Podcast
She Doesn't Settle
Hosted by Kelly Travis · EN
You're ambitious. You're capable. You're also exhausted, stretched thin, and tired of pretending you're not. She Doesn't Settle is for female leaders, business owners, and achievers who refuse to keep sacrificing themselves to do it all and do it all well. Hosted by Kelly Travis - coach, consultant, and pre-licensed therapist - who won't let you stay on autopilot. Because settling for exhausted, overwhelmed, or "fine" isn't the deal you signed up for.
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219: What's Really Running Your Leadership
2w ago00:23:38Tap to summarizeMost of us think we know how we show up as leaders. Research says we're wrong more often than we'd like to admit. In this episode we're talking about the gap. The space between the leader you intend to be and the one you actually are when the pressure is on. What's driving that gap isn't a lack of strategy or knowledge. It's emotion. And for most leaders, it's running the show without their awareness. We dig into what activation actually looks like, what it costs you and the people around you, and the simple but powerful practice that creates the space between trigger and response. Because that space is where conscious leadership lives. If you've ever sent an email you regretted, shut down a conversation you didn't mean to, or wondered why your approach isn't landing the way you intended, this one is for you. Episode links: Refresh Retreat details here *The app referenced in the show is called How We Feel
Transcribe →218: Five Tools for the Woman Who's Running on Empty
3w ago00:25:46Tap to summarizeIf you're giving everything to your work, your people, and your goals and still ending the week feeling like you have nothing left, this episode is for you. Not because something is wrong with you. Because nobody handed you a manual for this. In this episode I'm walking you through five research-backed tools for managing the stress and overwhelm that come with performing at a high level. These aren't hacks or morning routine tips. They're five specific things you can actually reach for when you're running low, and by the end you'll be able to see exactly where you are and know what to do next. Episode Links: Refresh Retreat info Email Kelly: support@kellytravis.net
Transcribe →217: What It Costs You to Never Stop
Jul 800:28:29Tap to summarizeWhat It Costs You to Never Stop High-achieving women are incredibly good at keeping going. But what does it actually cost you when keeping going means never stopping long enough to hear yourself think, remember what you want, or feel like a person instead of a role? In this episode Kelly gets specific about the real costs of never stopping: the clarity you lose, the slow erosion of your sense of self, what it does to your relationships, and the quiet disappearing act that happens to joy when you stay in motion too long. She also talks about why stopping is so hard even when you know you need it, and what actually becomes possible when you finally do. This one is for the woman who is holding everything together and can't remember the last time she did something just for herself. Interested in the Refresh Retreat mentioned in this episode? Email Kelly at support@kellytravis.net Link to perimenopause skit Kelly mentioned -it's hilarious!
Transcribe →216: You Can Do Anything, But You Can't Do Everything.
Jun 501:06:43Tap to summarizeThis episode is a recording of a live panel I hosted called Your Mental Health Is Affecting Your Work. Let's Talk About It. I'm sharing it because the conversation was too good to keep in a small room. Four women showed up and said the things most of us only think quietly. About the seasons where grief, self-doubt, overwhelm, and caregiving quietly took over. About carrying things nobody at work knew they were carrying. About the gap between how put-together they looked and how they actually felt. And then something shifted. The women on the panel and the women in the room started finding each other. Over the same feelings, the same struggles, the same things they'd never quite said out loud. We got into boundaries, saying no, and what actually helps when you're running on empty. Everyone was sharing things that help them, and one person even emailed to share she wrote down "you can do anything but you can't do everything" in her journal. (This is a quote by David Allen, creator of the Getting Things Done system.) Youtube link to discussion Email Kelly: support@kellytravis.net Ascend is open for enrollment!
Transcribe →215: Your Mental Health Is Affecting Your Work. Let's Talk About It.
May 2700:15:29Tap to summarizeEvery high-achieving woman I know has gone through seasons where her mental health quietly got in the way of her goals. Not in a crisis way -- just in a "something is off and I can't get traction" way. Most of us don't talk about it, at least not honestly, because admitting you're struggling feels like a liability when you've built something worth protecting. In this episode I'm talking about why high-achieving women stay quiet about this, what it actually looks like when mental health is affecting your work (and it's more specific than you think), and why the usual fixes -- the routines, the frameworks, the productivity systems -- don't get underneath it. I'm also inviting you to a live panel on June 3rd at 10am PST where we're having this conversation for real, with four women who are willing to be honest about it. Details and registration link below. Register for the panel
Transcribe →214: Big Sur was Brutal and I Loved It: On Letting Go of the Outcome
May 1000:22:58Tap to summarizeWe spend a lot of time chasing outcomes -- the finish time, the job title, the milestone -- and not nearly enough time in the actual experience of getting there. This episode uses my recent Big Sur Marathon as a lens for something I think about a lot with clients: what happens when you loosen your grip on how something is supposed to go. Big Sur is not a forgiving race. And going into it I had to shift my perspective. I'll share what that looked like, why doing hard things with other people changes the experience entirely, and how humor might be the most underrated survival skill we have. Episode Links: Email Kelly: support@kellytravis.net Connect with Kelly on Instagram
Transcribe →213: The Competent Woman's Curse
Apr 200:23:39Tap to summarizeYou worked hard to prove you're capable, reliable, someone who gets things done. And it worked - people noticed. But now you're trapped. The more competent you are, the more gets piled on. And you can't step back without feeling like you're proving you weren't as capable as everyone thought. Your competence isn't rewarding you - it's burying you. In this episode, I'm talking about why you keep saying yes when you're drowning, asking you to get curious about what you actually want but won't admit out loud, and what happens when you've painted yourself into a corner where your value is tied to your capacity. If this conversation struck a chord and you want to explore this with support, contact me to learn more about how we can work together. Email: support@kellytravis.net Instagram (send me a DM)!
Transcribe →212: The Pressure to Have It All Figured Out By Now
Mar 1900:22:36Tap to summarizeThere's this voice in your head that says you should have it all figured out by now. Your career, your relationships, what you want - all of it. And if you don't, you feel behind. Like everyone else has it together and you're still struggling with things you think you should have figured out years ago. In this episode, I'm calling out that pressure for what it is: bullshit. No one has it all figured out. You're not behind. You're on your own path. Work with Kelly: support@kellytravis.net (send an email and let's chat)
Transcribe →211: You Don't Have to Know Everything
Mar 600:19:08Tap to summarizeYou're exhausted. The news is constant, your phone is a pipeline of terrible things happening, and you're trying to hold your actual life together while also feeling like you're supposed to know everything, care about everything, stay engaged with everything. In this episode, I'm talking about the cost of staying informed - the pressure to stay plugged in, the guilt of wanting to disconnect, and whether tuning out is privilege or self-preservation. I don't have all the answers, but I know this: you can care about what's happening without destroying yourself in the process. Connect with Kelly Instagram Email: support@kellytravis.net
Transcribe →210: Why You Can't Give Feedback
Feb 1100:33:08Tap to summarizeThis is part 3 of our "Conversations You're Not Having" series. There's feedback you need to give - to your direct report, your colleague, your boss, maybe even in a personal relationship - and you're not giving it. You see the issue, you know it needs to be addressed, but you keep putting it off. In this episode, I break down the six reasons most people avoid giving feedback: fear of hurting feelings, fear of conflict, fear of being the bad guy, not knowing how to say it, convincing yourself it's not important, and fear of being wrong. Then I walk you through how to give feedback with both courage and kindness - and how to stay grounded when emotions run hot. Episode links: If this episode hits home and you'd like to work with Kelly one-on-one, you can learn more at the link below or send her an email at support@kellytravis.net Kelly's website
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