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The Self-Healing School Podcast
Hosted by Essence Turner · EN
Welcome to The Self-Healing School Podcast. I’m Essence Turner, your divine feminine guide. Through goddess wisdom, and somatics, I help you calm your nervous system, love yourself and reconnect with your body.
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She got married because I showed up. Now it's your turn.
3w ago00:03:12Tap to summarizeLately, I've been thinking about visibility differently, especially for highly sensitive, soul-led women.For a long time, I measured visibility the way most entrepreneurs do.Did the post perform?Did someone book a call?Did it make money?But I think there’s another way to measure it.Through Impact.Years ago, a woman I’ll call J joined one of my New Moon masterclasses about calling in love.After that class, she emailed me and talked back and forth for about a month. She would tell me about how she’s tired of being single and she’s ready to find real love, and stop dating the guy who wasn’t serious. I told her how Radical Forgiveness healed my father wounds and I attracted love.And she signed up for a healing package.Through our work together, she healed a wound she had been carrying around regarding her relationship with her father.After we cleared the energy…She created a love list.She began calling in the relationship she truly wanted.A few months later, she emailed me to say she was married.She said he’s the man she always asked the universe for.She told me that she knew this was only possible because of the work that we did.At first I was in shock!! Then I was smiling about all of this for like a month.And every now and then I stop and think about something.What if I had stayed hidden and never hosted that class?What if I had convinced myself nobody was going to show up?What if I had waited until I felt confident enough?J’s story reminds me that visibility isn’t really about content.It’s about connection.It’s about allowing the people you’re meant to help to find you.And every time a highly sensitive woman or soul-led entrepreneur hides her voice, keeps her stories to herself, or talks herself out of sharing...I wonder whose life never gets touched because of it.Maybe that’s something to think about today.Much loveEssenceP.S.If you’re ready to share your voice and work with the world so that you can change the lives you’re here to change, reply to this email. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.theselfhealingschool.com
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Women Were Never Meant to Live This Disconnected
May 1500:06:57Tap to summarize“I feel like a stranger in my own skin, disconnected from my thoughts and emotions. I don’t know what I want or where I’m going.”When I read that, it made my heart ache a little because I know that feeling.Before I started my healing journey, my relationship with myself and my body wasn’t great. I felt uncomfortable in my own skin.And honestly, it’s one of the reasons why I started drinking at such a young age.I was at a party and I didn’t feel like I belonged, and the drinking helped me escape. And even if it was fake and it wasn’t real, I felt like I fit in.I’m sure I’ve told you before that I felt so damaged that when I started making jewelry years ago, I literally created a collection called Damaged Goods because that’s how I saw myself.Disconnected and out of place.Like everyone else got the handbook for living and being human, but God skipped over me.Women Are Living With This Pain Every DayAnd what made me feel emotional wasn’t just remembering my own pain.A lot of it is knowing how many women are still living with this pain today.There are so many women who feel disconnected from themselves, and they don’t feel safe in their bodies. The one thing that’s truly ours, truly yours, and you don’t feel safe in it.So many women have become strangers to themselves without even realizing it.And for us, it starts at such a young age. We carry it into adulthood.Then we numb out, scroll, stay busy, consume every podcast, overthink, drink, all to avoid things getting quiet.When Things Get QuietBecause when you’re alone, and there’s no noise, you can feel the disconnection and loneliness.And when you live with that long enough, it starts to feel permanent, like it’s never going to change.Like it’s just who you are and you’ll always feel disconnected so another 3 years pass and you still haven’t started the business, which means another 3 years of doubting yourself, and watching other people live their purpose while telling yourself “maybe someday.”Like you don’t fit in with the world or even with yourself, and you never fully relax around other people because part of you is always performing, and shape-shifting, trying to avoid rejection.Like you’re always just on the outside looking in, trying to figure out how to get in, but staying on the sidelines just reinforces the belief that you don’t belong and you’re not worthy enough to fully go after what you want.But I Need You to Know SomethingYou are not damaged, and there’s nothing wrong with you.You are worthy and you belong.It may not feel like that because your body has learned to protect you, and disconnection is one of the ways it’s been doing so.The Three Protective PatternsOver the past few months, I’ve started noticing three protective patterns women tend to fall into when they no longer feel safe being fully connected to themselves and their bodies.I call them: ~The Stranger. ~The Intellectual. ~The Performer.I created a short Archetype Quiz to help you discover which protective pattern your body may be living in right now.You can take it here. No sign-up necessary.You’ll get a brief snapshot of your archetype.Then if you reply back to this email with your archetype, I’ll send you the full, deeper breakdown of:* why this pattern formed* what your body has been trying to protect you from* and what it actually needs to finally feel safe enough to reconnect to yourself againBecause this work is my real work in the world.Helping women come home to themselves again because when a woman feels truly connected to herself again, she starts actually moving toward the life, purpose, relationships, and work she knows she is here for. Much love,Essence This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.theselfhealingschool.com
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I used to feel like a stranger to myself
May 1400:05:29Tap to summarizeWhat calling have you been sleeping on?I really want you to sit with that question for a second.What do you know in your heart you are meant to do, create, say, share, or become… but you keep letting fear, overthinking, distractions, excuses, or self-doubt stop you from fully stepping into it?Because I feel like I have finally gotten to the place where I’m letting myself fully do what I know in my heart I’m here to do and I want that for you too.The work I’m really here to doFor a long time, I’ve worked with women around forgiveness, relationships, visibility fears, healing what comes up in business and marketing, and all of that work matters to me. I love it.But my deeper calling is…Helping women love themselves and feel safe in their bodies again.Helping women stop living almost entirely from the mind and start building a deeper relationship with themselves through the body.And through learning how to actually be with themselves again.The StrangerWhen you come home to your body and to yourself, you can take action toward your purpose with so much more ease instead of fighting against yourself.And I know “coming home to yourself” gets said a lot now, but honestly… that really is the work.Because so many women are strangers to themselves.A lot of women treat themselves the way they treat the neighbor three doors down.You know they’re there, but you barely really connect with them.You hope you don’t accidentally run into them while taking the garbage out because then you’ll have to stop and talk.But you’d rather keep your distance.And that is how so many women live with themselves…distantBarely checking in, rarely listening, won’t sit with themselves long enough to really feel what’s there.Always in their heads or staying busy.And I’m here to change that!I understand why women are strangers to themselves.Because for a lot of women, the body does not feel safe to be in.It’s holding heartbreak, shame, fear, and old pain.So being fully present with yourself can feel like too much sometimes.I get that because I was there too.I didn’t like myself.I’d purposely get up and walk into the bathroom, look in the mirror and say the meanest things to myself.I also used to drink to avoid my feelings and the heaviness in my heart.But drinking daily wasn’t just drowning out my feelings, it was drowning out my soul’s calling as well.It’s hard to hear your intuition when you’re numbing, running away and avoiding yourself.Learning how to stayIt took work but I learned how to stay with myself no matter what.How to love myself even with dark circles, patchy skin, anger, moodiness, tenderness, peace, the full range of emotions that come to visit me.I quit running to alcohol when things felt heavy or I made a mistake that I wanted to forget about.I stopped making myself wrong for being fully human.And that’s changed my life.This journey, the good and the bad led me to my purpose.That is my magic.Helping women stop hiding and being strangers to themselves.Helping women trust their bodies and intuition again.And trust the feminine wisdom inside of them that has been trying to guide them to their purpose the whole time.So I’ll ask you againWhat calling have you been sleeping on?What are you here to do & how’s the journey going?Reply and share, I want to hear from you.Much love,Essence This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.theselfhealingschool.com
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Making more money felt unsafe to my body...here's why
May 1100:13:24Tap to summarizePodcast Show NotesFor years, I chose the quieter role.The safer role.The lower-paying role.Not because I wasn’t capable… but because deep down, my body did not feel safe being fully seen.In this episode, I share a personal story about how nervous system regulation, somatic work, and self-trust completely changed the way I move through leadership, visibility, money, and uncertainty.I talk about: Why anxious thinking can quietly keep you playing small How fear of judgment impacts opportunities and income The hidden connection between self-trust and the body What shifted after years of somatic healing and Kundalini training The moment I realized I no longer needed to know everything to feel safe in leadership Why nervous system safety matters more than “confidence” How becoming anchored in yourself changes the way you handle uncertaintyThis episode is for anyone who knows they’re capable of more… but feels themselves shrinking, hesitating, overthinking, or avoiding visibility when bigger opportunities appear.Because often, it’s not a lack of intelligence, talent, or potential.It’s a lack of safety in the body around being seen, imperfect, challenged, or uncertain.And when that begins to change, your entire life can change with it.Key Takeaways Your anxious thoughts may be costing you opportunities you’re fully capable of handling. Self-trust is built through learning how to stay connected to yourself during uncertainty. Fear around money and visibility is often fear of how you’ll feel about yourself if something goes wrong. Nervous system regulation changes how you experience leadership, pressure, and responsibility. You do not need to know everything to be capable, respected, or worthy of taking up space. There is a version of you that can hold more more money, visibility, leadership, and responsibility when your body feels safe enough to receive it. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.theselfhealingschool.com
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Spring Attunement Self-Healing Sunday
Apr 2600:33:13Tap to summarizeThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.theselfhealingschool.com
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Spring Attunement Live (Self-Healing Sunday)
Mar 2900:55:03Tap to summarizeThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.theselfhealingschool.com
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Live with Essence Turner 5 Minute Energy Reset
Mar 2700:12:13Tap to summarizeThis is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.theselfhealingschool.com
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DO THIS When Your Body Needs Calming | Self-Healing Sunday
Mar 1500:08:02Tap to summarizeHappy Self-Healing Sunday.Today’s PracticeToday’s practice is a short video that will help you move some emotional energy out of your body. your body.Before you press play, I want to share why practices like this matter so much.When You’re Carrying A LotA lot of people try to heal by sitting quietly with their emotions.Meditation. Journaling. Just being with what they feel.And those things can be really beautiful.But if your body has been holding heavy emotional energy for years… sometimes just sitting there with it can feel like too much.There might be 20 or 30 years of sadness. Disappointment. Stress. Old hurt.That’s a lot for one body to hold.So if you’ve ever tried to slow down and immediately felt restless… or uncomfortable… or like you needed to distract yourself…There’s nothing wrong with you.Sometimes there’s just a lot there.Why Moving Energy HelpsOne thing I’ve learned over time is that healing isn’t always about sitting there and holding everything.Sometimes the body needs help releasing what it’s been carrying.When emotional energy starts to move, something shifts.Your body softens a little.Your breath gets deeper.And suddenly it feels easier to be present with yourself instead of feeling like you have to escape what you’re feeling.The Long-Term ShiftThe more you practice releasing what your body has been holding, the easier it becomes to actually be in your body.Your emotions don’t feel as overwhelming.There’s more space inside you.And it becomes easier to sit with yourself without feeling like you need to numb out or run away from what’s coming up.That’s the idea behind today’s Self-Healing Sunday practice.It’s simple. Gentle. Just a way to help your body start letting go of some of what it’s been holding.You can watch the video and follow along.And if you feel like someone in your life might need this today, feel free to share it with them.Take care of yourself today.Much Love,EssenceReady to release & reset your body? Click Here This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.theselfhealingschool.com
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Are You a Lightworker (Even If You Don’t Call Yourself One)?
Dec 1000:05:54Tap to summarizeSometimes when I tune into my soul and ask, “Who am I meant to help?”I hear the same phrase over and over:“Boots on the ground.”And the vision I always get is this map of the world lit up with little lights, not with gurus, just women who are carrying something sacred inside them.Women who don’t always identify with the word lightworker, but are one… quietly, naturally, without even trying.And maybe that’s you.I loved the title Lightworker long before I ever felt like one.When I first found spirituality, I was drawn to the word immediately.But the truth?My own inner light felt dim, like barely a flicker.I heard that raising my vibration would help, so I joined a Meetup group called Raise Your Vibration.Every week, we did energy practices, meditated, and learned intuitive exercises.And I met the most soulful people who weren’t coaches and healers (yet) but knew they were meant to bring the light.Is that you?Here are 9 Signs You Might Be a Lightworker1. You feel other people’s emotions deeply.2. You have intuitive hits, knowing, or psychic insights.3. You carry a natural wisdom that guides your decisions.4. You care about peace, unity, and harmony.5. You feel connected to nature & animals and want to protect them.6. You’re committed to personal and spiritual growth.7. You’re drawn to helping roles: teaching, healing, creating, counseling.8. You feel a sense of higher purpose, like you’re here “for something more.”9. The word lightworker feels familiar, comforting, or true… even if you don’t fully claim it.And if you recognized yourself in even a few of these…You don’t need a certification to “become” a lightworker.Because lightwork isn’t a job title…it’s a way of being.It’s asking yourself…How can I be the light at work or in my relationship?How can I be the light in this comment section? How can I be the light when I show up for my business, my art, my videos, my clients?Most of us are already doing these things…just sometimes with a dimmer switch on.Sometimes our light begins to peter out because life starts life’ing, stress, trauma, and we unknowingly slip into survival mode.I’ve found myself there a few times this year and one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is simply to check in:Where is my light right now?Am I tending to it?Am I letting it shine in this moment?Awareness is the first spark.And from that spark… everything else grows.I’m not here to make you identify as a lightworker, even though we both know that you are…I’m just going to leave you with one question…What would be different if you embraced that you’re here to be a light in this world and that a big part of your life’s purpose was to shine brightly for yourself and others?And if you feel called to share the answer, I’d love to hear from you.TTYL,EssenceFeminine Energy Healer This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.theselfhealingschool.com
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How To Calmly Say What You're Angry About-Podcast
Nov 1400:06:46Tap to summarizePodcast Description:Why do your words keep bouncing off invisible walls? In this raw and practical episode, Essence reveals the truth about anger, communication, and why your heartfelt messages aren’t landing even when you’re saying all the right things. Learn why delivering your message while angry creates shields instead of connection, and discover the courageous practice of sitting with the hurt underneath your rage. Through personal insight and grounding wisdom, Essence teaches you how to find your still point so your truth can finally be heard. This episode offers a simple but profound shift: wait until the fire settles, let your body breathe, then speak from your rooted center. If you’ve been stuck in the same arguments for months or struggle with being heard in your relationships, this is the feminine healing work that changes everything.Transcript:Here’s your Goddess Wisdom for todayYou can be angry for months and still convey your message calmly.And here’s the thing, I’m not gonna make you read through 1,000 words before I tell you how to do it.It’s simple.Deliver your message when you’re calm.That’s it. That’s the part most people skip.The reason so many women struggle with getting their message across and being heard is because they try to do it while they’re angry.And I get it, that’s when it’s easiest. When you’re heated, it gives you courage and energy, that’s why those strong words just shoot out like a rocket.You can finally say all the things you’ve been holding in for months.But that anger… anger’s fiery.And when you get too close to fire, what do you do?You shield yourself.So when you come at your partner in anger, an invisible wall goes up around them.You could be saying the most heartfelt things, trying to explain how hurt or unseen you’ve felt but it’s not landing. It’s just bouncing off that wall, fading into space.They might nod or even say “yeah, you’re right, I feel you” but a month later, you’ll be right back in that same argument.Here’s the hard truth: once the fire fades, it takes real courage to sit with what’s underneath the anger, to feel the hurt and breathe it through it, and then speak only once you’ve found your peace again.It’s hard because your ego wants to avoid the hurt and vulnerability and instead to just let the chaos rip.But on this feminine healing path, your ego is not in control; your soul is.And that’s the work.One thing I help my clients do is learn how to create that calm within themselves.Through movement, breathwork, and grounding practices. They learn how to find their still point.Because when you’re calm, you’re rooted.You’re safe in yourself.So even if your partner doesn’t respond the way you hope, you stay steady.Remember, your anger isn’t wrong. It’s not bad.It’s a messenger usually whispering something like…I’m not being heard. I’m not being respected. Something’s not right.But that doesn’t mean you have to deliver the message when it’s burning inside of you.Because if you want your message to land, wait until the fire settles.Let it cool.Let your body breathe.Let your heart open.Then speak.That’s when your truth gets heard.Much love,EssenceP.S.This is the kind of work we do inside The Self-Healing School.You’ll learn how to slow down enough to hear what your body’s trying to tell you — how to move, breathe, and ground yourself so your truth can be delivered through calm energy instead of chaos.You can take the first step by visiting the Start Here tab and taking The Goddess Quiz.It’ll show you which feminine energy is guiding your healing right now, and in the workbook, you’ll get goddess wisdom and a grounding practice to help you start feeling rooted today. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.theselfhealingschool.com
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