Podcast
Mistakes Were Made
Hosted by Sarah & Alex · EN
Non monogamy for imperfect people. Hosted by a queer therapist and her husband of 15 years. Sarah & Alex share their experiences opening their marriage, and interview guests about the struggles & rewards of doing relationships your own way. Mistakes Were Made is part advice, part confession, part culture critique. But it's all about learning from our missteps and stumbling toward liberation. Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/. Logo design by roy franklin of the Whatever Factory - https://www.whateverfactory.org/.
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Ep 78: Coming Out as Poly with Tabitha Kirkland
1w ago01:09:48Tap to summarizeIt's Pride, and we're talking about coming out, parenting, and the nature of happiness, with poly psychology researcher Tabitha Kirkland. Mentioned in the episode: Geography of Bliss | Tabi's latest Substack: What do you want when no one is looking? | Tabi's Coming Out post | Sarah's Substack | Barry Schwartz: The Paradox of Choice | Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org
Transcribe →Ep 77: Stop People Pleasing with Calvin Burnap
3w ago01:33:43Tap to summarizeTherapist and 'Crush Coach" Calvin Burnap returns to talk about the dangers of abandoning yourself, the importance of internal boundaries, and why being ice cold in breakups is actually generous. Mentioned in the episode: The Crush Coach | The Crush Coach on Instagram | Dr. Devon Price | Relationship Anarchy | Gottman Institute | Nonviolent Communication | I thought We'd Never Speak Again | Joanna Macy Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org
Transcribe →Ep 76: Is Opening up harder for men or women? Part 1
May 2200:13:31Tap to summarizeIn this mini episode Sarah and Alex try to figure out who has a tougher time in polyamory. Mentioned in the episode: Melt Music & Mutual Aid Fair | When women choose non-monogamy: 'It's an opportunity for more integration' Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org
Transcribe →Ep 75: Lindy West was right
May 800:56:24Tap to summarizeNow that we've actually read the book…there's even more to say about Lindy West's Adult Braces. Spoiler alert: it is extremely fucking good. Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org
Transcribe →Ep 74: Sarah's First Sex Party
Apr 2401:10:49Tap to summarizeSarah and Alex explore the seven stages of playparties, from abject horror to skepticism to curiosity. And then Sarah recouts her first time getting in the mix. Mentioned in the episode: Sense8 | Eyes Wide Shut | They Will Kill You | What We Do in the Shadows s1e9 | Mixtape Memoir with Reagan Jackson Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org
Transcribe →Ep 73: Relationship Care Plans with Karryn
Apr 1001:13:39Tap to summarizeIt's like a prenup... for when your partner goes out of town. Poly therapist Karryn Satchell joins the podcast to explain how you can plan ahead for hard moments in a relationship, from fights, to life changes, to individual crises and even break ups. You can reach Karryn at admin@ksclinicalservices.com Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org
Transcribe →Ep 72: Lindy West's Adult Braces Instant Reaction
Mar 2700:38:27Tap to summarizeLindy West is "setting the internet on fire" again with a new memoir tracing her rocky path to accepting a poly relationship with her partner. Sarah & Alex pick apart the flamey reactions, and start to wonder if polyamory is really the problem. Mentioned in the episode: Adult Braces | Harper's Bazaar Article | Loves Out Loud Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org
Transcribe →Ep 71: Love or Limerence?
Mar 2001:17:53Tap to summarizeSleepless nights. Intrusive thoughts. Gushing adoration. Is that obsessive feeling true love? Sarah and Alex unpack experiences as givers and recievers of limerant feelings, and try to differentiate between limerance and new relationship energy, anxious attachment, and...Irish poetry? Happy St. Patrick's Day! Mentioned in the episode: Loves Out Loud | New Relationship Energy | Love and Limerence by Dorothy Tennov | Yumi Sakugawa Limerance Instagram Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Interlude music "Infatuation" by The Stevedore Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org
Transcribe →Ep 70: Community and Cancel Culture with Ramsey
Mar 601:21:41Tap to summarizeRamsey rejoins the podcast to talk about that thing everyone seems to be seeking more of these days: Community. What even is it? Why are so many of us lacking it? And is polyamorous dating the solution? TW: The conversation about community accountability vs. cancel culture somehow lands on the Epstein Files and guillotines. Mentioned in the episode: Intentional Nonmonogamy Workshop | Quake Rugby Isn't a Drag (The Stranger) | Alex Garland in Speak the Sojourner | All About Love, by bell hooks Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org
Transcribe →Ep 69: New Models of Masculinity
Feb 2001:07:31Tap to summarizeGuess who's been missing from this new wave of political organizing: CIS dudes. Alex grapples with how critique of toxic masculinity has left a gap in men's identity. And Sarah asks why so many progressive men are down to fuck, but not down to fight. Mentioned in the episode: Intentional Nonmonogamy Workshop | Sensitive New Age Guys | All About Love, by bell hooks | The Better Man, by Dr. Eric Fitzmedrud Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org
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