Podcast
She Doesn't Settle
Hosted by Kelly Travis · EN
You're ambitious. You're capable. You're also exhausted, stretched thin, and tired of pretending you're not. She Doesn't Settle is for female leaders, business owners, and achievers who refuse to keep sacrificing themselves to do it all and do it all well. Hosted by Kelly Travis - coach, consultant, and pre-licensed therapist - who won't let you stay on autopilot. Because settling for exhausted, overwhelmed, or "fine" isn't the deal you signed up for.
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215: Your Mental Health Is Affecting Your Work. Let's Talk About It.
1w ago00:15:29Tap to summarizeEvery high-achieving woman I know has gone through seasons where her mental health quietly got in the way of her goals. Not in a crisis way -- just in a "something is off and I can't get traction" way. Most of us don't talk about it, at least not honestly, because admitting you're struggling feels like a liability when you've built something worth protecting. In this episode I'm talking about why high-achieving women stay quiet about this, what it actually looks like when mental health is affecting your work (and it's more specific than you think), and why the usual fixes -- the routines, the frameworks, the productivity systems -- don't get underneath it. I'm also inviting you to a live panel on June 3rd at 10am PST where we're having this conversation for real, with four women who are willing to be honest about it. Details and registration link below. Register for the panel
Transcribe →214: Big Sur was Brutal and I Loved It: On Letting Go of the Outcome
4w ago00:22:58Tap to summarizeWe spend a lot of time chasing outcomes -- the finish time, the job title, the milestone -- and not nearly enough time in the actual experience of getting there. This episode uses my recent Big Sur Marathon as a lens for something I think about a lot with clients: what happens when you loosen your grip on how something is supposed to go. Big Sur is not a forgiving race. And going into it I had to shift my perspective. I'll share what that looked like, why doing hard things with other people changes the experience entirely, and how humor might be the most underrated survival skill we have. Episode Links: Email Kelly: support@kellytravis.net Connect with Kelly on Instagram
Transcribe →213: The Competent Woman's Curse
Apr 200:23:39Tap to summarizeYou worked hard to prove you're capable, reliable, someone who gets things done. And it worked - people noticed. But now you're trapped. The more competent you are, the more gets piled on. And you can't step back without feeling like you're proving you weren't as capable as everyone thought. Your competence isn't rewarding you - it's burying you. In this episode, I'm talking about why you keep saying yes when you're drowning, asking you to get curious about what you actually want but won't admit out loud, and what happens when you've painted yourself into a corner where your value is tied to your capacity. If this conversation struck a chord and you want to explore this with support, contact me to learn more about how we can work together. Email: support@kellytravis.net Instagram (send me a DM)!
Transcribe →212: The Pressure to Have It All Figured Out By Now
Mar 1900:22:36Tap to summarizeThere's this voice in your head that says you should have it all figured out by now. Your career, your relationships, what you want - all of it. And if you don't, you feel behind. Like everyone else has it together and you're still struggling with things you think you should have figured out years ago. In this episode, I'm calling out that pressure for what it is: bullshit. No one has it all figured out. You're not behind. You're on your own path. Work with Kelly: support@kellytravis.net (send an email and let's chat)
Transcribe →211: You Don't Have to Know Everything
Mar 600:19:08Tap to summarizeYou're exhausted. The news is constant, your phone is a pipeline of terrible things happening, and you're trying to hold your actual life together while also feeling like you're supposed to know everything, care about everything, stay engaged with everything. In this episode, I'm talking about the cost of staying informed - the pressure to stay plugged in, the guilt of wanting to disconnect, and whether tuning out is privilege or self-preservation. I don't have all the answers, but I know this: you can care about what's happening without destroying yourself in the process. Connect with Kelly Instagram Email: support@kellytravis.net
Transcribe →210: Why You Can't Give Feedback
Feb 1100:33:08Tap to summarizeThis is part 3 of our "Conversations You're Not Having" series. There's feedback you need to give - to your direct report, your colleague, your boss, maybe even in a personal relationship - and you're not giving it. You see the issue, you know it needs to be addressed, but you keep putting it off. In this episode, I break down the six reasons most people avoid giving feedback: fear of hurting feelings, fear of conflict, fear of being the bad guy, not knowing how to say it, convincing yourself it's not important, and fear of being wrong. Then I walk you through how to give feedback with both courage and kindness - and how to stay grounded when emotions run hot. Episode links: If this episode hits home and you'd like to work with Kelly one-on-one, you can learn more at the link below or send her an email at support@kellytravis.net Kelly's website
Transcribe →209: Why You Can't Tell The Truth
Jan 2100:28:32Tap to summarizeThis is part of our "Conversations You're Not Having" series. And today...it's all about telling the truth. There's something you need to say, and you're not saying it. Maybe you're unhappy in your role, your relationship isn't working, you made a mistake, or you want something different than what you've been pretending to want. You know the truth - you're just not telling it. In this episode, I break down the six reasons women avoid telling the truth: fear of consequences, fear of being seen as negative or ungrateful, fear of looking incompetent, guilt, shame, and loss of control. The longer you avoid it, the heavier it gets. Episode links: Fill out this form to share specific challenges/questions you'd like for Kelly to address on an upcoming episode. All submissions are anonymous. Interested in working with Kelly? Shoot her an email: support@kellytravis.net
Transcribe →208: Why You Can't Ask For What You Need
Jan 900:25:10Tap to summarizeThis is the first in our "Conversations You're Not Having" series. Yay! In addition to this episode, there will be 4 other types of conversations you're not having that we will dig into. So, let's talk about this one. You know what you need. You need help, support, a raise, flexibility, your partner to step up - you know. But you can't bring yourself to ask for it. In this episode, I break down the five reasons women can't ask for what they need: guilt (asking feels selfish), shame (needing something feels like failure), fear of appearing weak, fear of rejection, and fear of losing control. It's one of the hardest conversations you're not having. Episode links: Fill out this form to share specific challenges/questions you'd like for Kelly to address on an upcoming episode. All submissions are anonymous.
Transcribe →207: Stop Fixing Other People's Problems
Dec 1800:23:26Tap to summarizeYou're the person everyone comes to with their problems. You listen, you care, and then you take it on as yours to solve. In this episode, we're going underneath the fixer pattern to look at what's actually driving it: a sense of justice and responsibility that won't let you stand by when something's wrong or when someone's struggling. In this episode, Kelly breaks down the two versions of this - the "this is wrong and I have to fix it" fixer and the "I have to help everyone" fixer - and why both are costing you more than you realize. Fill out this form to share specific challenges/questions you'd like for Kelly to address on an upcoming episode. All submissions are anonymous.
Transcribe →206: The 'Do It All and Do It All Well' Trap
Dec 400:23:08Tap to summarizeShe's baaakkkk! I'm so excited to bring back SDS with renewed energy and enthusiasm for this community. And with that...let's dive in to our first episode back. You're doing it all. You're doing it all well. And you're exhausted. In this episode, I'm breaking down why you can't seem to stop - and why the reason isn't the same for every woman. We're going underneath the "do it all" trap to look at what's actually driving it: fear, perfectionism, avoidance, identity, expectations, or control. Because you can't change a pattern until you know what's running it. Fill out this form to share specific challenges/questions you'd like for Kelly to address on an upcoming episode. All submissions are anonymous.
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