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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
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Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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Why You Freeze When You Want to Approach Beautiful Women—& How to Fix it NOW (Live Coaching with John!)
Mar 20, 202501:09:11Summary readyJohn feels stuck and frustrated. He often sees attractive women he wants to talk to at bars and coffee shops, but he always freezes up and says nothing. (Sound familiar?) He’s about to break free of his approach anxiety—and you can, too! In this live coaching session, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the hidden mental roadblocks that stop men from talking to women. Plus, Connell shares simple, proven fixes that you can use today. Get ready to approach women confidently and authentically (no weird pickup moves needed!)You’re About to Learn:07:55: The 2 “Fear Factors” that Stop You from Approaching Women—and How to Fix Them11:30: 5 Ways to Destroy Approach Anxiety TODAY17:42: What Strangers Really Think of Men Who Approach37:21: The 1 Simple Shift that Makes Her Happy You Talked to Her45:03: How to Stop Making Excuses and Start Taking Action54:36: What NOT to Say When You Approach in the Day (or Else You’ll Seem Creepy!)If you’ve ever felt too scared to say hello to a beautiful woman, this episode will give you the mindset and tools to finally take action. Listen now!WANT PERSONALIZED HELP? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL AND START CONFIDENTLY MEETING AND DATING WONDERFUL WOMEN:http://www.DatingTransformation.com
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Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Mar 18, 202501:04:38Summary readyDo you struggle to attract the kinds of women you want to date? Chances are, you’re making some big mistakes that turn women off, and you don’t even realize it. Help is here! Lisa Hickey, CEO of the Good Men Project, joins dating coach Connell Barrett to identify—and fix—the hidden dating mistakes men make. You’ll learn how to connect with women authentically, flirt with charm, and boost your confidence. Plus, Lisa shares invaluable wisdom on modern masculinity. (Check out the Good Men Project for a treasure trove of practical advice, and to read Connell’s dating advice column.)You’re about to learn:2:30: What to NEVER do when talking to a woman you’ve just met6:39: A simple first-date fix that turns women on16:40: Why men feel more dating anxiety than ever22:00: Practical ways to build self-esteem and confidence25:50: How to give authentic compliments that women love33:00: The single biggest dating mistake you’re making39:10: Great topics to talk about that spark connection47:30: How to turn fear and doubt into fun and excitement59:17: Lisa’s no. 1 dating tip that every man must knowAre you ready to become an even better man? Listen now!FOR GREAT READS AND PRACTICAL TIPS TO BE A BETTER MAN:http://GoodMenProject.comCHECK OUT THE GOOD MEN PROJECT’S DATING SUBSTACK:http://gmpdating.substack.comFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.comQuotes"Meaningful compliments celebrate deeper attributes beyond appearance."- Lisa Hickey"Building modern relationships requires the courage to take the next step after a good interaction."- Lisa HickeyFeatured in the episodeConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite:https://datingtransformation.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation
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3 Hidden Reasons Why Women Lose Interest in You—and How to Keep Them Attracted Long-Term! with Johnny Cassell
Mar 13, 202501:05:33Summary readyHave you ever had things start great with a woman only for her to suddenly pull away and say, “I’m not looking to date right now”? The truth is, that’s probably her polite way of saying, “I’m just not interested in you.” In this episode, renowned London-based dating coach Johnny Cassell reveals 3 hidden reasons why women lose interest—and how to keep them attracted to you for the long haul.You’re About to Learn:02:20: Why You Must First “Date Yourself” to Attract a Wonderful Girlfriend18:55: How NOT To Go from a “Wild Tiger to Tubby Housecat” in Her Eyes19:53: How to Escape the “Yawn Zone” When You Talk to Women20:12: Johnny’s Amazing Drill to Flirt at Starbucks And ALSO Get a Free Coffee!22:44: How Connell Approached and Instantly Attracted His Future Girlfriend30:19: The Right Way to Approach a Large Group of Women at a Bar—and the Wrong Way44:44: Johnny’s Secret to Talking to Women of Intimidating Beauty1:01:00: The One Action You Should Take this Week to Improve Your Love LifeListen now to attract—and keep—that incredible woman’s interest!LEARN MORE ABOUT JOHNNY CASSELL OR TO APPLY TO WORK WITH HIM:http://www.johnnycassell.comFOLLOW JOHNNY ON INSTAGRAM:@LondonDatingCoachTO BOOK A FREE 1-1 CONSULTATION CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.com
SummaryThe 7 ‘Friend Zone’ Destroyers: Go from Hearing ‘Let’s Be Friends’ to ‘Let’s Go to Your Place!’
Mar 11, 202500:33:22Summary readyYou think a date went well, only to get that frustrating text: “You’re a nice guy, but I just didn’t feel a connection...” The Friend Zone can be brutal. Dating coach Connell Barrett knows this from experience. “I didn’t just live in the Friend Zone,” he says. “I owned real estate there.” But he also knows the way out. Now he’s sharing the 7 Friend Zone Destroyers simple, tested moves that you can make to spark attraction on your next date!You’re about to learn:8:24: Friend Zone Destroyer #1: Send Her Flirty Messages Before the Date10:34: Friend Zone Destroyer #2: Share an Authentic Personal Story14:27: Friend Zone Destroyer #3: How to Give Her a Sexy Compliment16:53: Friend Zone Destroyer #4: Find Emotional Commonalities18:31: Friend Zone Destroyer #5: Touch Her the Right Way (NOT the Weird Way!)21:41: Friend Zone Destroyer #6: How to Help Her Feel Connected to You24:05: Friend Zone Destroyer #7: Three Smooth First-Kiss Moves28:52: Bonus: Connell’s Favorite First-Date Game that Women LOVE to PlayStop hearing “Let’s just be friends” and start hearing “Let’s go out again!” Listen now.TO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Tired of Swiping? How Matchmaking Can Set You Up with Incredible Women (Ditch the Apps for Good!)
Mar 6, 202500:57:54Summary readyAre you exhausted by dating apps? Tired of first dates with people who aren’t right for you? What if someone hand-picked incredible women for you to meet—women who are just your type? Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes elite matchmaker Amy Andersen, founder of Linx Dating, to break down the world of high-end matchmaking. Amy shares the key advantages of working with what she calls “your own personal cheerleader” and offers expert first-date tips to help you make a great impression.Connell and Amy Discuss:04:45: Why Dating Apps Take So Much Time—and How Matchmaking Saves You Countless Hours08:22: Why a Personalized Approach to Finding Love Can Work Better than DIY Dating17:45: “They Got Married on their Second Date!” Amy’s Jaw-Dropping Success Story28:57: Essential Do’s and Don’ts of Hiring a Matchmaker33:11: How to Be Interesting and Attractive on the First Date44:01: The Power of Authenticity and Vulnerability in Sparking Real Romantic ConnectionsIf you want an easier way to meet incredible women, this episode is a must-listen.LEARN MORE ABOUT MATCHMAKING AND LINX DATING:http://www.Linxdating.comFOLLOW AMY ANDERSEN ON INSTAGRAM:@ms.linxdatingBOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW 1-1 DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU FIND A GREAT GIRLFRIEND:http://www.DatingTransformation.com
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How to NEVER Run Out of Things to Say: The 7 Best Banter Topics to Instantly Attract Women
Mar 4, 202500:29:49Summary readyDo you ever struggle with what to say to women—either in person or when trying to craft the perfect text? Dating coach Connell Barrett gives you the 7 Best Banter Topics so you can keep conversations flirty and free-flowing. Whether you’re talking to her in person or messaging on your phone, just reach for one of these foolproof topics for instant banter. And you don’t need to be naturally witty. These simple tips will work for any guy! Plus, you’ll learn the Playful Pivot, a powerful technique that takes your banter to a masterful level.Highlights of this Episode:03:20: The 7 Best Banter Topics to Never Run Out of Things to Say04:47: The Words She’s Dying to Hear from You09:17: The “Desert Island” Question that Ignites Instant Attraction11:44: The Storytelling Trick that Makes You Charismatic16:47: The Topic That Sparks Playful, Engaging Conversations17:35: The “What If” Question that Makes You Different from Other Guys19:45: The Playful Pivot—How to Master Flirty Banter and Become IrresistibleGet ready to attract women effortlessly with great banter. Listen now.WANT TO TAKE YOUR FLIRTY BANTER TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL? BOOK A FREECALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:www.DatingTransformation.com
SummaryHow to Make Bold Moves without Being Creepy: A Top Coach for Women Tells All! (with Evan Marc Katz)
Feb 27, 202501:07:08Summary readyYou know you should make moves with women—say the flirtatious thing, go for the kiss. But what if you come off as creepy? So you hold back… and nothing happens. You feel stuck, right? Renowned dating coach for women Evan Marc Katz is here to get you unstuck! Having coached thousands of single women, Evan knows exactly what they want. And today, he’ll tell you how to make the right moves to attract the ideal woman for you.You’re About to Learn:02:15: What Women Really Want: Evan Breaks It Down04:35: How Introverts Can Better Connect with Women08:12: Feeling Shy on a Date? Try This!15:58: How to Build Authentic Trust with a Woman You Just Met16:15: How to Unlock Your “Masculine Edge” and Make Moves—Without Being Creepy27:55: The Right Way to Text Women (So They Actually Respond)33:02: Forget Money and Looks: These Are the 3 Things Women Look For43:35: The Mindset Shift You Need to Finally Succeed on the Apps52:11: Evan’s Most Important Advice for Attracting Your Future GirlfriendHit play now and start making all the right dating moves.LEARN HOW EVAN HELPS SMART, SUCCESSFUL WOMEN FIND A GREAT GUY:https://www.evanmarckatz.com/LISTEN TO EVAN’S “LOVE U” PODCAST:https://www.evanmarckatz.com/the-love-u-podcastFOLLOW EVAN ON INSTAGRAM @realevanmarckatzFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
SummaryDoes Love (and Life) Feel Like a Grind? The ‘3 Classes of Experience’ Will Set You Free
Feb 25, 202500:44:36Summary readyEver feel like dating—and life—is just a grind? This episode will change how you experience both so you can feel much more fulfilled. Dating coach Connell Barrett introduces the 3 Classes of Human Experience, a powerful self-improvement framework that Connell and his clients use to make dating fun. (What? Dating can be fun? Who knew!) And nothing’s more attractive to women than a guy who actually enjoys life.You’re About to Learn:01:10: The Mindset Shift that Transformed Connell’s Entire Life06:37: The 3 Classes of Human Experience: How to Go from Coping to Thriving12:05: Why Your Love Life is Stuck in the ‘Class 2’ Grind—and How to Escape20:32: The Most Powerful Self-Improvement Shift You Can Achieve Today29:01: The Key Move that Makes Talking to Women So Much Easier36:55: The Simple Way to Change Your Whole Life, Not Just Your Love LifeHit play and start living—and dating—the way you were meant to.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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It’s Rom-Complicated! How Nice Guys Can Get the Girl: Lessons from ‘Say Anything’ (with Hollywood Producer Cristina Nava)
Feb 20, 202501:20:07Summary ready“It’s Rom-Complicated!” returns, helping you find love by watching rom-com movies. This time, dating coach Connell Barrett shares love lessons from the 1989 Cameron Crowe classic “Say Anything.” He’s joined by special guest Cristina Nava, a Hollywood producer who specializes in making rom-coms! (Her latest movie, the very funny “Say a Little Prayer,” is now streaming on Amazon Prime and Apple TV.) Can a quirky nice guy like Lloyd Dobler (John Cusack) really win over his dream girl, Diane Court (Ione Skye)? Or does it take a boombox, a trench coat, and a questionable lack of boundaries? Let’s break it down.Connell and Cristina Discuss:4:12: Why Women WANT to Date Nice Guys Like Lloyd Dobler5:59: Why “Say a Little Prayer” is a Great Date Movie16:30: Cristina Reveals Her Real-Life Rom-Com Moment: Surprise Roses in Eighth Grade24:53: The Rom-Commies—the Best, Worst, and Stalkiest Moments of “Say Anything”31:22: The Best Dating Move from the Movie that Actually Works36:35: The Worst Dating Advice in the Film—Avoid This!39:33: The Secret to Lloyd’s Confidence (It’s NOT His Looks)49:27: What Hasn’t Aged Well: Boomboxes and Boundary Issues1:14:26: The Film’s Biggest Love Lesson that Women Want You to KnowWATCH “SAY A LITTLE PRAYER” ON AMAZON PRIMEhttps://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/0OSRUJ1FSZXHSCDGXFZ23PMPUL/refFOLLOW THE MOVIE AND CRISTIONA ON INSTAGRAM@Sayalittleprayerfilm@IamcristinanavaFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
SummaryMy Girlfriend Jess Reveals the #1 Secret to Landing Second Dates! (Most Men Make 3 BIG Mistakes)
Feb 18, 202500:48:56Summary readySo, you finally get a first date with a smart, attractive woman… only for her to say, “no thanks” to a second. It’s discouraging. Let’s fix that! After last week’s special 4-part Valentine’s Day series on meeting and attracting women IRL, you don’t want to put in all that effort only to hit a first-date roadblock. Connell and his girlfriend, Jess, break down what made their first date a fun, flirty success—and what you can do to get a LOT more second dates. (Originally aired in November.)In this episode, Connell and Jess discuss:3:20: The Profile Photos that Made Her Swipe Right13:05: The Right Way to Text a Woman Before a First Date18:20: Jess’s Top First-Date Tip29:00: What to Talk About So You Never Run Out of Things to Say30:48: How to Avoid Interview Mode and Not Get Friend-Zoned34:15: Jess Called this First Kiss Move “Suave”—You Need to Know It!37:18: How to Ask Women Out for a Second Date39:21: Her Top 3 First-Date Mistakes that Guys Make45:00: Why Women Want Authentic Men, Not Toxic “Alpha Males”Sick of hearing “Let’s just be friends”?Learn how to get more second dates, starting now.BOOK A CONSULTATION CALL TODAY & GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING DATING GUIDE!Frustrated with dating? Ready to find an amazing girlfriend? Book a FREE call with Connell to see if his coaching is right for you. If you book your call today, you’ll get a free copy of his No. 1 Amazon bestselling book, “Dating Sucks but You Don’t.” Spots are limited, and this deal expires today—don’t miss out. Use this link to book your free call now to see if coaching is right for you.www.datingtransformation.com
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