Podcast Summary: U Up? — “Jennifer Lawrence’s Secret TikTok a Red Flag?”

Podcast: U Up? by Betches Media
Hosts: Jordana Abraham & Jared Freid
Date: November 19, 2025
Episode Theme:
This episode dives into the quirks and controversies of modern dating etiquette—ranging from the significance of certain text messages, to the psychology behind dating app behaviors, and the implications of running into your twin’s exes on dating apps. The episode’s titular question focuses on whether Jennifer Lawrence’s alleged secret, feisty TikTok account would be a red flag in a relationship, but the hosts also cover first-date etiquette, deal breakers, and crowd-sourced debates about texting after dates.

Main Discussion Topics & Key Insights

1. Mood Boosts & Travel Streaks

• Jared’s Positive Streak: Jared opens up about being in unusually good spirits, citing successful stand-up shows, family connections, and a recent lucky streak with air travel—no delays even during travel crises.
  • “I don't know how I'm missing all of these, like, daggers they thrown at people traveling.” (04:05, Jared)
• He shares travel tips like always taking the first flight of the day to avoid delays (07:51).
• Jared announces he’s a “Florida Man” again, now a homeowner in Delray Beach (06:09).

2. Poll: The “Did You Get Home Safe?” Text Debate

• Key Discussion: Should you text someone after a date to ask if they got home safe? Is it an act of kindness, or an unnecessary/misleading signal if you don’t want to see them again?
  • Jordana positions: Only if you want another date.
  • Jared positions: It’s gentlemanly regardless; more about self-conduct.
• Poll Results (from @u.up.podcast):
  • 28%: Yes, gentlemanly either way (Jared)
  • 56%: Only if you’re going to ask me out again (Jordana)
  • 16%: Don’t care either way (12:05)
• Notable Quotes:
  • "If you're not going to ask me out again, I don't want to hear from you." (11:56, Jordana)
  • “I send ‘hope you got home okay’ after every date... I’m doing it for me.” (13:35, Jared)
  • “Don't lead me on with your get home safe text. That’s for you to feel good about.” (16:40, Jordana)
• Conclusion:
  • Signals can get misinterpreted; best to match your vibe to your intentions in communication.

3. Red Flag or Deal Breaker: Jennifer Lawrence’s Secret TikTok

• Context: News claims Jennifer Lawrence has a secret TikTok where she fights with people anonymously.
• The Hosts’ Takes:
  • Jared: Finds it funny and likes the “fire/sass,” but cautions public figures eventually get exposed. Would advise against it but understands the temptation. (21:52)
  • Jordana: Outcome depends on her behavior—if she’s defending herself from trolls, it’s fine; if she’s bullying randoms, “maybe you have a psychological disorder.” (24:14)
• Memorable Analogy:
  • “This is like the modern-day version of when the princess disguises herself and leaves the castle walls.” (24:51, Jordana)
• Deal-Breaker Threshold:
  • Banter/funniness = okay, but meanness for its own sake is a red flag.

4. Red Flag or Deal Breaker Game Highlights

• Changing Dating App Photos to Show Baldness and Constant Location Changes
  • Listener emails about a guy who edits his profile to show himself as bald, changes location to random cities.
  • Jordana theorizes he’s A/B testing looks in various markets.
  • Jared lists possible (comedic and serious) explanations, from confidence building to deception.
  • Consensus: Testing new looks is quirky; constant location changes are weirder/more concerning (55:16).
• Joins Every Class Action Lawsuit
  • Listener writes in about a husband who joins all class-action lawsuits (including Bumble, where they met).
  • Jordana: Only weird if it’s an excessive amount of effort.
  • Jared: Finds it a green flag if it’s a quirky, tenacious hobby; rates laziness in this as worse than effort. (61:06)
  • Both note it adds “peculiarity” and small adventures to life.

5. Difficult Dating Scenarios & Money Talks

• Splitting Wedding Gifts When Attending as a Couple:
  • Listener wonders if her boyfriend should split the wedding gift for her cousin’s wedding that they’re both attending.
  • Hosts advise: She can (and should) cover the gift, since it’s her relative, but this is a great low-stakes “ten-cent” conversation to practice discussing finances in the relationship (40:07).
  • Notable quote: “The foundation of every good and romantic relationship is an unspoken adherence to unromantic fundamentals.” (42:16, quoting "The Baby")
• Dating App Match Has Previously Hooked Up with Her Identical Twin:
  • Listener finds out the guy she’s dating previously hooked up several times with her twin.
  • Both Jordana and Jared say they’d be too weirded out to continue but break down the complexities from both sides and stress how awkward such overlaps are (69:04).

6. First-Date Etiquette: Drinks Splitting

• Listener’s Situation:
  • Matches with a guy visiting from the countryside; he invites her for drinks before a show, doesn’t plan, lets her pick the bar, then sits back and waits for her to suggest splitting the bill.
  • He then claims, “I don’t usually split the bill,” but pitches seeing her again in the countryside (77:03).
• Host Reactions:
  • Jordana: Total deal breaker—lack of effort, planning, and initiative is unattractive (78:15).
  • Jared: The attempt to “absolve” himself after the fact is the real negative; if you split the bill, own it (79:14).
• Notable Quotes:
  • “If you opt to split the tab, you are a split-the-tab person, and that’s who you are.” (79:59, Jared)
  • “It just seems a little too convenient for him... you’re being fit into a calendar.” (78:29, Jordana)

Memorable Moments & Quotes

• “I'm gonna get my dick sucked for giving you my jacket.” (12:57, Jared—satirical illustration of how romantic gestures can be self-serving)
• “What are you, the perfect woman?” (27:06, Jared—on someone with a high-powered career who also runs a fart meme account)
• “He’s found that women with bald fetishes are the best in bed.” (53:47, Jared, tongue-in-cheek speculation)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Travel Streak & Mood: 01:20–08:50
• Did You Get Home Safe? Text Debate: 10:38–20:24
• Jennifer Lawrence's Secret TikTok: 21:25–26:50
• Bald Profile Pic/Location on Hinge: 46:42–57:03
• Wedding Gift Splitting Discussion: 35:00–43:00
• Class Action Lawsuit Red Flag: 59:45–66:21
• Dealbreaker: Twin Ex-Hookup: 67:07–75:20
• London Date Splitting Drinks: 75:23–81:14

Tone and Style

The tone is sharp, candid, and highly comedic, sprinkled with personal anecdotes and plenty of playful ribbing between the hosts. They trade off jaded, practical advice with tongue-in-cheek, satirical speculation—never shying from dissecting male-female dating miscommunications or calling out weird behaviors on dating apps. The episode feels like a lively, honest group chat among savvy daters.

For Listeners Who Missed the Episode:

This episode provides insightful, often hilarious commentary on:

• The meaning and impact of “nice” (but potentially misleading) post-date texts
• Dating app photo/behavior “red flags” (including new-skul AI photo edits)
• When a quirky or “cheap” habit is just part of someone’s flavor (or not)
• Why first-date etiquette (planning, paying) still matters in 2025
• How to navigate money convos as a couple before the stakes are high

Whether you’re a seasoned dater or new to the apps, the hosts balance warmth, humor, and hard truths—making this episode an illustrative crash course in modern dating dilemmas.