Screens. Sugar. Anything that feels really good. The advice to just "lower the demand" can fall really short because for some kids, more access brings real relief. But for others, more access actually causes more stress and we wind up asking kids to take on a responsibility that is beyond their developmental capacity.

This episode digs into what's actually generating the stress underneath the behavior, and what it looks like when a kid needs to be held steady instead of shifting our expectations.

In this episode you will learn:

Why high-reward things like screens carry their own built-in stress, and how that changes the question of whether to give more access or less
What it looks like when a kid needs the burden of managing something taken off their shoulders entirely
How to tell if a boundary is actually working: not whether your kid protests, but which direction things are trending over time

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Resources mentioned in this podcast:

Enabling vs. Low-Demand Parenting → RobynGobbel.com/enabling
Exploring Low Demand Parenting → RobynGobbel.com/lowdemand
Stress Response System → RobynGobbel.com/stressresponse

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/morestress

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