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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
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Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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Introducing ‘It’s Rom-Complicated!’ How to Find Love by Watching Rom-Com Movies (Seriously!) Episode 1: ‘Groundhog Day’
Feb 3, 202501:08:14Summary readyWhat if watching so-called “chick flicks” could make you a chick magnet and bring romance into your real life? It may sound far-fetched, but dating coach Connell Barrett has learned a lot about finding love—what works and what doesn’t—from rom-com movies. Introducing “It’s Rom-Complicated,” a new series that reveals the dating wisdom hidden in Hollywood’s most beloved comedies. In the first episode, Connell and his special guest—his charming, witty girlfriend Jessamin—analyze “Groundhog Day,” the 1993 time-loop comedy starring Bill Murray and Andie MacDowell.Episode Highlights:4:05: What’s the One Day from Your Life You Would Relive Again and Again?10:45 How ‘Groundhog Day’ Helped Connell Escape His Own Dating Time Loop17:15: The Rom-Commie Awards: The Best and Worst Dating Moves in ‘Groundhog Day’19:46: Why Arrogant Men like Phil Connors (Bill Murray) Make Women Cringe26:17: The Best Dating Move You Should Absolutely Steal from Phil27:39: The ‘Don’t Do This!’ Award: A Dating Mistake to Avoid IRL31:08: The Creepiest Pickup-Artist Tip Connell Ever Got (And Why It’s So Wrong)36:20: Bill Murray: Comedic Genius or Total Nightmare on Set? (It’s Complicated…)44:46: What if ‘Groundhog Day’ got the Cinemax After Dark Treatment?52:32: The Truth About What Makes Women ‘Chase’ Certain Men (It’s NOT Looks or Money)57:35: The Movie’s Biggest Love Lesson that Every Man Needs to KnowIf Phil can escape Punxsutawney, you can break out of your dating rut. Bing! Listen now!Introducing ‘It’s Rom-Complicated!’ How to find love by watching—wait! Haven’t we done this before?FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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“I Went from Zero to 83 Matches in a Week!” The 6 Essential Photos You Need for Dating App Success
Jan 30, 202500:30:19Summary readyNot getting enough quality matches on Hinge, Bumble or Tinder? Here’s the problem: Your photos aren’t making the right impression. But there’s a simple fix. Dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the 6 essential photos that he and his clients use to consistently get good matches on the apps. Connell’s client Ben puts it best: “I went from zero good matches on Hinge to getting 83 matches in one week. Suddenly I had too many dates!” Connell also reveals the 5 photo mistakes that make women swipe left—so you don’t sabotage your own success.You’re about to get the blueprint for the perfect profile, down to the ideal photo order:3:40: Essential Photo No. 1: The “Radically Authentic” Portrait to Hook Her Interest9:25: Essential Photo No. 2: The “Intriguing Photo” that Makes Her Want to Learn About You12:25: Essential Photo No. 3: The “Aww Factor” Image that Melts Her Heart15:50: Essential Photo No. 4: The “Man of Action” Shot that Turns Her Head18:55: Essential Photo No. 5: The “Social Man” Pic that Showcases Your Attractive Life20:48: Essential Photo No. 6: The “Wildcard” Photo that Makes Swiping Right a No-Brainer24:01: Plus! 5 Photo Mistakes that HURT You on the Apps!Listen now, update your photos, and start getting dates with women you actually want to meet.WATCH THIS VIDEO SHOWING YOU THE 6 ESSENTIAL PHOTOS:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lcSb0-cMbsU&t=4sFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
Summary“Will You Be My Boyfriend?” The 10 Green Lights that Trigger Instant Attraction in Wonderful Women
Jan 28, 202500:51:38Summary readyHow do you make her want YOU to be her boyfriend? It’s simpler than you think. Just show her these 10 “green lights.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches you 10 attraction triggers that help women see you as boyfriend material. And these are NOT sketchy pickup moves. They’re practical strategies to showcase your most authentic, confident self, and create true connections. Because women are drawn to authentic gentlemen!You’re about to learn…03:32: Green Light No. 1: How to Be Authentic and Spark a Romantic Connection09:29: Green Light No. 2: How to Lead a Date with Confidence12:42: Green Light No. 3: How to Play Up Your Passions to Stand Out from Other Guys16:17: Green Light No. 4: How to Talk About Your Future in a Compelling Way19:48: Green Light No. 5: How to Be Playful and Create Instant Chemistry26:16: Green Light No. 6: How to Flirt in the Way Women LOVE, without Being Cringey30:04: Green Light No. 7: How to Ask Great Questions that Keep Conversations Flowing34:40: Green Light No. 8: How to Talk About Your Ex the Right Way37:48: Green Light No. 9: How to Tell a Story that Helps Her Open Up to You40:24: Green Light No. 10: How to Make Her Laugh and Feel Instantly Drawn to YouListen now, apply these techniques, and find your dream girlfriend!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Exclusive! How to Win on Dating Apps—Secrets from the Man Who Invented Swiping, Tinder’s Jonathan Badeen
Jan 23, 202500:53:49Summary readyReady to finally get great matches on Tinder? Who better to guide you than the man who invented swiping and changed dating forever: Tinder’s visionary co-founder, Jonathan Badeen. Back in the day, Jonathan was struggling to meet women and get dates. (Sound familiar?) He launched Tinder in part to help his own love life, and the world has never been the same. In this exclusive interview with dating coach Connell Barrett, Badeen shares the lightbulb moment when he came up with the swiping idea, reveals the biggest mistakes men make on the apps, and explains why he would absolutely swipe right on Minnie Mouse.In this episode, Jonathan and Connell talk about:2:37: Why Tinder is for More than Just Hookups14:01: The Aha Moment when Jonathan Came Up with Swiping17:26: Why Authenticity is What Women Want—on Tinder and in Real Life26:33: The Real Reason You’re Not Getting Good Matches30:15: The Myth that “Dating Apps Just Don’t Work”34:04: How to Inject Fun into Your profile to Get Women Messaging You First35:47: How Shy Guys and “Nerds” Can Win on the Apps47:01: Why Jonathan Would Swipe Right on Minnie Mouse and Swipe Left on “The Godfather 3”Listen now for wisdom from the man who changed dating—and start landing great Tinder dates today.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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10 Invisible Red Flags that Get You Rejected: Which Mistakes Are YOU Making? Plus 10 Fast Fixes
Jan 21, 202500:41:59Summary readyEver had a woman ghost you, friend-zone you, or suddenly lose interest—and you had no idea why? Odds are, you accidentally pushed her away. There are 10 invisible red flags that turn women off, and most men don’t even realize they’re making these mistakes! In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals these attraction-killing errors and shares easy, practical fixes for each one.Here are the 10 red flags that turn women off:04:29: #1 Hiding Your Authentic Self and Being Someone You’re Not06:03: #2 Coming Off as Insecure or Needy09:20: #3 Long, Awkward Pauses in Conversations11:26: #4 Lying or Exaggerating About Your Life14:35: #5 Using Canned, Rehearsed Pickup Lines16:01: #6 Touching Her Too Much…or Not Enough!18:42: #7 Planning Boring, Forgettable Dates22:38: #8 Failing to Be Playful and Fun26:39: #9 Bringing Up Your Ex the Wrong Way29:56: #10 Trying Too Hard to Impress HerListen now, to turn red flags into green lights—and get a great girlfriend!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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What to Write on Your Bio: 7 Secrets for Way More Matches! Plus: Steal These 10 Funny, Flirty Prompts
Jan 16, 202500:29:38Summary readyDo the apps frustrate you because you just don’t get many good matches? Here’s the problem: Your bio is boring women! Let’s fix this fast. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares his 7 secrets for writing an online-dating bio that womenlove—and that’s authentic to YOU. Using his simple formula, you’ll finally get good matches on Tinder, Bumble, or Hinge. Plus, his 10 funniest bio prompts will get women giggling… and swiping right.You’re about to learn:02:40: Why Authenticity is Your Online-Dating Superpower4:43: The Bio Mistake that Costs You Matches—and How to Fix It6:00: Don’t! Do! This!8:45: The Right Way to Flirt on Your Profile12:00: The 3-Line Bio Formula that Women Can’t Resist15:01: How to Write About Yourself in an Attractive Way17:50: The Flirty Line that Gets Her Messaging You First20:55: A Hinge Hack to Triple Your Matches23:01: Connell’s Top 10 Funniest Bio Lines that Women Love—Steal Them!Ready to flood your inbox with good dating leads? Listen now and write a bio that will bring you a BIG step closer to meeting your future girlfriend.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Ask the Dating Coach: ‘HELP! She Wants Me to Baa Like a Sheep During Sex. What Do I Do?’
Jan 14, 202500:42:52Summary readyIt’s time to “Ask the Dating Coach!” as Connell Barrett takes your questions. If you struggle with what to say on dates, Connell shares three essential flirting moves to help you spark romantic connections. (Farewell, Friend Zone!) He also reveals why women prefer nice guys over so-called alpha males. And a listener has a “sheepish” question about talking dirty in bed.Highlights from this episode:01:51: Andrew Asks: “A Woman Wants Me to Baa Like a Sheep in Bed. What Do I Do?”03:19: How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Awkward08:57: Zach Asks: “Am I Too Nice? Do Women Only Want to Date Alpha Males?”11:25: Why the “Alpha Male” Is a Total Myth13:48: How Kindness, Confidence and Authenticity Will Help You Get a Girlfriend24:30: Barry Asks: “Why Can’t I Get Past the First Date?”25:52: Connell’s Aha Moment that Made Him Magnetic to Women31:07: Three Flirting Moves to Escape the Friend Zone and Land Second DatesHit play and start transforming your love life todayFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Dating Apps Are Broken—Inner Circle is the Fix! How the App’s Social Events and Quality Matches Can Help You Finally Find Love (Featuring Da
Jan 9, 202500:40:28Summary readyBurnt out on dating apps? The endless swiping, the lack of quality matches, the fake profiles—it’s exhausting! But Inner Circle is changing the game. Equal parts social club and dating app, Inner Circle is built for ambitious singles who want to swipe less and connect more, forming real, meaningful relationships. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes Inner Circle’s founder David Vermeulen. He shares how his innovative platform helps successful, driven men and women connect authentically—first online and then IRL at fun, exclusive events in cities like New York, London, Paris and Rio.With Connell and David as your guides, you’ll discover:4:46: The Dating Horror Story that Inspired David to Start Inner Circle6:38 How Inner Circle’s Technology Virtually Eliminates Fake Profiles7:55 Why the Platform’s IRL Events is “Where the Magic Happens”10:43 A Game-Changing Strategy for Introverts to Meet Women in the Real World11:25: Connell’s One-Sentence Dating Mantra that Will Transform Your Love Life19:29: How “Tinder is Like McDonald’s,” in David’s View27:41: Why Quality Matches Always Beat Quantity30:54: How to Decide if She’s Worth a Second Date33:36: A Simple Writing Tip to Make Your Bio Magnetic to Women35:32: David’s Surprising Rule for Online-Dating Success: “Opposites Don’t Attract”Ready to finally connect with women on a dating app that actually works? Listen now!LEARN MORE ABOUT INNER CIRCLE:https://about.theinnercircle.co/CHECK OUT INNER CIRCLE ON INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/innercircleco/DOWNLOAD THE INNER CIRCLE APP:https://apps.apple.com/us/app/inner-circle-dating-community/id838136374FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Forget Resolutions! Here's Your New Year's REVOLUTION: 5 Game-Changing Dating Strategies to Attract Your Ideal Girlfriend in 2025
Jan 7, 202501:17:35Summary readyThe new year is here, and now’s the time to attract your dream girl. But not knowing where to start can feel overwhelming. You need a clear, tested plan for success. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares 5 proven strategies that practically guarantee you’ll find love in 2025. These aren’t flimsy resolutions you’ll abandon by February. They’re bold, revolutionary daily rituals to authentically connect with wonderful women.Using Connell’s tested moves, you’re about to learn:01:30: Why Resolutions Fail—and How to Build Rituals that Get Dating Results05:45: What Women Really Want—Authenticity!—and How to Give it to Them14:20: How to Truly Connect with Women Who are Your Type24:18: A Morning Ritual that Supercharges Your Motivation and Confidence38:10: The Daily Practice that Virtually Guarantees You Will Find Love in 202551:10: The Online-Dating Secret to Skyrocket Your Number of Quality Matches1:08:30: What You MUST Do Today to if You Want a Great GirlfriendYour dream girl is waiting—don’t wait another day to start your journey. Listen now!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
SummaryFrom 10 Years of Loneliness to Landing His Dream Girl Allie: How Jake Found Love—and How You Can, Too!
Jan 2, 202501:05:48Summary readyFeeling stuck in a dating dry spell? So was Jake. At 30, this shy, nerdy engineer (and proud Creed fan) felt too afraid to talk to women. And he hadn’t had a girlfriend in a decade. But with personalized guidance from dating coach Connell Barrett, Jake learned how to confidently connect with women on the dating apps and IRL. In one whirlwind week, Jake went on five first dates. “That’s more than I’d had the entire previous year,” he said with a laugh. Then he met bright, bubbly Allie, who’s now his girlfriend. “I knew she was the one.”Channeling Creed, this episode will take your love life… higher! Connell and Jake discuss:09:30: The Missed Approach Opportunity that Ignited Jake’s Breakthrough13:35: The Mindset Shift Every Man Needs to Attract His Dream Girlfriend16:30: How Jake Landed Five Dates in Just One Week17:28: The First-Date Aha Moment that Led to a Sexy Make-out20:25: A 15-Minute Ritual for Instant Confidence22:06: How Connell’s “80-20” Flirting Rule Helps You Know What to Say to Women34:17: A Playful Teasing Move that Builds Attraction on Dates40:45: The Wordless Approach Technique that Works in Loud Venues45:38: How to Help the Right Woman See You As Her Dream Guy58:19: Connell’s No. 1 Daily Dating Tip to ApplyWith Allie as his partner, Jake’s decade of loneliness is behind him.Listen now and start your journey to finding the girlfriend you deserve!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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