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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
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Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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Get Ready to Love, Love, LOVE the Dating Apps! 6 Profile Fixes for More Matches Fast (Part 2 of 4)
Apr 24, 202500:40:09Summary readyNot getting good matches? Think the dating apps are rigged against you? Have hope! The truth is, you’re just making a few profile mistakes that hurt your results. This episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” is Part 2 in a series on the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Dating Profile. It’s the same strategy that dating coach Connell Barrett used to meet his girlfriend Jess. You’re about to learn 6 powerful fixes to finally start matching with women you want to date.Highlights of this Episode:01:32: The Real Reason You Don’t Get Good Matches05:15: The Secret to Taking Photos Women Can’t Resist08:56: How Connell Instantly Became 88 Percent More Attractive in His Photos17:50: The Mistake You Make with Photos that’s Costing You Matches22:11: The Action Photo that Will Get Women Liking Your Profile29:57: How to Melt her Heart … and Match with You!34:38: How to Write a Flirty Prompt to Escape the Friend ZoneListen now so you can finally start getting matches!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALLWITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Do Women Ignore You on the Apps? These 12 Profile MUSTS Will Finally Get You Great Matches (Part 1 of 4)
Apr 22, 202500:49:14Summary readyNot getting good matches on Hinge, Bumble or the apps? The problem isn’t you. (You’re awesome!) It’s your profile. You’re probably missing a few of the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Profile. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 12 photo and bio upgrades that will get you great matches—so you can finally start dating women you’re excited about. And you’ll do this with charm and authenticity, no sketchy pickup moves needed!Here are the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Dating Profile:08:40: #1: A Magnetic First Portrait Showcasing the Authentic You13:00: #2: A “Knockout” Second Photo17:01: #3: A “Man of Action” Picture20:41: #4: Show Off Your Social Proof24:55: #5: Tug At Her Heartstrings28:28: #6: Flirtatious Energy32:43: #7: A Bio Hook She Can’t Resist35:27: #8: Show, Don’t Tell!36:54: #9: On Your Bio, Be Specific (Not Vague)38:28: #10: Display Your Authentic Sense of Humor40:43: #11: Write an “Emotional Maturity” Prompt43:19: #12: No! Red! Flags!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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‘I Went from Lonely to Dating Like Crazy!’ How Kyle Attracted His First Girlfriend in Years, and How You Can Too (Live Coaching)
Apr 17, 202500:57:22Summary readyA proud veteran with a big heart, Kyle was lonely and struggling to get dates—until dating coach Connell Barrett showed him how to approach women with real confidence and charm. “It’s amazing, but authenticity really does work,” Kyle says in this live coaching call. Soon he was going on two dates a week and had landed a girlfriend. Now newly single, he’s ready to level up again. Listen as Connell reviews Kyle’s Hinge profile and shares 3 simple ways to get more matches today.The Moments You Don’t Want to Miss:07:11: From Lonely to “Dating Like Crazy”—Kyle’s Big Breakthrough08:32: How Kyle Overcame Approach Anxiety and Attracted Women IRL15:08: Connell Reveals the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Online-Dating Profile17:35: The Photo You Need to Add to Get More Matches25:30: Should You Pay to Boost Your Profile? Connell Breaks it Down31:33: How to Write a Prompt that’s Funny and Flirty47:07: The Approach Opener Kyle Used to Meet a Large Group of Women at a BarDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Ask the Dating Coach: ‘I Don’t Think I’m Good-Looking. Do I Even Have a Chance with Women?’
Apr 15, 202500:35:42Summary readyDo you worry that you’re just not good-looking enough to date the kinds of women you’re into? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett helps a man who wonders if any women will ever want him because he thinks he’s “ugly.” Connell breaks down what actually makes a man attractive—and it’s not male-model looks. Plus, another listener asks why women agree to dates and then cancel last minute, and Connell shares an easy fix.Episode Highlights:05:30: “Connell, Am I Not Good-Looking Enough to Attract Women?”15:15: “I Cried During ‘Titanic’ and She Ghosted Me—Was I Too Vulnerable?”20:25: “Damn You, Autocorrect! I Just Called Her ‘Boobzilla’!”24:14: “Why Do Women Keep Canceling on Me Last Minute?”32:45: “She Loves My Dog but Not Me. Am I in the Friend Zone?”Listen now and take the next step toward meeting your dream girlfriend.DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Tired of Struggling on Tinder and Bumble? Try the Innovative Dating App that Helps Men and Women Connect IRL!
Apr 10, 202500:40:28Summary readyTired of endless swiping that never leads to dates? Want to meet wonderful women in real life? Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes David Vermeulen, founder of Inner Circle, a different kind of dating app. Inner Circle helps singles skip the small talk and make meaningful connections, both online and offline. As Vermeulen explains in this encore episode, Inner Circle hosts real-world events so its members can stop wasting time on flaky matches and connect with singles who genuinely want to date.With Connell and David as your guides, you’ll discover:4:46: The Dating Horror Story that Inspired David to Start Inner Circle6:38: How Inner Circle’s Technology Virtually Eliminates Fake Profiles7:55: Why the Platform’s IRL Events is “Where the Magic Happens”10:43: A Game-Changing Strategy for Introverts to Meet Women in the Real World11:25: Connell’s One-Sentence Dating Mantra that Will Transform Your Love Life19:29: How “Tinder is Like McDonald’s,” in David’s View27:41: Why Quality Matches Always Beat Quantity30:54: How to Decide if She’s Worth a Second Date33:36: A Simple Writing Tip to Make Your Bio Magnetic to Women35:32: David’s Surprising Rule for Online-Dating Success: “Opposites Don’t Attract”Ready to finally connect with women on a dating app that actually works? Listen now!LEARN MORE ABOUT INNER CIRCLE:https://about.theinnercircle.co/CHECK OUT INNER CIRCLE ON INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/innercircleco/DOWNLOAD THE INNER CIRCLE APP:https://apps.apple.com/us/app/inner-circle-dating-community/id838136374FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Too Anxious to Approach? Use these 5 Steps to Boldly Meet and Date Wonderful Women (Live Coaching with Ryan)
Apr 8, 202501:34:50Summary readyYou see a gorgeous girl and want to approach her—but you freeze up! “What do I say? What if I’m creepy?” That inner voice kills your confidence, keeping you stuck and frustrated. Let’s fix it today! In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches his client Ryan the 5 Master Steps to boldly approach women with charm and authenticity—no weird pickup moves needed.What You’ll Learn in this Live-Coaching Episode:10:15: What Stops Ryan from Approaching—and How He Fixed It with “Terminator Glasses”14:22: How to Turn Every Approach into a Fun, Confidence-Building Win24:45: How to Flirt with More Sexuality While Remaining a True Gentleman40:22: How to Tell If She Likes You… or Wants You to Walk Away45:40: How Connell Made Out with a Total Cutie—Just 1 Hour After She Rejected Him!52:00: The 5 Master Steps to Approaching Women with Authentic Confidence1:12:03: One Easy Move to Instantly Build Momentum in Any Bar or Venue1:22:23: Why Bold Risk-Takers are Irresistible to WomenWant to know exactly what to say in a way women find magnetic? Listen now!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Women Love Nice, Nerdy Guys like YOU—If You Do 1 Important Thing (with Dating Coach Nick Notas)
Apr 3, 202501:03:09Summary readyAre you a nice, nerdy guy? You might think this holds you back with women—but what if it’s actually a big advantage? Renowned dating coach Nick Notas joins host Connell Barrett (both proud nerds!) to reveal why many women are into thoughtful, even geeky men. Nick also shares how to make your authentic, nerdy self irresistibly attractive.Highlights of this Episode Include:02:45: The Day Nick Realized that the “Pickup Artist” World Was Toxic06:40: The “Aha!” Approach Moment that Changed His Dating Life08:12: Why Many Women Love Dating Nerds18:23: What to Talk About on Dates to Get Her Hanging on Your Every Word20:56: The Easy Way to Approach Women30:19: The Truth About What You’re Doing Wrong on the Apps33:41: How A Shorter Man Can Attract an Incredible Girlfriend49:59: The One Old-School Pickup Move that Nick Still Endorses58:16: How Nick’s In-Person Coaching Retreats Can Help Your Love LifeListen now and attract the right woman for you by being authentic!TO LEARN ABOUT NICK’S IN-PERSON DATING-ADVICE RETREATS:http://www.nicknotas.comWATCH NICK’S DATING VIDEOS BY SEARCHING “NICK NOTAS” ON YOUTUBE.TO BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 DATINGCOACHING:http://www.datingtransformation.com
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From ‘I’m Too Short’ to ‘I Feel Amazing!’ How to Transform Your Dating Confidence NOW (Live Coaching with Ryan)
Apr 1, 202501:42:11Summary readyDo you ever feel like you’re not tall or good-looking enough for women you find attractive? What if the real turn-off for women isn’t your height or looks but your insecurities? In this live-coaching episode, author and dating coach Connell Barrett helps his client Ryan crush those mindset blocks using a powerful process called the Authentic Awakening. It’s an effective way to build instant confidence by exposing the lies your insecurities tell you. The result? Ryan walks away with a whole new outlook on himself and on dating!Highlights of this Episode Include:2:01: Meet Your “Lower Self,” the Insecure Side that Kills Your Confidence4:45: The Brutal Belief that Nearly Made Ryan Quit Dating25:57: Ryan Sees the Cracks in His Toxic “I’m Too Short” Story32:16: The Hidden Toll Your Fear-Based Mind Takes on You44:25: The Truth About What Women Are Attracted to in Men59:56: Connell Smashes Ryan’s Toxic Belief1:22:41: Ryan Awakens His Higher Self—Ryan the Bold!Listen now and transform your dating confidence, just like Ryan did!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Mar 27, 202500:59:40Summary readyOdds are, you struggle to read women and you miss subtle signals. This can cost you real romantic connections and leave you second-guessing yourself. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett talks with insightful dating expert Talia Koren, host of the “Dating Intentionally” podcast. Talia reveals how to recognize when a woman is into you, how to avoid “nice guy” mistakes that kill attraction, and why first-date follow-up is more important than the date itself.You’re About to Learn:03:15: The Best First Date Talia Ever Had—and What the Guy Did Right!07:15: How to Avoid a Huge First-Date Mistake10:15: The Easy Way to Escape “Interview Mode”12:30: How to Show Interest in a Classy, Non-Creepy Way16:09: Why Following Up After a Date is So Important to Women34:40: How to Instantly Feel Confident41:43: How to “Read the Room” and Decode Her Signals42:57: The Green Lights Women Give You to Approach50:59: Exactly How Many Texts to Send Her on Hinge Before Asking Her OutFOLLOW TALIA ON INSTAGRAM:@Dating.IntentionallyLISTEN TO TALIA’S PODCAST, “DATING INTENTIONALLY, ON APPLE, SPOTIFY, OR WHEREVER YOU GET YOUR PODCASTSBOOK A FREE, 1-1 DATING CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.DatingTransformation.com
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Ignore These 5 Dating Lies—Or Stay Single Forever!
Mar 25, 202501:03:57Summary readyIs your dating confidence low? Do you get stuck in your head around women? You might be falling for one of the 5 most toxic dating myths. These lies crush your confidence, make it hard to talk to girls, and keep you stuck. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett busts these myths—and gives you 5 powerful fixes to help you confidently meet smart, sexy women… and do it with charm and authenticity!You’re about to learn:09:02: Why Your Looks Don’t Matter to Women17:59: The “Alpha Male” Lie that’s Killing Your Confidence27:47: A Mistake that Turns Women Off (And How to Fix It)37:36: How to Stop Running Out of Things to Say—Instantly47:22: The Secret to Fearless ApproachingTO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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