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HERself
Hosted by Abby and Amy · EN
As women and mothers of young children, it can be easy to compare ourselves to others. But your life isn't supposed to look like hers! Being your best self means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing to grow with a purpose. Are you wanting more ease in your marriage? Or more enjoyment as a parent? Are you looking for a strategy to the health challenges you have been facing recently? Do you feel like you have been staring at a stranger in the mirror since becoming a mother? Abby and Amy get vulnerable with topics around partnership, motherhood, health, and self improvement by interviewing authors, therapists, experts and everyday mothers. Our conversations will meet you with solutions and solidarity as you find a life path that feels aligned for you. If this sounds like you, hit play on your favorite episode title and make sure you're following the HERself podcast.
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340: The Summer Kick-off Episode
1w ago00:26:57Tap to summarizeSummer is coming, and this episode is your permission slip to get intentional about it. We're sharing hard-won lessons about summer parenting, starting with the power of identifying your stressors and expectations early so everyone in your household can thrive. From navigating screen time without the extremes, to hiring a summer nanny with clear goals, to making sure whoever is caring for your kids understands your priorities around food and nutrition, we cover the practical stuff. Amy gets personal about a scary moment with her youngest last summer that became a powerful reminder of why simple safety measures matter so much. The heart of this conversation is one big, clarifying question: what does a successful summer actually look like for your family?Key Topics Covered:Abby's reminder to leave room for spontaneous fun and why those unplanned moments often become your kids' favorite summer memoriesHow to set your nanny up for success by communicating your goals and food standards from the startA reframe on screen time as a helpful tool rather than something to fear or eliminateAmy's personal story about her son's accident and the simple safety precautions that made all the differenceHow to define your top summer priorities, because not everything can be treated as equally importantLINKS AND RESOURCES:BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herselfLet’s connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
Transcribe →339: Greatest Hits: What to Do When the Script Doesn't Work with Claire Lerner
2w ago00:56:48Tap to summarizeIn this "Greatest Hits" episode we revisit one of our most impactful conversations with child development expert Claire Lerner. As parents who have personally navigated the challenges of raising children who don't respond to traditional gentle parenting approaches, we share how isolating and exhausting that experience can be and how Claire's expertise changed everything. Claire breaks down why some kids are simply wired differently, explains that challenging behaviors aren't manipulation but rather a need for boundaries and support, and offers practical strategies for helping children self-regulate. From rethinking timeouts to surviving big family gatherings, this episode is a must-listen for parents of strong-willed or highly reactive kids.Key Topics CoveredWhy some children are "wired differently" and don't respond to gentle parenting.Understanding child behavior — why kids act out and what they actually need.Claire's concept of the "safe space break" as a modern alternative to timeouts.How to help children self-regulate during moments of aggression toward others.Managing big family gatherings and holiday triggers for highly reactive kids.How to talk to family members and teachers about your child's unique needs.The importance of community and reducing parental isolation and burnout.LINKS AND RESOURCES:Meet Claire.Visit Claire's website. LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF HERSELF AMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u Let’s connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
Transcribe →338: How We Navigate Situational Anxiety
3w ago00:35:48Tap to summarizeLife in your 40s can hit hard, and if you're feeling the weight of it all right now, you are not alone. In this episode, Abby gets real and personal about a difficult situation she's been navigating with one of her kids, and how the stress of it has started to feel like so much more than just "situational anxiety." Between caring for our families, keeping up with the house, showing up at work, and being everyone else's emotional rock, it can feel impossible to also take care of ourselves. But here's the thing: it IS possible, and it looks different for everyone.Key Topics Covered:What situational anxiety actually is and how it can slowly start to feel all-encompassing.Why our 40s often bring a wave of hard life events, for us and the people we love most.Amy's observation about why Abby handles stress better than almost anyone she knows.The difference between situations we can't avoid and ones where we actually do have a choice.Practical things we do to take care of ourselves when life feels overwhelming.Why our brains crave predictability and what to do when life refuses to give us that.LINKS AND RESOURCES:BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herselfHERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastINFRARED SAUNA: https://amzlink.to/az05Rg8T8ZNO5 Let’s connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
Transcribe →337: Do You Actually Want to Change? Listen to This With Karin Nordin
4w ago00:39:36Tap to summarizeWhat does it really take to create lasting behavior change, especially in the middle of busy motherhood? In this conversation, our friend and behavior change expert Karin Nordin shares a refreshing, research-backed approach rooted in compassion rather than discipline. Drawing from her background in health communication and her own personal struggles, Karin breaks down why traditional advice around habits often falls short and what to focus on instead. This episode offers a practical and realistic framework for moms who want to follow through on their goals without burnout, all while embracing a more flexible and sustainable way to create change.Key Topics Covered:The trampoline metaphor and how it helps reframe all-or-nothing thinking.Why the word “habit” may be overemphasized and commonly misunderstood.The difference between discipline and conscientiousness and why it matters.Real-life examples of what qualifies as a habit and what does not.Coaching strategies for implementing a consistent morning workout routine.How to approach changes in eating patterns without relying on restrictions.What a ritual check-in is and how to use it effectively.Why routines should stay under 30 minutes.The shift from focusing on consistency to prioritizing frequency.Get your free Procrastination resource here: https://bodybrainalliance.com/herselfFollow Karin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karinnordinphd/Karin’s Website: https://bodybrainalliance.com/For more information on Karin's programs: bodybrainalliance.com/change-academyLINKS AND RESOURCES:LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herselfLet’s connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
Transcribe →336: Honesty is the Best Policy
May 400:40:16Tap to summarizeWhat actually creates deep, meaningful friendships? In this episode, we explore the idea of radical honesty and why it might be the missing piece in your closest relationships. Inspired by a therapist’s take and rooted in Amy’s long-held belief, we unpack what it really means to show up truthfully with the people in your inner circle. Key Topics Covered:• Why radical honesty is essential for deeper friendships.• The impact of people pleasing on adult relationships.• Navigating anxious attachment and overthinking.• Recognizing and breaking co-dependent patterns.• The role of tone and delivery in honest conversations.• Simple, practical one-liners to start being more honest today.LINKS AND RESOURCES:BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herselfLMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELFFORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest locationLet’s connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
Transcribe →335. Our Most Common Marriage Issues We Get Stuck On
Apr 2700:35:46Tap to summarizeLong-term relationships often come with recurring challenges that don’t fully resolve, no matter how many times you revisit them. In this episode, we open up about the patterns that keep resurfacing in our own relationships and what it looks like to navigate those tensions with more awareness and intention. From communication differences to division of responsibilities, we share how we’re learning to approach these sticking points differently, including adjusting expectations, asking for what we need, and recognizing when support might need to come from outside the partnership.Differences between verbal processing and internal processing in communication.Navigating humor versus emotional support in sensitive moments.The tendency for partners to jump into problem-solving mode.Identifying when to lean on friends or therapists for deeper support.Perceived imbalance in household and family responsibilities.The role of recognition and appreciation in partnerships.Gaining perspective through shared experiences and role reversal.The added strain of parenting a child with special needs on a relationship.LINKS AND RESOURCES:Listen to Episode #333: Our Holy Grail Advice for Relationships : https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/333-our-holy-grail-advice-for-relationships/id1489878793?i=1000761069923HERSELF AMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herselfLet’s connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
Transcribe →334: Advice We Wish We Had 10 Years Ago
Apr 2000:54:15Tap to summarizeReflecting on the past ten years feels especially meaningful as Abby turns 40 and we both hit a decade of motherhood. While there’s no version of the last ten years where everything would’ve been done “perfectly,” there’s so much growth, perspective, and beauty in what we’ve learned along the way. This conversation is your reminder to look back on your own journey with a glass-half-full mindset because you’re likely doing better than you think. From redefining rest and challenging the idea that your best years are behind you to letting go of the “start next week” mindset, we’re sharing the lessons that have shaped us and the ones we wish we had embraced sooner.Topics We Cover:Why rest doesn’t have to be earned and how to actually make time for it.Letting go of the “work for the weekend” mindset.The reality of building meaningful, trustworthy friendships in your 30s and 40s.Why “starting next week” isn’t a strategy.Abby’s journey with binge eating and the importance of starting now.The reminder that it’s never too late to change your habits or lifestyle.Honest reflections on early motherhood and what Amy wishes she knew.The power of asking for help and leaning on your support system.Simple resets, including the impact of a 20-minute break.Real-life topics like period cups and navigating everyday womanhood.Encouragement to reflect on your own growth over the past decade.LINKS AND RESOURCES:LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF Colorsciene Sunscreen Affiliate Link: https://www.amazon.com/Colorescience-Protection-Shield-Formula-Medium/dp/B093W7CDWD?th=1Sunrise Alarm Clock Affiliate Link:https://amzlink.to/az0mx4hp4zKiAShark Cordless Vacuum Affiliate Link: https://amzlink.to/az0HIXET6uL3YMenstrual Cup Affiliate Link:https://amzlink.to/az0ocHaD6vc3lLet’s connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
Transcribe →333: Our Holy Grail Advice for Relationships
Apr 1300:52:25Tap to summarizeThis week, we’re answering your questions straight from Instagram, and a clear theme emerged: relationships. From navigating constant arguments after the kids go to bed to figuring out how to move forward when you and your partner feel completely out of sync, we’re sharing honest insights, personal experiences, and practical mindset shifts that have made a real difference in our own marriages. We talk through what it looks like to step into your partner’s perspective, why some relationship challenges aren’t actually “fixable,” and how to approach them in a way that works for your unique dynamic. We also open up about intimacy, including the factors that impact sex drive and why this conversation matters more than we often admit.Topics We Cover:• A counterintuitive strategy that helped break the cycle of nightly arguments.• How differing timelines and priorities can create tension in relationships.• A mindset shift that can help you better understand your partner’s perspective.• What to consider when small annoyances start turning into constant nitpicking.• Why some household tasks may not be the best ones to delegate.• The difference between “equal” and “fair” when it comes to division of labor.• Why many relationship challenges aren’t fully solvable and how to navigate that reality.• The two types of sex drive and how they show up in long-term relationships.• Two common factors that can significantly impact intimacy.LINKS AND RESOURCES:Listen to Episode 21 with Vanessa Marin, Sex Therapist: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/21-herself-expert-vanessa-marin-sex-therapist-all-of-your-sex-questions-answeredLMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastLet’s connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
Transcribe →332: Let's Stop Postponing - What Every Millennial Needs to Hear
Apr 600:42:56Tap to summarizeThis episode was inspired by a post from one of our favorite Instagram therapy accounts, @millennial.therapist, titled “Let’s Stop Postponing.” It sparked an honest conversation as we walked through each point and reflected on how these patterns show up in our own lives. From expressing appreciation to making decisions, navigating emotions, and leaning into joy, we share where we feel confident, where we are still growing, and how these small shifts can create meaningful change in our everyday lives.Key Topics Covered:Letting people know what they mean to you and the impact of expressing appreciation in real time.Navigating big decisions with more trust and less hesitation, with different personal perspectives.Allowing space for emotional release instead of holding everything in.Taking accountability and offering genuine apologies when needed.Asking for support and clearly communicating personal needs.Approaching hard conversations with more confidence and emotional maturity.Wearing clothes that make you feel good instead of saving them for later.Exploring hobbies and rediscovering what feels fun and fulfilling.Celebrating small, everyday moments instead of only major milestones.LINKS AND RESOURCES:Follow Dr. Sara Kuburic on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/millennial.therapist/BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herselfLet’s connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
Transcribe →331: How to Get Your Kids Involved in the Household
Mar 3000:44:29Tap to summarizeAfter Amy sparked a conversation on Instagram about expecting more independence from her boys, it became clear just how many moms are wondering the same thing: when do you start, and how do you actually follow through? In this episode, we’re sharing how we’ve gradually increased expectations in our own homes, why contributing to the household matters, and how to get your kids involved in a realistic, sustainable way..Key Topics Covered:When to start expecting more independence from kids.Why contributing to the household builds confidence and responsibility.The importance of predictable routines at home.Practical ways kids can help with laundry, kitchen tasks, and shared spaces.Managing clutter in mudrooms and sports bags.How to handle different expectations for siblings of different ages.A helpful mindset shift for explaining responsibilities to kids.How personality types can influence chores and participation.Why starting small leads to long-term success for both kids and parents.LINKS AND RESOURCES:HERSELF AMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u Let’s connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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