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How do I know? Is this my intuition or is this fear?
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Intuition is accurate. It's immediate, and it's actionable. To develop intuition, you need to have goals, but not a laundry list. Document what you notice the sign that all of a sudden you see 30 times a day the person that you bump into. We are in conversation with the world around us, and if the feedback you're getting you don't like, you need to do something outside your comfort zone that doesn't resonate with you and change.
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Welcome back to the Healing and Human Potential podcast. Today we're exploring your intuition. And what if the problem's not that you're disconnected from your intuition, but that the fear, desire, and your past conditioning is just speaking louder? Today we're exploring how intuition really works, how to tell the difference between fear and your inner knowing and understanding the patterns that can help you actually change your life. Joining us is Laura Day, who's an intuitive, a best selling Author of the Prism 7 Steps to Heal your past and transform your future. I hope this conversation supports you. A lot of the times people will say, trust your gut. It's very common advice, and yet you challenge that concept. What would be a different approach?
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So gut can be that you haven't eaten this morning. It can be someone looks like dad, but dad was abusive, but that's what you're used to. So gut really is about us as animals, whereas intuition is about being able to take a step away and look at the whole picture. And I say look metaphorically, experience the whole picture.
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Not everybody experiences intuition in their gut either.
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Right. Intuition comes through all five of your senses. And, you know, I think that intuition's been watered down because we have all of these things that sense our brain waves and sense our temperature and sense the energy inside of us and sense the energy around us. And yet we don't believe that we pick up these signals. And we do, and they're very specific and very accurate. But we've been taught that intuition is supposed to be this very vague, esoteric thing, and when it is, it's really not useful.
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Some of us have developed our intuition to let it be guiding principle. And I think also the more with AI that starts happening, the more we're going to want to be really tuning into what our intuitive sense is to make decisions and really design our life in a way that feels aligned with us. I know you talk about intuition having a role in creating our goals. Talk to us more about that. How do you see intuition playing a role?
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We need to choose our Goals with desire. Like, what do you want? Not what do you want? And you think it's good for you, or what do you want? And someone else approves of it, or someone else is doing it, but what do you want? Because then you have a framework for all of your energy, and that includes intuition. So intuition goes beyond our prison, our old structures, the way we were raised that we may not even be able to discern. This is what I wanted at seven. What mommy wanted, what daddy wanted was not what I want anymore. But it goes beyond that, and it takes our goals as a target, and then it kind of smacks us around. And it really does. People think of intuition as something very subtle. It's not. It hits you over the head until you get it. It once you have a goal. And intuition isn't something that's part of us. It's not in our gut. It's outside of us. So when you have a goal, intuition just takes you in the right direction. And then it's up to you whether you're gonna hold on tight to what's old or whether you're gonna say, oh, huh, I don't know what this is. Because we only see what we look for. We only recognize what we've been exposed to. I don't know what this is, but let me take. Put a toe in and let me put another toe. And then all of a sudden your life has changed.
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And I also know that you say that our desires can block our intuition. On the other side of that coin, can you talk to us more about an example to ground that? Like when we are really wanting something, maybe we're not clearly hearing our intuition.
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That happens a lot in relationships where, you know, I want a relationship one way, you want a relationship another way. And we work really hard on that goal of having this very specific relationship, this very specific way. But the very specific way didn't work. And yet we keep at it. Instead of saying, okay, I want this relationship, I want it in this way. But now let me notice every sign and respond to it. Not interpret it because you're interpreting with old tools, but respond to it. So the same argument happens and you stop, and maybe for the first time, you listen. And the other person is so moved that they crack open. Or you're doing the same weekend thing that always ends in an argument and you copy someone else. You don't know if it's going to work or not, but you sleep in instead of getting up early and doing all the things you're supposed to do that you Think makes your partner happy and there's feedback. I mean, what I think we forget with all of these techniques is life is a feedback loop. So if you do something, you'll get a different effect in a relationship or in the world from your environment, even if you're doing it alone. And that's the point of intuition is we experience and communicate with our world non locally. So it's a feedback loop. And if the feedback you're getting you don't like, you need to do something outside your comfort zone that doesn't resonate with you. Because if it resonates, it resonates with the problem, you know, and change.
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So I'm hearing almost like being a scientist in your own life and testing things out to see what actually opens new pathways that feel more aligned for you.
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Yes. And they probably don't feel aligned at all, but they create aligned results.
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So intuition. I know one of the most common questions people ask. How do I know? Is this my intuition or is this fear? How do you guide people?
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So I mean, there are some simple rules to sort, but you really don't, which is why you need to document it with reality. Chances are if you think you are going to be abandoned, it's you who's causing the abandonment. Or if you think you're going to die in a fiery crash and you think that's intuition, that's not how you're going to die. Intuition is accurate, it's immediate and it's actionable. If a boulder's about to crush you, intuition is going to just let you go happy. Your subconscious will suppress it, but intuition will say, oh wait a sec, maybe don't go to that party, your partner is going to meet a very confusing situation and you know, stay home tonight. It's actionable, it's immediate. And maybe later you learn that it's accurate that you know his one true love from third grade was at the party. I mean, I'm making this up as I go. So your fears, the important thing to do with intuition and all kinds of intuition. Check it out. So, okay, name a fear of non existing that's possible that you won't exist. And that is a process that probably represents something else for you. So you work on that as a, as a process. But at the same time you look at evidence. And Elisabeth Kubler Ross, who did a lot of books, she was a medical doctor, did a lot of books, groundbreaking books on death and dying and a book that was published when I get goosebumps because I love this about her, A book that was published after her death on all the resuscitations she did on dying patients who were legally dead, and then she resuscitated them. And she gave some pretty amazing verification that you do exist. But so you notice evidence. And when you look for proof of something, you find proof. So, like, my husband can tell you every study that says fat is good for you and so is alcohol. And I won't even mention the other things. But you document, oh, this is. Once I have this question, this is what. This is what I notice. And let me deal with the issue of annihilation separately, because that issue is probably playing into everything in my life and has nothing to do with not existing. It has something to do maybe with the ways that I wasn't allowed to exist when I was developing.
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Yeah, I think that's a great inquiry,
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and that's really what the prism is about. The prism is about, okay, what are your hopes? What are your fears? Because if they're hopes, it means they haven't happened yet. That's where your work is. And if they're fears, it means there's something in the old soundtrack, you know, that you need to work through. Because as adults, we can make choices to deal with our fear. So, I mean, I grew up in a very wealthy family, but with a lot of privation. We literally didn't have food for days sometimes. And I had a fear around money. So I did things, made a lot of money. And then I realized that that fear around money was like making a life that I didn't like and that I had more than enough. And so then the thing was, well, what's enough? And I came up with an answer. This is enough for me. And then I lived my life the way I wanted to.
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There's also a paradox to it where it's like, you know, this fear for me, that of not existing, it's an existential fear. It's a spiritual, like, where the ego holds on. The deeper the inquiry of who I am is looked into, the more this starts to grab hold. And I think there's psychological and spiritual elements to it. In my frame, spirituality is not separate than anything, is really the foundation of all of it. But for somebody who's wanting to really develop their intuition, I'm hearing, to test it would be to document it. But to develop it, what would you recommend?
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So I mean, it's one of the things that I teach people is here is how to use your precognition to be lucky. Because luck is just good foresight. It's knowing the right place to be at the right time with the right tools. But here is how not to use precognition to allow bad things to happen in the moment because you're not here. And it's a real balance. To develop intuition, you need to have goals, but not a laundry list. You say to people, what are your goals? And they give you a laundry list. Have 1, 2, 3 defined. And then you need to document what you notice. The sign that all of a sudden you see 30 times a day the person that you bump into or out of the blue get an email from. It's we're in conversation with the world around us. Which is why looking inside really often doesn't help. You know, it's really about the interface. I learn more from these interviews. People ask me questions about my work That I have never asked myself. And I think, oh, wow, how did I get to be this age and never ask myself that question? And it completely opens up my personal life. So have goals. Document what once you have that goal. Not that intuition isn't working when you don't have conscious goals, but it's working on unconscious goals. So there's no way to verify. Document all of a sudden what you're seeing, what you're experiencing, who you're bumping into, who communicates with you, and it will begin to show you a story that you can verify or disprove.
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I did something called an intuition journal of just listing out the ways I was hearing, intuitive foresight. And then I would start to see if it happened or didn't happen, what my way of knowing was. And just doing that for one week built the trust in myself. And that was all that was needed, that I was intuitive, that I was hearing things. And that helped me see it and then prove it to myself, really. And so I know there's lots of different ways of knowing for me, and I'd be curious your thoughts. I get a felt sense that I trust a bit more. And sometimes when I hear it, it's almost like my ego will sabotage it a little bit. So I don't trust the audio.
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So you just brought up very intuitively my favorite topic. Your ego is the framework that takes all the information and all the energy and creates your external world and your body and your experiences. Your ego is constantly changing, but your ego is what makes you magnificent and able to do things. I mean, spirit can't do anything. Think about it for a moment. If something is omnipotent, omniscient and omnipresent, it's not changing. You change it, you change this world and you change yourself. And there are so many miracles in medicine. For example, anomalous things, tumors that disappear. You know, people who grow at the age of 50 without doing exercise, you know, because they've decided they want to. Our ego is the most precious gift we have. It is. You cannot be in relationship if you're not separate first. So ego is, is, is, is so essentially important. I don't like you experience the way you've described your intuition. You experience it like a Clara audience, which is very much about teaching. It's about having a voice, it's about being in conversation with the world and then leadership. And that, that, that in the system is your sixth ego center. It's when truth comes through you, but you don't always hear it, but it's there. That's not how my intuition works. My intuition, there's a target or a question or an issue or a goal or problem or a current obsession I want to know more about. And then all this data comes in in a very removed way. I don't feel it. It's like a ticker tape and I just document it. Or if I'm doing it for a client, I don't even know what I've said. I just talk and talk and talk and talk. And if I had had half a glass of wine, then I really just. And. And they're data points and I have no wisdom. There's no wisdom in it. It's just data. And some people do use their intuition. Clara Audience tends to be a wiser. A wiser way because you're really, in a sense, finding the highest octave and singing it. My intuition is very different and I think everybody experiences intuition in a different way. It's often your least. Your least strong physical sense. That's your strongest intuitive one. So I have a dear friend I've had since nursery school, which is over 60 years ago, and she had sinus and adenoid problems her entire childhood, so she couldn't smell or taste anything. She smells and tastes. Market changes and she's uncanny.
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So what are some of the main intuitive ways of knowing for people to kind of see what theirs might be?
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Well, the least accurate is feeling. So some people feel. They feel something's wrong, they feel something's coming up, but it. It tends to get mixed up with your own internal feelings. It's called Clara Sentience. There's Clara Audience. Where have you ever been in a conversation with a friend and you have no idea how you know these things, but they're just coming out of your mouth. They're not part of your wisdom, they don't really remain with you, but they are exactly what that person needs at an octave that you couldn't even have accessed normally. And that's clairaudience. And that really. That's a very interesting intuitive ability. It can also be the least accurate in terms of data, because what it tends to do, it can start out accurate, but what it tends to do is what people speak about when they speak about channeling. It's very higher truth, not so helpful in finding your keys, which is kind of my thing, that I like those details. But that's also because I come from a very crazy family, so I like to know that. That line between psychic and psychotic, I really like to stay on the green side. Things like remote Viewing, which is really about your ability to be present now, but. But it's present somewhere else and is really when you have like a physical deja vu movement, when you walk into a space and you know you've been there. And then the next question should be, was that a good experience? What did I learn? What did I bring to it? And then how do I expand it? When I started in the early 80s, there. There wasn't the same way to experience scientifically what a person was doing, what a brain was doing. Now there is. Now we see that the brain reacts to a picture it will be shown that will be randomly selected at a point in the future by a computer. So we're all precognitive. There's precognition, which is my specialty, which is telling the future. And that is really about when someone's saying, well, yeah, this business is great and you're going to a place and it's literally, it's 19 months from now. You know that. Exactly. Their shipments haven't come in, so they can't fulfill their orders and they're running out of money. And. And it's all happening, but it's happening at this future point in time. But for you, it's not the future, it's right now. We all experience a lot of that. There's telepathy, which is. If I had to pick one intuitive ability that people need to get a control over right now, it would be telepathy.
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And so for somebody listening, they're like, great, I'm in. What would be some steps they could do to start developing more of their telepathic intuition and so notice the conversations
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you're having in your head. You're probably having so many more than you could possibly notice, but pick the one that's really bothering you right now and then notice. Can I. Can I kind of change my position on this? Usually you can't do it from inside. If the answer were inside, you would have answered the question, but ask someone. I'm having this argument with a friend of mine who feels that, you know, I take things too lightly and that I'm too direct and heartless about, you know, these deep feelings they're having. And I feel like they just, like, want free therapy. And I'm so not into it. Like, it's a problem, we solve it, right? Do we have to talk about it for hours? So that conversation's going on telepathically. You may not even be talking to the person. And maybe you take a moment and say, okay, I want to Hear you, because clearly I'm still having this conversation. So let me hear you and then say I want. And then maybe it comes to you. Oh, wait, when I hear this person, I realize I want to solve it. My not wanting to hear it is my own hopelessness around it. And you begin a new conversation. Normally at that point, the person will call you or you do that, and nothing changes. And then it's time to do step two. And step two is, okay, I really need a deep friendship to replace this one that I've lost. And so you start kind of in your. Whenever you have that argument, you shift to this friend. You know, I'm really looking forward to getting to know you. And you converse with this friend. And it's not imaginary. What you'll find is you're actually conversing with the person. So one physical example is when I was single and I was 50, when I was single and everyone was showing me the statistics on how I would never fall in love again and blah, blah, blah, and no, there are no men out there. And I would. And it was pretty pathetic. And at the time, I had a teenager who, like, righted me mercilessly for doing this. But I would dance every evening with my love, and I would feel his arms around me, and I would put my head on his chest, and I would feel his feeling my support, and we'd dance. And there are a couple things that happened. My taste in music changed. And the second date I had with my husband, something came on the radio, and he put his arm around me and lifted me up. I mean, I barely knew this guy. I wasn't even sure I liked him and danced with me. And I recognized him, a bd. And I still did. I mean, it still just brings tears to my eyes. And I'm not a crier Whenever. Whenever we dance. And that was his taste in music. Like when I listened to his playlist, which was so not my. He's so sophisticated. So not my playlist. I had fallen in love with his playlist two years before I met him.
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And that leads me into manifestation. What do you think people have wrong about manifestation?
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First of all, the word. Because manifestation just means you're making something happen. So you put water in an ice cube tray, put it in the freezer, you have manifested ice. So we magicalize things because it's big business. I actually like the word manifestation now, so kind of being inaccurate. But I really had a thing about it for a long time. It just means making something happen. And we can't make something Happen with our old tools. It doesn't matter how smart we are, how beautiful, how wealthy, how educated. Our old tools, our old structure, our old prism is our old prism, and we will just get the same results. So in order to manifest, you need to not think different, not do something differently. You need. I mean, not be something different. You need to do something different. And it's a tiny thing. We are taught a sad myth that we need to do better or be better in order to create, and that's just not true. We need the mechanics of it. We need to change one tiny thing so we can open the door. And when you change that tiny thing, and you know you want to make safe changes, but when you change that tiny thing, everything in your life changes because you're a system within a system within a system within a system, and it really does. A big change usually makes a big mess. And, you know, there's that thing about, well, if you want to manifest love, you need to work through your. No, you want to manifest love, and you make that your goal. I want love. And then everything you encounter after that is part of the lesson plan. And you assume it doesn't mean you feel good about it or it doesn't make you feel hopeless. And feeling is overrated. People say, oh, I don't believe in myself. And I said, so. I mean, do it anyway, you know, I mean, you don't have the tools, so get the tools. You know, big deal. It's not about how you feel. It's not about what you believe. You know, I believe this. Sure. Belief is a tool. You know, we know that from the nocebo placebo effect, but do something. So someone who does this, well, what are they doing differently? You know, there are YouTubes, there are all kinds of things. Do something tiny that works for that person and that is safe because there's that big thing. I'm going to quit my very lucrative job and take a risk. And then the universe, whoever that is separate from you, which I don't think it is, is going to shine on me and make me a writer or an actor or a dancer. No, keep your job so you can pay your bills, get up 20 minutes earlier, or, you know, don't waste that time and make that your sacred space. And find an altar, because everything in life is an altar, and everything you do is a ritual. What are the meanings you're giving it? Give that ritual the meaning. Every morning, these 20 minutes, I sit with me, I sit with the entire universe, and I do those things that create and do them, whether it's writing. I wrote my first book, which was a New York Times bestseller. In the morning, in an hour before every morning, before my baby woke up.
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Yeah. I really hear following it with action.
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Yeah. And also, be safe, take care of yourself. People don't. They think somehow they have to do the hard thing. Why? Who made that rule? The harder something truly is, the less likely it's going to be to succeed. Although all change feels hard because mammals read change as a threat. So change is engineered to feel hard, which is why I wrote a book, or lots of other people have written books about, try this safe, safe change. And notice what happens. And notice what happens immediately, not what's going to happen six years from now. What happens now? Because your whole life is a sign. I always have people who call me up and say, I broke a mirror. It's a sign I'm going to have bad luck. I'm like, are your bills paid? Yes. Is your relationship good? Yes. Is your health good? Yes. Is your career going well? Yes. I'm like, why are none of those things signs?
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And I know your book is all about the prism. Talk to us about what it is and how knowing about this can change somebody's life.
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So I, after writing six books on intuition, which is really, you know, the right answers, I realized that still there are a lot of people who couldn't use those right answers in their lives. So they'd think they were using it. You know, they'd think that this intuitive information was coming to them, and it was, but they couldn't do anything with it. So the prism is your ego, and your ego, which is your I. Anything that I love, I believe I can do. Anything that is you is ego. When. When you say something like, you know, I worry about not existing, that's losing ego. Ego is a wonderful thing. It allows us to take that energy we all share and create and interact and give.
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We want healthy, integrated egos.
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We want. We want. We really, really want that. But unfortunately, our ego is developed between the minute that sperm hits the egg and age 7, because before then, there is no I. You don't exist as an I. You know, you're beginning to develop I, but it's really what your environment mirrors back to you by age 7. And this is developmental psychology. I didn't invent this. You are an I, and the rest of your life is revision. But people haven't really taught us how to revise. So that machine that is you in this universe, that is mechanical, anything material is mechanical. It has Rules under which it functions. Not mechanical meaning, not spiritual, but mechanical meaning. You know, if you don't turn on the engine, the car isn't going to move. If it doesn't have a wheel, it's not going to move. Or if the wheels don't have enough air, it's not going to move. Well, so how, what are the things at each point that we can do differently? Not believe differently, not feel differently, but what can we do to change the way that our eye interfaces with the world? And then when you are in a different world, that's when your tools come in. When you're in love, you know, I mean, back to the example of everyone said you have to work through your stuff before you fall in love. You can't work through your stuff, not in relationship. That's such a mean concept. The minute you fall in love, your baggage won't fit through the door. You know, you're sharing closet space now. You know, both of you need to leave stuff outside that door. And that's where that revising of your ego of who you are occurs. That's true of business, that's true of your health, that's true of wealth. And actually one of the things I observe from really almost 50 years of teaching now is that when something happens in someone's life, it happens in their body, it happens in their finances, it happens in their relationships. It's really a system. But by that same rule, when someone does something a tiny bit differently that doesn't resonate with that old person, and I mean tiny. All of the sudden they're in a different world and their teachers are there. Your teacher is often getting exactly what you want, you know, yeah, I'm undervalued at my job or I should get big parts. And then all of the sudden you do. And you know, because someone gave you a way to do it, that was, was a catalyst, was outside of you. And now that's your teacher and you grow to meet it. You find those resources again outside of yourself that unlock those doors that we didn't get unlocked during childhood or straighten that path that makes you see something that's toxic as nourishing.
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Will you share a little bit about your, some of your background and what led you to this?
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I mean, what led me to, to write the prism really was that my mother suicided when I was 14, but my brother and sister suicided in a two year period. And I really asked myself the question, why did I survive? I mean, my brother was brilliant, he had a degree from Harvard, from Stanford, from uva. So was my sister, a lawyer, Columbia degree, wonderful husband, had a wonderful, wonderful children. I thought, why didn't I survive? I mean, I. On that map, I was definitely the bottom of that gene pool. And of course, with intuition, which is my gift, when you ask a question, you get a lot of information. And this, I realized that this system of. This is, this is the map. This is how you work the machine of you. And then this is the roadmap. This is how the world works. That, that was given to me really young because I was a five year old. We had crazy parents. I mean, just a kind of big brush, you know, My mother was a manic depressive who you had to remind to wear clothes, who we all adored, but. And my father was a very violent narcissist and a physician. And we. At 5, I lived in an apartment next door without a nanny, with three younger children. So intuition, which was my lucky saving grace, gave me how to have an okay life, how to do things, how to make things work, how to find what I needed in the world or create what I needed. But it didn't really become a part of me. It was like a prosthetic exoskeleton that functioned for me without becoming part of me. When I asked myself the question, why did I survive? It wasn't because you're a blessed creature, my child. It was, oh, you had a very add. Open, damaged brain. Intuition could come through it because you move in space and time. You know, I'm all over the place, but it does. I do also notice things that other people don't. And you had this and that not only saved your life, but made you a life that was, you know, wonderful and full of love. You know, I feel just so blessed. So from trauma again. And of course I, like everyone else, re traumatized myself. Like I married my parents over and over until I didn't, you know, it took me somewhere. And that is the prism. I wish I had had it to give to my sister and my brother. Although we don't really listen to our siblings anyway, do we? But I wish I had had had it to give to them. But I do feel kind of on a mission because it is something that I have to give now and especially as an older person to younger people. They call me Mama Day. I'm really kind of Grandma Day, but they call me Mama Day. And nothing is a bigger compliment. I am surrounded by amazing young people who I can give this tool to and feel like they have the potential not to walk into the walls I walked into.
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And one of the things that really struck me in what I've heard you share is that you can help fix a childhood injury without needing to remember what it was. Can you talk to us about how and maybe an example?
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Sure. So your injury evidences itself in the world. So for example, maybe. I mean, this is a brutal example. Maybe I should think of one that's not okay. Well, maybe there are a lot of people, both men and women, who were violated sexually as children, you know, or where those boundaries were crossed. So they don't even know what those boundaries are. That's second ego center. And there are a whole bunch of little things that you can do to immediately change that. You don't have to know that happened. But if you look around and you're, you know, you're not, you don't have abundance in your life where you want it. You're struggling, you have weight problems. You have people come in and they seem to value you and you feel so loved and valued like you wanted to as a child. And then they're exactly what your parents were or whoever, you know, caused the injury in the first place. So you replicate that without even knowing it. Because again, you know, research shows we find what we're looking for and we look for what that original pre age 7 prism was. So there's very different being violated before age seven, being violated after age seven. You know, if you have had a solid first seven years of life, you actually are trauma resilient. But that has to be. You have to have that solidity, you have to have that mirrored back so it becomes a part of you. So a lot of, you know, now a lot of young people grow up. I think it's wonderful that, you know, there's work for everybody, but often they're not adults at home, you know, you know, adults who are really invested. And so I see kind of your generation and a lot of the time there's not a sense that they're special because that sense you get from your, from your caretakers, you know, you get from. You are so special that I'm not going to do all these other things that big people do because I want to be with you. There's less of that. There's less safety. There's less of a lot of things. And so there's a very detached world on the Internet where people are trying to be more and more perfect. So somehow their caretakers stay and look at them with that.
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A
And that's reflected for attachment, for safety and belonging. Yeah.
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B
But also for A sense of self. Because remember, you don't have a self. You know, what's mirrored back to you is who you are. So what's mirrored back to you, even if it's very loving, is you can do no wrong. You go into a world where that's not true. And you don't understand when you're doing your very best, why the world isn't giving you acceptance and love, you know, so it's really important. And I break the ego down in the prism, and it corresponds to our energy centers, our chakras, but I break it down and have really found that it's very true. Your first ego center, your pelvis, that's your foundation, and it really controls all the bones in your body, and it really controls your ability to attract wealth and safety. And when you do something tiny, that's different. What could be tiny different? Your health is not good. You don't minimize your drinking. You stop. May not be your issue. It doesn't help anything. Okay, have your glass of wine. Maybe you need to eat a little more. You try adding 300 calories. So there's a real. You do things that have. You change what you're doing. And trauma's not always at the fault of somebody. Sometimes a child is wired to be terrified of the dark. And loving caretakers. Listen to the pediatrician who says, let them cry it out. And they grow up with all this cortisol in their systems that changes the structure of their brain and their endocrine system rewires. And, you know, it's often, I think that we need to take our young children seriously, which doesn't mean we need to do what they say. That's a little different, but we need to notice. And we need to go back to where we live in communities where my saying, you know, your daughter seems defensive isn't an attack. It's a. Have you tried this? It's a, oh, maybe this might help.
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A
Yeah, I care for you. And often it's just a child needs at least one person. Person that really sees them.
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B
Only one. If you have one person, you have that structure.
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A
Yeah. It's been mirrored and reflected to you,
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B
but you need that consistently. And the nice thing, though, is that we're adults, we can do that for ourselves. Now with, again, can't be from in you. You need to find a catalyst. And we do that for each other. I mean, I realize now as an older woman that I have the love of all of these young people, and it's my responsibility to mirror to them not what I need not where they can improve, but where they're fabulous because they can grow into that. And often where they're fabulous, they have no idea. So they're working, we're taught, work on your weakness. Who came up with that? Exactly. Why would you. If you burn the bottom of your right foot, why would you be hopping on your right foot? You know, no. Favor your left until your right heals, and then you'll really learn how to do it. Terrible metaphor. But, you know, we have strengths and they're different strengths. You know, my brain doesn't make me look friendly, even though I'm very friendly, but my friend can tell me how to look friendly and it can change my life.
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A
And I. I wish I would have heard that earlier with like, follow your strengths instead of. And I appreciate we want to be in balance and develop our full potential, but to really feel seen and to be mirrored in that and to be celebrated in that our whole life can unfold just by following our aliveness. And one of the things I just wanted to ask you because in as we're closing, because I just thought it was fascinating that. I know some of your work became widely well known when you. You predicted the 2008 economic crash. Can you tell us a little bit about that story?
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B
Well, my attention was on it because I was working for a fund at the time. I woke up one morning and I don't think dreams are precognitive because precognition in dreams is also mixed with all of that emotional vomit that we work through. You have such a more elegant way of expressing that. But I woke up and I thought, I don't want to be in the stock market. This is no longer comfortable. So I called my broker, who's still my broker, who's still my financial manager, and so trick sell everything. And she said, you know, you want to think about that. The market's up a third. There's no sign of it letting off. I'm like, I'm just not comfortable. And so I did. I sold everything. In a short time later, that market crashed. But I also, I have a rule. I don't read on camera because you never know if you are saying something that could be personal that someone else could use as a tool against the person you're reading, Blah, blah, blah. So very careful. But by mistake, because I was very tired and I think it was an Irish radio show, I said, oh, yeah, and the market's going to crash. And. And so when it did, that all blew up. And then of course, there are Always the people who want to be nasty about it. And my, my broker, my. Who's now like one of the top female financial managers in the United States. She's incredible. I had her when she was a beginning, like a first year at Charles Schwab. She went on cnn. Anonymous, famously, obviously, but showed my statements that this had actually happened because a lot of people claim things that are not true, which is my pet, you know, pet peeve. And things blew up. But also I had mostly worked with business and medicine because again, when you work with people, people tend to fit what they think happened to what you predicted. When you work with business, there's none of that. The market either goes up or down or, you know, this business either happens or doesn't or gets funding or, you know, they're basically, you're right or you're wrong. I think people should be very careful. So anyway, that, that just. I, and it's interesting because I train intuitives who work with individuals, but I myself, if I work with individuals when they're my students, that's how I coach them and I read them and you know, if I'm tired, I'll read anybody. But I work with business because I really think individuals. I'm not a trained therapist. I'm not sure I can tell you what will happen. But you can change that. You can change that by using the prism, but you also can change that by finding guides and therapists and movement and an endocrinologist or appropriate resources.
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A
So you're saying you can read a prediction, but people can change?
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B
Absolutely. If I thought, but if my experience was that people couldn't change the future, I would never do another reading. I'd just enjoy my food. The whole work behind the prism. And I tried this out on thousands of people over more than a 10 year period. And I've never had that long to write a book. I mean, this became my mission is that someone can be walking right toward a wall, but even if they're a moment away from crashing into that wall, they can change. We are the magic, you know, and the magic, by the way, is in the mundane. The magic isn't in, you know, killing a chicken on the full moon. The magic is in not eating that thing that you didn't know gives you eczema. And all of the sudden the thing that's been a bane of your existence for 10 years disappears. The magic is in saying yes when you would have said no and bumping into that financing or your true love or, you know, your new apartment in a neighborhood that supports everything and everyone. You wanted to be part of it. Really, it is in those little mundane things.
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A
So with that, is there anything that you feel would be important for people to know?
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B
This is not mine, but feeling is. In fact, you know, you create the facts and you create your facts. The facts, actually, you just need to know. And we all have access to that manual. There's a process in the prism called your master self. Because if you believe in spirit and that everything and everyone is one and that all energy is one, which science is certainly proving in every single science, then the highest octave of you already exists. All you have to do is be in conversation. A miracle takes a moment. And I say this over and over again, because it really does. A miracle takes a moment. Which doesn't mean someone once said to me, discipline is the highest form of self love. And it doesn't mean that you don't have to be disciplined about your miracles. It took you, however old you are, to make your habit. So your miracles, you know, give them a week. But if you repeat something different, you create something different.
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A
So empowering to just take it back to ourselves, to do something different. To not just trust it, but test it.
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B
Your love, your success, your happiness. If that's not what you're experiencing now, it's not inside of you, it's in the world. Go out and interface with the world learning. You know, I wrote a book called welcome to youo Crisis, and my favorite line is mud in your face is proof positive you're going in the right direction. You're doing something you don't know how to do. You're doing something different. And, you know, I think one of my greatest gifts as a human being is that I'm hard to humiliate. You know, I do lots of stupid things and I realize that it just means I'm doing something I don't know how to do yet.
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A
And just in the permission for people just to test and try something small, safe, and experience their world opening from it, what a gift you are. Thank you for being here. Thank you for sharing your work. We will put all the links here in the show notes below. What a gift. Thank you for being here.
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C
Thank you so much for doing this work that changes the world, starting with yourself. It truly does make a difference. And if this podcast has supported you, one of the most impactful ways to help us reach more people is to simply press the follow button. It really does help us grow and we are so grateful. You can also leave a review on Apple or Spotify. And take a quick screenshot and upload it@alyssanobriga.com podcast and as a thank you gift, we'll send you one of the most impactful tools for transforming your fear into freedom so that you can step more fully into your potential. There is so much more magic ahead and I cannot wait to share it with you. But for now, I just want to say thank you for being a living example of what it means to walk through the world with an open heart and mind. I am so grateful that you're here and I cannot wait to see you in the next episode.