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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
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Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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“Let Her Kick Rocks!”—How to Turn Rejection into Results (and Dates) with No-B.S. Love Expert Sabrina Zohar
Feb 16, 202500:57:11Summary readyDo women send you mixed signals—and you have no clue what they mean? Get ready for the raw, unfiltered truth about what women really want, from straight- talking dating expert Sabrina Zohar. A social media sensation with over 2 million followers, Sabrina reveals why “nice guys” lose out, the texting mistakes that get you ghosted, and how to finally land dates with great women on the apps.Sabrina Will Tell You:13:33: How to Stop Taking Rejection Personally and Bounce Back Stronger20:15: The One Texting Mistake that Makes Girls Lose Interest22:48: How to Message Women the Right Way and Stop Getting Ghosted31:27: The Profile Photos and Prompts that Get You Matches33:57: The One Photo You Should NEVER Put on Hinge or Bumble37:47: Why Women Swipe Left—and How to Get them Swiping Right44:12: The Approach Fail that Gets You Rejected Every Time49:36: The WORST Gym Pickup Line Ever—and What to Say InsteadSabrina’s no-B.S. advice will help you start winning at dating. Listen now!LEARN MORE ABOUT SABRINA ZOHAR:http://www.sabrinazohar.comFOLLOW HER ON INSTAGRAM:@TheSabrinaZoharShowLISTEN TO HER PODCAST, ‘THE SABRINA ZOHAR SHOW’http://www.sabrinazohar.com/podcastFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
SummaryLIVE Approaches: Hear Me Chat Up Cuties IRL—Listen NOW to Get Numbers and Dates Tonight! (Part 4)
Feb 15, 202501:56:12Summary readyIt’s Valentine’s Weekend—get ready to flirt with women and get dates! In the last of a 4-part series about attracting women IRL, dating coach Connell Barrett shares the final steps in becoming a 1 Percent Man—the rare guy who can confidently approach women without weird pickup lines. You’ll hear ACTUAL AUDIO of Connell meeting and flirting with bright, beautiful women, for an inside look at how simple and powerful it is when you approach with authenticity. Plus, you’ll get great openers for 10 situations, and also learn the 5 biggest approaching mistakes to avoid.Highlights of the Episode:03:25: The Night Connell Went from a Panic Attack to Approaching and Attracting Kelly10:45: How to Become a Confident, Authentic 1 Percent Man14:05: What to Say to a Group of Women at a Bar to Spark Interest15:28: What to Say to a Cute Girl at Your Gym to Be Charming, Not Creepy17:50: What to Say at a Grocery Store to Make Her Laugh21:00: What to Say in the Elevator to Have a Great Conversation25:20: The All-Purpose Opener that Works with Women Anywhere28:33: The 5 Biggest Approaching Fails and How to Fix Them50:00: EXCLUSIVE! For the First Time Ever, Connell Shares Actual Audio of Him Approaching Women and Getting Numbers and Dates1:31:27: The One Action to Take Today to Get a Great Girlfriend in 90 Days or LessYour journey to meeting and attracting wonderful women starts today. Listen now!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Say This, Get the Date (No Flaking!) How To Never Run Out of Things to Say (Part 3 of 4)
Feb 14, 202501:07:38Summary readyYou’re talking to a woman you like—now what? How do you avoid running out of things to say and awkward silences? And how do you ask her out? In Part 3 of this special dating IRL series, dating coach Connell Barrett gives you a simple, 3-step roadmap to keep the conversation flowing, spark attraction, and smoothly get her number. Plus, discover the 7 biggest conversation fails that kill attraction (and how to fix them). And you’ll learn the right way to meet women at the gym, without being “that guy.”You’re About to Learn:2:47: The 3-Step Roadmap to Keep Conversations Flowing and Get the Date5:37: What to Talk About First After You Approach8:15: The Magic Word that Makes You More Interesting to Her12:30: The Exact Way to Ask Her Out21:51: How to Get Her Phone Number27:07: The BIG Mistake that Will Get You Ghosted28:45: The 7 Conversation Fails that Kill Attraction and How to Avoid Them47:10: Why Women Ghost You—and the Simple Move to Fix It56:54: How to Meet and Charm Women at Your GymListen now to have flirty conversations with women you meet IRL—so you can get dates!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Struggle Talking to Women IRL? My 3 Openers (90% Success Rate!) Fix that Instantly (Part 2 of 4)
Feb 13, 202501:14:28Summary readyYou see a woman you’d love to talk to, but your brain locks up. You overthink what to say, and the moment is gone—so is she. In part 2 of this special 4-part series on meeting women IRL, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals his foolproof Natural Approaching Method—a simple, tested way to start authentic conversations and almost always get a positive response. And it works 90% of the time, whether you’re at a bar, coffee shop, or the gym.What You’ll Learn:3:40: How to Confidently Break the Ice with a 90% Success Rate6:08: Always Know What to Say with the Natural Approaching Method15:33: How to Compliment Women with Charm—and What to Avoid25:51: The Perfect Icebreaker? Just Ask This One Question35:00: How to Make Your Openers Fun, Flirty, and Effortless47:48: The Power of Direct Approaching—When and How to Use It51:27: What to Say When You Approach, Day or Night1:02:06: The Mindset Shift that Makes Starting Conversations Easy1:10:01: Your 24-Hour Challenge—Are You Ready to Take Action?Listen now and start confidently approaching women—with charm, authenticity, and real results!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Special Series! Stop Trying to ‘Approach’—Do THIS to Meet & Attract Women IRL the Right Way (Part 1 of 4)
Feb 12, 202501:21:35Summary readyYou’re tired of the apps, and you’d love to confidently talk to women at bars, cafes, stores or your gym. But hesitation and overthinking stop you. With Valentine’s Day here, it’s time to break free and start meeting women in real life. Dating coach Connell Barrett presents a special 4-part series to teach you how to meet women IRL the right way—not with weird “approach tactics” but with authentic confidence. In Part 1, Connell reveals the 5 mental blocks keeping you stuck and shares the 5 breakthroughs that will help you meet and flirt with wonderful women—anywhere, anytime.Episode Highlights:4:25: Why ‘Approaching’ Feels So Hard and Scary13:37: Mental Block #1: ‘I’m Not Enough’ and Why This is Total B.S.16:34: Mental Block #2: ‘She Doesn’t Want Me to Bother Her’ and What Women Really Think17:18: Mental Block #3: ‘I Might Creep Her Out’ and How This Kills Your Confidence19:45: Mental Block #4: ‘I Don’t Know What to Say’ and the Simple Move to Fix This21:16: Mental Block #5: ‘What If I Get Rejected?’ and the Win-Lose Mindset That Hurts You25:33: Breakthrough #1: ‘I Am Enough’ and the Truth About Attraction31:45: Breakthrough #2: ‘She Wants Me to Talk to Her’—What Women Truly Want38:37: Breakthrough #3: ‘Talking to Women Is Attractive’ and the ‘Aha!’ Shift You Need50:12: Breakthrough #4: ‘I Don’t Need the Perfect Line’—How to Know What to Say1:02:02: Breakthrough #5: ‘I Cannot Lose’—the Win-Win Mindset that Makes You ConfidentListen now and start confidently meeting women in real life!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Tired of Being Ignored on Dating Apps? Steal My 10 Best Flirty Openers: #1 Works 81% of the Time!
Feb 9, 202500:54:26Summary readySick of sending openers that women ignore? Not sure what to write on Hinge, Tinder, or Bumble? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett shares his top 10 best flirty online-dating openers—tested and proven to get responses. You’ll get copy-and-paste openers for every type of woman to get them writing you back and going on dates with you. Plus, Connell reveals his no. 1 opener that works on ANY woman … and gets him replies 81% of the time!You’re about to learn:05:30: Connell’s Lowest Online-Dating Moment06:45: His Comeback: 3 Great First Dates in 3 Nights—All from the Apps!09:30: Flirty Opener #10: What to Write… when Her Bio is Empty12:52: Flirty Opener #9: …when She Has Lots of Selfies14:31: Flirty Opener #8: …when She’s into Partying and Socializing16:25: Flirty Opener #7: …when She Has a Dog in Her Photos19:09: Flirty Opener #6: … when She Has Bold, Flirty Pics (Bikini shots, Cleavage)23:30: Flirty Opener #5: …when Her Bio is Witty or Sarcastic30:01: Flirty Opener #4: …when She’s Really into Travel33:40: Flirty Opener #3: …when She’s an Artsy, Creative Type37:00: Flirty Opener #2: …when She’s Highly Career-driven40:03: Flirty Opener #1: The Best Opener that Works On Any Woman 81% of the TimeListen now and use these flirty openers to get women writing you back… and get dates!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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What’s YOUR Dating Superpower? Discover the 7 Attractors that Make Women Want to Date You
Feb 7, 202501:11:08Summary readyYou want a bright, beautiful girlfriend, right? But you’re not sure how to connect with women. And maybe the girls you’re attracted to keep picking other guys over you. Not anymore! Because you’re about to learn the 7 Dating Superpowers. Dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the 7 most powerful attractors that make women say, “I want him!” From confident flirting to texts she can’t resist, you’re about to go from Peter Parker to Spider-Man… no radioactive arachnid required! Plus, you don’t need all 7 superpowers—just unlocking one or two can change everything.Here are the 7 Dating Superpowers You’re About to Learn:9:43: Fearless Approaching so You Can Start Conversations with Women Anywhere15:07: Effortless Flirting so You Can Be Charming and Attractive21:15: Magnetic Charisma so Women Feel Drawn to Your Authentic Self34:14: Unshakable Confidence so “Rejection” Can’t Hurt You40:03: Top-Tier Texting so You’ll Go from “Unread” to Setting Up Dates51:33: Vibe Mastery so Your Dates Feel Flirty and Sexy59:48: Decisive Leadership so Women Trust You and See You as Boyfriend MaterialEvery dating superpower is here and learnable. What’s yours? Which one will you master? Listen now.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
SummaryStruggling with Dating Confidence? Try this Mindset Shift to Become Instantly Magnetic to Women (Live Coaching Results)
Feb 6, 202501:16:17Summary readyDo you ever feel like you’re just not what women want? Like you’re not charismatic or interesting or attractive enough? It’s frustrating. The good news? You can fix it—fast! In this special live coaching episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett guides his client Nick to a powerful breakthrough. In just one hour, Nick transforms from feeling insecure to truly magnetic, simply by destroying his biggest limiting belief. (This coaching session first aired in 2023. Now, in 2025, Nick is dating a wonderful woman!)You’re about to learn:2:00: The Real Cause of Dating Insecurity (and How to Fix It)5:28: The Secret to Confidence: Awakening Your Higher Self23:05: How to Identify the Limiting Belief that’s Hurting Your Dating Life38:30: A Simple Way to Erase Self-Doubt for Good52:17: Nick’s Aha Moment: Ditching his Insecurities and Realizing his True Worth to Women1:07:14: The Confidence Breakthrough: Awakening Your Most Amazing, Authentic YouListen now to stop feeling insecure and start feeling confident and magnetic to women.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
SummaryHow to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Feb 5, 202500:54:31Summary readyAre you just not sure how to talk to women, either on the apps or in real life? Top UK dating expert Hayley Quinn is here to show you how to flirt effortlessly, confidently read women, and get them asking YOU out. She knows exactly what creates attraction—and how you can get better results fast. You’ll learn how to talk to women in a way that feels authentic and sparks real connection, without overthinking or using weird “pickup” moves.Hayley and dating coach Connell Barrett will teach you:2:55: How to Overcome Your Fear of Rejection and Attract the Right Woman4:00: Why Women Prefer Meeting Men in Real Life, and How to Make It Happen7:58: How Her Client Approached a Woman in the Daytime and Turned it into a Deep Connection15:30: Why Many Women Want Men to Talk to Them IRL, Not on the Apps21:03: The Game-Changing Move that Instantly Improves Your Love Life23:45: Hayley’s Top Tips for How to Read Women36:33 The #1 Approach Mistake Men Make—and How to Fix It50:27: How Hayley Changes Men’s Lives with In-Person CoachingListen now and let Connell and Hayley show you how to attract your dream girlfriend!TO LEARN MORE ABOUT HAYLEY OR TO APPLY TO WORK WITH HER: http://www.hayleyquinn.com/CHECK OUT HER TED TALK THAT HAS 3 MILLION VIEWS:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jmUayKnHWWMFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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How to Meet and Talk to Your Dream Woman—and How Jason Dated a Lakers Cheerleader! (Live Coachin
Feb 4, 202501:01:45Summary readyYou see a stunning woman across the room and want to talk to her… but what do you say? How do you start a conversation without fear of rejection? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett helps his client Jason master this skill—live on air. Plus,hear how Jason conquered crippling approach anxiety and dated an L.A. Lakers Cheerleader! Connell shares actionable strategies to help Jason (and you!) connect with women. No cheesy “pickup artist” tricks. Just authentic confidence that works.You’re about to learn:8:40: The #1 Shift to Overcome Social Anxiety and Build Dating Momentum10:30: How Jason Walked Up to a Woman and Made Out with Her in Minutes (with Connell’s In-Person Help)18:38: 3 Proven Anti-Flaking Techniques to Keep Her Interested23:35: The 3-Text Rule that Gets Women Replying and Asking YOU Out29:23: The Risk-Taking Strategy that Makes You Instantly More Attractive41:47: The One Thing She Secretly Hopes You’ll Do When You Approach Her47:53: What to Write when She Doesn’t Reply to Your Text52:57: The Right Way to Ask Her Out and Not Get Flaked OnThis episode is like getting a personal coaching session with Connell—for free. Listen now!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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