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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
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Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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The Professional Man’s Paradox: Why You Succeed at Work but Struggle with Women (with Matchmaker Lisa Goodman)
Jul 8, 202500:44:58Summary readyIsn’t it frustrating to achieve career success yet struggle with women? Dating coach Connell Barrett calls this the “Professional Man’s Dating Paradox.” Simply put, the communication skills that help you excel at work can actually hurt your love life. Renowned matchmaker Lisa Goodman, of Selective Search, is here to help. Goodman reveals why your career strengths can be dating weaknesses—and shares proven strategies to turn boardroom skills into romantic confidence. Get ready to succeed not just at work, but in dating too!You’re About to Learn:07:33: Why You Should Pick Up the Phone Instead of Texting10:31: The Right Way to Talk to Women on First Dates21:31: How to Tell if Your Date is Going Well (It’s All in Her Eyes)34:00: The Truth About First Kisses (When and How to Go for It)40:10: Why Women Want You to Approach Them (Straight from a Female Expert)LEARN MORE ABOUT LISA GOODMAN AND SELECTIVE SEARCH MATCHMAKING:http://www.selectivesearch.comFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.datingtransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, ‘DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T’:Email Connell: Connell@datingtransformation.com
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7 Make-or-Break Dating Moments to Either Get the Girl… or Get Friend-Zoned
Jul 3, 202500:38:58Summary readyThe difference between finding love or staying stuck can come down to small but pivotal moments of truth. Like when a conversation with a woman is going well, but you play it safe and don’t go for her number. Or when fear stops you from going for the first kiss on a date. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals 7 make-or-break dating moments that determine whether you get the girl… or stay frustrated. Handle these turning points right, and you’ll be closer to the dream relationship you want.You’re About to Learn:05:35: The Secret Weapon to Approach Any Woman You Want10:28: How to Walk Away with Her Phone Number, Not Regrets14:15: The First Kiss Secret You MUST Know21:48: The “Three Times” Texting Rule that Gets Women Messaging You Back27:54: How to Handle Last-Minute Cancellations without Looking Desperate30:48: The Right Way to Pass “Tests” Without Losing Sight of Your Authentic Self35:22: How to Ask Her to Be Your Girlfriend—Without Making It WeirdFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU'LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Sex Tips for Shy Guys: How to Touch Her, Talk Dirty and Rock Her World (with Sex Coach Kirsten Trammell)
Jul 1, 202501:05:29Summary readyAre you unsure what to do in bed—and worried you won’t please her the first time you’re intimate? Sex coach Kirsten Trammell, host of “The Naked Connection” podcast, shares insider secrets on how to rock a woman’s world. If you’re inexperienced sexually—or even a virgin—don’t worry. Kirsten’s tested, practical sex tips will help make you confident in the bedroom, so you can give that special woman an unforgettable, connected sexual experience.What You’ll Learn:07:00: The Mindset That Makes Sex Connected and Unforgettable10:30: Should You Tell Her You’re a Virgin? The Surprising Truth!22:12: How to Make Her Feel Sexy and Safe27:52: The ‘Bullseye Method’ that Instantly Improves Foreplay33:53: Consent Is Sexy: How to Ask the Right Way39:25: What to Say During Sex to Turn Her On55:52: She Asked You To ‘Choke’ Her in Bed? Here’s What It Really MeansListen now and discover how emotional nakedness leads to incredible physical connection!TO WORK WITH KIRSTEN TRAMMELL:http://www.thenakedconnection.comFOLLOW KIRSTEN ON INSTAGRAM:@nakedconnectionFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.com
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From Frozen to Fearless! True Stories of Shy Guys Who Beat Approach Anxiety and Found Love IRL
Jun 26, 202500:52:08Summary readyWant to approach women IRL—but you freeze up or overthink it? Connell Barrett, bestselling author and top dating coach, helps shy men meet wonderful women without pickup lines or weird tricks. In this episode, hear how guys like you overcame anxiety, walked up to women in bars, bookstores and gyms, and sparked real-life romance.You’re About to Learn:02:42: How Short, Shy Ken Scored His First Kiss Ever—with a Tall, Stylish Blonde16:03: What Ash Said to the Cutest Girl at the Bar to Make Her Swoon24:30: The Bold Coaching Move that Shattered Edward’s Social Anxiety and Led to a Date35:12: Raj’s Charming Bookstore Chat that Made Emily say, “You Made My Day!”43:17: Jared the Navy Captain’s Breakthrough that Crushed His Approach Fear for GoodApproaching isn’t something to fear—it’s your fastest path to romance and love!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T":Connell@datingtransformation.com
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20 Dating Lessons That Took Me 20 Years to Master—You’ll Learn Them by Lunch (Special Series!)
Jun 24, 202500:49:51Summary readyStruggling in your love life? Low on dates and confidence? Twenty years ago, Connell Barrett was in your shoes. So he began a journey to fix his dating problems. To mark his 20th year in the dating trenches, Connell kicks off a new series. In this premiere episode, he reveals 20 powerful, practical tips straight from his #1 Amazon bestseller “Dating Sucks but You Don’t.” Here’s the good news: You don’t have to spend years swiping, approaching and dating. You can start to transform your love life today—and meet your dream girlfriend in 20 weeks instead of 20 years!What You’ll Learn:5:20: Why Being Radically Authentic is Your Secret Weapon9:00: Myth-buster: Your Looks Don’t Matter to Women—This Does10:58: The Bulletproof Dating App Opener that Gets Replies16:09: The Secret to Flirting that Changes Everything20:15: How to Smoothly Go for the First Kiss30:43: The 15-Minute Morning Routine that Builds True Confidence35:52: How to Make Her See You as Her Dream Boyfriend37:32: Getting Consent Can Turn Her On (Yes, Really!)44:10: The NEW Way to Text Women: A Simple FrameworkListen now and start your own dating transformation—without waiting two decades!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T":Connell@datingtransformation.com
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The Speed Dating Move that Drives Women Wild: Why Vulnerability Wins Every Time (Featuring Kavita Ajwani)
Jun 19, 202500:47:20Summary readyYou struggle to connect with women, right? What if you could confidently walk into a crowded room and get numbers from women who find you utterly charming? You actually can—when you get great at speed dating! In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes speed dating expert Kavita Ajwani. As a woman, Kavita—founder of Dashing Date—knows what women really want from men. You’re about to learn why vulnerability, not pickup tactics, is your secret weapon for attracting women.Episode Highlights Include:02:21: Why Vulnerability is Your Most Underrated Dating Superpower06:45: The Question that Takes Dates from Small Talk to Deep Connection12:52: The One Topic that Instantly Helps Women Feel Safe17:25: How Being a “Nerd” Actually Attracts Women24:34: Your Speed Dating Masterclass: 3 Moves that Get You Matches and Dates42:37: How Kavita’s Coaching Transforms Men’s Love LivesLEARN MORE ABOUT KAVITA AJWANI AND HER COACHING:Follow @DashingDate on InstagramGET KAVITA’S “TO BE DESIRED” MASTERCLASS FOR FREE:DM “Connell” to @DashingDate on Instagram
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Textual Healing! Connell’s 4-Part Texting Formula to Stop Getting Ghosted and Start Getting Dates
Jun 17, 202501:01:27Summary readyDo you get ghosted on the apps and don’t know why? Do you freeze up on dates because you’re not sure what to talk about? Would you love to meet women at the gym, but you’re worried you’ll seem creepy? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you step-by-step solutions to all of these issues. Plus, you’ll discover his simple texting formula that will make it easy to spark attraction with wonderful women.You’re About to Learn:03:34: Why You Get Ghosted & How to Finally Fix It04:45: The Fatal Texting Mistake that Kills Attraction07:20: Connell’s 4-Part Texting Formula: Play, Play, Play… Then Pull the Trigger!18:39: Should You Use ChatGPT when Texting? The Answer Will Surprise You26:00: How “Interview Mode” Can Be… A Good Thing?!31:31: 8 Flirty Questions to Make First Dates Fun39:57: How to Go for the First Kiss without Making it Weird44:48: The Charming Way to Meet Women at the Gym—and NEVER Be Creepy56:08: The Exact Number of Texts to Send Before Asking Her OutFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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I Got Rejected 567 Times… Which is Why I’m GREAT with Women Now
Jun 10, 202500:38:45Summary readyFear of rejection can make you freeze. It’s why you don’t say hi to the stylish woman at the café or make a move on the date. In this episode of. “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett gets raw and real about his own fear of rejection. He also shares how getting blown off so many times (“F-off, Ginger!”) actually opened the door to real romantic wins! If you’re tired of being too afraid to make move, this episode will change your dating life.Episode Highlights:05:44: The Rejection that Changed Connell’s Dating Life09:45: The 2 Hidden Forces that Create Your Fear of Rejection14:35: When Connell’s Date Left Him—Mid-Date!—for Another Guy18:35: “F---- off, Ginger!” How a Brutal Brush-Off Led to an Incredible Romantic Win27:00: 4 New Ways to Look at Rejection and Become a Fearless, Confident ManDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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The Flirty Dozen: 12 Ways to Smash Out of the Friend Zone and Spark Connection on First Dates
Jun 5, 202500:59:03Summary readyTired of getting stuck in the dreaded Friend Zone? It’s frustrating when your dates feel flat and women say, “I just didn’t feel a connection.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down exactly how to go from the Friend Zone to the Flirty Zone, with 12 game-changing moves that make romantic sparks fly. From charming texts to confidently going for that first kiss, your love life is about to change.Get Ready to Learn:10:05: Why Women Lose Interest after a First or Second Date—and How to Fix this for Good15:23: The Text to Send before a Date that Gets Her Excited about Meeting You24:42: Six Tested Moves to Use During the Date that Women Love43:17: How to Go for a First Kiss the Right Way51:27: What to Text Her the Next Day to Get Date Number 2Listen now to smash out of the Friend Zone once and for all!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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How to Be Bold, Flirty—and Never, Ever ‘That Creepy Guy’: A Dating Guide for Modern Gentlemen
Jun 3, 202500:48:36Summary readyDating and flirting can feel like a minefield. If you’re like many men in the #MeToo era, the fear of seeming creepy or weird can crush your confidence. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shows you how to be bold, flirty, and totally respectful, so you can charm women without crossing any lines. This is your guide to building a real connection with class and confidence—as the modern gentleman women actually want!Highlights of this Episode:01:23: Avoid the Lunge, the First-Kiss Mistake that Women Hate06:25: How to Text Her in a Persistent, Charming Way—without Being Pushy or Thirsty09:30: The Do’s and Don’ts of Office Romance14:42: Should You Ask Her Permission to Kiss Her?18:21: How to Sext in the Way Many Women Want25:33: What to Do—and Not Do—When She Visits Your Place for the First Time27:58: How to Respectfully Get Consent without Killing the Mood34:49: The Story of Alex, Who Helped Connell Become a Better Man42:00: What Women Need Most from Men TodayFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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