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Pocketful of Mojo
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Pocket full of Mojo makes you feel better every time you listen. Tune in to get your mojo running and leave feeling lighter and back on track. Scoop the insights on how to get happy and stay happy!
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Stop SHOULDING All Over Yourself
3w ago00:20:00Tap to summarizeThat nagging “I should…” voice can sound like motivation, but it often lands like a judgmental life coach you never hired. We’re calling time on the should-spiral: the quiet, constant self-talk that tells you you’re behind, pushes you to be more agreeable, and makes rest feel like a reward you haven’t earned. If you’ve been moving through your day with low-key self-disappointment, this conversation is your permission slip to stop treating your life like a performance review.We get into the real reason “should” is so persuasive: your brain is wired to seek approval and avoid rejection, so it uses should as a survival strategy. The twist is that most of those rules are inherited, not chosen. We talk nervous system stress and why “I should be doing more” can create real physical anxiety, plus how chronic shoulding chips away at self-trust until you’re living a life that looks fine on paper but feels like wearing someone else’s shoes.Then we go practical. We replace “should” with “could” or “want,” challenge expectations with “says who,” and do a quick tone check: would you speak to a friend the way you speak to yourself? We also share small rebellion moments that help recovering people pleasers rebuild boundaries, clarity, and confidence. You’ll leave with a simple mantra to use all week, and a nudge to notice what changes when you choose alignment over obligation.If you feel this one, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s fluent in “should,” and leave a review so more people can find the tools to feel good on purpose.Mojo Gummies? Yes Please! Need help tapping into your Mojo? See ya later brain fog- these gummies are game changers! 15% OFF!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showMore Mojo: Daily Mojo: Mojo Website:Grab your People Pleaser Cheat Sheet FREE & get signed up for the weekly Mojo Magazine for all things Mojo! CLICK HERE Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/run-away
Transcribe →Overthinking Isn't a Superpower (It's just Anxiety in a Blazer)
4w ago00:26:59Tap to summarizeA thumbs up emoji shouldn’t send you into a full relationship autopsy, but if you’re an overthinker or a recovering people pleaser, you know how fast a neutral moment can turn into a mental crime scene. I’m Steph, your Mojo Maven, and I’m getting real about why overthinking feels so convincing, why it shows up hardest at night, and why it’s not proof you’re “deep” or “intuitive.” Most of the time, it’s anxiety wearing a blazer and trying to pass as preparation. We dig into the psychology of rumination, the nervous system’s bias toward threat, and the way people pleasing trains you to monitor others instead of trusting yourself. I break down the difference between intuition versus anxiety so you can stop confusing panic with wisdom. Then we talk about the hidden costs: drained energy, eroded confidence, getting stuck in indecision, losing presence, and creating distance in relationships by assuming instead of asking. You’ll leave with practical coping strategies you can use mid-spiral: naming the pattern, checking “fact or fear,” stopping the habit of outsourcing your peace, setting a time limit on overanalysis, and choosing self-trust over control. If calm feels suspicious, we also talk about how to practice peace until it feels normal again. If this helps, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s decoding punctuation, and leave a review so more anxious overthinkers can find a way back to clarity.Mojo Gummies? Yes Please! Need help tapping into your Mojo? See ya later brain fog- these gummies are game changers! 15% OFF!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showMore Mojo: Daily Mojo: Mojo Website:Grab your People Pleaser Cheat Sheet FREE & get signed up for the weekly Mojo Magazine for all things Mojo! CLICK HERE Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/run-away
Transcribe →The Power Of Doing Nothing
Apr 3000:20:03Tap to summarizeYour brain isn’t broken. It’s overloaded. When life feels like a constant scroll of urgency, “just do more” becomes the default advice and the fastest path to burnout. I’m Steph, your Mojo Maven, and I’m making the case for an idea that feels almost illegal right now: taking a stand by doing less on purpose.We talk about cortisol, stress hormones, and what it really looks like when your nervous system gets stuck in survival mode. If you’ve been tired but wired, snapping more than you want to, or treating every notification like a five-alarm fire, you’ll recognize yourself here. I also share why the brain’s default mode network matters, and how stillness can unlock creativity, clearer decisions, and that grounded feeling you’ve been chasing with productivity hacks.Then we get practical: my five-minute nothing rule, the “is this actually urgent” check, scheduling white space, reducing input before increasing output, and micro boundaries that protect your time without a big dramatic speech. You’ll leave with a mantra to use when guilt hits: “I create space for myself, and everything I need rises to meet me there.”Before you go, I also share a quick note on my mojo gummies for energy and clarity without jittery chaos, plus a discount code waiting in the show notes. If this hits somewhere real, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs permission to rest, and leave a review so more overwhelmed humans can find their way back to calm.Mojo Gummies? Yes Please! Need help tapping into your Mojo? See ya later brain fog- these gummies are game changers! 15% OFF!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showMore Mojo: Daily Mojo: Mojo Website:Grab your People Pleaser Cheat Sheet FREE & get signed up for the weekly Mojo Magazine for all things Mojo! CLICK HERE Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/run-away
Transcribe →The World is a Shit Show (but your life doesn't have to be)
Apr 2300:26:39Tap to summarizeJoy can feel weirdly forbidden right now like if you laugh, rest, or enjoy your life you must be ignoring the suffering around you. I’m not buying that, and today I’m giving you a clear, grounded way to stop treating guilt like a moral compass and start treating your nervous system like the control panel it is. We get into the brain science behind news anxiety and doomscrolling, including the amygdala’s threat alarm and the negativity bias that makes one bad headline stick to your ribs. I share a painfully relatable morning spiral that started with grabbing my phone before my feet hit the floor and how I caught the turning point: nothing in my immediate life was on fire, but my body was reacting like it was. From there, we walk through the awareness shifts that help you interrupt the loop and choose your next emotional move on purpose. Then we go practical with nervous system regulation and mental health tools you can use immediately: regulate before you rationalize, five slow breaths with long exhales, unclenching the jaw, dropping the shoulders, and changing your environment. We also talk media boundaries that actually work like a 20-minute no-phone morning, intentional social media use, a hard stop time for news, and why watching the news while you eat is a fast track to feeling worse. Finally, we reframe choosing joy without guilt as strategic self-care, and we trade constant consumption for meaningful contribution so you can stay human without burning out. If this helped, subscribe, share it with a friend who keeps sending you traumatic reels, and leave a review so more people can find tools to protect their peace. What’s one boundary or joy habit you’re choosing this week?Mojo Gummies? Yes Please! Need help tapping into your Mojo? See ya later brain fog- these gummies are game changers! 15% OFF!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showMore Mojo: Daily Mojo: Mojo Website:Grab your People Pleaser Cheat Sheet FREE & get signed up for the weekly Mojo Magazine for all things Mojo! CLICK HERE Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/run-away
Transcribe →Drama Detox : How to be (lovingly) unavailable
Apr 1600:24:17Tap to summarizeDrama rarely shows up with a label. It shows up as “just a quick vent,” a group chat spiral, a friend who “only needs five minutes,” and suddenly you’re emotionally exhausted and wondering why your whole day feels off. We’re putting up a velvet rope for your nervous system and learning how to be unavailable for the nonsense without becoming cold, harsh, or disconnected. We talk about why recovering people pleasers get recruited as the unpaid therapist, and why being a safe person doesn’t mean being available for everything. You’ll learn the clearest signs you’re dealing with drama (repetition, contagion, solution resistance, false urgency, and getting pulled out of your lane) plus the real cost of carrying it. We break down what that stress does to your focus, your body, and your energy, and why “care” and “carry” are not the same thing. Then we get practical: the return to sender technique, quick energy audits after conversations, capacity-based ways to say no, the mindful delay when texts demand instant attention, and how to exit without escalating. We also name the uncomfortable truth that sometimes we’re co-producing the loop, and how awareness becomes your clean way out. If you’re ready for more peace, better boundaries, and relationships that feel lighter, press play, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more people can protect their peace too.Mojo Gummies? Yes Please! Need help tapping into your Mojo? See ya later brain fog- these gummies are game changers! 15% OFF!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showMore Mojo: Daily Mojo: Mojo Website:Grab your People Pleaser Cheat Sheet FREE & get signed up for the weekly Mojo Magazine for all things Mojo! CLICK HERE Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/run-away
Transcribe →How to Build Confidence From The Inside Out
Apr 900:13:49Tap to summarizeEver walk into a room and suddenly forget how to stand, talk, or breathe like a normal person? That weird confidence free-fall isn’t proof you’re broken. It’s proof you’ve been taught to treat confidence like something you’re supposed to earn after you get the win, the approval, the perfect moment, or the right version of you. We’re done with that.We dig into what real confidence actually is: a skill you build through reps, not a personality trait you either have or you don’t. I share the mindset shift that changed everything for me, action comes first, confidence follows. Then we get practical with three core pillars that create inside-out confidence that doesn’t crumble under pressure: self-trust, self-image, and self-talk. We talk about keeping small promises to yourself, choosing an identity on purpose, and changing the inner soundtrack that’s been sabotaging your self-esteem.We also call out the outside-in confidence trap, the “I’ll be confident when…” loop that makes your confidence fragile and dependent on things you can’t fully control. To help you build real momentum, I give you a simple 24-hour challenge: act like someone who trusts themselves fully, then take the smallest possible action when you feel yourself hesitate.If you’re ready to stop waiting to feel ready, hit play. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs a boost, and leave a review so more people can build confidence from the inside out.Mojo Gummies? Yes Please! Need help tapping into your Mojo? See ya later brain fog- these gummies are game changers! 15% OFF!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showMore Mojo: Daily Mojo: Mojo Website:Grab your People Pleaser Cheat Sheet FREE & get signed up for the weekly Mojo Magazine for all things Mojo! CLICK HERE Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/run-away
Transcribe →Why People Pleasing Isn't the Same as Kindness
Apr 200:22:16Tap to summarizeYou can be the “nice one” and still feel secretly furious. That mismatch is the clue, not the problem. We’re pulling apart one of the most socially rewarded habits out there: saying yes when you mean no, keeping the peace while your needs get buried, and calling it kindness even when it leaves you drained. The core truth we keep coming back to is simple: nice is not the same as kind, and “being easy” can become a quiet form of self-abandonment.We break down what people pleasing actually is: not generosity, not empathy, not being thoughtful, but shrinking yourself to manage someone else’s emotions and approval. Through a painfully relatable potluck story, we show how resentment gets created when we volunteer out of fear and then blame others for agreements we made. From there, we reframe kindness as care plus honesty plus boundaries, even when it feels a little uncomfortable in the moment.You’ll leave with practical tools you can use immediately: how to tell whether your yes is fear-driven or capacity-driven, how to practice kind honest no’s without overexplaining, and how to let other people feel disappointed without treating it like an emergency you must fix. We also give you a small challenge for the week to retire one act of “fake nice” and replace it with something respectful that includes you in the equation. If you’re a recovering people pleaser who wants better boundaries, less guilt, and more self-trust, hit subscribe, share this with a friend who’s always “fine,” and leave a review with the boundary you’re practicing next.Mojo Gummies? Yes Please! Need help tapping into your Mojo? See ya later brain fog- these gummies are game changers! 15% OFF!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showMore Mojo: Daily Mojo: Mojo Website:Grab your People Pleaser Cheat Sheet FREE & get signed up for the weekly Mojo Magazine for all things Mojo! CLICK HERE Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/run-away
Transcribe →How to Stop Auditioning For Roles You Already Have
Mar 1200:16:03Tap to summarizeYou know that feeling when you walk into a room and act like you have to earn your place, even though you were literally invited? That is the people-pleasing audition mindset, and it’s exhausting. I’m Steph, your mojo maven, and I’m naming the pattern so many recovering people pleasers live with: overthinking every text, scanning faces for approval, laughing a little too hard, and trying to be the “easy” one so nobody gets disappointed. We trace where it starts, usually in early roles like the peacekeeper, the helper, the good kid, or the overachiever, where love can feel conditional and safety feels tied to performance. Then I share a dinner party story that exposed the truth: everyone else was just being themselves while I was working for a scorecard that didn’t exist. From there, we break down the real costs of overperforming in relationships and at work, including chronic tension, feeling unseen because people only meet your highlight reel, and linking self-worth to usefulness. You’ll also get four practical shifts you can try right away: noticing where you feel like you can’t relax, doing one unperformed honest action, letting silence exist without rescuing the vibe, and asking for something without over-explaining or apologizing. If you’re craving healthier boundaries, more self-trust, and a calmer nervous system, this conversation will help you start showing up with belonging energy instead of audition energy. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more people can stop performing and start living.Mojo Gummies? Yes Please! Need help tapping into your Mojo? See ya later brain fog- these gummies are game changers! 15% OFF!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showMore Mojo: Daily Mojo: Mojo Website:Grab your People Pleaser Cheat Sheet FREE & get signed up for the weekly Mojo Magazine for all things Mojo! CLICK HERE Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/run-away
Transcribe →When Being the Strong Friend Starts to Break You
Feb 2600:15:29Tap to summarizeEver notice how being the “strong friend” wins praise while quietly draining your battery? We’re pulling back the curtain on the fixer identity, the emotional labor it hides, and the subtle ways it turns care into performance. From midnight crisis calls to the fear of being a burden, we unpack the patterns that keep you over-functioning—emotional sponging, not asking for help, and building quiet resentment—and we name a kinder path back to yourself.We share a new definition of strength: not silent endurance, but brave visibility. You’ll hear practical, real-life tools to shift without ghosting your people. First, stop auto-solving and ask a consent-based question: do you want advice or just to vent? Then try one honest share with someone safe—I’ve been overwhelmed and could use support—and watch how the right friends lean in. We set time boundaries that protect your nervous system with “emotional office hours,” and we teach a simple balance check: do I feel lighter or heavier after time together? Mutuality over time is the goal, not perfection in every moment.This is a conversation for recovering people pleasers who want deep relationships without self-erasure. You’ll keep your empathy and reliability while adding softness, truth, and limits. We close with a weekly challenge: let one person see a small crack in your armor and make a clear ask. Let someone be strong for you. And if this message hit home, share it with the friend who says “I’m fine” too fast.Ready to rebuild boundaries, confidence, and self-trust with guidance? Explore Mojo Makeover in the show notes, then subscribe, rate, and leave a review to help more strong friends find their way back to mutual care.Mojo Gummies? Yes Please! Need help tapping into your Mojo? See ya later brain fog- these gummies are game changers! 15% OFF!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showMore Mojo: Daily Mojo: Mojo Website:Grab your People Pleaser Cheat Sheet FREE & get signed up for the weekly Mojo Magazine for all things Mojo! CLICK HERE Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/run-away
Transcribe →How to Show Up As Yourself In Every Relationship
Feb 1900:16:01Tap to summarizeMojo Gummies? Yes Please! Need help tapping into your Mojo? See ya later brain fog- these gummies are game changers! 15% OFF!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showMore Mojo: Daily Mojo: Mojo Website:Grab your People Pleaser Cheat Sheet FREE & get signed up for the weekly Mojo Magazine for all things Mojo! CLICK HERE Music from #Uppbeathttps://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/run-away
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