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Sherley's Show
Hosted by Sherley Troutman · EN
Sherley's Show provides guidance and encouragement for women from all walks of life who are reclaiming their power and rebuilding their relationships after crisis. Talking about everything dealing with relationships such as infidelity, forgiveness, sex, marriage, dating, defining turning points in our relationships for better or worse and so much more. Take time out of your day to allow me to make you laugh and cry, have the space to be sad or angry, and give you room to voice your opinion. Helping you on this journey called life.
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Letting Go of Family Baggage: Breaking Cycles Without Breaking Yourself
2w ago01:04:19Tap to summarizeFamily baggage is one of those things that most of us don't realize we're carrying until we're older. When we're children, our family dynamics simply feel normal. The way our parents communicate. The way conflict is handled. The expectations placed on us. The things we're allowed to talk about and the things we're taught to keep quiet. We don't stop to question any of it because it's all we've ever known. It's usually not until adulthood that we begin to notice the weight of what we've inherited. Maybe it shows up in our relationships. Maybe it shows up in how we parent. Maybe it appears in the way we handle conflict, avoid difficult conversations, struggle to set boundaries, or feel guilty for prioritizing ourselves. Suddenly, we're faced with the realization that some of the habits, beliefs, and behaviors we've carried into adulthood didn't actually start with us. They were passed down. That realization can be uncomfortable because many of us love our families deeply. We don't want to feel like we're criticizing the people who raised us. We don't want to sound ungrateful. But I think there's a difference between blaming our families and honestly acknowledging the ways they shaped us.
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Building Healthy Relationships: Six Essential Pillars
4w ago01:02:50Tap to summarizeThe Foundation of a Healthy Relationship Relationships are hard. And I don't say that negatively, I say it honestly. I think social media has made relationships look polished, effortless, romantic, and perfectly put together all the time. But after being with my partner for 28 years, I can confidently say that healthy relationships are built through work, growth, grace, communication, and a whole lot of learning. That's what inspired this conversation on Sherley's Show. I wanted to talk openly about what truly creates the foundation of a healthy relationship, not just from a romantic perspective, but through friendships, family relationships, and even work relationships too.
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Dating in 2025: My Honest Thoughts on Modern Relationships
May 1200:55:08Tap to summarizeDating in 2025 honestly feels overwhelming. Everywhere you look, social media is telling people what relationships should look like, what a "real man" should provide, what a "soft life" is supposed to be, and what women or men should expect financially before a relationship even begins. As someone who has been in a relationship for 28 years, I know our generation dated very differently. We didn't grow up with Instagram, TikTok, or relationship podcasts constantly influencing how we viewed love. So while I may not personally know what it feels like to date in 2025, I do know what it takes to maintain a long-term relationship through real life, hard seasons, growth, sacrifice, and change. And honestly? Some of the messages being pushed online today concern me.
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The Pain of Déjà Vu (Part Two): Healing While You're Still Deciding
Apr 2801:20:12Tap to summarizeThere's a certain kind of exhaustion that comes not from the first heartbreak, but from the one that feels familiar. The kind where you don't just feel pain… you recognize it. When we left off, the conversation was still raw. The emotions were still fresh. But something subtle had shifted in the weeks that followed. Not clarity, not resolution, but a different kind of awareness. Because when you're standing in the middle of a relationship you're not sure you're staying in or leaving, the question becomes less about what's next and more about who you are becoming while you're here.
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When It Happens Again: The Quiet Reality of Repeated Infidelity
Apr 1401:08:18Tap to summarizeThere are certain conversations that don't come easily. Not because we don't have the words, but because the words carry weight. This is one of those conversations. Infidelity is something that often gets reduced to a single moment, a mistake, a betrayal, a line crossed. But what we don't talk about enough is what happens when it isn't just once. What happens when it becomes a pattern? When forgiveness has already been given. When the work has already been done. And yet, somehow, you find yourself right back in the same place. "This is the third time." There's something about that sentence that changes everything. The first time, you can call it a mistake. You can wrap it in grace, in newness, in the belief that people are still figuring things out. The second time, it becomes something to fix. You lean into therapy, into communication, into the hope that if you just work hard enough, love intentionally enough, you can rebuild what was broken.
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When Love Doesn't Share Your Last Name
Mar 3100:58:25Tap to summarizeThe Risk Beneath the Role Raising a child you didn't create requires a quiet kind of courage. You're choosing to show up consistently, emotionally, physically, sometimes financially, without the built-in certainty that biology tends to provide. There's no guarantee of how you'll be seen or remembered. And there may come a moment, especially in the teenage years, where that child reminds you, "you're not my parent." That moment can sting, not because it's untrue, but because of everything you've given leading up to it. But pain doesn't equal pathology. Feeling hurt in a vulnerable role doesn't make someone irrational, it makes them invested. The mistake is labeling that emotional risk as something broken, rather than recognizing it as part of the complexity of human relationships.
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How to Disagree Without Cutting People Off
Mar 1700:58:15Tap to summarizeCancel culture, boundaries, and healthy conflict Disagreement is a natural and unavoidable part of any relationship. Whether in friendships, dating, family, or even the workplace, differing opinions are bound to arise. However, in today's culture, disagreement often leads to something more immediate. What's commonly referred to as cancel culture has expanded beyond public figures and into everyday life. It shows up in subtle but impactful ways: ghosting instead of communicating, blocking instead of resolving, and cutting people off without offering clarity. This shift raises an important question: When is distance a healthy boundary, and when is it simply avoidance?
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How to Make a Relationship Last Long-Term
Mar 300:49:09Tap to summarizeSix core pillars, real-life lessons, and the habits that build longevity Long-term relationships aren't sustained by luck or constant "good vibes." They last because two people choose to keep building, through growth, setbacks, and seasons that test the connection. In this episode of Sherley's Show, Sherley and Kalief reflect on what has helped them maintain a relationship approaching three decades, including the hard lessons learned through real challenges. Be a guest: https://sherleysshow.com/listeners
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Friendships, Check-Ins, and Knowing What You Actually Need
Feb 1700:54:39Tap to summarizeSome people talk to their friends every single day. Some people go months without checking in and then pick up like nothing happened. And honestly? Both can be healthy, as long as everyone's on the same page. In this episode, Kira and I sat down to talk about friendships: what we expect, what we don't, what we've learned, and why "being a good friend" doesn't always look like constant communication.
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10 Questions, 28 Years, and Still Choosing Each Other
Feb 301:04:20Tap to summarizeThis episode was different. Instead of a "topic," Kalief and I sat down and asked each other real questions, about love, mistakes, growth, and where we're headed next. No script. No filters. Just honesty. And somewhere between the jokes, side comments, and laughs, we were reminded why we're still here after 28 years. Our Biggest Strength One thing we both agreed on: We stand together. Even when we're frustrated. Even when we disagree. Even when we don't like each other in the moment. We've always had each other's backs. That loyalty has carried us through hard seasons, broken trust, growth, and healing.
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