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Healing + Human Potential
The Manifestation Secret NO ONE Is Talking About (Attract Anything This Year)
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If you've been trying to use manifestation and it's not working, it doesn't mean anything's wrong with you. And so I want to share what the top three blocks are that hold most people back and what tools that you can use right away to manifest any goal that you desire in a trauma informed way. So the first one is manifesting from ego rather than essence. If you're primarily coming from your ego, which is more of a victim consciousness, based on the conditioning that life will be better in the future. So you may have some level of success, but whatever you create ultimately won't fulfill you. The nature of the ego is that it's never satisfied. And so anytime we're looking for something outside of us to fill us, it hurts. And it's this perpetual cycle of wanting more, thinking that the next thing is gonna bring us the happiness that we want.
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So we take our power back from.
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Being victims to the goal. And then, ironically, we step into our goals from a freer, more unattached place, which helps us be more successful as a result. And to me, the most powerful question you could ask yourself is who? If you're serious about making this the year that you attract everything on your vision board, I'm going to break down exactly what you need to know to manifest your dreams. In the next 30 minutes, I'll share with you three of the top blocks that hold most people back from manifesting what they want and the solutions to easily move past them using my methodology. Welcome back to the Healing and Human Potential podcast. I'm your host, Alyssa Nobriga, and I am so grateful to be with you today. I know a lot of people associate manifestation with the Law of Attraction book or the movie the Secret. And a lot of us have been told that our thoughts and feelings create our reality, and what we focus on is what we're going to manifest in our lives. And so it's best to always think positive or avoid negative feelings. But the biggest concern I see with this is if somebody gets sick or has shame about their financial situation or something bad happens to them, then they feel like they did something wrong or that their mindset is to blame for why they attracted what they attracted. And holding it in this way can leave people feeling guilty and really disempowered. And clearly, things aren't all equal in life, right? Some people have more privilege than others, and so it can do more harm than good. And so we're going to unpack this more in a moment, but I want you to know that manifestation is really Powerful, especially when you're stuck in negative loops or worst case scenario thinking. And the negativity bias explains why hard events impact us more than the good ones, making us focus on the bad and ignoring the good. And so manifestation helps you retrain your brain to focus on what is working, so that you're proactively focusing on what you can do to create a change without the negativity. And so, for example, let's take the example of worry. Oftentimes worry comes up to protect us. But when we realize that we can still create safety from a calm and empowered place, we don't need the worry. We can thank the worry for trying to protect us, but update the method. And so it's about using our mind, not letting the mind use us. We learn to take dominion over it. And so if you've been trying to use manifestation and it's not working, it doesn't mean anything's wrong with you. It might just mean that you're hitting up against some block. And so I want to dive in to share what the top three blocks are that hold most people back and what solutions you can start implementing right away to overcome them. So the first one is manifesting from ego rather than essence. And one isn't better or worse than another. You want to think of these as different stages, stages of evolution. We have to go through third grade to get to eighth grade, right. So we want to include and transcend each of them. Right. We don't want to live in third grade. And so egoic manifestation is one level of awareness and maturity, and there's no judgment in it. We want healthy, integrated egos. But this is based on an outside in approach, which is more of a victim consciousness. And it's based on the conditioning that life will be better in the future. And the problem with this is that it robs us of seeing and experiencing the gifts that are already happening now. And when we attach to a specific form, thinking that the goal will make us happy, it creates control, disappointment, and frustration. And then this game never actually ends, because the nature of the ego is that it's never satisfied. And so anytime we're looking for something outside of us to fill us, it hurts. And it's this perpetual cycle of wanting more, thinking that the next thing is gonna bring us the happiness that we want. So, for example, thinking that if you manifest your dream partner, then you're gonna be happy, that puts a lot of pressure on somebody who may or may not make you happy. And so not only does this make the relationship have a He we wait on it. It doesn't give it space to flourish. And it's also not true. The truth is, you don't need a partner to be happy. And when you access your happiness independent from them, not only do you feel empowered and free, but it's also way more attractive to a potential partner. You attract a deeper level of relationship because you're not willing to accept anything less than what you're already giving yourself. And so it's not that you can't have the goal, of course you can. But then you start accessing the very feeling you thought that goal was going to give you then, now. And you become a vibrational match to what you imagine it would be like when you arrive at that goal. And then manifesting something physical becomes a lot more of a game because you've taken your power back, waking up out of the illusion of need, and realize that all of your needs are already met in this moment. And so the other way of manifesting is what I teach inside my certification program, and it's manifesting from essence. And I think Eckhart Tolle summarizes this really well when he says, if you're primarily coming from your ego, your powers of manifestation won't be that great. So you may have some level of success, but whatever you create ultimately won't fulfill you. We can only find true fulfillment when we're in touch with our essence. Identity. Essence manifesting is not manifesting from separation. It's tuned into a deeper connection with all of life. It's more playful and expansive when we're not coming from fear, lack, or separation. And so manifesting from essence is knowing that what we want isn't out there at another point in the future.
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It's about becoming aware of what we.
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Thought the goal would give us then, and then consciously experiencing it now. It's having the mindset that I'll choose not to wait for me to arrive at my goal to be happy, that I'm going to activate my happiness now regardless, while I still move forward on the life that I want to create. And so it's not to say that we don't create the things that we want. Desires are totally welcome. The feeling of what we want, the goal to give us is what we're waking up to. So we take our power back from being victims to the goal. And then, ironically, we step into our goals from a freer, more unattached place, which helps us be more successful as a result. And so how do we actually change this? Because we've been conditioned by society to believe that we need a product or something outside of ourselves to make us happy. One way to take our power back is through what I call conscious goals. This requires us to slow down, to start questioning the assumptions we've been taught, oftentimes by advertisers or those who haven't taken the time to truly explore for themselves what's true. And then we wake up from the realization that we already have access to the feelings we desire, and so we can consciously embody them now and experience what we thought the goal would give us in the future. And this supports us in naturally letting go, because we're already connected to what we wanted the goal to give us. And surrender is a really powerful way to live, and it supports us in trusting and attuning to the intelligence of what wants to happen. And so get still and ask yourself, can I absolutely know the feeling I want the goal to give me isn't already here before I go looking for it? Or can I absolutely know without a shadow of a doubt that I'll feel the way I want when I achieve the goal and will it last? And so when we let go of the illusion that reaching that goal is going to make us feel enough, we start to see that everything we ultimately are striving for, the worthiness, the peace, the fulfillment, is already here, available in this moment. And you approach your goals from this deeper knowing and your energy shifts. You're no longer chasing, but you're consciously creating. And also, isn't it just more fun to nurture the idea and story of winning in your own fantasy? Because then, whether or not the goal happens, you're happier in the gap between where you are and where you want to go. And even if the thing doesn't come into your life, not only are you going to feel better in that in between space, but oftentimes you start noticing opportunities in front of you that you would have missed. It's kind of like the red car effect. So once you buy a red car, you start seeing more red cars. This is just your attention being trained to selectively notice what you nurture. And so think about the opposite. When somebody is in fear, lack and separation, they don't see or capitalize on opportunities right in front of them. And so the second block to manifestation that holds a lot of people back is not doing nervous system regulation work or shadow work. And when you do the work to clear those deep seated fears and conditioning, you open a path that accelerates your manifestation. But most people are using manifestation as a way to avoid Certain feelings, they're trying to control life. Think of it like the difference between putting on a band aid on an infected wound Versus cleaning out that wound first with hydrogen peroxide and then manifesting from a clean slate. So when you meet your fears and transform them, then you use the tools I'm about to share with you to manifest. You tap into a whole new level that accelerates everything. And in this way, we're doing the inner work to really stretch the capacity to be with the full range of our human experience. Not only is this more freeing, but it opens you up to beyond anything you thought was possible Based on your past conditioning. And when there's a willingness to welcome the fear you create from the energy of inspiration versus control. And it's a lot more freeing. Plus, if you don't do the deeper work to change the structures of the mind, the ego's just gonna replace one problem with another. It's kind of like that whack a mole game. Where something pops up, you hit it, and then it pops up somewhere else. Right? The patterns just transfer somewhere else. The thing that I notice, a lot of people become superstitious. Thinking that if I feel a difficult emotion, that I'm gonna attract what I don't want. Or I worry that my negative or unwanted feeling is gonna be coming into my life. But the truth is, the vibration of fear is so much weaker than love. And so you don't need to worry about attracting something negative from it. And if you've been feeling anxious or worried over a long period of time anyway, it's built up in your body and your psyche. And so it is important to do some of the work so that you're not filtering your life from that perspective. And real love embraces everything without judgment, without an agenda. It genuinely accepts everything. And ironically, that's what has it transformed. Plus, emotions like joy, love, inspiration, and gratitude are stronger, and they're some of the most magnetic energies. And so when you do the work to clear those blocks and manifest from this place of expansion, your manifestation becomes accelerated. And it's far more powerful than what you were doing when you were coming from a divided place. A practical way to overcome a block using my methodology, Is to reprogram your subconscious using visualization work. So that you get the green light from it. And you want to think of this like pulling the weeds of your subconscious mind. Because it's really wired for survival purposes. And it's to gravitate towards what's familiar because it seems safe. But since your goals are new and Unfamiliar using visualization work is going to help you feel peace in your nervous system around your vision, so that you can move towards it without much resistance. Plus, when you're triggered, you're dysregulated. And when you're dysregulated, your reptilian brain takes over, putting you in fight or flight mode. And so in that state, it's difficult to see opportunities that are right in front of you. But when you do the inner work to clear those fears first, you become open to notice possibilities. You also have more energy and clarity to act on them with greater ease. And a friend of mine who runs a $40 million company says that your frequency is more important than your strategy. And so when your energy is elevated, it supports your mood, your health, your relationships, but it also gives you more inspired ideas and the ability to creatively problem solve. And that's only going to be authentic to the degree that you have actually integrated and worked through those fears. And so this last one is the most powerful. This is the real secret to manifestation. And this third blocks, I would say holds 99.5% of people, whether they're conscious of it or not. And it's the biggest one of all.
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After two decades working as a psychotherapist.
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It's Identity if you don't feel worthy of what you want to manifest, your ego is going to sabotage it. And I know I didn't feel worthy of having what I wanted until doing manifestation work. It started open me to a possibility in a life that I didn't even let myself dream that I could have. I know I didn't feel worthy of having the life that I wanted. And doing manifestation work opened me to the possibility of starting to dream of what I could have. And it takes questioning who you think you are as either worthy or unworthy. And as you do, you start to wake up to who you are beyond any label the mind could put on you. You realize that no definition could ever capture the real essence of who and what you truly are. Even those who walk around feeling better than come from the same wound. It's this pendulum that swings towards better or worse, but the wound is the same. And the truth is no one is more or less valuable. You are inherently worthy exactly as you are in this moment. And your worth doesn't come from what you do or other people's opinions of you. It is always already here and always will be. There's nothing that you need to do that could add to who you are or take away from and make you less of who you are. There's nothing that you could do to be more, and there's nothing you could do that would have you be any less. But again, it takes sitting in the inquiry of questioning who you are. And when you question your identity as good or bad, you begin to realize that who you are is what sees all of the stories you have about yourself. All concepts of good and bad are seen through the lens of the mind. Those stories come and go, and yet you are untouched, unchanged by any of it. There's something within you that is prior to the mind, something that's deeper within you that sees the mind. And this presence is what and who you truly are. You are not the stories the mind tells you. You are that presence that observes them. And if you want real freedom, you'll question all of it. And to me, this is the Most powerful question you could ask yourself is who am I? And so I've created a meditation for you as a gift called who am I? And I'll link it in the show notes below. If you want a guided process to more fully embody this knowing for yourself. I don't really like speaking of it because it's more concepts. I would rather invite you into this space for you to find out for yourself what's true beyond any concept. But why bring this up, besides the fact that it's the most important conversation I think anyone could ever have, is when you open to your fullness, to what is bigger than yourself. You realize a connection to everything where there's no separation. And in that awareness, your perception of everything changes. And some people call it the quantum field. Sages and scientists have been talking about this forever. That everything is energy, it's all the same. And your body is made up of matter and matter is made up of molecules, which is essentially a group of atoms bonded together. And everything you see in the physical world is also made up of those atoms. And so in this way, you are made of the same fundamental building blocks as everything else. And the mind tells us that things take time, that they unfold in a linear way. But quantum physics reveals a different reality. It shows us that there are multidimensions happening simultaneously, and we have the ability to tap into them. Now, quantum physics also teaches us that reality is a set of probabilities waiting for interaction. And so how we interpret and respond to life shapes how it unfolds. And this is seen in experiments like the double slit, which really demonstrates that the very act of observing matter directly influences and changes it. And so when you connect with something larger than yourself, then you drop into the quantum field and imagine the experience of already having the very thing that you want without any attachment. Everything accelerates. And the key is to let it go. But when you realize that you're all of it, you no longer need to grasp for any of it. I'll share with you a story in my own life so that you can get a sense for what this looks like in a really grounded, practical way. So one day I was playing with manifestation and I had an insight to run an experiment. And after a deep meditation, I was just feeling connected with everything. I literally couldn't tell where my body ended or the couch started. I just had this deep sense of oneness. From there, I randomly dropped an image of something into that field just to see what would happen. And it was a heart shaped teabag holder. And I kid you not. Within 24 hours, something amazing happened. Somebody had gifted me a flower shaped teabag holder. And mind you, I had never been gifted something like this before. I still haven't been gifted anything like that. But it was within 24 hours that it came to me. And so I was energetically neutral about it, I didn't need it, and I dropped the image and the frequency of feeling connected to it already. And I saw it specifically here, right now, but I was unattached and I went on with my day. But it also wasn't a heart shaped teabag holder, it was a flower. So life brings us something a little different than what we thought we wanted. But I find that it's always better than anything I could have planned. And so we're more empowered to manifest from the field of the unmanifest, the quantum field. And when we practice intentional thought, we elevate our energy and take surrendered action. Meaning high involvement, low attachment. Something powerful opens. And so my invitation, as always, is not to believe me, but to test this out for yourself and see what your truth is. And so the last thing I want to leave you with are some tools that you can use right away to manifest any goal that you desire in a trauma informed way. And so I'll share three specific tools with you. My first one being the living manifestation process. This is incredibly powerful and it's helped me and thousands of others bring their visions to life. And so I'll break down how it works. I find that it's a lot more fun when you do it with others. You can do it with your family, your friends, or if you work as a coach or a facilitator, you can share it with your clients as well. And so the first step is to clarify your vision. And some people have a hard time clarifying what they want because unconsciously they think if they clarify it, then they're going to get hurt if they don't get it. But really it only hurts when we're attached. Thinking that life should be different than the way that it is. The clarity doesn't hurt, it's the attachment that does. So give yourself permission to want what you want. The second step is to speak your vision out loud in present tense. And so you want to start by feeling into your body as though your desire is already happening now. And then speak that vision out loud. Imagine that you're sharing a movie clip of your dreams already being lived. And then speak your vision out loud, imagining that you're sharing a movie clip of your dreams already being Lived. And so you can share things like what you're doing, what you're wearing, what it feels like, or who's around you. And then the third step is to embody and celebrate your vision. And so this is where you feel and celebrate it already happening in your life. So you're in the energy of excitement really manifesting from this place of wholeness that is already here. So, for example, if your vision is to make $10,000 a month feeling light and free doing it, you could start by saying something like, wow, I never realized how light and free I would feel at this level of success. I literally just checked my phone after dance class and I saw that I made over $10,000 in sales. I love what I do. I love who I work with. I'm feeling so grateful for my life. I. And then who you're with can jump into your vision and elevate it with you. So they might say something like, I know, I just heard about the incredible work you're doing. All this money you're making is such a reflection of the value that you're offering in the world. And then this way, it's super high vibe and fun. It's a great way to connect with people in your life, and you can bounce off each other and really elevate the energy together. The second one is a gratitude walk, and I love doing this one on my own, where I might walk outside my home or go on a hike, listening to music that inspires and uplifts me. And so as I'm walking, I'm being in the energy of gratitude for all of the things that I have already manifested in my life. So you're feeling the gratitude radiating through your body, expanding your energy, and you're magnetizing more of what you already desire. Oftentimes when I do this, I'm also just aware of the gratitude of the things I already have. So it doesn't actually feel like it's coming from lack. It's coming from fullness. And what you appreciate, appreciates. So the third tool is the what if game. And so you can do this with a friend on a call. You can also share voice notes. But it's a fun way to creatively connect with others that you love. Because most of us spend too much time thinking about what could go wrong, all the what ifs of failure. And so this is a way to flip the script and reprogram your thoughts to align with what could go right. And so you can start by saying, what if? I got the fill in the blank right with whatever your desire is, and then list all the amazing things that could go right how you could feel. So, for example, what if I got the promotion I wanted? And then list all the amazing things that come with that? And so what if you had the financial freedom that you've always wanted? What if the next person you met was the love of your life? What if it was easier than you thought? And this exercise is going to shift your energy and focus on what you want rather than what you fear, which really helps you embody the energy of possibility. And these are just a few that I teach inside my certification program. But I want you to see that there are so many fun and powerful manifestation tools that you could be using. And I just recommend starting with the one that feels most alive and inspiring for you. You can even share this episode with a friend that you want to do it with. But a lot of people think that if they just sit there and they feel into the vibration of their desires, that everything's going to come to them. But in my methodology, we take aligned action because we're removing the blocks that have held us back at the root. And so, in this way, our actions are inspired, and we gain insights from being in an elevated flow state where things unfold more easily and synchronistically. And aligned action recognizes that there's a divine design within desire, and there's an intelligence in that desire that's calling you. And that calling, as you answer it, calls you forward. And so I'll leave you with this, just a reminder that you already have everything you want, because you already are everything you want, and it's perfectly lining up for you. All the opportunities, all the people, all the experiences are effortlessly being magnetized to you now. And you can let go knowing that letting go and surrendering, you're awakening to the realization that it already exists. And the idea that there's a future that's more worthy of your presence than the one that you're living right now would have made you miss the beauty and blessings of your life in this moment. It would have left you in search for a better future that may never arrive. Even the idea, spiritually that the next moment will make you free is the same trap. It's a deep lack of trust in life and the way that things show up, which would have had you revert back to control and fear. But the other option is to trust the wisdom of this moment, even if the mind can't understand it. Then, as you welcome the moment exactly as it is, it helps you reveal the deeper wisdom that's already here. And ironically, when you meet life in the direct experience of what's most alive now, you unlock opportunities beyond anything you could have tried to manifest. It's like tapping into a deeper operating system that trusts in life itself. And I just want to remind you that your desires are already here. Not because you're trying to get something that you don't have, but because you're more fully awakening to a deeper dimension of your being, which is what you really wanted, ultimately. Anyway, thank you so much for doing this work that changes the world, starting with yourself. It truly does make a difference. And if this podcast has supported you, one of the most impactful ways to help us reach more people is to simply press the follow button. It really does help us grow and.
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There is so much more magic ahead and I cannot wait to share it with you. But for now, I just want to say thank you for being a living.
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Example of what it means to walk.
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Through the world with an open heart and mind. I am so grateful that you're here and I cannot wait to see you.
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In the next episode.