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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
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Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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Women Can Tell If You Watch Too Much Porn—and it’s Destroying Your Dating Life (with Frank Rich)
Aug 1901:00:55Summary readyEver wonder why you feel insecure around women? In a raw interview, thought leader and podcaster Frank Rich (“The Super Human Life”) joins dating coach Connell Barrett to reveal the hidden culprit that may be hurting your confidence: porn addiction. Rich opens up about his own battle, and explains how watching too much porn leads to objectifying women and kills dating motivation. He also shares his 5-step roadmap to freedom, so you can live and love authentically—without porn or shame.02:44: Why Porn Addiction is Not What You Think11:46: How Porn Replaces Real Romantic Connection15:59: Frank’s Raw Story: From Shame to Redemption24:40: The Hotel Incident that Changed Everything29:25: Why Facing Consequences Is the Key to Defeating Porn Addiction41:35: The 5-Step Roadmap for Rebuilding 48:08: The Subtle Tells Women Pick Up On within MinutesLISTEN TO FRANK RICH’S SUPER HUMAN LIFE PODCAST: Available on all major podcast platformsCHECK OUT HIS INSTAGRAM:@CoachFrankRichJOIN FRANK RICH’S COMMUNITY:Visit http://Skool.com/rebootyourlife for his community helping men quit porn and rebuild their livesBOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-ON-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://DatingTransformation.com
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Do Women Ignore You on the Apps? Use My ‘Back to the Future’ Opener for a Date by Saturday
Aug 1200:31:21Summary readyDo women on the apps rarely reply to you? Dating coach Connell Barrett reveals his “Back to the Future” opener—the playful icebreaker that’s helped clients spark conversations, set up dates, and find girlfriends. He gives you the exact words to send so you can stop getting ghosted and start connecting. “This is the best opener I’ve come up with in my 20 years of studying online dating,” Connell says. Steal it today—your future girlfriend will thank you.Episode Highlights:01:28: How Connell Created the “Back to the Future” Opener—His Best Ever04:51: What to Write, Word for Word11:10: Do This to Make the Exchange Ever Flirtier15:35: How to Lock in the Date, with ZERO Chance of Flaking23:45: How Shane Used the Opener to Meet His New Girlfriend27:51: The Secret Behind Why the “Back to the Future” Opener WorksBOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF HIS INNOVATINVE COACHING METHODS ARE RIGHT FOR YOU:http://DatingTransformation.com
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Stop Getting Ghosted! The 10 Texting Commandments that Get Women Writing You Back (Textual Healing, Part 2)
Aug 7, 202500:49:16Summary readyTired of getting ghosted? Do your texting conversations die faster than a fruit fly? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his 10 Texting Commandments—his tested rules to get women texting you back and saying yes to dates. Yea, thou SHALT obey these holy rules, and ye shall soon get ye some dates!The 10 Texting Commandments:04:00: Thou Shalt Give Authentic Value07:15: Thou Shalt Not Over-Read the Texting Tea Leaves15:51: Thou Shalt Follow the ‘Three Times Rule’12:49: Thou Shalt Not Fear the Double-Text22:45: Thou Shalt Change Her Mood, Not Her Mind26:12: Thou Shalt Text Her Leading Up to the First Date31:40: Thou Shalt Lower the Bar for How Good Your Texts Must Be34:08: Thou Shalt Ask Her Good Questions37:26: Thou Shalt Use Photos, Videos and Voice Notes40:35: Thou Shalt Ask Her Out43:02: Bonus Commandment! Thou Shalt Text Her the Day After a DateREADY TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL:www.DatingTransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”? EMAIL CONNELL:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Spank You Very Much: The Nice Guy’s Guide to Hot, Shame-Free Sex (with Kink Expert Amanda Dames)
Jul 31, 202501:04:58Summary readyYou may not know it, but you are kinky… and so is your next date! That’s right—a whopping 95 percent of singles are kinky, according to certified sexologist Amanda Dames, who joins dating coach Connell Barrett in a juicy episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend.” Dames, host of the Kink Consultant Podcast, will teach you how to have hot, fun, shame-free sex, even if you’re sexually inexperienced.Episode Highlights Include:02:23: From Wall Street to Dominatrix—Amanda’s Wild Origin Story06:14: The Truth About Sexual Shame (and How to Finally Get Past It)16:47: Amanda’s Foolproof Foreplay Rules Every Man Should Know26:55: How to Bring Up Kink on Dates Without Killing the Vibe30:21: Why Some Women Want to Be “Choked” and How to Do It Safely41:21: Why 95 Percent of Us Are Kinky44:55: The Kinky Dating App You MUST TryFOLLOW AMANDA ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY KINK TIPS:@The_KinkConsultantGET AMANDA’S FREE KINK WORKSHEET:AmandaDames.comLISTEN TO MORE JUICY STORIES ON “THE KINK CONSULTANT” PODCASTREADY TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL:DatingTransformation.com
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Textual Healing: The New Way to Text and Get Dates—Play, Play, Play… Pull the Trigger (Part 1 of 3)
Jul 29, 202500:30:36Summary readyDo you struggle with texting women? Do you feel like you’re always one boring message away from getting ghosted? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his powerful new texting framework to make your messages magnetic: “Play, Play, Play, Pull the Trigger.” You’ll learn how to confidently flirt over text so you get a lot more dates. Plus, you’ll hear how one woman went from rejecting Connell to asking HIM out—just from a short text exchange.Episode Highlights Include:01:15: Connell Sings! (Be Very Afraid)02:35: The “Play, Play, Play, Pull the Trigger” Texting Framework Explained03:45: First She Rejected Connell, Then She Chased HIM for a Date11:19: What Most Guys Get Wrong About Texting (and How to Fix It)17:13: Yes, Good Texting is Learnable—Here’s Why21:57: Connell Walks You Through a Flirty Text Exchange that Led to a DateREADY TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL:www.DatingTransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T”? EMAIL CONNELL:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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The One Flirting Secret that Changes Everything—from Apps to Dates to Charming Approaches
Jul 24, 202501:05:10Summary readyAre you unsure how to talk to women—on the apps or in real life? Tired of being seen as “just a friend”? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches you his secret weapon: Man-to-Woman Communication. You’re about to learn his turbo-charged flirting method. You’re about to know exactly what to say to spark real chemistry with women, from the dating apps to first dates to approaching with charm.Episode Highlights Include:07:45: How to Finally Escape the Friend Zone16:15: The Secret to Sparking Romantic Attraction (It’s Not What You Think)25:30: How to Lead with Charm and Class—without Coming Off Controlling34:20: Say This to Make Her Swoon on First Dates42:30: How to Ignite Sexual Tension Using Only Your EyesDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, ‘DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T’:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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The Write Stuff: How to Turn Your Boring Bio into a Match Magnet (Live Coaching with Clint)
Jul 22, 202501:15:54Summary readyStruggling on the apps? It’s not you—it’s your boring bio. In this live coaching session, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his new client, Clint, take his profile from generic to magnetic. You’ll learn how to write an irresistible bio in just 3 lines, add charming humor that women love, and finally land matches and dates.Episode Highlights:04:15: Why Your Dating Bio Doesn’t Work and How to Fix It12:58: The 3-Line Bio Formula to Get Her Swiping Right33:00: The Power Question to Put on Your Profile Today47:10: The Funny ‘DILF’ Prompt that Gets Single Dads Dates54:15: How to Ask for Her Number1:04:41: Do This to Never Run Out of Things to Say1:08:47: The Smooth Way to Land the Second Date (Without Asking!)FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T"? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE "FREE BOOK" IN THE SUBJECT LINE TO GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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The Content Trap: Use My ‘80/20 Rule’ to Go from Overthinking to Effortless Flirting
Jul 17, 202500:30:23Summary readySocial media is ruining your love life. You watch tons of dating advice, but you still struggle with women, right? You’ve fallen into the Content Trap—trying to remember so many tips that you overthink every move. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals why consuming too much TikTok or YouTube content kills your confidence. And his ‘80/20 Rule’ will help unlock your most fun, flirty, authentic self—without trying hard. Because women like you for YOU, not your “game.” Period.You’re About to Learn:01:07: Why Brett’s Try-Hard First Dates Lead to Rejection07:11: Why Treating Women Like “Results” Kills Connection10:14: The Cringe Date that Taught Connell a Priceless Lesson18:31: How the ‘80/20’ Rule Gets You Out of Your Head and Into Her Heart26:29: The Three P’s to Unlock Great First Dates27:50: Stop Consuming Content—Do THIS InsteadFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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The Neuroscience of Attraction: How to Rewire Your Brain for Dating Success (with Harvard’s Dr. Ali Binazir)
Jul 15, 202501:05:40Summary readyEver wonder, “Am I enough to find love?” Harvard-educated physician Ali Binazir has a hopeful answer! The man behind the “Trillion Sided Dice” theory of existence (seriously, it’ll break your brain) shares his own dating journey—still a virgin at 23—and the breakthroughs that changed everything. Plus, Binazir, co-author of the bestselling book “The 5 Hidden Love Questions,” explains why approach anxiety is hardwired into your brain, how to flip limiting beliefs, and reveals his charisma formula to help you become more magnetic.You’re About to Learn:01:14: The Trillion-Sided Dice Theory: Why Your Existence Is Literally a Miracle06:22: How Gratitude Can Destroy Your Fear of Dating Rejection13:23: The 5 Hidden Love Questions that Sabotage Your Romantic Life20:31: The Science Behind Your Fear of Approaching—and How to Start Meeting Women27:59: How Dr. Ali Went from a Virgin at Age 23 to Dating Success41:58: The Neuroscience of Happiness: Why Being Happy Attracts Love56:07: The 30-Second Charisma Formula to Create AttractionLEARN MORE ABOUT DR. ALI BINAZIR: http://TaoOfDating.com and http://HappinessEngineering.comGET ‘THE 5 HIDDEN LOVE QUESTIONS’ ON AMAZONFREE TRAINING:Get Dr. Ali’s “Super Charisma: How to Be a Transformative Speaker” course free at http://TaoOfDating.comTO TAKE DR. ALI’s ‘TUNE UP YOUR LIFE’ COURSE: Email him at DrAliB@TaoOfDating.com or DrAli@HappinessEngineering.comFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND: Datingtransformation.com
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From Invisible to Irresistible: The 7 Dating Superpowers that Ignite Attraction—Even if You’re Shy or Introverted
Jul 10, 202501:11:08Summary readyWhy do some men effortlessly attract women while guys like you get overlooked? It comes down to mastering the 7 Dating Superpowers. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 7 super attractors that make women think, “Wow, he’s different from other guys!” Whether you want to confidently approach, take your texting skills to new levels, or have great first dates, this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” will help you transform your love life.Here are the 7 Dating Superpowers You’re About to Learn:9:43: Fearless Approaching so You Can Start Conversations with Women Anywhere15:07: Effortless Flirting so You Can Be Charming and Attractive21:15: Magnetic Charisma so Women Feel Drawn to Your Authentic Self34:14: Unshakable Confidence so “Rejection” Can’t Hurt You40:03: Top-Tier Texting so You’ll Go from “Unread” to Setting Up Dates51:33: Vibe Mastery so Your Dates Are Flirty and Sexy59:48: Decisive Leadership so Women Trust You and See You as Boyfriend MaterialDiscover your dating superpower and become irresistible—as your most authentic self (no creepy pickup moves needed!)FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL'S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T"? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE "FREE BOOK" IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU'LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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