveling everything else because you've worked it at the root so it will uplevel your. All of your relationships. Cause you're starting with yourself. It'll up level your health, your finances. Everything is a reflection of you doing this deeper work. So we're gonna help you clear these fears so that you can really courageously stand forward in service to what it is that's alive and true for you. And so let's get out your workbook for today. Get out a pen. I want to invite you to chat and play along whether you're on the live or the replay, so people can really see that they're not alone in this and really normalize what may be coming up. And if you have not opted in for some reason, just type bootcamp and it will send you the workbook. But first, before we dive into that, I just want to say I'm loving hearing your wins. I want to acknowledge you for being somebody that shows up on day five. You are more committed to than just doing the quick result, quick wins. You're actually committed to getting real results. And that commitment and that courage and consistency is what's gonna help you realize your dreams. So I just want you to know that I honor you and I see you and I'm here to support you. Let's go. I'm so happy to be with you. And so since Monday, we've been doing different things and I wanna just take a pause to highlight what has been some of the progress that you've seen since Monday. It could be inner or outer, it could be big or small. But type it in the chat you can so that we can celebrate you. You can see yourself and you're not always being pushed by this hungry ghost of like, bigger, better, faster, More. It's feeling more than enough. Yes, that I feel enough. I'm loving it. Thank you. You're so welcome. And so type in the chat. Maybe you feel more confident. Maybe you're coming from a place of like, wow, I get to do business in a totally different way. And you're feeling more inspired. Maybe you reached out to somebody or shared your work in a more visible way. I have more energy and focus. Maybe you're seeing strategies with. Oh, you're healing relationship with money. That's incredible. I've allowed myself to be seen and supported. Like, this is the work. I feel lighter, more uplifted. Good, you guys. Some of you have been creating clients. I've arranged a whole workspace. I. Beautiful. I love it. So keep celebrating your progress and know that you are supported as you do. Your work life will just mirror that back. You'll be able to better serve your clients. You'll feel more energized in your business, more clear. I'm feeling more confident already. So much lighter, calmer, Beautiful. Okay, good. And this is just four hours. This is our fifth hour. So imagine what's possible when you're in a container where you have support to go deep. Do you have the community, the teachings, the. The tools, the strategies that are aligned to really go to your next level, not only with personal guidance from me, my mentor, coaches, and an incredible community. If you feel called to that, we would be honored to support you. I'm. We're actively going through applications now for our accredited coach certification program. And it's for people who are brand new, either coaches, therapists, healers. It's for leaders who want to more consciously lead their teams, their families. It's also for people that are interested in personal development work. Or you're an experienced pro and you're like, I want to back higher fees and feel really confident about the work that I do for you. All you have to do is comment. Apply here on the live or the replay and we'll send you the information. The first step is to apply. It doesn't commit you to anything, but that way you can start to see and, well, if you do it before Sunday, you can save 500 off. And we will be sending acceptance letters this Monday at noon letting you know if you've been accepted. And we'll share different financing options, we'll share different payment plan options. The first down payment is 497. And again, it doesn't commit you, but if you say apply, it'll send you the information. Or you can go to Alysonobriga.com apply. And if you didn't get an email from us and you did apply, just email supportlistinobriga.com just to make sure you so that you because you should have gotten a confirmation email. So we want to make sure that you're held and supported. You can also DM me if you have questions. I'm here to support you every step of the way. We not only help you do the inner work, but and it's not just inner and then outer, it's inner as you go along the way. So you actually create clients, healing anything around receiving or giving so you feel clean and more free. And then again you're more powerful in supporting your clients and doing the same. And so last thing that I want to remind you before we dive in today, such a beautiful call, is that I'm going to keep the party going next week. So Monday I'm going to open it up to coach you. Bring your coaching questions from anything over these last five days. Bring your questions. I'm also going to bring up some grants so you can ask them your questions directly. I want you to be able to hear from them different stories, different experience levels and so that you can really feel more clear and supported. So Monday at noon, sorry, Monday at 10 on IG and then Wednesday I'm going to share with you strategies. It's more practical strategies for where do you create? How do you create income whether you're a coach or not, so that you feel empowered. I never want you to say I can't afford something. You always have choices. And I want to coach you into your resourcefulness because that will support you as an entrepreneur and as a human in life. And so rather than I can't, I want you to, I want to coach you into I can or I choose not to from your power. That's what's going to change the game for you. So we're going to dive into that on Wednesday, 10am on Instagram. Okay, fun. So let's dive in. I have several questions come Monday. I got you. It'll be great. So write down in the chat. What is your vision for this year? What is it that you really want? How much do you want to make? Claim it, get specific. The ego stays very vague. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to show you a little whiteboard strategy and it'll probably bring up some stuff so then we can move through some of that inner stuff. Expect it. You want to be designing your packages for your clients. To move through those things so that you don't think that that's bad but you know that this is a part of your growth edge. It's your is part of the growing pains. When you have the right tools it really helps you unlock it more easily. So it's only a session on Monday and Wednesday 10am Those are two bonus trainings for you. Okay. $100,000 I would like to make. I ha. I'll have earned 250,000 in 2026. An extra 10k a month. Good. And we all want different things. I love your willingness to claim it, to drop it in the chat and then we can reverse engineer something that works for you. So now I, because I'm coaching hundreds of you here, I want to make sure that I'm going to give you a business model. I'm going to break down some of these and we're all at different places in our, in our growth and what we want. Some people want to be working a lot, some people don't. Some people want online, some people don't want to worry about social media. And you don't have to use social media to create clients. You don't have to have a niche. So I want you to know there's different ways but I'm going to just say six figures, I'm going to say ten hundred thousand dollars and you can play with the numbers so that it is more fitting for you. But I have to kind of put the line in the sand somewhere. So let's do this. So I got creative. So now that I have a mirror behind me, I'm going to use this to share with you a strategy. This should be accurate. Okay. So let's say you have a three month program, right? You have three month packages. This is good for you if you are somebody that's starting out, coaching, healing. If you're just starting out, I find three month packages are, are great. I would, we can get into that maybe Monday I can tell you more. If I have more time I'll get into coaching here. But let's say you have 10 clients and they're paying around 800amonth. That's a hundred thousand dollars a year working part time, 10 clients a year. Okay. Can you see that? And you can do this for a one to one client. You can do this like you just want to work with one to ones. It's a lot easier to get started with one to ones. Once you have enough one to ones they're going to be people that couldn't afford your one to one. And then you can put those people on a wait list to start your group so that when you start your group, you already have a wait list before you've even publicly announced it yet. And so you feel good about, wow, I'm actually filling my group. And then when you, you go online, you're not like, I have 10 spaces. You say half of it's already filled. If you're interested, DM me and I'll share more information if you're online. If you're not online, then you're doing that verbally in conversation. So you can do this for one to one clients if you want. You can do this with groups if you're there. And you could also do this with corporate clients. Corporations have budgets for coaching. So if you, and we teach you how to do all of this in our certification program. But let's say you are a bit more experienced, you want to hold people in a longer container. You have a six month package. So ten clients at $5,000 each is $50,000 a year. Okay. And if you do that twice a year. Sorry, yeah. At six months each. And if you do that twice a year, that's 100,000. Now, Nana Whites, let's say you've got a year long package. Maybe you want to go deeper with people that. Let's just say you work with 12 clients for one year. 12. And you can snapshot this. 12 clients for one year is a thousand. With $1,000 a month, that's $144,000 a year working part time. 12 clients, $1,000 a month each month is $144,000 working part time. Okay? So I want you to really get that the strategy is simple. If you allow it to be simple sometimes that's not always the case. And so let me break it down so I want you to really start to get that the strategy is not hard. You don't want to complicate it. And my goodness, yes. So you can start seeing that it doesn't have to be complicated. But if you don't do the inner work to regulate your nervous system, a lot of the times people will keep it chaotic, but you can screenshot that you can go back to it. What stops most people are the inner blocks, the patterns that they project onto their business. And if you don't do that work, it creates a lot more stress and anxiety. And so, and save your questions because if I have time, I'll answer that. And I could also answer it on Monday. But I want you to get that people in Situations don't block us, okay? The blocks are in us and people in situations bring them out of us. And so most people think that somebody made them feel a certain way. They don't. They just evoked it out of you. So think of it like this. Think of it like you're in a house and somebody knocks on the door and your block or your trigger, answer it, answers it, they evoked it out of you. And the good news about that is that you can do the work to heal it or to transform it at the root. So if someone knocks, no one's home. If you have triggers, life will find a way. If you have buttons, life will find a way to push them. And so part of this work is around really getting free enough to go there and integrate it so that you're not so stuck. And as you're doing it at the root, around worth and identity, which is the heart of it, it will start to show up and reflect in every other area of your life. It's so much more effective and efficient to do it that way for yourself and to hold that space for your clients. It serves them way more. Have you ever felt like there's something more you're meant to do? Like you've outgrown the life that you're living, but you don't know what comes next? Maybe you've checked all the boxes and still something inside whispers this isn't it. It. What if that whisper is actually a calling, A sign that you're here to do something meaningful, something that lights you up and serves others in the process? After two decades of experience as a psychotherapist and coach running a multiple seven figure business, I've seen what's possible when people fully step into their purpose. And that's why I've created my ICF accredited coach certification program to help people like you turn their natural gifts into a fulfilling career and life that feels fully aligned. It's for brand new and experienced coaches working in any niche inside. You'll learn powerful tools to not just transform your life, but feel confident in deeply and profoundly helping others change theirs. You'll also learn practical strategies to build a purpose led business and embody your inherent worth so you can show up authentically feeling supported to really have a natural abundance in your life. You'll also join a supportive, heart centered community of people who, like you, have decided to stop settling and start living their purpose. And so if you're ready to feel clear, confident and connected, to finally align with the freedom and fulfillment that you've been Seeking. I wanna invite you to take the next step. The link is in the show notes to learn more and apply today or go to alyssnobriga.com apply. I would be honored to support you on this journey. And so I want you to really get that common blocks are gonna come up. So let's bust through three very common blocks right here, right now. So the first one is self doubt and imposter sy syndrome type. Yes. If this has been you, whether you're on the live or the replay, play along so other people can see. So self doubt can sound like, am I good enough? Can I really do this? Could this be for me? Or am I worthy? Right. It can be masking worthiness as well. And I teach my students around self worth again because then it's not just like a one week kind of a thing. This is about really deeply embodying your inherent worth and value independent of anything that's happening in your business that is powerful and you feel way more resourceful. And oftentimes people will say, charge what you're worth. And I know that that has the best of intentions, but you could never charge what you're worth. You are priceless. Your services, on the other hand, are not. And so your fees have nothing to do with your worth. I want you to get that who you are is separate than what you do. It's separate than your business. Okay? We gotta really get that. Another block that people have is they have two beliefs that hold them back. So I want you to watch out for this within yourself or if you create containers for others. So one belief is that it's not possible. Question that. And it's not possible for me, question that one as well. Because once you start to wake up out of your mind, it will start to find all the evidence and examples for how you can do it too. But if you don't question those inner things, it's gonna be a lot harder to grow your business. So we're doing this work to get out of our own way so it's more fun, it's more effective and it's more. We sustain at the success that we want. And you're more powerful than you even realized. And so I'll share with you a story about a client that I had this last year in ICM in my certification program. I was telling her, here's this business strategy using my six figure and beyond business roadmap. I said, here's the strategy based on what you're saying you want. That's really simple and easy. To create clients and scale to your next level. And she wasn't listening to me. She was choosing to. She's like, I want to do social media and not social media. This is the number one block that holds people back, is entrepreneurs is trying to do too many things at once. They dilute their potential because they're not actually successful with having focus and follow through. Focus and follow through is really important. So she wasn't listening to me. And I lovingly confronted her every week. I bring people up twice a week to do demos with, and I coach everyone almost. And I don't usually share that publicly because I stay on a lot longer than the calls require. But it's my favorite thing in the world. So I love being there in it with you guys. So I'm on a call with her, I'm coaching her. And I could see her nervous system shaking. She was feeling confronted because I was right up against the pattern of helping her choose what was simple, what was easy. But because she. And if I had just told her another strategy and not helped her do the inner work, it would have confirmed this idea that she was doing something wrong, and she would have further gone into deflation and collapse. And so I just lovingly met her at showing her what was happening, that she. Her nervous system was wired for survival, not success. That she was unconsciously choosing things that would have her sabotage her own success by trying to do it all. And you could see her start to shake. And I told her, it's not just the strategy. It's the state that you are in as you're executing it. She was going into frantic and keeping busy and making it hard because she didn't feel worthy. And as she started to really do the deeper work with me on that call right then and there, even though I told her in the program, you know, the. Our ego is. It has subtle ways to try to trick us. It was really confronting for her. And I started to help her do the deeper work, to feel safe in her visibility, to feel worthy of receiving. And as she started doing that, the outer action was way more in alignment, more easy. But even if I tell you you need the supports to be lovingly challenged and called forward so that you have the community, the coaching, the trainings, the tools to really change at the root. And, you know, just. It's important that you see that these patterns get integrated in our business, but they're not just in our business, they're in our relationships too. So again, as you work it here, it will show up everywhere else. And you want to feel ease in your nervous system, you can take a big bite. You could, you could jump in your growth. You're just going to have to do more inner work so that you feel regulated in your nervous system. Or you could take small steps. It's up to you, totally defined by what feels good for you and how fast you want to grow. But I am here for a new paradigm of how we do business, how we honor the calling of our heart, to share our gifts from a place of being rooted in our wholeness of doing the inner work along the way. Because that's how we really get free. And as we do that, we feel more grounded. Things become a lot easier. We're getting out of our own way. So the second block that I'll highlight is that gets in the way of a lot of service providers because you guys have big hearts and you care. And oftentimes, just a side note on the other thing, that those who are most capable oftentimes question themselves the most because they know where they are and where they could go, but they compare where they are. So again, having the tools to not deflate yourself, looking at that gap and not feeling encouraged. We want to do the inner work, but the second one is over responsibility. Okay, this is a big one. And so I really want you to get. It shows up as people pleasing, it shows up as self reliance, it shows up as hyper vigilance. And it's when we don't have clear boundaries, we end up overextending and burning out. And you know that over responsibility is playing out. When you feel bad for someone, maybe you see them as a victim or you try to help them and you give them a handout or you're, you're bending over backwards doing the work for them. What you're essentially saying is that you don't believe they can do it and you're going to do it for them. This is a bit of a hero complex. Maybe you are a parentified child and we'll go into how this conditioning got started. But that leads to, yes, your burnout. And it also leads to them not discovering what they're capable of. People want to be called forward in what they're capable of. You don't want to create codependency on you. And so that pattern will show up with high functioning individuals and it can tend to lead to success, but at a cost, at a cost to your relationships, at a cost to your body and your overall health. And then you create codependency. Your clients don't discover what they're capable of. Part of the reason I moved from therapy into coaching was I wanted to work with high functioning individuals, empowering them with the tools to change their life. And for me to hold them in a container to go deeper than they can go on their own so that they're empowered to do it with every other topic in their life. And my intention always is to help them go to their next level, save their time. Empowering them with tools. That's part of yeah the deeper mission and what I feel called to support in the world. And so this pattern of over responsibility, hyper self reliance, it's a safety strategy, hyper vigilance. And it can come because maybe the adults or your parents, the authority figures, you didn't trust that they could support your needs. And so you took on more than was your responsibility as a child and you're still doing that in your adult life now. And it can show up in your business, with your team, it can show up with your clients, your kids. And so you start healing it at the root, it starts to change everywhere else. And I haven't shared a lot of examples around relationships so I'll share one here just so you can get a sense for it. So I worked with a couple and you know with, I used to be a couples therapist. So my two specialties are relationships and business. And again when you're working it at the root. So I worked with a couple. This, this one partner was really self. Her, I'll just say her, her wound was she didn't believe she could rely on anyone. So she went into hyper vigilance, high functioning, over functioning. And of course then she would attract a partner that was under functioning to confirm her belief that she had to do it all herself. And her partner. His patterns were that he felt criticized as a child and he didn't then put his, put his work out there or take greater leadership because he felt unworthy because of his childhood pattern that so he would under function as a safety strategy. So you can see how they're the perfect puzzle piece to call each other. And that's how you, I will do a whole other training about why you attract who you attract. Um, but the problem is not them. The problem is the pattern and unconsciously playing it out. And so part of the work is to support you in understanding that you don't have to do it all on your own or to call you forward to feel safety to, to really go for it and not make it mean anything about you. Whether you're either part of the pattern. It'll show up in your business and your relationships just the same. And this is something we deeply unravel in the program around boundaries, burnout, balance, so that you are really calling your clients forward. Yes, I'm about having business models that are generous. I do this entire thing for free. This. This is incredibly expensive. And it's part of my mission and part of the work that I want to get out there in the world. And those that are interested will go deeper. And if not, I hope that this is served. And you can also have business models that you do sliding scale, or you let a certain amount of people in through scholarships. But where you do that from matters, because if you. If they have a story that they're a victim and you buy into that, you're not serving them and you're going to burn out. And I want to make sure you're coming from a clean place. It's yes. And so where we're doing it from matters. And then the third one, the last one, is one of the most most powerful. It's one of the most. The biggest ones that comes up for people when they identify a dream and when they start taking action. And it's the fear of failure. And it's a. And it's like part of this work is about. Again, if somebody said yes to a dream and they didn't feel like they. They made it, they're going to be hesitant. They're not going to fully go for it. And anything we haven't forgiven in the past, we unconsciously project into the future. And so forgiving ourselves for any of the judgments about who we are, what we're capable of, or what we saw in our conditioning helps free us to be more present, to be more productive, to be happier. And that's what we're going to dive into today. So that you feel like you're not letting the ego make it mean something about you. Most people, if it's unchecked, they think I'm a failure. No, you may have failed at something, but it doesn't mean anything about you. And that becomes a lot lighter when you see and you know that. And so we're going to unravel that for you today because oftentimes it roots back to something deeper. It can be that you felt the ego's making it personal. So it's like, I didn't get the job, something must be wrong with me. But it could also root back to something simple, like I didn't get picked to be on the team. And it and it and it shows up in relationships or you felt rejected by a parent. You know, failure is a. This fear of failure is a protection mechanism. It's trying to make sure that you're not going to fail or get hurt again. It's innocent, but it holds you back from your dreams. And there's another, more graceful path by really doing the inner work to get out of your own way. And remember one of these other days I said, what you avoid, you create. If you're avoiding failure, you create it. So I've had coaches say, alyssa, I'm doing your seven step process for sales. I like it, but it's not converting. This happens every, every once in a while. And I say, did you pitch? And they don't even realize that they're not pitching. They're unconsciously not pitching because they're avoiding failure. And sometimes we can see it, sometimes we can't, but it can be sneaky. And so if they're not pitching, of course they're going to fail, but they're, they're more. It's a protection. So they don't feel that feeling. And I want you to know the feeling's not a fact. The feeling's not even hard. It's the resistance to the feeling that's hard. And I'm going to teach you what that means today and walk you through an experience. You know what I'm talking about. Not just conceptual, but embodied, lived here. And when you develop your range to have a healthy relationship with failure, you know it doesn't mean anything about you. You iterate, you're playing, it feels soft and light. It's like a kid. They're just growing so fast because they're willing to be an experimentation, have a learning orientation to life. So I will share a story about a failure of my own more vulnerably lead in connection with you. I have a lot of failures, and one that I'll share with you is pretty vague. I genuinely don't think of failure in the same way. I am willing to feel it. I'm willing to let myself feel what's here because I've learned that that actually works. But I have an orientation where it's like, how can I learn from this? Whether it's not working or it is working, I tend to iterate and try to enhance things. I like that I'm growth oriented. But I had this experience where when I was getting licensed as a psychotherapist, it took me 10 years to honor this calling. And since I was 12 years old, I always knew that I Wanted to be a healer and live in the redwoods. But I also had this other part of me that wanted to do marketing and live in New York City. Now I do like business healing, so it makes sense now. But I just kept following the next most intelligent step. And so I didn't have any coaching examples when I was 12. And so I got, I honored this calling to get licensed as a therapist. I went through three different graduate schools. They kept closing down and I was like, no, this is what I'm doing. And I kept committing to it over and over again. And in California where I live, you take two exams to get licensed. It's similar to the bar where when you're becoming a lawyer, you'd study for many months and then you take this exam. And so my first exam, I passed. The second exam I failed. And I have a learning disability and reading comprehension. I'm mild dyslexic and mild adhd. So I'm very sensitive to learning styles. That's why I put over thousand hours working with a curriculum in my certification to tailor to different learning styles. I didn't even learn how I learned until college, which I should have learned that a lot learn earlier. I'm an kinesthetic learner, so I learned by doing sign language was really easy for me. So I'm. Anyway, I. The exam is not like here. How do you be a good clinician? It's more about the legality of becoming licensed. So this was more about being a mandated reporter. It's very heavy, very conceptual and I'm a slow reader, I'm not a strong reader. And so I didn't have enough time and I got to the point of just running out of time and I just abacazabaed it and just parade and let go. And I had failed. And it was hard for me, the failure, because it was a 10 year journey. And it was hard for me because I had so much stopped my life to study for this thing. After 10 years, I took three months just to fully focus on that one test. And failing sucked. But what was even harder was that it was the end of the year and then the new year, they were starting a new exam. So I had to, I, I chose to pause my life for another three months. It took a while to get there. I was really questioning that one, to pause my life for three more months to study this and then move forward and take that exam. And I knew that that was all I had left in me. I knew that if I didn't pass that exam that Was it like I would have been abandoning myself by holding onto a dream that I was also clear I wasn't going to be continuing in that profession much longer. And so I gave it my all I got, but I had to do some inner work to get behind myself. I gave it my all, and I took the test. And I remember the envelope was in my hand. I was so nervous, and I sat down with my husband and I was like, whether I passed or failed, that envelope does not define my success. I am choosing to call this a success before I opened it because I gave it my all. I kept showing up. We were going to be confronted with challenges, and I showed up in a way that was honoring of myself, that was really committed. We were going to go through these things, and I opened the envelope and I had passed. And I just want to remind you that you write the scripts for your life and nothing is a success or failure if you don't define it that way. And maybe you're in the middle of your story, maybe you're at the part of the movie where it's just about to turn. But you can use everything for your growth and your upliftment. And we don't want to go to a movie that just has, like, happily ever after all the time. And so you get to choose how you want to go through things, what narratives you empower yourself, what define you define as success or failure. And I want to encourage you to do the emotional and somatic mastery work so you don't let these fears take you out of the game, that you can be resilient. I find that most people try to get rid of negative feelings, but that doesn't work. That just postpones them. My methodology is about embracing all of it. Thoughts, feelings, sensations, behaviors. You're saying yes to what's actually here, and you start to integrate it. Feeling your power. And I don't want you just to believe me, but this, to test it. Because as you do that, you are going to. You're going to be able to stretch the capacity to be resilient, to be with different experiences and find your center, find your truth. I find a lot of people with nervous system regulation work, they think the goal is calm. It's not. The goal is your capacity to stretch. To be with. Stress isn't bad, right? Anxiety isn't bad. Anxiety is just feedback that you're in the future and you can come back to presence. It's not that. It's. It's like, how do I be with this? That can be a Mantra for you. And when you question the illusion of time, you get present and not future tripping, not regret. You're here and it's a lot easier to be with the sensation, not the story. And it starts to integrate your nervous system. You don't feel like, you know, it's almost like we're a puppet unconsciously living. If somebody pokes on that button of rejection and you're unconsciously like being a puppeteer and you're just being lived without actually just cutting those strings and living with more grace. I want that for you and your business, if you want that. Yeah. It's about adaptability. And I just. And so I'm going to take you through this group demo so that we start to experience that for yourself and go ahead and take out your workbook. We're going to get into this breaking free from your fear of failure and work with whatever's alive for you. I'll be probably. You can bring up anything. It really doesn't matter. But work with. I want that. You're here. You're getting it. You got it. Okay. So first off, I want you to set an intention. Really just close your eye. What? Close your eyes. What is an intention that's true and alive for you? Intentions are powerful. When you're focusing on what you want, it helps your subconscious align. What's most important to you? Is it that you. My intention is to live with greater freedom, to heal anything that's no longer serving me with grace. Whatever it is for you, set that intention for yourself. I'm going to take you through this process. You can type it in the chat or you can just state it's inside. Either way. How do I be with this? Yeah, good. Can I be with this? The next thing I want you to do is I want you to write down or clarify in your heart what is a dream that's most important to you. What's knocking at your heart that's alive. That's saying that calling is calling you forward again. It's not just for you. It's. It's. It's. It helps you discover who you already are by removing who you're not as you answer that call. Very much hero's journey. So what is the calling that's knocking at your heart right now? Identify that for you. There's a divine design within your desire. You can trust it as you honor it. Those other things come up so that they can be cleared. You live more free. And now I want you to write down number three. I want you to write down what is something you feel like you have failed at that has charge or that's heavy inside. And I want you to identify something from 5 to 10 out of. Sorry, 5 to 8 out of a 10. So not going into big T trauma. Something that's alive, but it's not the deepest thing because we're on an Instagram live and we coach and we're not doing any trauma work. Coaches are not supposed to do trauma work. You need to be trauma informed. Trauma in all of your work, whether you are a healer. I mean I think everyone should be trauma informed, but especially when you do somatic work. So just going from 5 to 8 out of 10 something that's a lie for you, maybe you felt like you fail at your marriage, your business, you should have had more sales. And I want you to write it in a way that says I should have or I should not have. So write it in a way that says that. And I failed at saving money, so I should have saved more money. So write it as I should or shouldn't and you can have a few, but just circle one that feels more alive with disappointment. But again, between five to eight coaches aren't, aren't trained to do trauma work. I want you to be trauma informed. That is your professional responsibility. But not big T trauma. That's for trauma specialists and licensed therapists. Okay. So find something specific and I, and I'll just speak to this real briefly because somebody's asking about it. So I, I don't work with people that have had a severe addiction and I always train my coaches this way if it's been under six months. Because if you're inviting somebody outside of their comfort zone, their safety strategy is to go back to that addiction. You want them to have like six months to a year of recovery of healthy coping mechanisms. The addiction isn't the problem. That was a safety strategy. They want to develop new safety strategies as their go to. So I wouldn't advise taking on somebody that's going through addiction unless they're congruently working with a therapist on their trauma. And you know what's in scope and out of scope. You're very clear. Okay, so I'll answer questions about that later. That's a whole bucket. And make sure that you are trauma informed. So I should, or I should have whatever you feel like you failed at. Make sure that you write that down. I should have more clients. I should be further along. I should have been more successful by now. These are very common. Okay, so now close your eyes, be in a Specific moment in your mind where you were believing this, like where you're in that. That memory and you're getting mindful and you're going to investigate again from that specific experience. What were you trying to avoid feeling by telling yourself that you should or shouldn't have? Fill in the blank. We tell ourselves stories as a subconscious way to avoid feeling something. So I tell myself that that shouldn't have happened because I'm avoiding feeling regret or I'm avoiding feeling disappointment or helplessness. What are you trying to avoid feeling by telling yourself it should or should not have happened? Find this specific feeling that you are avoiding. This is gonna help you break free because we're gonna stretch the capacity to be with the feeling rather than staying locked in the avoidance in our mind. So I should be earning more money. I'm avoiding feeling my power and I wanna just check in with that one. Because if you were in your power, then what I'm avoiding feeling Shame. Thank you, Lucy. Yes. Fear of failure. That's right. Yes. Shame's a big one from avoiding feeling failure. Yeah, it could be helplessness. I'm feeling rejected. Whatever it is, just identify what that is. It's important for you to get this so we can do the process. Disappointment, shame. Hopelessness. Beautiful love. Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for your vulnerability. And so I'm going to guide us on a process where I'm going to invite you to just get curious with this feeling again, staying within your window, taking care of yourself. Let's just do this now. I'm gonna guide us. Okay, Go ahead and close your eyes. Take a nice slow, deep breath into your heart space and just feeling a sense of safety in your body right now. Maybe it's just the nourishment of the seat beneath you. Maybe it's the breath moving in and out. Whatever gives you a sense of safety. Let yourself just feel that for a moment, breathing into that safety. And then when you're ready, if you are ready, I want to invite you to place on your body where you feel the activation of this feeling that you've been trying to avoid. Maybe it's betrayal, rejection, failure, shame. Place your hand on that part of your body, wherever that feeling is, even if it's just. Just a trace of that feeling. And I want to invite you to just get curious. If we don't label this as an emotion, we're just going to bring our awareness into it for this moment, as an experiment, like a scientist discovering what is this actually, when I'm not resisting it or Judging it, I'm just breathing into it, allowing it to be here just for this moment, giving it infinite space to just be here with the breath. Moving in, moving out, just saying hello as if it's a friend you've not really properly had the chance to say hello to. And as your hand is there, you're holding it with permission, with the breath, with the allowance of it being here, I want you to silently say to this energy, if this feels right for you, repeat after me. I see that I've drenched you and I'm sorry I didn't know how to be with you before, but I'm learning how now. Thank you for arising, to show me how to welcome you so that I can live free. Taking a breath, welcoming it. Thank you for arising me so you're showing me how I can welcome you and live free. Let it know you can stay as long as you want, breathing into it, saying thank you, welcoming it. And if resistance comes up, resistance is welcome too. Everything is gets to be allowed in this moment, without an agenda or saying yes, you can stay as long as you want. Breathing in, receiving, allowing. You don't need to be any different than the way that you are. I love you. And with this breath, we're just saying yes. Opening to the intelligence of whatever wants to happen, opening the aperture of your awareness to also just notice the walls and your room, these walls that don't mind. This energy is here, breathing in, letting it go, just for this moment, it gets to be allowed as a sensation. And when you're ready, you can gently just go back in your mind's eye to look at that very specific moment where you believed you failed be in that same situation. And I want you to ask yourself, can you absolutely know that that was a failure? Can you be a hundred percent sure, yes or no, and just discover that for yourself right now? Just say yes or no in your awareness, in your experience, and whatever you said is your truth. Totally fine. But I want you to visualize yourself in that same situation that we presented earlier. Nothing has changed it. But you're just. You're just suspending the idea that that was a failure. You're being there in that moment and looking again besides what the mind was telling you. Just be there beyond the narrative that that was a failure and just notice what opens for you. What do you notice? So nothing on the outside is changing. You're just changing your narrative and discovering what else is here. What are that? What is that like? Where's the power? Is it you? And then if you Feel called. I'm going to invite you to do just a few compassionate self forgivenesses with me. If these resonate, you can say it with me silently to yourself. Okay. And you can place your hand on your heart if you like, to hold presence and compassion. Do what feels right and true for you. So I forgive myself for buying into the misunderstanding that I am a failure. The truth is I may have failed at something, but I am not what I do. I forgive myself for buying into the misunderstanding that that was a fail. The truth is this story's not over yet. I can still create a different story from this. Breathing in compassion. Really letting yourself receive your own love and presence. I forgive myself for buying into the illusion that this should or shouldn't have had have happened. The truth is it did happen. And the truth is arguing with what happened won't change it. And I can choose to be loving with myself regardless. I forgive myself for buying into the misunderstanding that I should be anywhere other than where I am right now. If I'm really honest, I don't know where I should or should not B. I don't know what should or shouldn't have happened. Give yourself that grace. Whatever your truth is, letting yourself be flooded with your own love and compassion, letting go of any past ideas about who you are, what you're capable of, you are so much more supportive than you realize. And just letting yourself feel flooded with your own compassion. Sometimes people say, well, yeah, Alyssa, I knew better. But that was one level of knowing in your mind. There are different levels of knowing. There's an emotional integration and in your gut a new way of being. You may have known in your mind, but you didn't know as a lived way yet. And you can be gentle with yourself. Compassion is productive. And so just letting yourself feel flooded with that, forgiving any judgments that you're not good at business or that this meant you weren't good at sales, whatever that was it. The truth is you are courageous enough to follow your heart, to experiment. And you need that to have a successful to business or to follow your dreams. Just letting yourself take one last slow, deep breath in through your nose and gently letting it go. Coming back here to this moment with us in this call. Beautiful work, you guys. I honor your depth and your willingness to go there for yourself. This is where you get free. We loop the forgiveness from the heart back up into the head to really state what's actually true now. And so I want you to type in the chat, what. What if you trusted life? What if you trusted that this was a redirect showing you where you're meant to be. So find the evidence. Sometimes it's hard to see it, but let's just open it a little bit more. Maybe it's like maybe you didn't create that client and you have more time with your kids and that's really precious time. Or maybe you've been spared. Maybe that client would have been really challenging and you get to avoid that. Or you're not locked into certain prices or packages. Or maybe this was a failure so that you could learn to love yourself unconditionally, not conditionally when you're winning, but to really get your worth as inherent and outside of any of the results that you create or don't create. What if this was the perfect lesson for you to really get that not just conceptually, but from a lived, embodied way. Letting go of anything that is not serving you. You can let it go right now. That is your power, your choice. So what if you trusted life? Then I would have missed. Yeah, then you would have missed this series. It sounds like you're really enjoying it and so great that that happened. I'm held by something greater than me. Am not my doing. Maybe it's part of the process to create something new. That's right. Yeah. Maybe you're not locked into rates also, or that you couldn't have. That you would have outgrown really quickly. Or maybe there was a lesson that you were meant to get and exactly where you are. Let's. Let's take what are the gifts from the soil that life is presenting to you right now so you can sprout. My goodness, I'm crying my throat. Breathe into any of the energy that's here in your body again. The more you welcome it, the more it feels presence. It's like thoughts, feelings and sensations are like little kids. They're just looking to be allowed. And then they're off playing again. Just breathe into it, welcome it, and it feels stuck in your body a little bit. Open your awareness to move beyond your body. It'll move. And this is what I needed. I'm so happy. This is where I'm headed. That's right. I'm learning that when I'm myself, it comes to me. Beautiful. The truth is these are coming in hot. The truth is that I get what I need out of the experience. And that's an empowerment empowered point of view that you can use everything. And so let's not throw the baby out with a bathwater. I don't like that term, but let's actually look at from this experience. How do you use it to iterate, grow and evolve. So I want you to really look at what were the things that worked from your experiment, your this topic that we've been exploring. What is it that worked from it? So whatever you originally wrote, maybe it was the willingness to take action, the willingness to be engaged and learn as you go. What worked from this experiment? From the old failure, what was it? Because you have the courage now to feel it. So you're free of it. Right. Freedom to life, not from to I. I'm free enough to feel all of it. Okay. Stretching your resilience, your capacity and then looking at what worked from it so that you can double down on it so you learn from it to support you in being more successful moving forward. And I received information to refocus. I learned lots of useful information. It was an intro to the work that I do now. Yeah, sometimes the things that break our hearts are the things that teach us the most and the things that we feel called to support other people. That's why I feel so called to help people around worth. I've it's the by actually embracing the part of me that felt unworthy, I opened to my worth. And I wouldn't have gotten that without that. Beautiful. You guys look at what worked and gather that information so you can use it to set you up for more success. Now I want you to look at also just as important what didn't work but without all the shame, without all the drama, what didn't work. And so maybe what didn't work was that you made an assumption. What didn't work was that you didn't ask enough questions that you outsourced your power to thinking someone else was going to be your savior. Right. In relationship and business. No. You have your power and anyone that's a good coach is going to help you feel that and scale from here. You don't need. It doesn't come from others. It's coming from you. And then you feel your. You know, it's like it's about you, not others. And so helping you really feel that is a way to run your business and do relationships in a whole new way. I feel free to have new compassion relationship with myself. So what didn't work was outsourcing your power didn't ask enough questions. What didn't work was my inability to communicate clearly. Yeah. What didn't work was like judging myself and criticizing myself because that just only stunted my growth. Right. So I assumed that fail. Yeah. If you didn't. Maybe this is teaching you. What didn't work was that failure started taking you out of the game rather than following your dreams, rather than doing the inner work so that you could grow and iterate. So now I want you to write one to three grounded specific learnings. How do you use what you've just gone through to support you in growing moving forward? So what, what can you, like, what can you learn from this? So one, one that I just shared was like, oh, when I judge myself, it stuns my growth. Maybe compassion feels good and is productive. Maybe I can. Maybe I don't have to because oftentimes the critic has a bad rap. It's criticizing you so that then you do better so that then you're safe. But you can honor the intention of safety without criticizing yourself. Or you don't have to use fear of failure to lock yourself and hold yourself back from following your dreams. You can do a process like this to feel your power, learn from it and keep going and really set yourself up for success. So what can you do moving forward? And what can. Or sorry, what, what, what did you learn? Sorry, so what didn't work? Okay, this is. There's a little bit of a delay, so I know you're probably. What are some of the learnings? One to three learnings. What can you. How can you use this to be more successful moving forward? So to release the self doubt. And how do you do that? At least in my mastery method way, you embrace the energy of self doubt as a way to overcome it. Okay, because if you're judging something, you're put, you're giving your energy to it, you're pushing it away, but actually that's calling it in and you're giving it. So you embrace it. You welcome all of it. When I give away my power, it leads me to falling out of alignment with my truth. Good insight. If you had just gotten that. How powerful? I can't be someone else. I'm good as I am. That's right. Center myself to nurture fear. Right? You're learning that contraction and expansion, it's all part of it. But you, you were off the roller coaster. You are what sees all of it, the highs and the lows. Let what comes come, let what goes go find out what remains. Something in you is way more powerful than any of these highs and lows and circumstantial things. And as you have your real power, which is that when you embody a peace that welcomes all of it, you're unstoppable. And you feel more free. So trust myself more and know that there's a way to overcome it. That's right. Yeah. Avoid sacrificing, not being in alignment, embracing the fear. Good. You guys, so good. Okay, so the last one. What are you gonna do differently moving forward as a result of this? What are the action steps that you can commit to? And I would encourage you to ground it in for it could, you know, could be 24 hours. But maybe it was like you hired someone and now you learn to do test projects before or before you join a program. You ask questions or you don't outsource your power. You know that it's in you. The magic's in you. So I allowed others spouse to define me. So now you're learning that that was just a story you made up in your mind. You're learning boundaries, good mindful eating. So we're all at different places. So what can you do differently moving forward? It will change your life. I want you to type what you'll do differently and then one practical like insight. One of the ahas that you got from this. I want to hear from you honoring my time and my skills. I'm going to let go. I let go of me. And just being in my truth and my standards, my way of being. I'm allowed. I'm allowed to judge, but not try to wrongfully judge myself. Yeah, judgment's allowed. Judgment. It happens anyway. So if you're resisting it, it's not. You're just gonna hurt as a result. Suffering happens when you're resisting the moment. Hands down, that's it. And we unconsciously think if we resist the moment, then we can change it, but actually you're further trapped by it. Yeah, now is my time. That's right. Good. You're okay. Good. You guys overworking, Overthinking is not helping. I'll pause to go within instead of looking outside. So if you ever get dysregulated, and this is my practices, it's like, you know, learn the inner, but also learn the outer. It take a moment and, you know, we're not. There's no ideals of perfection, but take a moment to just be with it for 90 seconds. Neuroscientists have found that it only takes 90 seconds to feel a feeling before it integrates in the body. If you're not, this is the trick that most people don't talk about. You have to feel it as a sensation, not a story. So one practice is if you get dysregulated, maybe before a sales conversation Take a moment to feel the fear of rejection or fear of abandonment. Whatever it is, welcome it, and then just show up in service. Don't make it about you. Show up to serve and it will change the game for you. So let's take these lessons and apply them in your lives. Tag me as you're sharing your insights. I want to hear, I want to celebrate you. I love that you are here at day five again. You are the people who show up for yourselves, and you're at a fork in the road where you have either had a lot of fun, gotten a lot of valuable insights, and you're going to go back to your own, your. 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