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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
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Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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27 Flirting Tips in 27 Minutes! Go from the Friend Zone to the First Kiss—FAST
May 29, 202500:31:19Summary readyNot knowing how to flirt with women can leave you awkwardly fumbling your words. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett has fast, field-tested fixes! In just 27 minutes, he shares 27 practical flirting tips to help you confidently make sparks fly—on dates, during approaches, and over text. Get ready to escape the friend zone and boldly land that first kiss, even if you’re shy!Episode Highlights Include:03:00: 3 Playful First-Date Games that Instantly Spark Chemistry04:10: How to Flirt Without Being Needy or Weird09:00: Rejection-proof openers for Shy or Introverted Men17:41: The Right Way to Compliment Women (They Love This!)21:55: The Funny, Flirty Text that Gets You a Second Date26:47: A Great Question to Dial Up SparksFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Use these 8 Flirty Questions to Stop Boring Women and Spark Deep, Romantic Conversations
May 27, 202500:34:57Summary readyDo you get stuck in “interview mode” on dates? Not sure how to text women in a way that actually gets replies? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett answers your questions to help you break out of boring small talk, ask magnetic flirty questions, and master texting with a simple 4-word rule. Whether you’re just starting out or stuck in a dating rut, this episode gives you the tools to build real connection—and get the girlfriend you want.You’re About to Learn:01:45: Why Some Women Want to Date Guys with Little to No Sexual Experience08:18: How to Get out of Interview Mode with these 8 Flirty Questions19:30: Why Some Men Become Incels—and How to Avoid this Trap29:11: Your New 4-word Framework that Makes Texting Fun and Effective33:42: Should You Worry if your Girlfriend is Texting Her Ex?Listen now and take on step closer to finding your dream girlfriend!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
May 22, 202500:43:37Summary readyDo you struggle to read women? The fear of making the wrong move—and seeming creepy—can kill your confidence. In this encore episode, dating coach Connell Barrett talks with renowned expert and bestselling author Kezia Noble, who’s helped over 100,000 men. They dive into how to read a woman’s signals, how to make the right moves (and avoid the wrong ones), and create real attraction through authenticity.Kezia and Connell discuss:7:35: How Kezia Learned to Get Great Results for Her Clients15:40: How to Dial Up Attraction Using her “Double-Sided Compliment”18:12: “The Shadow,” the Side of Men that Women Find Seductive21:45: What to Say on Dates to go from Boring to Charismatic23:05: How to Be Authentically Interesting to Women as the Raw, Real You29:05: The Right Way to Talk About Your Career… and the Wrong Way30:45: The Truth about How Much Looks Really Matter to Women33:51: Why Women Hate the Apps and are “Absolutely Dying” for Men like You to Approach Them37:35: How to Get a Woman Who Rejected You to Change Her Mind and Chase YouListen now and start so you can finally understand what women want!TO LEARN ABOUT KEZIA’S 1-1 COACHING PROGRAMSwww.kezia-noble.com/VISIT KEZIA’S YOUTUBE CHANNELhttp://www.youtube.com/@KezianobledatingexpertGET KEZIA’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “THE NOBLE ART OF SEDUCING WOMEN”http://www.amazon.com/Noble-Art-Seducing-Women-Foolproof/dp/1843587629FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO DISCUSS COACHINGhttp://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
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Tongue-Tied with Women? Become a Funny Flirt with 3 Simple Moves and Get Her Giggling! (Live Coaching with Jake)
May 20, 202501:00:38Summary readyDo you feel tongue-tied around attractive women? Want to be funnier and flirtier, but you’re not sure how? In this live coaching session with his client Jake, dating coach Connell Barrett shares 3 simple moves to master funny banter and playful flirting. You’ll hear Jake go from awkward silences to laugh-filled connections, learning how to be funnier and way more attractive—without any weird pickup-artist tricks! Because women are attracted to your most authentic self.You’re About to Learn:03:01: Why Women Tell Guys Like Jake, “Sorry, Not Feeling a Connection”07:11: How to Lightly Tease Women in a Way they Love15:32: The Right Way to Use Sarcasm on a Date—and the WRONG Way21:03: An Easy Technique to Never Run Out of Things to Say25:39: 3 Ways to Ace Your Next Speed-Dating Event… and Get Phone Numbers!34:58: The First-Date Question to Ask Every Woman43:57: The Secret to Unlocking True Charisma, While Being Authentic54:57: 1 Simple Move to Get Out of Your Head and In the Zone on DatesFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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From Dateless to Dates on Demand! How to Improve Your Profile and Get 2 Dates Per Week (Part 4 of 4)
May 15, 202500:48:11Summary readyAre you struggling to get great matches on the apps? Get ready for the game-changing finale of a 4-part series on the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Profile. Your host, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett, reveals how to troubleshoot and fix 7 hidden profile problems. Want to land two dates a week? Listen now!Highlights of this Episode Include:01:52: The 12 Essentials You Need for Great Results06:15: Ben’s Success Story: From 3 Matches to 87 Matches (!) in Just 2 Days09:44: How Connell Diagnosed His Own Profile to Go from Crickets to Dozens of Matches14:41: Problem 1: Crickets After Launching: How to Diagnose the Issue16:42: Problem 2: Only Getting Mediocre Matches: What to Adjust20:27: Problem 3: Matches, But No Replies: Why She’s Not Messaging Back25:14: Problem 4: Matches, But No Dates: How to Fix the Issue27:15: Problem 5: Not Seeing Women You Want to Date: A Simple Solution30:07: Problem 6: Your Profile LOOKS Good But Still Flops: The Key Photo You Need34:26: Problem 7: Getting Ghosted Often: Why Women Disappear Suddenly39:44: PLUS: Why You Must, Must, MUST Use Hinge!Listen now to make your phone a date-generating machine!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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7 Powerful Secrets to Attraction that Women Have Taught Me (You Need to Know These!)
May 13, 202500:24:44Summary readyDo you ever wonder, “How the heck do I become more attractive to women?” You’re about to find out—from women themselves. After 20 years studying the art of male-female connection, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 7 powerful secrets he learned directly from women he’s dated. You’ll discover how to have better first dates, how to text women, how to avoid the friend zone—and more.Highlights of this Episode:02:49: Secret #1—Women Want to See Your Softer Side06:12: Secret #2—Don’t Try to Score Points on Dates; Just Don’t Lose Points07:57: Secret #3—Women WANT You to Come Talk to Them, If You Do This10:40: Secret #4—It Isn’t Creepy to Approach Women; It’s Creepy NOT To15:48: Secret #5—You Can Text Her as Much as You Want… Here’s How18:33: Secret #6—The Truth About Going for the First Kiss20:56: Secret #7—On the Apps, Persistence + Charm = DatesDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Do Women on Tinder Ignore You? The Man Who Invented Swiping Reveals How to Finally Get Matches (with Tinder’s Jonathan Badeen)
May 8, 202500:59:02Summary readyBack in the day, Jonathan Badeen was an introvert struggling to meet women and get dates. (Sound familiar?) So he did what any guy would do—he co-founded Tinder, invented swiping, and changed dating (and the world) forever. In this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Badeen joins host and dating coach Connell Barrett to help you finally get quality matches on the apps.In this episode, Jonathan and Connell discuss:5:59: Why Tinder is for More than Just Hookups19:26: The Aha Moment when Jonathan Came Up with Swiping22:49: Why Authenticity is What Women Want—on Tinder and in Real Life31:57: The Real Reason You’re Not Getting Good Matches35:35: The Myth that “Dating Apps Just Don’t Work”39:29: How to Inject Fun into Your profile to Get Women Messaging You First41:15: How Shy Guys and “Nerds” Can Win on the Apps52:21: Why Jonathan Would Swipe Right on Minnie MouseListen now for wisdom from the man who changed dating—and finally land great Tinder dates!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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This Simple Move Makes You 500% Better at Approaching—Science Proves It! (Featuring ‘Date Smarter’ Author Tim Molnar)
May 6, 202501:13:35Summary readyDating apps feel rigged, and IRL approaches are just plain awkward, right? How are you supposed to find love today? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” author Tim Molnar draws from his insightful new book, “Date Smarter,” to offer practical, research-backed dating strategies. A data-driven dating expert, Molnar shares what works both on the apps and in real life—including one surprising study that led to 5X better approaching results for its participants.Highlights of this Episode Include:05:11: The Primacy Effect: Why the First 5 Minutes of a Date are Make or Break09:45: How to Make Sure You Get Date No. 221:07: How to Get 500 Percent (!) Better Approach Results with the “Small Favor” Strategy26:13: 100,000 Swipes, Zero Dates—Why Some Men Fail on the Apps44:16: Why Paid Dating Apps (Not the Free Ones) Give You a Better Shot at Love47:12: How to Instantly Triple Your Number of Hinge Dates54:07: Why Tim’s IRL Approaches Got Him 10 Times More Second Dates than the Apps DidListen now so you can get 500 percent better at approaching!LEARN ABOUT TIM MOLNAR AND GET A COPY OF HIS NEW DATING BOOK, ‘DATE SMARTER’:http://www.TimothyMolnar.comGET ‘DATE SMARTER’ ON AMAZON:https://www.amazon.com/Date-Smarter-Strategic-Navigating-Romance-ebook/dp/B0DP3GJPZ5DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.com
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From Lonely to Lining Up Dates: 6 Simple Moves that Make Women Swipe Right on the Apps (Part 3)
May 1, 202500:53:25Summary readyIf you struggle on the apps, it can make you feel like you’re just not what women want. But the problem isn’t you—it’s your profile! Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett can help. In Part 3 of his special series on online dating, Connell shares the second half of his 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Profile, so you can finally meet bright, beautiful women on Hinge, Bumble or any app.Highlights Include:01:33: Why Your Lack of Matches is Not About Your Looks02:19: How Connell Went from Struggling to Thriving on the Apps07:17: How to Hook Her Interest with this Simple Bio Secret14:19: The Line that Landed Connell Dozens of Great Matches17:45: The Essential that Makes Your Bio Magnetic27:47: Your Secret Weapon: How to Make Her Laugh35:17: The Hinge Poll Prompt that Gets Women Giggling and Wanting to Know More45:47: The 5 Red Flags that Make Her Swipe Left (Fix This Today!)Listen now, make these 6 simple moves, and start getting some great matches!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Unlock the 3 S’s for Unshakable Confidence—and Attract the Women You Want!
Apr 29, 202500:36:15Summary readyThere’s a big dating mistake you’re making—and you don’t even realize it. Most men obsess over tactics (what to say, how to text) instead of building the real foundation for success: a bulletproof mindset. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 3 S’s of dating success. The 3 S’s will build you unstoppable confidence and attract the women you want, all while being authentic. Listen now to start transforming your love life.DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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