U Up? – "Halloween Reveals Your True Relationship Status"
Date: October 29, 2025
Hosts: Jordana Abraham & Jared Freid
Podcast: U Up? by Betches Media
Episode Overview
In this lively and candid episode, Jordana and Jared dive headfirst into Halloween’s role as a revealing point in modern dating. Interweaving a mix of personal news, listener dilemmas, and pop culture discussions, they focus on how the holiday exposes the reality of relationships—whether you're paired up, still situationship-ing, or flying solo. Listeners are also treated to major life updates and plenty of Halloween-centric laughs, advice, and a revealing look at what costumes, parties, and social media say about our romantic lives.
Jordana’s Big Announcement: "Twiblings"
[05:39 – 14:15]
- Jordana announces she's expecting two daughters this winter—one via her own pregnancy and the other through a surrogate, both due days apart.
- Jared jokes: "I shed a tear when you told me. Very cool." [06:58]
- The term "twiblings" (twin + sibling) is discussed and (gently) ridiculed—Jared isn't a fan, noting, "Twiblings sounds like nibbling and no man can say twiblings." [09:25]
- Jordana explains the unique circumstances: she's roughly six months pregnant; her other daughter will arrive via surrogate; the babies will be 12 days apart.
- Conversation reflects on the practicalities and emotional side of the news, chatting about room sharing, reading parenting books, and the "miracle" of modern family-making.
- Memorable moment: Jared riffs about keeping the secret: "Your pregnancy has been the hardest times of my life." [13:45]
The Hallway Test & Relationship Labels
[01:12 – 05:28]
- Fun banter about how you define friendship—the “hallway test”: Would you say hi if you passed in a hallway?
- Jared’s dad’s test: "If you were walking by each other in a hallway, would you say hello?" [02:45]
- They unpack social cues and what it means to say a relationship is "okay" versus “very good."
- Jared quips: “‘I’m okay’ sounds like you’re not okay.” [01:52]
Halloween: The Relationship Reveal Holiday
[17:05 – 22:02]
- With Halloween falling on a Friday, they compare its significance to Valentine's Day—hinting it’s a pressure point that exposes what you are to each other.
- Jared proclaims: "Halloween is when you find out if you're dating someone or you're just someone." [17:45]
- Halloween plans—or lack thereof—clarify relationship status: are you spending the holiday together or are you “situationships” at midnight?
- If you aren’t together on Halloween, especially this year, “your relationship turns into a pumpkin.” [18:18]
- Discussion about the subtleties of Halloween invites and what they reveal about interest and commitment, especially in new relationships.
Listener Email: Is It Too Soon for a Halloween Party Invite?
[30:46 – 36:56]
- A listener (27F) asks whether it's too soon to invite a guy (28M, dating for three weeks/four dates) to a Halloween party—also, is suggesting a couple's costume overkill?
- Both agree: There’s no such thing as too soon for a party invite if you like someone.
- Jared’s take: "Never too early to invite someone you like to a party." [31:29]
- Jordana: "Even one date... I think you went on a great date; what are you doing? I'm going to this party, want to come by?" [32:18]
- They draw the line at couple's costumes—these are for established couples (you need to have “met a parent” first!).
- Opens up about “Main Street dating” vs. “back alley dating”: Your relationship’s public moments (inviting to a friend’s party) are a key marker of serious interest.
Halloween-Themed Red Flag or Deal Breaker
[64:22 onward]
A lightning round featuring hilarious and real Halloween dating dilemmas:
- Creepy Medusa Costume Ghosting: A woman goes all out on a creepy Medusa costume, guy ghosts after, saying it reminded him of his ex.
- Verdict: Not a deal breaker, just a mismatch—“One woman's ick is another woman's husband.” [67:33]
- Couple’s Costume... with her Cat: Guy stings a bit when girlfriend plans couple’s costumes with her cat, not him, for the third year in a row.
- Jared: “I do understand where he’s like, am I not in this family?” [68:54]
- Solution: Insert yourself! “If they’re two monkeys, you’re a banana.” [69:06]
- Both agree: After three years, not including him is a red flag.
- Montana Murder Ranch: Date is invited to boyfriend’s family’s luxury ranch, but everyone must sign a death-waiver (rattlesnakes, ATVs, mountain lions, etc.)
- Jared notes: “We have the money, so you do whatever we say. If you want to be playing in our playground, sign this paper and shut up.” [77:30]
- Both would sign, but agree the real issue is the family’s attitude and lack of transparency.
Pop Culture: Kristen Bell & Dax Shepard’s “Creepy” Anniversary Post
[39:44 – 46:29]
- Discuss Kristen Bell’s IG anniversary post, joking, “I would never kill you. A lot of men have killed their wives... I never would.”
- Are ‘dark joke’ couple posts cute or creepy?
- Both fall on the side of “cute"; it’s about knowing your audience and the intention behind a joke.
- Jordana reflects: “Mike and I joke about murdering each other all the time.” [43:11]
- Jared: “Creepy or not, I’d need to already hate the couple for this to bother me.” [43:57]
- Social media relationship posts: Longer, more performative captions (“highs and lows,” etc.) are a red flag; simple or funny feels most genuine.
- “If you say ‘another year around the sun,’ get me away from that couple.” [45:31]
Relationship & Sex Advice: Sex Slump After Moving In
[53:54 – 62:45]
Listener email: After moving in (eight months, ring shopping!), sex has gone from daily to twice a week—she’s worried.
- Both note: 2x/week is not “nonexistent.”
- Jared: “You went from every night to twice a week… that’s not that crazy.” [59:12]
- The new normal (living together, dealing with a pregnancy scare, using condoms, etc.) chips away at the spontaneous excitement.
- Jordana: “Stability is beautiful, but it’s not that sexy.” [58:38]
- Emphasizes the importance of honest conversation. Jared suggests a “Three-Note Dinner”:
- One thing you like about your sex life
- One thing you’d improve
- One thing you’ve dreamt about
- Exchange notes over courses—keeps it light, playful, and productive. [61:11]
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
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On Halloween’s Revelation Power:
"If you're not with your person at midnight on Halloween, your relationship has turned into a situationship. The Cinderella carriage of your relationship turns into a pumpkin." — Jared, [18:18] -
On New Relationship Milestones:
"Never too early to invite someone you like to a party." — Jared, [31:29] -
On Couple's Costumes:
"You gotta know a parent to go couples costume." — Jared, [33:49] -
On Social Media Anniversaries:
"If you say highs and lows, I’m just like, thank God I’m not in that relationship." — Jared, [45:31] -
On Intimacy:
"Stability is beautiful, but it’s not that sexy." — Jordana, [58:38]
Timestamps for Key Segments
- 00:00 – 01:12: Banter, intro to episode (skip ad)
- 01:12 – 05:28: Hallway test & relationship labeling
- 05:39 – 14:15: Jordana's big baby announcement
- 17:05 – 22:02: Halloween’s role in relationships
- 30:46 – 36:56: Listener: Should I invite my date to a Halloween party?
- 39:44 – 46:29: Kristen Bell’s anniversary post, social media relationship optics
- 53:54 – 62:45: Sex and relationship intensity after moving in
- 64:22 onward: Halloween Red Flag/Deal Breaker lightning round
Tone and Style
The episode is witty, direct, a little irreverent, but grounded in honest emotional insight—the classic U Up? mix:
- Playful banter rooted in real experience
- Candid takes on modern dating rituals
- Acknowledgment of both the silly and the serious
- Plenty of pop-cultural and personal references
Final Thoughts
The episode blends Halloween fun with sharp insights into how significant “third-party” events (holidays, social media, parties) can provide clarity—or chaos—in dating. From the pressure of party invites to the nuances of couple’s costumes, listeners leave with reassuring, no-nonsense guidance, a few laugh-out-loud moments, and permission to keep things real—on Main Street, not the back alley.
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