The Grief No One Talks About in Trauma-Informed Parenting

Sometimes the hardest part of parenting isn’t your child’s behavior, it’s the grief that rises up inside you. The grief of not getting what you needed. The grief of still healing while you’re trying to parent intentionally. In this episode, we talk about the quiet, complicated grief that can come with parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system when you have your own history of trauma.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The core griefs that often emerge when you’re parenting with your own trauma history
Why noticing intergenerational patterns can stir shame
How to be with your grief using self-compassion and a gentle “touch in, touch out” approach

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Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/grieftraumahistory

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